father's day
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how many of the forumnites here aren't close to their fathers?
For me father has sort of become an alien word. ya know, my dad was brought up the traditional style, he believed in the harsh punishment methods and never the caring, thoughtful parenting style which would deemed to be spoiling the child in the olden days.
This results in us drifting further n further, we must have spoke about less than 100 times in a year. From small, he nvr asked about our studies, or anything, much less our existence. I figured if I went missing someday, he wouldnt know until at least 1 month. Haiz, what I can do is to promise myself I would not take his footstep, i would try to take a big part of responsibility in raising my son, never letting him drift apart from me.
Sometimes, its just pride lah u know. The senior authority person (my dad) do sumthing wrong, refuse to admit or apologize to the junior authority which is me, this builds up an air of tension, resulting in disrespect, and so on and so on, in a vicious cycle that only increases with time.
I never knew fathers are important until I saw my friend's dad. His father was like his best friend, they would go drinking, ogling girls, playing games, cycling, everything together. Feel envy though. He had a father figure to look up to. For me, I had nothing to look up to, depending on myself. When sumthing screwed up, I would go to the rooftop or be in the room mulling over. Haiz..... -
hey take it easy man.. sometimes it's the small things that count.. so maybe you want to start trying to get closer to him? like asking him whether he ate already.. or buy stuff for him to eat haha. And best of all.. you can start this fathers day
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Well, there are many out there with traditional fathers like yours.
Just accept it and move on.......Don't take it too hard or become sad over it.
There are also many with abusive fathers, they're worse off. -
My father is almost exactly like urs except tat he doesn't believe in the cane.
what he does is to say harsh things to me even when i did something that deserve credit.
He's the type who say harsh thing with the mentality that it will make me a stronger person.
Behind my back,he will praise me to his friends saying i did blah blah blah and he's very proud and happy,saying i'm a good son.
I feel that has set us apart and thus only father's day,i'm going to order a cake to be deliver home for him,while i work.
thus avoiding him. -
Haha . My dad used to grab my hair and drag it any know how . He also used a belt buckle as cane on me . His words are harsh enough to hurt your ego and pride .
But still , my dad and I still go cycling together occasionally . Eat together , talk jokes . I think that my dad is a very brave person , for what he did . He is a person who sacrifices himself for others without sparing a thought for himself . He would rather himself suffer than let us as kids and wife (my mum) to suffer . It sometimes pains me to see him suffering , despite the punishments he had inflicted on me .
For whom my dad is a great person .
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haha, this is like becoming a tribute to the fathers in the world.
Nice stories u ppl have shared...
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last time when i at sec sch... i very hate, i mean damn hate my father...
but now, i really love my dad.. no matter how ur father scold u beat u,
remember! it's for ur own good.. -
ur dad dotes on you
he just doesn't know how to express his love
and he feels it's mushy and weird
so he doesn't show it out
watch i not stupid 2 -
i dun remember kena caned by my dad.. it was always my mum who did that.. and being a stubborn girl.. despite all the red marks on my legs, i never shed a tear.
duno why.. im still closest to my mum..
Father's day is near.. for those of u whose parents are still alive, cherish them and be filial to them.. regardless they are strict or leniant parents. -
when is father's day?
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Me and my dad not close too..
He's speaks chinese and hokkien.. While I mostly speak English...
He's also very traditoinal, know nothing about Science theory..
Often me and him got nothing to communicate..
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yeah before u regret 1 day...Originally posted by browniebaobao:i dun remember kena caned by my dad.. it was always my mum who did that.. and being a stubborn girl.. despite all the red marks on my legs, i never shed a tear.
duno why.. im still closest to my mum..
Father's day is near.. for those of u whose parents are still alive, [color=red]cherish them and be filial to them.. regardless they are strict or leniant parents. [/color]
u should really appreciate ur parents
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But when i see my mum and dad so loving , i suddenly hoped that i would have a GF soon and be as loving as them ..Originally posted by kiss_my (_i_):yeah before u regret 1 day...
u should really appreciate ur parents 
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I'm bringing my Dad to Joo Chiat and wet.....
