Wad should i do?
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I recently stead with a ger who like me since we was sec 2. Tat was like 3-4 yrs ago. We like each other last time. I try to hold her hand but she once like reject.
Then this yr, after we went to a classmate house for CNY, we realise we still have feeling for each others. So we started le. Until now, is abt 3 mth le. We keep thinking abt our future le. I put in alot effort in this relationship. But @ first, her mum disapprove of us. Cos the main reason is cos she is from JC and i am from ITE. But now, she is okay le. But can still see tat she is still a little sad ba. She say our education gap to big.
But she say if i continue into poly, then it will be alright. Which i am willing to do.
My gf is vv close toward her guy friend and everytime i noe, i wil get jealous. But i try to control le. Now a guy who once like her kep calling her and she nvr ans. But he just nvr stop de lo.. She told me everytime when he call her. Wad can i do?
Sometimes i felt tat she is happier when she is with her friend. But she say no. She was jus acting to be happy infront of them. She is the type who duno how to think abt others feeling. Jus do wad she feel like doing.
Got any advice on wad i can and should do? -
Originally posted by Tian Long Jiu Bu:I recently stead with a ger who like me since we was sec 2. Tat was like 3-4 yrs ago. We like each other last time. I try to hold her hand but she once like reject.
Then this yr, after we went to a classmate house for CNY, we realise we still have feeling for each others. So we started le. Until now, is abt 3 mth le. We keep thinking abt our future le. I put in alot effort in this relationship. But @ first, her mum disapprove of us. Cos the main reason is cos she is from JC and i am from ITE. But now, she is okay le. But can still see tat she is still a little sad ba. She say our education gap to big.
But she say if i continue into poly, then it will be alright. Which i am willing to do.
My gf is vv close toward her guy friend and everytime i noe, i wil get jealous. But i try to control le. Now a guy who once like her kep calling her and she nvr ans. But he just nvr stop de lo.. She told me everytime when he call her. Wad can i do?
Sometimes i felt tat she is happier when she is with her friend. But she say no. She was jus acting to be happy infront of them. She is the type who duno how to think abt others feeling. Jus do wad she feel like doing.
Got any advice on wad i can and should do?
Precisely - what can you do if your competitor tries to launch a 'marketing campaign' to promote themselves? Obviously you are insecure; not just because he is a competitor, but also, his positioning is probably perceived as 'better brand' than yours.
Seriously, don't fret over things that are beyond your control, namely external factors. Gather your resources and focus on what you could manipulate - which is yourself.
If you kept segmenting yourself as the bottom tier system of our screwed education system - ITE as It's The End - you will probably live in that brand for the rest of your life. Then when you get jealous due to insecurity, you are likely to tighten your grip on your love and over the time, this will hurt your relationship.
You might think that you are not good enough, but actually it's because you do not understand yourself well enough to play your cards strategically.
The ball is in your court - only you can make her see if she has made a right choice by sticking with you. And as long as it becomes a reality... as long as you gradually improve your 'brand' and become more 'marketable' - your positioning will improve.
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Can be good or bad.Originally posted by Tian Long Jiu Bu:She told me everytime when he call her. Wad can i do?
Either she afraid you may be jealous and worried, so she tell you about the calls to show that she is not hiding anything or having other relationships.
Or she trying to make you see that there are other boys going after her and you gonna do sth or you will lose her. -
The thing with her mom. Not an issue.
You are going in the right direction by showing the willingness to upgrade yourself.
The thing about that pesky friend.
You are the man, not a wuss.
You need to protect your girl.
First, ask your girlfriend for permission to pick up the call for her, speak to the guy yourself. Tell the guy you are her boyfriend, politely tell him not to call anymore.
NOTE: Do not do this without her permission. Do not act hostile when you talk to the guy. Be a gentleman, your gf will appreciate it. -
You got typo, it is tian long ba bu. Why you type tian long jiu bu?Originally posted by Tian Long Jiu Bu:I recently stead with a ger who like me since we was sec 2. Tat was like 3-4 yrs ago. We like each other last time. I try to hold her hand but she once like reject.
Then this yr, after we went to a classmate house for CNY, we realise we still have feeling for each others. So we started le. Until now, is abt 3 mth le. We keep thinking abt our future le. I put in alot effort in this relationship. But @ first, her mum disapprove of us. Cos the main reason is cos she is from JC and i am from ITE. But now, she is okay le. But can still see tat she is still a little sad ba. She say our education gap to big.
But she say if i continue into poly, then it will be alright. Which i am willing to do.
My gf is vv close toward her guy friend and everytime i noe, i wil get jealous. But i try to control le. Now a guy who once like her kep calling her and she nvr ans. But he just nvr stop de lo.. She told me everytime when he call her. Wad can i do?
