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I met this guy online couple of months back. He is a funny person. Finally met him in a group outing, and he is still as funny as he is online. Chatted with him in msn usually, and sms-es. We could chat as normal even if we go out in group outings or with just the 2 of us. Sometimes he'll call me on the phone to chit chat. I really feel very comfortable talking to him.
However he has a girlfriend already. I knew about it as he has told me before. But I don't understand why he still calls me when he should be calling his gf? Is this something a guy does? I thought attached guys will call and talk to their gf instead of someone that he met online. I'm confused.
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sometime, nothing talk to girlfren one.
and when talking to girlfren, must make her happy
when, fren, it much more relax. -
U ask that guy lor... so easy...
Like tat " Waaa... today, no need to accompany gf???"
Then, from the answer he give, u will noe ... -
jz go ask him y lo... theres many possible reasons...Originally posted by itsasecret:I met this guy online couple of months back. He is a funny person. Finally met him in a group outing, and he is still as funny as he is online. Chatted with him in msn usually, and sms-es. We could chat as normal even if we go out in group outings or with just the 2 of us. Sometimes he'll call me on the phone to chit chat. I really feel very comfortable talking to him.
However he has a girlfriend already. I knew about it as he has told me before. But I don't understand why he still calls me when he should be calling his gf? Is this something a guy does? I thought attached guys will call and talk to their gf instead of someone that he met online. I'm confused. -
Why should you be confused unless you have feelings for him...
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gf only wad.... not married.
he can still choose someone more suitable for him.
and u can also giv or not giv him a chance to see if he is suitable for you.
sorry for being direct. i don't like to hit around the bushes
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you never heard before ? one leg can stand on many boats.Originally posted by itsasecret:I met this guy online couple of months back. He is a funny person. Finally met him in a group outing, and he is still as funny as he is online. Chatted with him in msn usually, and sms-es. We could chat as normal even if we go out in group outings or with just the 2 of us. Sometimes he'll call me on the phone to chit chat. I really feel very comfortable talking to him.
However he has a girlfriend already. I knew about it as he has told me before. But I don't understand why he still calls me when he should be calling his gf? Is this something a guy does? I thought attached guys will call and talk to their gf instead of someone that he met online. I'm confused. 
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You are thinking too much. Calling you does not means he is interested in you. Maybe he is just trying to make friends? Just my two cents.
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Let me explain a few things so you can understand a bit about guys.Originally posted by itsasecret:I met this guy online couple of months back. He is a funny person. Finally met him in a group outing, and he is still as funny as he is online. Chatted with him in msn usually, and sms-es. We could chat as normal even if we go out in group outings or with just the 2 of us. Sometimes he'll call me on the phone to chit chat. I really feel very comfortable talking to him.
However he has a girlfriend already. I knew about it as he has told me before. But I don't understand why he still calls me when he should be calling his gf? Is this something a guy does? I thought attached guys will call and talk to their gf instead of someone that he met online. I'm confused.
1) When a guy is your friend, he will chat with you about anything under the sun as he need not worry about anything.
2) The problem lies when the guy has a gf. He have to protect the gf in many ways and sometimes he may have to hid a few things from her in order not to harm the gf or kena scream at.
e.g.
a) comics book reading
b) prono
c) smoking
d) going out with friends late at nite.
Slowly as time goes by the couple will have less and less to chat.
Just remember the following instructions so that you will not be in any problem with him
1) Check yourself. ask if you like this guy ? If you can tell yourself no then is alrite?
2) Check him, when he goes out with you does he touch you, or say anything about being his gf ? If not then is alrite.
3) Best solution ask him if he likes you or not. Is the best solution cos it will clear up any misunderstanding. -
then u have to make ur stand clear that he is juz a fren to u, nothing more.
let him know ur stand. talk to him abt his gf, tell him to treasure his gf ar. -
I will feel strange if a gal(tat I treat as a chatting friend) does the above to me. lol...Originally posted by browniebaobao:then u have to make ur stand clear that he is juz a fren to u, nothing more.
let him know ur stand. talk to him abt his gf, tell him to treasure his gf ar. -
is a simple answer. He try to fool around. So he try his luck on u.
u think a guy simply call a gal to chit chat ?
And simply think this way, if he is ur bf and doing the same thing to other gal as well, how will u felt?
I think be fair to urself and his gf, next time he try to contact u, talk more about his gf and ask him direct y he have so much time instead calling u y not call his gf?
I think from there u can understand... or even worse if this guy try to say he have some prob with his gf hahaha. typical answer for a legal answer to fool around.
Think about it, is this guy worth to let him come near u?
We are all adult, and u should know a guy using below to think than using above.