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i shall not comment bout my dad.
he got nothing great that deserve me to mention.
even on my birthday, he will still whack me for no reason. although i'm not in the wrong. -
got so bad meh? wah....Originally posted by toyota-corolla:i shall not comment bout my dad.
he got nothing great that deserve me to mention.
even on my birthday, he will still whack me for no reason. although i'm not in the wrong. -
but when ur mum and dad Quarreling, do u wish to have a gf soon?Originally posted by Scania N113CRB luver:But when i see my mum and dad so loving , i suddenly hoped that i would have a GF soon and be as loving as them ..
pls dont look in just 1 side. -
my dad slap me when i back home i day..Originally posted by toyota-corolla:i shall not comment bout my dad.
he got nothing great that deserve me to mention.
even on my birthday, he will still whack me for no reason. although i'm not in the wrong.
u knw wat is the reason?
it's becoz i never wear helmet..
maybe for wat u did u think is right.
but for a father of a kid, he might not think as how u think. -
You should try to break the long-held ice between you and your father....
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hmmmOriginally posted by Qex:how many of the forumnites here aren't close to their fathers?
For me father has sort of become an alien word. ya know, my dad was brought up the traditional style, he believed in the harsh punishment methods and never the caring, thoughtful parenting style which would deemed to be spoiling the child in the olden days.
This results in us drifting further n further, we must have spoke about less than 100 times in a year. From small, he nvr asked about our studies, or anything, much less our existence. I figured if I went missing someday, he wouldnt know until at least 1 month. Haiz, what I can do is to promise myself I would not take his footstep, i would try to take a big part of responsibility in raising my son, never letting him drift apart from me.
Sometimes, its just pride lah u know. The senior authority person (my dad) do sumthing wrong, refuse to admit or apologize to the junior authority which is me, this builds up an air of tension, resulting in disrespect, and so on and so on, in a vicious cycle that only increases with time.
I never knew fathers are important until I saw my friend's dad. His father was like his best friend, they would go drinking, ogling girls, playing games, cycling, everything together. Feel envy though. He had a father figure to look up to. For me, I had nothing to look up to, depending on myself. When sumthing screwed up, I would go to the rooftop or be in the room mulling over. Haiz.....
i didn't think i was very close with my dad too.... but since i lost him, i realised that i was not close to him also because i didn't try to be closer to him...
now i regret not trying harder... my sis ever mentioned that even if he stayed with us for a few more years, things would not have changed much...
but at least if i had tried harder to bond more with him i won't feel that bad...
now i keep thinking of the things i have never done... like
i have never brought him on a holiday,
i never took him fishing (with he liked to do),
i never properly treated him to a nice dinner and thank him for being my dad,
i never told him how much he meant to me and how much i love him
i never......
we have to realise one thing.
our parents are old.... and in most cases, set in their ways.... if WE have to make the effort to learn/do things that interest them.
we cant expect them to actually learn IT, go clubbing, drinking or smoking (these activities may be too unhealthy for them) just to bond with us right? we cant possibly expect our parents to go rollerblading with us just because it's a sport we enjoy right?
TS, learn from my mistake... do things that you know your dad enjoy... or simply take him out for dinner to spend quality time with him.
i still remember my dad's face when i went over to his place with my sis... something so simple made him so happy. but yet we could not bring ourselves to do it more often... -
your articles are very well written and prove a point..
they care for us.
they love us.
just that they dont show it that well. -
What i said is just meant as a joke . When i want a GF , i do think carefully .Originally posted by kiss_my (_i_):but when ur mum and dad Quarreling, do u wish to have a gf soon?
pls dont look in just 1 side.
Anyway , quarrels are common between couples . Its unavoidable . My fwen almost quarrel everyday , but they are still together . -
make a habit of buying deliciousness home to share, easy enough
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not all fathers know how to talk to their kids but it does not mean they do not love their kids.
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I don't know. Through the years, I've not been close to my father. He's done countless things to hurt me and have said things that have cut to the bone.
He thinks that he's doing things for my own good, not knowing that inadvertently he has hurt me. It's come to such an extent that I hardly talk to him anymore as among other things, he's just a very difficult person to get along with.