how to cope with jealousy?
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hi guys, just wondering how u guys cope with jealousy..
Everytime i see her talking to this or that guy, asking how to do this or that, jealousy just takes over me. It feels weird, but im not particularly angry or something, just frustrated at myself for being so weak(and protective?) and unable to control my emotions
btw, we are not together, still in the process of courtship.. i know u guys will say since she is not my gf, what even gives me the right to be so concern of her, but im just so confused -
must be "Da Fang"... wait she tink u posessive type then its the end...Originally posted by twelfth night:hi guys, just wondering how u guys cope with jealousy..
Everytime i see her talking to this or that guy, asking how to do this or that, jealousy just takes over me. It feels weird, but im not particularly angry or something, just frustrated at myself for being so weak(and protective?) and unable to control my emotions
btw, we are not together, still in the process of courtship.. i know u guys will say since she is not my gf, what even gives me the right to be so concern of her, but im just so confused -
breathe in breathe out.breathe in breathe out.close your eyes.dont see.dont listen.
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Originally posted by xaih:breathe in breathe out.breathe in breathe out.close your eyes.dont see.dont listen.
TS, i think u r quite possessive type rite?? no good.
change ba.. -
Talking to other guys only wad?
Whats wrong with talking to friends.
U are concern with her talking to her friends? -
find something to distract yourself from her lah, schedule your time full full, got no time for her.
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As long as it is not flirting.Originally posted by twelfth night:hi guys, just wondering how u guys cope with jealousy..
Everytime i see her talking to this or that guy, asking how to do this or that, jealousy just takes over me. It feels weird, but im not particularly angry or something, just frustrated at myself for being so weak(and protective?) and unable to control my emotions
btw, we are not together, still in the process of courtship.. i know u guys will say since she is not my gf, what even gives me the right to be so concern of her, but im just so confused
Nothing wrong with talking with the other gender.
Half the world population is opposite gender. You expect her to talk and interact with girls only ?
Wake up your idea. If you keep doing this, you will go insane. -
It is OK to feel jealous. Just like it is OK to feel murderous. It is best not to have feelings (takes a long process, needs religion) but if you have them, just don't act on them and you will be OK.Originally posted by twelfth night:hi guys, just wondering how u guys cope with jealousy..
Everytime i see her talking to this or that guy, asking how to do this or that, jealousy just takes over me. It feels weird, but im not particularly angry or something, just frustrated at myself for being so weak(and protective?) and unable to control my emotions
btw, we are not together, still in the process of courtship.. i know u guys will say since she is not my gf, what even gives me the right to be so concern of her, but im just so confused
Feel jealous? Do nothing about your jealousy or try to turn it positive. No point denying it. If it gets "underground" that is worse. -
not good not good..........change b4 u continue to woo herOriginally posted by twelfth night:hi guys, just wondering how u guys cope with jealousy..
Everytime i see her talking to this or that guy, asking how to do this or that, jealousy just takes over me. It feels weird, but im not particularly angry or something, just frustrated at myself for being so weak(and protective?) and unable to control my emotions
btw, we are not together, still in the process of courtship.. i know u guys will say since she is not my gf, what even gives me the right to be so concern of her, but im just so confused 
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Jealousy is only normal....
However, if does not choose you in the end, so be it. Do not cage the bird when the bird's desire is to fly to greener pastures. -
Just REN! Or just walk away or turn away. But e best is to change and learn not to let little things such as this to affect your emotions
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I guess we can never escape from jealousy, its bound to get us once in awhile and how we cope ? Its different for everyone as well....... jus dun let get the best of us.
Its normal for you to feel jealouse when you see the girl you like talking to another guy. Maybe you can try telling yourself this next time, we live in a world that consist of mix genders so she is bound to talk to other guys ...... you should be worried if she is only talking to girls ....
Best of luck ! -
this is real badOriginally posted by MiX Metal:I guess we can never escape from jealousy, its bound to get us once in awhile and how we cope ? Its different for everyone as well....... jus dun let get the best of us.
