Do i have a big ego?
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Everytime,i though i am better than someone i am really happy.inside me i like saying and i too hao lian or what?confused????
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Part of human nature...
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you also feel it somehow? help le. when i do something i cannot concentrate...Originally posted by akinos:Part of human nature... -
Ok, here's an example. Like you are better than someone in a particular subject. It's ok to be smug about it, but remember the consequences and don't overdo it. Still, don't be complacent and work towards being better or the BEST! Keep telling yourself that you will always stay the best, stay competitive.
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u r insecure actually, coz tat self comforting.
u tend to get jealous when u see ple succeed.
ur ego is big.
dun worry, i think its quite common la.
as long u dun over show it. -
Thanks for all of your help. i feel more comfortable saying out my problems.
Thanks It was such a release. -
I Iike your relaxing forum, alot of interesting articles.. But the best way to relax to me is still Sleep On It..
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Thanks,i often feel stressed. and i will look on itOriginally posted by akinos:I Iike your relaxing forum, alot of interesting articles.. But the best way to relax to me is still Sleep On It.. -
actually hor, dun have to be stressed up.
coz everyone thinks alike at times.
so u r not alone, neither do us.
human has the widest imaginary. -
For me, I am relaxed with my own abilities. I dont really care if other people play better ping pong, study better, work better than me.
Can say my life like...stress free or stress minimum.
Lets say in an emergency situation, my friends will be pannicking while I would be keeping calm and cool
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this is an illusion that many people have... that they must be "perfect" "better than others" "more knowledgeable" "have more money" in order to be happy.Originally posted by relax_crown:Everytime,i though i am better than someone i am really happy.inside me i like saying and i too hao lian or what?confused????
Sure, you will be happy at that instant when you have such thoughts in your head... but then reality bites and you become unhappy again.
You need to discover the way to true and lasting happiness... -
the way to true happiness.....
is to MIGRATE!!!!
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So, may I know the way to true and lasting happiness?Originally posted by AndrewPKYap:this is an illusion that many people have... that they must be "perfect" "better than others" "more knowledgeable" "have more money" in order to be happy.
Sure, you will be happy at that instant when you have such thoughts in your head... but then reality bites and you become unhappy again.
You need to discover the way to true and lasting happiness...
Ego is part of human nature - the fittest survive.
If ego takes over your moral, u ll become evil.
so, just use it as a survival skill and the goods of all being will be fine.
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the word is COCKYOriginally posted by relax_crown:Everytime,i though i am better than someone i am really happy.inside me i like saying and i too hao lian or what?confused???? -
The way to true and lasting happiness is to be able to realize "REALITY"Originally posted by dreamykite:So, may I know the way to true and lasting happiness?
People are constantly living in a dreamlike world of their own construction.
You do not know when you are dreaming until you wake up.
That is not to say that people are totally delusional, illusionary and living in complete fantasy.
Just that people are not completely, as far as possible, living in reality.
To explain fully what I am talking about here and to elaborate everything that needs to be elaborated and discuss all the issues that need to be discussed... hahaha, I will end up writing a book...
So if you are satisfied with the answer, we will leave it as that but if you want to know more what I mean, then you have to start asking and we can start discussing.
(Those that just want to "win" and show others how smart they are by indulging in name calling and making baseless, illogical and invalid/bad arguments, please save it.... YOU WIN! ) -
so sir please help me... how can i improve my self awareness sometimes? sir please... i want to be the happiness man in the world...Originally posted by AndrewPKYap:The way to true and lasting happiness is to be able to realize "REALITY"
People are constantly living in a dreamlike world of their own construction.
You do not know when you are dreaming until you wake up.
That is not to say that people are totally delusional, illusionary and living in complete fantasy.
Just that people are not completely, as far as possible, living in reality.
To explain fully what I am talking about here and to elaborate everything that needs to be elaborated and discuss all the issues that need to be discussed... hahaha, I will end up writing a book...
So if you are satisfied with the answer, we will leave it as that but if you want to know more what I mean, then you have to start asking and we can start discussing.
(Those that just want to "win" and show others how smart they are by indulging in name calling and making baseless, illogical and invalid/bad arguments, please save it.... YOU WIN! ) -
wow Andrew got fan.Originally posted by relax_crown:so sir please help me... how can i improve my self awareness sometimes? sir please... i want to be the happiness man in the world...
Will seat this one out and let Andrew advise.
Go Andrew go!!1 -
it's normal to want to feel superior
in a way it helps to boost self-esteem and confidence
but in another way, ppl may see u as hao lian, tua kang......but it's alright if you dun show it obviously or go around boasting to ppl -
ya Andrew,is my idol. canOriginally posted by zeny:wow Andrew got fan.
Will seat this one out and let Andrew advise.
Go Andrew go!!1
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Its natural
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no nid so polite one leh... makes meOriginally posted by relax_crown:so sir please help me... how can i improve my self awareness sometimes? sir please... i want to be the happiness man in the world...
If you learn the lesson well, you will not only be happy, you should be very successful in your relationships, career and money-wise. "Should be" and not definitely "will be" because you need a certain amount of "luck" and "opportunities" in life as well.
Like, if you are born in a rich family, then the chances are that you will be rich.
Like if you are born a very healthy person, and you meet with an accident that leaves you paraplegic...
Nevertheless, life gives each one of us opportunities and if we grab them and handle them well, we will do well in life.
The most important thing is to be able to see/know reality.
