Am I Right or am I Wrong???
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Recently, I have get to known this girl. Not very long just 3 weeks or more. We have been chatting/SMS/ICQ almost everyday. While I am in office i will ICQ with her. At home I would chat with her on the phone. On the road we would exchanged SMS. We have went out 3 times. I must admit that do have some feelings for her...but the problem is that she is attached. At first I thought it was just a crush and nothin else. But slowly I found that I am deeply attracted to her and fallen deeply for her. I have tried to let her know that I like her, not once but many times. I think she knows it but most of the time but she would act blur. At first she was the one who keep calling me and sms me almost everyday so that it kinda gave me the wrong impression. I know it impossible for her to like me as she is already attached. There was this time she asked to go to her office cos she was doing OT to accompanied her, and after that we went out.
Sometimes she will sms something like do you miss me or something like that. Was that a joke or what? I...really don't know what to do? She has mess my life up!
She told me just leave everything to fate. But she still will called me everyday and chat with me. She treats me just like another friend i guess. But i think it was me who got the wrong idea and kinda fallen for her. I do not know what am I doing is right or wrong? At this point i am lose..i do not know what to do? All i think is about her. I am a dead man.................................................... -
Dun worry buddy, this is juz a crush. You cant really fall in love by juz smsing/chatting in a period of just 3 weeks.
You can choose to get out of it, coz it is not right to go after a girl that is attached. Besides, even if you managed to get her, there is no gurantee she will stay by your side always.
In my opinion, this person has no respect for her bf. If she is really into serious about her relationship, she will not indulge in flirting with other guys and leading other guys on.
Forget about her. Concentrate on more impt things in your life. Though I agree sometimes happiness is up to you strive for, but this girl doesnt seems to be worthy of your love. Move on.
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Originally posted by ROCKSOLDIER:
rite or wrong...ermm....real hard to differentiate....
[b]Recently, I have get to known this girl. Not very long just 3 weeks or more. We have been chatting/SMS/ICQ almost everyday. While I am in office i will ICQ with her. At home I would chat with her on the phone. On the road we would exchanged SMS. We have went out 3 times. I must admit that do have some feelings for her...but the problem is that she is attached. At first I thought it was just a crush and nothin else. But slowly I found that I am deeply attracted to her and fallen deeply for her. I have tried to let her know that I like her, not once but many times. I think she knows it but most of the time but she would act blur. At first she was the one who keep calling me and sms me almost everyday so that it kinda gave me the wrong impression. I know it impossible for her to like me as she is already attached. There was this time she asked to go to her office cos she was doing OT to accompanied her, and after that we went out.
Sometimes she will sms something like do you miss me or something like that. Was that a joke or what? I...really don't know what to do? She has mess my life up!
She told me just leave everything to fate. But she still will called me everyday and chat with me. She treats me just like another friend i guess. But i think it was me who got the wrong idea and kinda fallen for her. I do not know what am I doing is right or wrong? At this point i am lose..i do not know what to do? All i think is about her. I am a dead man....................................................[/b]
there r some qns worth pondering abt....
1)for girls: wld u go out wif another or maybe in this case if u r attached?......RS....u can expect lots of different answers....
2)for guys: if a girl who initiates in this way though attached...wat's the msg u'll be getting....well....it varies as well....
sorry if im confusing u but tt's the msg im conveying....
nobody can be quite sure if u r the one who's sensitive OR she's the one who's flirting.....
well....get things straight with her.
Tell her rite in her FACE tt u like her...either take it or leave it(she'll have no chance to act blur liao)...be prepared for the worst
only a Confrontation can do the trick.....to reveal who's rite or wrong.
u'll find out her true intentions/motives......if she likes hooking on all passing by ships.....be one if if u dun mind
or start sailing on to search for ur genuine ship -
i think she just wants something to hang on if the current relationship goes wrong. she probably won't give up her current relationship for you.. because she is scared of insecurity. she rather stay with something that gives her secure.
i suggest you think it through.. besides, there are more special and unattached girls out there.