Its normal for you to feel jealouse when you see the girl you like talking to another guy. Maybe you can try telling yourself this next time, we live in a world that consist of mix genders so she is bound to talk to other guys ...... you should be worried if she is only talking to girls ....
Best of luck ! -
see no evil, hear no evil, speak no evil
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No lah, I dun tink its possessive type. If that is so, then I believe ALL humans are possessive type. Jealousy is normal and inevitable when the person you like is conversing or being close to another person.Originally posted by Cool-gal:
TS, i think u r quite possessive type rite?? no good.
change ba..
I too would be jealous but I know it is not my call to decide who she can talk to and who she can't. I have no control over what will happen next too. All I can do is to deal with my part of the story and that is to redirect my attention to the more important issues at hand.
TS (twelfth night), trust yourself and trust her. Do what you know will best benefit everyone. Consult your friends or family. Or someone who is more mature than you and seek their opinions. -
One time hor... I suffer great mental distress whenever I think of my ex or simply some girl I like having sex with someone else... hahahaha.... no more liao...
I think the jealousy will go away by itself... and so if you do not react to it and simply let it be a mental phenomena, it will go away... -
Doing kind of OK now, no longer feeling that bad, been able to cope and get over it..
Thanks guys for ur replies =)
Will continue to change for love, i feel like i have sinked so deep, missing her every now and then
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Change for love? What does that mean?Originally posted by twelfth night:Doing kind of OK now, no longer feeling that bad, been able to cope and get over it..
Thanks guys for ur replies =)
Will continue to change for love, i feel like i have sinked so deep, missing her every now and then -
they say that when you're jealous, it's not true love, but it's up to you to believe or not.
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alamak.
just tell urself, nt ur gf mah. if she like someone den go for others lo
kidding, but den, why nt think this way, if u like this, i am sure she will be upset.
even if she is ur gf u also cannot like this de.
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Originally posted by twelfth night:hi guys, just wondering how u guys cope with jealousy..
Everytime i see her talking to this or that guy, asking how to do this or that, jealousy just takes over me. It feels weird, but im not particularly angry or something, just frustrated at myself for being so weak(and protective?) and unable to control my emotions
btw, we are not together, still in the process of courtship.. i know u guys will say since she is not my gf, what even gives me the right to be so concern of her, but im just so confused 
Well, technically speaking you don't really have that position to feel jealous, as even you have probably stated the reason why.
And jealousy belongs to some rudimentary emotions - same level as anger - just that it's even harder to eradicate, but it's almost as destructive as anger in impact when overwhelmed.
Anyway, I doubt you have reached to such a stage. I mean everyone would be saying that jealousy is normal, but normal is not good enough a reason for it to manifest into effect. Akin to that of anger is normal, but that rationale is never good enough for me throw a punch at someone just because it's normal to feel angry.
I think the great thing about Love is that it alone will allow anyone to experience an entire gamut of emotions and humans should always learn to deal with them. But when it comes to different emotions, our ability to handle them varies according to our personality and psychological archetype.
Don't fret just yet. Learn to understand what's going in and out of your emotions and learn to study them. Then gradually engineer it in such a way that it could make your life a whole lot easier and implement it as part of your core value and mindset.
P.S: The key to evolve our emotional flaws is to work from within. Superficial solution are usually short term and does not address the root of problem.
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Originally posted by Yunhaier:
TS , read the above paras and think about it
Don't fret just yet. Learn to understand what's going in and out of your emotions and learn to study them. Then gradually engineer it in such a way that it could make your life a whole lot easier and implement it as part of your [b]core value and mindset[/b].
[b]P.S: The key to evolve our emotional flaws is to [b]work from within. Superficial solution are usually short term and does not address the root of problem.
Cheers[/b]
The key is to change from inside out.
U must become a different person on the inside b4 u can see different results from the outside. And u cant fake it for very long, if at all.
There is this saying, "As within, so without."
Your outer world is a reflection of your inner world.
Remember to always start with your thoughts 1st.