Rational mind, irrational heart
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I remembered I posted a thread with this same exact title, about 6 odd months ago. Strangely, the situation is almost the same. I didn't want to post in AA because I can already guess what you folks' replies would be.
But I needed an outlet, and I needed some external advices, even if they're the same as the ones I gave myself.
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So me and my (ex-)girlfriend broke up. Her reason is simple - "No more feelings". This was about... one month ago.
I've been trying to forget her. I've almost gotten over her. But a string of emotions, a string of affection. It's still not severed.
I don't know if I'm disillusioning myself, but I've been trying to let it go. She has gotten herself a new boyfriend (which I think is the real reason for the break-up). At least that's who I think he is. She's moved on, but I'm still swimming in my well, seeing the light day and night, but not being able to get out of the well. I'm still circling the memories. Almost two years worth of memories. To some it's like a blink of an eye. To me it was the best time of my life.
I'm disheartened, and I feel like giving up, and let myself drown in the well of sorrows. My three friends tell me to fight on. To let it go.
I'm trying, but somehow, I'm failing... Like a vulture circling a corpse, the sorrow refuses to leave. I constantly remind myself, I will find someone better.
But my heart seemed to have lost the ability to love again. Photography is the only thing which makes me feel alive again, but even then, my camera cannot satisfy me. I feel like a zombie - detached from the crowd around me.
Even when I'm with my friends of four years, I cannot feel myself. I have problems blending in again. Then again, I never blended in. To them, I was the arrogant kid who knew everything, except humility. I didn't bother to try changing that opinion. I just choose to exhibit what I know. Though, I feel better, instead, with my new friends. The friends I've only known for.. six months (and three months). They're from SGF, and they know who they are.
I don't know. I feel disheartened. I don't have the flame to fight any more. I feel like just blending myself into the society - quiet, mindless zombies. -
i dont know what to say.. but stay strong and i hope you feel better soon
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How would u rate yr own performance as a bf when with yr ex for the last 2 yrs? It u fail,bless her that she can find someone to give her real happiness.Originally posted by binarynwitz:I remembered I posted a thread with this same exact title, about 6 odd months ago. Strangely, the situation is almost the same. I didn't want to post in AA because I can already guess what you folks' replies would be.
But I needed an outlet, and I needed some external advices, even if they're the same as the ones I gave myself.
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So me and my (ex-)girlfriend broke up. Her reason is simple - "No more feelings". This was about... one month ago.
I've been trying to forget her. I've almost gotten over her. But a string of emotions, a string of affection. It's still not severed.
I don't know if I'm disillusioning myself, but I've been trying to let it go. She has gotten herself a new boyfriend (which I think is the real reason for the break-up). At least that's who I think he is. She's moved on, but I'm still swimming in my well, seeing the light day and night, but not being able to get out of the well. I'm still circling the memories. Almost two years worth of memories. To some it's like a blink of an eye. To me it was the best time of my life.
I'm disheartened, and I feel like giving up, and let myself drown in the well of sorrows. My three friends tell me to fight on. To let it go.
I'm trying, but somehow, I'm failing... Like a vulture circling a corpse, the sorrow refuses to leave. I constantly remind myself, I will find someone better.
But my heart seemed to have lost the ability to love again. Photography is the only thing which makes me feel alive again, but even then, my camera cannot satisfy me. I feel like a zombie - detached from the crowd around me.
Even when I'm with my friends of four years, I cannot feel myself. I have problems blending in again. Then again, I never blended in. To them, I was the arrogant kid who knew everything, except humility. I didn't bother to try changing that opinion. I just choose to exhibit what I know. Though, I feel better, instead, with my new friends. The friends I've only known for.. six months (and three months). They're from SGF, and they know who they are.
I don't know. I feel disheartened. I don't have the flame to fight any more. I feel like just blending myself into the society - quiet, mindless zombies.
If u think she just have a change of heart. Make her regret her option by giving all yr best of yr love for the next love.
U can lose yr love,lose yr whatever but never lose yr heart! Stay Strong -
You know I'm here for you anytime you need me.
Remember everything I've told you.
And stay strong. -
Some things are just not worth your while. Stay strong, there are better things to do in your life.
