Being friends for too long=no chance of being a couple?
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some people get married after 10-20years of platonic relatiosnhip
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I have known my boyfriend for more than 6 years, and we got together only recently.Originally posted by nanren4ever:The "insightful forumite" u talking about is me?
Anyway.maybe not every girl works that way when it comes to choosing the other half for a boyfriend. Look at Priscelia Chan and Alan Tern, the Mediacorp couple. They were best friends too, they know each other inside out, were with other people at first. But then, something happened to Priscelia's family, she turned to Alan, and hey presto, the rest is history. They are now getting married.
So I should say that there are indeed cases where the gal can be best of friends with a guy for some years, and then they get toether. It just so happens that it didn't happen to me. I personally had relationships with people where I know the person for less than 4 months, and we got together. Of course it didn't last long, and i suspect it is because we never really got to know each other well. That really got me thinking about wanting to know a person well enough before deciding to take the plunge. Because the more u know about someone, the more easy it is for me to decide if i can be with that person for long. At least, that's what I felt.
It just so happens that the girl I am best friend with(and the one I like for so long) feels otherwise. She don't want to look for someone who knows her well enough. She feels that if something should happen between us, it would have happen a long time ago. In short, she's the type who loves to see the fireworks and sparkles in the sky, but fail to see the sky that is still there after the initial sparks and fireworks are over. Hope u guys can understand the analogy.
Anyway, I am sure there's girls who would look at guys around them, or their buddies even after being friends for a few years. It just so happens it never happened to me.
some choose friendship over love,
others choose love over friendship
depends on whether u dare to take the 1st step into making things happen. Sparks don fly upon chance, but feelings do develop.
i do agree that if "it's meant to be, it should happen long ago".. But somethings need time to realise... after ups and downs, den u'll discover who's the one.
as a gal, i do admit some gals are too into fairytales ending. I was guilty of it once also.
blame it on korean drama la.. lol -
What if the gal tell you in the initial stages of friendship that she has no special feelings for you?
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Like the other forumers said.Originally posted by Marco_Simone:What if the gal tell you in the initial stages of friendship that she has no special feelings for you?
Some choose frdship over love.
Some choose love over frdship.
U can wait and get to know here better. And hope for feelings to develop.
There's a chance for it to happen.
But what if during that period of time someone she likes comes along and somehow clicks with her as well as u do?.. what will happen then?
"I have spent 5 years waiting for her, but she married someone" - u don't want that to happen don't u?
One thing i'm doubtful abt this kind of frdship to love relationship is that -U r waiting for something to happen and its not guaranteed to happen as well.
U could have spent the 5 years meeting other girls whom have a higher interest in u.
I suggest making use of the time u have now to search for greener pasture, in the mean time remain a platonic realtionship - and let things work out...
If it does -good for u.
If it doesn't - its ok. since u didn't spend too much time pursuing her anyway. -
korean drams are not fairy-tale like.Originally posted by *moments:I have known my boyfriend for more than 6 years, and we got together only recently.
some choose friendship over love,
others choose love over friendship
depends on whether u dare to take the 1st step into making things happen. Sparks don fly upon chance, but feelings do develop.
i do agree that if "it's meant to be, it should happen long ago".. But somethings need time to realise... after ups and downs, den u'll discover who's the one.
as a gal, i do admit some gals are too into fairytales ending. I was guilty of it once also.
blame it on korean drama la.. lol
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Came across this statement today
Every NO Brings You Closer to a YES.
You may face 10 rejections, but you may get lucky and get a YES on the 11th try. The idea is to keep trying. -
Originally posted by Marco_Simone:
Yeah.
Came across this statement today
[b]Every NO Brings You Closer to a YES.
You may face 10 rejections, but you may get lucky and get a YES on the 11th try. The idea is to keep trying. [/b]
Dating is a numbers game just like sales.
Between salemans A and B.
A is a lousy seller and has a success rate of 20%
B is an extremely good seller with a sucess rate of 80 %
A meets 500 customers.
B meets 100 customers.
WHO sells more? of course is A lor..
A 100 as compared to B 80.
Widen your circle of frds, meet new ppl and keep trying.
Good Luck