Sometimes i felt tat she is happier when she is with her friend. But she say no. She was jus acting to be happy infront of them. She is the type who duno how to think abt others feeling. Jus do wad she feel like doing.
Got any advice on wad i can and should do?
Anyway... come back to topic. So sweet of you to go and meet her mother.
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Got backbone to improve yourself and your studies. Got goal in life (to go poly).
*Add points*
Must be handsome also, since intelligent girlfriend fell in love with you instead of other boys.
*Add points*
Girlfriend honest. Tell you about competitor.
*Add points*
Girlfriend confides in you a lot it seems. Sounds like you two lovebirds quite close.
*Add points*
Competitor keeps calling her but she never answers her phone.
*Add points*
What you worried about now?
I suggest you invite this guy out the next time you 'pak tor' with your girlfriend.
Teach him a thing or two, impart your skills on skirt chasing.
Sometimes 'nu ren' like it when their 'nan ren' can protect them from bad monkeys.
Before that, ask her if she wants you to step in.
If she wants then you bring this monkey out for 'kopi.'
If she say don't want then you tell her ok, you 'give her face' and don't approach the monkey because you respect her.
Show her you are her new age tarzan/ubersexual/he-man.
Intuitively, Ah Ma. -
Originally posted by Tian Long Jiu Bu:
Good points:
I recently stead with a ger who like me since we was sec 2. Tat was like 3-4 yrs ago.
We like each other last time. I try to hold her hand but she once like reject.
Then this yr, after we went to a classmate house for CNY, we realise we still [b]have feeling for each others. So we started le.
Until now, is abt 3 mth le. We keep thinking abt our future le. I put in alot effort in this relationship. But @ first, her mum disapprove of us. Cos the main reason is cos she is from JC and i am from ITE. But now, she is okay le. But can still see tat she is still a little sad ba. She say our education gap to big.
But she say if i continue into poly, then it will be alright. Which i am willing to do.
My gf is vv close toward her guy friend and everytime i noe, i wil get jealous. But i try to control le.
Now a guy who once like her kep calling her and she nvr ans. But he just nvr stop de lo.. She told me everytime when he call her. Wad can i do?
Sometimes i felt tat she is happier when she is with her friend. But she say no. She was jus acting to be happy infront of them. She is the type who duno how to think abt others feeling. Jus do wad she feel like doing.
Got any advice on wad i can and should do?[/b]
3-4 years ago, and now, u still like each other
If u got into poly, she says ok, use that as motivation to study into poly
solution:
what have her frends done to make her happy? try it -
Hmmm.. Quite true. Thx. But I am also afraid when she din think abt how i will feel. She told me she will nt change heart now. And she told me her mum last time ask her nt to start a serious relationship with me and told her tat there will be alot of others gd guys and rich ppl in University.
Then i ask her abt tat. She say she sure wun change heart now. But if She go U and saw a better guy, maybe she will go with them...
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You from ITE ah?
That guy from JC.
That guy sure no li tao one.
You ask your brudder go whack him up la.
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If you think she is happier with others, let go.
I am not criticizing, but the gap between you and her is large. -
Originally posted by Xephone_xenon:You from ITE ah?
That guy from JC.
That guy sure no li tao one.
You ask your brudder go whack him up la. 
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agree with jojo.
if your gf agrees, do that... but if she rather not, let her handle it.
you have to remember. in the end she chose YOU. not him.
Trust her to handle it, help her if she asks... but show her that you trust her but will support her whenever she needs it. -
agree agree...Originally posted by smudgey:agree with jojo.
if your gf agrees, do that... but if she rather not, let her handle it.
you have to remember. in the end she chose YOU. not him.
Trust her to handle it, help her if she asks... but show her that you trust her but will support her whenever she needs it. -
Loving someone does not mean you got to have her always by your side, possessing her. It's seeing her being happy and blessed.
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Originally posted by Xephone_xenon:You from ITE ah?
That guy from JC.
That guy sure no li tao one.
You ask your brudder go whack him up la. 
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i myself also think the gap is too big. But the problem is, if u ask me to lets go of her now, i can't take it.Originally posted by dbowie:If you think she is happier with others, let go.
I am not criticizing, but the gap between you and her is large. -
hmm... doesn't the fact that she CHOSE you give you any confidence?Originally posted by Tian Long Jiu Bu:i myself also think the gap is too big. But the problem is, if u ask me to lets go of her now, i can't take it.
relationships are not about qualifications!
if you two can communicate effectively, your relationship will have a fighting chance, even if you do not speak the same language!!!
notice i said "fighting chance" and not "100% success" cos there's no unions in this world that has a "100% success".