Just like the saying: Why give up the whole forest for just a flower?. (something like that).
Forget about it(easier said than done, but it is possible). Do other stuff to empty your mind from this thoughts. Do what you always enjoy the most, cry if you wan to make yourself feel better. Ultimately, convince yourself that she is not worth ur while. -
"But a string of emotions, a string of affection. It's still not severed"
String of emotions and affections are not easy to severe 1. It is part of u. Dont hurt yrself for nothing.
"Almost two years worth of memories. To some it's like a blink of an eye. To me it was the best time of my life"
Since, it is yr best time of yr life, y do u want to forget it? Will u willing to be a person in coma for 2 yrs? or will u willing to remember some of the good times and smile? Memories belong to u ... dont let any1 rob it from u.
I constantly remind myself, I will find someone better.
why do u continue to lie to yrself when deep inside u noe that it is not the truth?
feel disheartened. I don't have the flame to fight any more
lol... u do not even need to fight. Just be true to yrself and face the music.
Of coz, being true to yrself, will make u feel heart broken. But that is the stage u have to go thru whether u like it or not. This is the time when u feel that yr heart will split and grow into many kinds of feelings sub-consiously like hatred, love, sorrow, happiness and blah blah blah. It is up to u to choose a path to end the splitting of yr heart. For example : Telling yrself that u will find a better gf, Telling yrself as long as she is happy, u are happy and blah blah. But the path u have to find for yrself. Coz, it is yr love , yr life... But, pls dont do things till too extreme... lol
And lastly , a song for u http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KtzcOqv_P-4 -
yo!! pal!!
dun be dishearted!
Believe me! u will find someone better!
if u cannot forget her , dun force herself out of urself mind!
she leave 2 yrs of sweet memories. Why forget the memories? allow time to help u forget her...
But if u cannot forget her, give urself and her another chance...
go find her and see whether both of ur can make a relationship go on.. whether she miss u too! I think she is a pretty good girl from what u describe!
if u want to do it, ur pride can handle anot???
Believe me! She ask she had "no feeling" ,it is bullshit! 2 yrs not feeling! kidding who!!!
u believe!! u stupid lah!
Dun listen to ur friend la.... ur future not ur friend..
well, the decision is up to u! what u wan in ur life? who u wan to be in ur life?
u can also find another girl too!! up to u !!! heehee!
wish u all the best to ur decision!
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Time will heal many things including affairs of the heart.Originally posted by binarynwitz:I remembered I posted a thread with this same exact title, about 6 odd months ago. Strangely, the situation is almost the same. I didn't want to post in AA because I can already guess what you folks' replies would be.
But I needed an outlet, and I needed some external advices, even if they're the same as the ones I gave myself.
-----
So me and my (ex-)girlfriend broke up. Her reason is simple - "No more feelings". This was about... one month ago.
I've been trying to forget her. I've almost gotten over her. But a string of emotions, a string of affection. It's still not severed.
I don't know if I'm disillusioning myself, but I've been trying to let it go. She has gotten herself a new boyfriend (which I think is the real reason for the break-up). At least that's who I think he is. She's moved on, but I'm still swimming in my well, seeing the light day and night, but not being able to get out of the well. I'm still circling the memories. Almost two years worth of memories. To some it's like a blink of an eye. To me it was the best time of my life.
I'm disheartened, and I feel like giving up, and let myself drown in the well of sorrows. My three friends tell me to fight on. To let it go.
I'm trying, but somehow, I'm failing... Like a vulture circling a corpse, the sorrow refuses to leave. I constantly remind myself, I will find someone better.
But my heart seemed to have lost the ability to love again. Photography is the only thing which makes me feel alive again, but even then, my camera cannot satisfy me. I feel like a zombie - detached from the crowd around me.
Even when I'm with my friends of four years, I cannot feel myself. I have problems blending in again. Then again, I never blended in. To them, I was the arrogant kid who knew everything, except humility. I didn't bother to try changing that opinion. I just choose to exhibit what I know. Though, I feel better, instead, with my new friends. The friends I've only known for.. six months (and three months). They're from SGF, and they know who they are.