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hey.. dun lose all your time on her man...sure wasted. as some of the bro had said she just wants you for backup in case her main hard disk crashes and all the data is lost
this kind of girl... mislead people... u see... she send u all those signs (miss you sms etc) to test the waters with you. so if u reply with the same signs, it means she have successfully got her backup. but then she can always back out and claim that 'we are just friends'. on the other hand it would be very difficult for u to do so.
its a no-win situation for you bro. beware. girls aint worth no shit
good luck
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Tis is happening all the time...... relax lah..... take it as she is not the right girl....
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guess shes flirting wif u...relax no big deal 1...if u wan juz play along wif her but DUN GET TOO SERIOUS wif her...apparently her bf is not spending enuff time wif her dats y she got time to flirt wif u....dun tink too much...this kind of gal got bf liao still flirt around does not worth ur luv...
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nth can be absolute
get control of ur life
misunderstanding shld happen, depends on how u handle
situation as it seems, u've fallen for her
control ur emotions, and stay as a fren...
there is no need to commit now, since u said she's attached...
"zhou yi bu, suan yi bu"
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Confirm this ger is flirting with you ar! Depend on you just want to play or get serious. If you want to get serious, she is not the one for you. It's her character, she can't change. Even if she is with you, she will con to filrt with others. BE A MAN, don't fool by her.
Act blur? Tell her straight, ask her to decide. But you better ask yourself, you can accept this filrting relationship or not.
Better don't play lar, you will hurt her current boyfriend, it's not the right things to do. Don't be her backup, she needs to be punished. -
For this week, did not really talk much with her. She was busy with work. Yesterday its weekend. Naturally time is spend with her bf. I messaged her goodnite. And she replied that she would be stayin over nite outside. When I knew this...I dare not even think about it!
Although I know there will be nothin out from this..but...still i am sad. Can't help myself thinking about her. -
Originally posted by ROCKSOLDIER:
from my view, i tink the girl may treat u jus a fren and she probably got msg some other guys...i guess lah...
[b]Recently, I have get to known this girl. Not very long just 3 weeks or more. We have been chatting/SMS/ICQ almost everyday. While I am in office i will ICQ with her. At home I would chat with her on the phone. On the road we would exchanged SMS. We have went out 3 times. I must admit that do have some feelings for her...but the problem is that she is attached. At first I thought it was just a crush and nothin else. But slowly I found that I am deeply attracted to her and fallen deeply for her. I have tried to let her know that I like her, not once but many times. I think she knows it but most of the time but she would act blur. At first she was the one who keep calling me and sms me almost everyday so that it kinda gave me the wrong impression. I know it impossible for her to like me as she is already attached. There was this time she asked to go to her office cos she was doing OT to accompanied her, and after that we went out.
Sometimes she will sms something like do you miss me or something like that. Was that a joke or what? I...really don't know what to do? She has mess my life up!
She told me just leave everything to fate. But she still will called me everyday and chat with me. She treats me just like another friend i guess. But i think it was me who got the wrong idea and kinda fallen for her. I do not know what am I doing is right or wrong? At this point i am lose..i do not know what to do? All i think is about her. I am a dead man....................................................[/b]
so dun put too much hope if u dun wan to get hurt..
Givache -
Sometimes Love's a loaded gun.It shoots to kill
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I never believe in going after or falling for a girl who has already attached.
If I am in your situation, the very moment I know that a girl is already attached, I will be very careful not to fall for her no matter what she does. A lot of trouble starts from the beginning. If you can prevent yourself from falling in love with her in the first place, a lot of other problems will not surface.
Its because a lot of people are not firm in their decision, like "maybe she does like me", "there is nothing wrong with going after an attached girl" or "who knows, things may work out", they make the first wrong move, and then later when they will complain this, complain that and say they are not able to control themselves... HELP!!! By that time it will be harder to solve, cause you have already gone too deep.
If I were you, I would remind her that she already has a bf, you should be spending more time on HIM, not me, period. -
ROCKSOLDIER
Friend, maybe she is just trying to get someone to talk to or even make more friends. I'm sure in the process of making more friends, you will find some of them are the one which you wish to talk more to or had more things to talk to. Asking people you miss me or not is very common nowadays.So don't think too much lah.. -
go go flirt wit her