Relationships take hard work, trusts, and even more hard work to substain.
If you are willing to THROW the relationship away just because others have said that you 2 are not compatible, that there's others more compatible (in your opinion) with her,
Then you have CONDEMNED YOUR RELATIONSHIP. -
Have more faith in her!
Until you find concrete evidence that she's two-timing you. -
TS, never let your thoughts run wild, it kills sometime.
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Wad u say make sense. Thx.Originally posted by smudgey:hmm... doesn't the fact that she CHOSE you give you any confidence?
relationships are not about qualifications!
if you two can communicate effectively, your relationship will have a fighting chance, even if you do not speak the same language!!!
notice i said "fighting chance" and not "100% success" cos there's no unions in this world that has a "100% success".
Relationships take hard work, trusts, and even more hard work to substain.
If you are willing to THROW the relationship away just because others have said that you 2 are not compatible, that there's others more compatible (in your opinion) with her,
Then you have CONDEMNED YOUR RELATIONSHIP. -
duhOriginally posted by Xephone_xenon:You from ITE ah?
That guy from JC.
That guy sure no li tao one.
You ask your brudder go whack him up la. 
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Tian Long shi bu,
I know you are feeling insecure because of her higher qualification.
But, you know, no one can predict the future.
You are still young, and still have the potential to be someone successful.
Just because you have lower qualification now, does not mean you will be a failure several years down the road.
Your girlfriend sticks with you now because she know you have the potential to become a better person.
Since she did not give up on you, why are you giving up on yourself already ???
Let me warn you , and please take heed.......
You better not wallow in self pity.
Because self pity will destroy your self-confidence.
And it WILL also destroy your relationship.
If you want a better future for you and your girlfriend, you better put in more effort into securing a stable future, and don't neglect your gf along the way.
You are a very lucky man. -
Go upgrade yourself to Polytechnic 1st...not only to secure your gf & yourself or her/your families, but to secure the future for the both of you.Originally posted by Tian Long Jiu Bu:I recently stead with a ger who like me since we was sec 2. Tat was like 3-4 yrs ago. We like each other last time. I try to hold her hand but she once like reject.
Then this yr, after we went to a classmate house for CNY, we realise we still have feeling for each others. So we started le. Until now, is abt 3 mth le. We keep thinking abt our future le. I put in alot effort in this relationship. But @ first, her mum disapprove of us. Cos the main reason is cos she is from JC and i am from ITE. But now, she is okay le. But can still see tat she is still a little sad ba. She say our education gap to big.
But she say if i continue into poly, then it will be alright. Which i am willing to do.
My gf is vv close toward her guy friend and everytime i noe, i wil get jealous. But i try to control le. Now a guy who once like her kep calling her and she nvr ans. But he just nvr stop de lo.. She told me everytime when he call her. Wad can i do?
Sometimes i felt tat she is happier when she is with her friend. But she say no. She was jus acting to be happy infront of them. She is the type who duno how to think abt others feeling. Jus do wad she feel like doing.
Got any advice on wad i can and should do?
Treasure your gf and the future for you both... -
Ya... agreed... Divert all yr worries, yr love and blah blah to yr studies... Seriously, there is nothing much u can do except to obtain yr goal...Originally posted by dcx:Go upgrade yourself to Polytechnic 1st...not only to secure your gf & yourself or her/your families, but to secure the future for the both of you.
Treasure your gf and the future for you both...
If u have any more new problems, just feel free to post in AA again... -
I also realise it last time. And i told myself to have more confidence in myself.Originally posted by jojobeach:Tian Long shi bu,
I know you are feeling insecure because of her higher qualification.
But, you know, no one can predict the future.
You are still young, and still have the potential to be someone successful.
Just because you have lower qualification now, does not mean you will be a failure several years down the road.
Your girlfriend sticks with you now because she know you have the potential to become a better person.
Since she did not give up on you, why are you giving up on yourself already ???
Let me warn you , and please take heed.......
You better not wallow in self pity.
Because self pity will destroy your self-confidence.
And it WILL also destroy your relationship.
If you want a better future for you and your girlfriend, you better put in more effort into securing a stable future, and don't neglect your gf along the way.
You are a very lucky man.
but there was alot of time when thing happen when i will go back and look down on myself. -
Don't be selfish......spare a thought for others, especially your gf whom's so into you...If you see yourself as a piece/lump/pile of sh!t, you're sh!t.Originally posted by Tian Long Jiu Bu:I also realise it last time. And i told myself to have more confidence in myself.
but there was alot of time when thing happen when i will go back and look down on myself.