I don't know. I feel disheartened. I don't have the flame to fight any more. I feel like just blending myself into the society - quiet, mindless zombies.
Think about this, she's willing to let go. What about you?
If she doesn't like you, why should you like her?
It's hard. But you must let it go. It will always never work. Period.
doko -
slowly slowly... we all have our own heartbreaks..
it takes time.. for some, longer than others...
hang in there, do stuff to take your mind off things, choose to be happy (it's hard but you really can) and let time do its thing..
we all will live through our heartbreaks, a little battered, a little scarred, but if we learn from it, we become better and wiser
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Why are you trying so hard to let go ?
Letting go doesn't require so much hard work.
To let go, means you relinguish the strongholds.
To let go, you release the tight grip you held so dear.
You do not have to try so hard to blend.
To blend means being someone other than yourself.
You are who you are, you are what you chose to be.
Your past is part of your present.
Just as the present becomes your future.
With every failed relationship, a step up to being a better lover. -
Haha...Originally posted by dokono:Time will heal many things including affairs of the heart.
Think about this, she's willing to let go. What about you?
If she doesn't like you, why should you like her?
It's hard. But you must let it go. It will always never work. Period.
doko
I remember you giving the almost the same advice, six months ago.
Believe me, doko. I'm trying to let go. -
if you can't let go, I will just keep pounding into your mind until it makes sense to you.Originally posted by binarynwitz:Haha...
I remember you giving the almost the same advice, six months ago.
Believe me, doko. I'm trying to let go.
doko -
hey TS, its nice to hear that you have nice friends here in SGF. yup I trust they have given you their opinions.......do not despair, I once thought that it's the end......well it isn't now.....so cheer up
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Take photos.... Take different types of photos... Different types of themes...Originally posted by binarynwitz:I remembered I posted a thread with this same exact title, about 6 odd months ago. Strangely, the situation is almost the same. I didn't want to post in AA because I can already guess what you folks' replies would be.
But I needed an outlet, and I needed some external advices, even if they're the same as the ones I gave myself.
-----
So me and my (ex-)girlfriend broke up. Her reason is simple - "No more feelings". This was about... one month ago.
I've been trying to forget her. I've almost gotten over her. But a string of emotions, a string of affection. It's still not severed.
I don't know if I'm disillusioning myself, but I've been trying to let it go. She has gotten herself a new boyfriend (which I think is the real reason for the break-up). At least that's who I think he is. She's moved on, but I'm still swimming in my well, seeing the light day and night, but not being able to get out of the well. I'm still circling the memories. Almost two years worth of memories. To some it's like a blink of an eye. To me it was the best time of my life.
I'm disheartened, and I feel like giving up, and let myself drown in the well of sorrows. My three friends tell me to fight on. To let it go.
I'm trying, but somehow, I'm failing... Like a vulture circling a corpse, the sorrow refuses to leave. I constantly remind myself, I will find someone better.
But my heart seemed to have lost the ability to love again. Photography is the only thing which makes me feel alive again, but even then, my camera cannot satisfy me. I feel like a zombie - detached from the crowd around me.
Even when I'm with my friends of four years, I cannot feel myself. I have problems blending in again. Then again, I never blended in. To them, I was the arrogant kid who knew everything, except humility. I didn't bother to try changing that opinion. I just choose to exhibit what I know. Though, I feel better, instead, with my new friends. The friends I've only known for.. six months (and three months). They're from SGF, and they know who they are.
I don't know. I feel disheartened. I don't have the flame to fight any more. I feel like just blending myself into the society - quiet, mindless zombies. -
Feelings change, people change. It is only too natural.
When a relationship ends, we are stricken grief, bcos we are being forced to deal with space in an untimely fashion. We are reeling from our own misunderstanding. That person didn't exist the way we thought. All that remains is memories and emotions. Perhaps we mistook him or her for part of ourselves or our own identity. He/she is gone but he was never there the way we imagined. The reality is just blatant now. When later we say, "i'm over that; i've let go of the concept of that person and how things would be between us. "Wisdom teaches is to see the space between the lines. Things aren't as solid as they appear. It was the concept that cause us the headache. -
Like how you're always there for me, I'm here for you as well.