All the best. -
Wa... phobia sia... guys can only talk to guys??? and gals can only talk to gals??? No wonder... there is so much topic in aunt agony... coz guys can never understand gals and gals can never understand guys...Originally posted by vivasg:is a simple answer. He try to fool around. So he try his luck on u.
u think a guy simply call a gal to chit chat ?
And simply think this way, if he is ur bf and doing the same thing to other gal as well, how will u felt?
I think be fair to urself and his gf, next time he try to contact u, talk more about his gf and ask him direct y he have so much time instead calling u y not call his gf?
I think from there u can understand... or even worse if this guy try to say he have some prob with his gf hahaha. typical answer for a legal answer to fool around.
Think about it, is this guy worth to let him come near u?
We are all adult, and u should know a guy using below to think than using above.
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I don't think there's anything wrong with this.
Who passed the law that when one has a girlfriend, he is unable to talk to other girls, or even have fun with them?
Conversely, even girls do that with other guy friends.
I don't actually see anything wrong with the message you posted, unless of course, you have feelings for him.
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*sound alarm bells please*Originally posted by _Aaron_:I don't think there's anything wrong with this.
Who passed the law that when one has a girlfriend, he is unable to talk to other girls, or even have fun with them?
Aiyoh, how can like that say one? What's your name and post a picture of yourself here so more singaporean girls know who to avoid.
My friend, have girlfriend already must be faithful. Girls are very sensitive one... get hurt easily so as her man you must protect, nurture and be understanding. How can attached already still anyhow 'have fun' outside? Haiyoh...
By having 'fun' I mean sleeping around lah, flirting lah, kissing lah blah blah blah. How you feel if your girlfriend go outside and 'have fun?' Haiseh...
But true enough, I notice my male friends having to hold back on their topics with girlfriends. Go out with me ogle around, go out with girlfriend then must behave lah. Must respect girlfriend mah. Attached already still can have female friends, but don't over do it lah. For example, my male friends avoid gathering their girlfriends and me. Girlfriend call them they must pick up. Just take care and don't give the wrong impression can liao lor. Very sensitive one lah this sort of things. Haiyah...
Ma fan. -
most guys in Singapore really flirt a lot.. even when they are attached...
most girls are just so guillable to believe them .. sigh sigh
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isit?Originally posted by ispyyy:I will feel strange if a gal(tat I treat as a chatting friend) does the above to me. lol...
no leh.
juz hint hint ar. If there's really nth, he can juz forget it ar. -
Actually, i also have guys frens who are attached or married calling me to chit chat.. they say, it's easier to talk to girls.. and certain things, they dun want their gf/wife to know coz dun want to make them worried etc.. so when they call, it's juz to borrow a listening ear. Anyway, long time no hear from them liao... probably their work and r/s are more stabilised liao, which is a good thing.
then TS muz judge for yourself le.. wat kinda topic he talk to u about.. his work, his r/s problems or probing into your personal life and flirting with you. -
browniebaobao so powerful~Originally posted by browniebaobao:Actually, i also have guys frens who are attached or married calling me to chit chat.. they say, it's easier to talk to girls.. and certain things, they dun want their gf/wife to know coz dun want to make them worried etc.. so when they call, it's juz to borrow a listening ear. Anyway, long time no hear from them liao... probably their work and r/s are more stabilised liao, which is a good thing.
then TS muz judge for yourself le.. wat kinda topic he talk to u about.. his work, his r/s problems or probing into your personal life and flirting with you.
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err... what did i do?Originally posted by beavan:browniebaobao so powerful~ -
GOOD counselling...Originally posted by browniebaobao:err... what did i do? 
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I think u also think too much! He just trying to chat with u. U call u up often to chat ,doesn't mean he did not call up her gf to chat daily. Maybe he is really talkative?
I think he is quite honest in the first place by telling u early that he already has a ger. If he intend to flirt,he will hide the truth from u and play around with u. Btw,did he say any mushy mushy things toward u or hinting that he likes u? If not,pls don't think too much. If u don't feel like talking to a attach guy,just inform yr thiniking to him... -
dont think too much...
he is just trying to 1 leg 2 boats...
or else, click with u and break with his gf, thn u will be another ruiner in my SGF life. -
take this as an example, this is how a flirter thinkOriginally posted by _Aaron_:I don't think there's anything wrong with this.
Who passed the law that when one has a girlfriend, he is unable to talk to other girls, or even have fun with them?
Conversely, even girls do that with other guy friends.
I don't actually see anything wrong with the message you posted, unless of course, you have feelings for him.
That changes things. -
completely trueOriginally posted by TzX-b:gf only wad.... not married.
he can still choose someone more suitable for him.
and u can also giv or not giv him a chance to see if he is suitable for you.
sorry for being direct. i don't like to hit around the bushes