GUIDELINES IN AUNT AGONYI) Whenever possible, try not to post people's problem.
If possible, introduce them to SGF AA and get them to post instead. Firstly, it's not very nice to post people's problems in a public forum like this? And even if they allow it, I believe that they are still the best person to relate their agony?II) If possible, write more... describe more... and explain more about your problem.
Some people like to post their problem without giving sufficient information or leaving certain critical information out. It affects people's advice, because certain critical information affects the entire perspective altogether. Of course if there are things which you are not comfortable in revealing, you can opt not to. Or better still, you could PM some of the regulars, whom you can trust and speak to them.III) You don't have to write very well, but here's two tips that forumites in AA will be grateful for. Paragraphing and do not alternative caps writing.Tip 1
Please paragraph if you are writing an essay.
this is embarrassing to say because i have never actually made public in forums what i feel...i hope some of you can advise me quite reasonably and sensibly to the following situation.I met this guy through a girl friend of mine. I didn't feel anything towards him at first sight because quite honestly he is not goodlooking but pleasant enough. After he met me and we went out together(with friends), he told my friend that he thought i was cute. My friend is really good friends with him so she told me what he thought about me. The thing is that the term "cute" is used very loosely so....i don't know.. anyway, what happened next was he asked my friend for my ICQ #. We chat occasionally but i realized that recently he doesn't talk to me if i am online. Is he being shy? or has lost interest? am i just being too paranoid about what he thinks of me? Of course when i start a conversation with him he always replies back but why doesn't he try to start a convo with me first?Tip 2
Do not attempt alternative caps writing style.
PleAsE dO nOt wRitE likE tHat bEcAuSe It'S nOt OnlY dAmN bLoOdiE IrRitAtIng, iT aCtUaLLy AffEcTs PeOplE's mOoD iN giViNg pRoPer AdViCes. wOrSt wHen yOu CoMbiNe EsSay... ZeRo PaRaGrAphInG aNd AltErNatE CaPs TYpInG... ChAnCEs arE, yOu aRe UsUaLly fLaMed uNtiL yOu dO sOmeThIng aBouT iT.IV) Aunt Agony do not encourage gender bashing.
Although it's a common sight in AA, like cats on the street - if possible keep it minimal? Same goes for overly religious discussion?VI) Topics out of hand, multiple entries or completely irrelevant are at high risk of being locked.
If the topics is slightly off (non-AA related)... it shouldn't be much of an issue (E.g. Mushy Gang Chat topic) - although this is subjected to moderator's discretion.VII) No hijacking of thread.
Try not to hijack problem threads by posting another problem in someone else's problem thread. Hijack by crapping is not encouraged as well.VIII) Aunt Agony ISN'T a replacement for professional counselling.
Should you experience crisis that requires professional attention, please call any of the hotline available here
.IX) Every poster is ACCOUNTABLE for their own advice. Likewise, every problem-seeker is ACCOUTABLE for whom they seek advice from.
Aunt Agony is NOT responsible, should any mishap/misunderstanding/misdemeanour that arise from specific advice/s dispense by individuals. Aunt Agony is merely an online forum for people to air their problems. Aunt Agony is NOT responsible for anything OUTSIDE the boundary of Sgforums - Aunt Agony. Specific individual is responsible.
Outside the boundaries of Sgforums - Aunt Agony include (but not limited to): chat program/s of any sort (MSN/Yahoo Messenger/etc), contact numbers (Mobile/Office/Home/etc), emails/friendster/etc, personal address or any meet up in reality. The decision to diverge private information or to accept private meet-ups are solely based on one's discretion. Aunt Agony CANNOT be held responsible for anything outside it's own boundaries as stated above.X) To err is human - nobody is perfect.
Aunt Agony is a thankless job and do give credits to people who have spent a portion of their time lending someone else a listening ear. Nobody's advice is superior than another - what's more important is the willingness to lend stranger/s on the other side of Singapore, a viritual hand to lift him/her spiritually.XI) Do not give out other people contacts.
Like phone number, email address. This is to prevent the person from being spam, disturb.XII) Telling of Age Group.
I guess alot of people will ask about the age group when you post a problem. Telling your age group will help as other will know what advice to give. Different Age group have different advice.
So do remember to post your age or age group espacially relationship problems.
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