Some people live life according to beliefs and that is good (if only it is the right beliefs) but even then, it is not as good as living life IN REALITY.
so far so good? any questions? -
Nah I am in a average living family. I am contented. Currently, I study in ITE i learn many life skills that not much places got. like financially planning, setting SMART goals,communciation skill,customer serivce and entrepenuship and career and development planning etc. which is good la i thinkOriginally posted by AndrewPKYap:no nid so polite one leh... makes me
If you learn the lesson well, you will not only be happy, you should be very successful in your relationships, career and money-wise. "Should be" and not definitely "will be" because you need a certain amount of "luck" and "opportunities" in life as well.
Like, if you are born in a rich family, then the chances are that you will be rich.
Like if you are born a very healthy person, and you meet with an accident that leaves you paraplegic...
Nevertheless, life gives each one of us opportunities and if we grab them and handle them well, we will do well in life.
The most important thing is to be able to see/know reality.
Some people live life according to beliefs and that is good (if only it is the right beliefs) but even then, it is not as good as living life IN REALITY.
so far so good? any questions?
you mean to know the fact. like you are not so wealthly don't follow people lifestyle buying somethings you know you can't afford etc car?
Some people live life according to beliefs and that is good (if only it is the right beliefs) but even then, it is not as good as living life IN REALITY.
belief is oneself one no all right/wrong?
Some people live life according to beliefs and that is good (if only it is the right beliefs) but even then, it is not as good as living life IN REALITY.
don't really understand this statement,can explain Mr Andrew?
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May i know what is your REALITY and other people belief?Originally posted by AndrewPKYap:no nid so polite one leh... makes me
If you learn the lesson well, you will not only be happy, you should be very successful in your relationships, career and money-wise. "Should be" and not definitely "will be" because you need a certain amount of "luck" and "opportunities" in life as well.
Like, if you are born in a rich family, then the chances are that you will be rich.
Like if you are born a very healthy person, and you meet with an accident that leaves you paraplegic...
Nevertheless, life gives each one of us opportunities and if we grab them and handle them well, we will do well in life.
The most important thing is to be able to see/know reality.
Some people live life according to beliefs and that is good (if only it is the right beliefs) but even then, it is not as good as living life IN REALITY.
so far so good? any questions? -
Originally posted by relax_crown:Nah I am in a average living family. I am contented. Currently, I study in ITE i learn many life skills that not much places got. like financially planning, setting SMART goals,communciation skill,customer serivce and entrepenuship and career and development planning etc. which is good la i think
you mean to know the fact. like you are not so wealthly don't follow people lifestyle buying somethings you know you can't afford etc car?
Some people live life according to beliefs and that is good (if only it is the right beliefs) but even then, it is not as good as living life IN REALITY.
belief is oneself one no all right/wrong?
[b]Some people live life according to beliefs and that is good (if only it is the right beliefs) but even then, it is not as good as living life IN REALITY.
don't really understand this statement,can explain Mr Andrew?
Thank you very much!
[/b][/quote]Learning life skills is good and essential. I am talking about something more fundamental.
I am taking about having a philosophy of life / an approach to life and living that will ensure that you remain happy your whole life.
For example, if you say... "It is important to learn and acquire skills" and that is more fundamental than "I must learn life skills and I am learning this and that."
If "It is important to learn and acquire skills" is "more" fundamental, than what is even more fundamental than "It is important to learn and acquire skills"?
This way, if you keep asking what is more fundamental.... you will arrive at THE WAY.... hahaha there is no THE WAY or you will arrive at a religion and end up with a bunch of beliefs....... hahaha you must not stop at religion and go even further...
Why are you contented? What about having dreams of making it big? Being contented is good and, having dreams of making it big is good... but aren't both ideas in conflict? How can you say that you are contented when you have dreams of making it big?
For example, if you say... "you mean to know the fact. like you are not so wealthly " ... and I will ask you, what is more fundamental than "you mean to know the fact. like you are not so wealthy "
I can suggest something more fundamental and that is, for example, "You must have the correct facts"... and what is more fundamental than "you must have the correct facts"?
If you keep on asking what is more fundamental to that which is more fundamental... where will you end up?
So why is it important to keep on asking... "what is even more fundamental"?
You keep on doing that and you will achieve what I suggested a couple of posts above made at 03 July 2007 · 01:11 PM
[quote]Originally posted by relax_crown:
"Some people live life according to beliefs and that is good (if only it is the right beliefs) but even then, it is not as good as living life IN REALITY"
don't really understand this statement,can explain Mr Andrew?
REALITY is just that REALITY... you cannot argue against REALITY but you can certainly argue against beliefs. There is no my REALITY and your REALITY.Originally posted by dreamykite:May i know what is your REALITY and other people belief?
You cannot argue against this statement "The earth moves around the sun" This is reality.
There are your beliefs and my beliefs. When you talk about your reality and my reality, you are not talking about reality... you are talking about subjective reality and subjective reality might or might not be REALITY.
Objective REALITY on the other hand IS REALITY.
REALITY is irrefutable. You go against REALITY at you own peril. Some people are so "unreal" that they end up in mental institutions. Others are so unreal that they end up depressed.
REALITY includes the acknowledgment that Beliefs have a part to play in life and living. To ignore beliefs is to ignore REALITY.
Right beliefs can help you but wrong beliefs can destroy you. Furthermore there are no inherently "right" beliefs... it depends. It depends on how and where and when you apply the "right" beliefs otherwise your so called "right" beliefs will destroy you. If you do not mind being destroyed for your beliefs, that is another issue (think suicide bombers)
So the question next becomes how to be in touch with REALITY and how in touch with reality are you?
chew on this for the time being....