how to know what is the right girl?

january

6 Jul 07, 00:47

i have been going through various factors like looks, jobs, nationality, character and how much self confidence a girl has.

guess what? i dunno which is right. like that how to know what is the right choice. If no chemistry but 2 person are willing to be steady then should a person enter a relationship then?

anyone has any clues?

ditzy

6 Jul 07, 00:49

Nothing ventured, nothing gained? Laughing

RonDaGuy

6 Jul 07, 00:52

she's willing to change for you and you are willing to change for her and thus both are customized slowly over the years to each other and they live happily ever after....

pompy

6 Jul 07, 00:52

when she gives u sex. Very Happy

ispyyy

6 Jul 07, 00:57

No need to be so troublesome...
Just widen yr social circle...
if u have feelings for the girl, then it is close to right one lor...

bb_mm

6 Jul 07, 01:28

there is no "right girl". it all comes with how you feel about her. for example, wanting to see her almost everyday, yearn for her accompany, enjoy talking to her, feeling comfortable to share your feelings to her... you may like to take these into consideration before entering into a relationship. all the best! Very Happy

CheekyCow

6 Jul 07, 01:38

Yes, no such thing as the "right girl" before you even get to know her on another level.

You decide if she is right or not after you get to know her better. There's no doctrine to follow. Only you know best yourself.

de_middle

6 Jul 07, 09:41

agreed, but sometimes its during a relationship that you understand each other better. Only when ur 100% sure, then u sign on the dotted line Very Happy

AndrewPKYap

6 Jul 07, 09:50

The proof of the pudding is in the eating.... meaning you will never know until you have lasted a life time and you look back and say... that was a good choice! or that was a really really bad choice I made....

so maybe you should not focus on making the right choice at all! you should simply ask yourself... I like her or not, and if you do, date her and then if you get along really well... ( NOT quarrel now and then, NOTbreak and patch, break and patch, type) marry her, and then chances are you will get along well in marriage as well....

what is courtship for if not to find the right person... meaning, break up with the wrong person as well....

rainee

6 Jul 07, 09:53

If no chemistry, dun even try.

^mR.yellow^86

6 Jul 07, 10:05

why?

smudgey

6 Jul 07, 11:37

hmmm....

I'm asking myself the same qn.

how do I know if he's the right guy...

no matter how i look at it.... i still think you can only know when you try. if your heart tells you that you like her/him... then go for it...

but somehow i like to think that when the right guy/gal comes along, I'll just know it...

X k

6 Jul 07, 11:42

when the feeling comes Mr. Green

xaih

6 Jul 07, 21:58

you treat girls as what?dog ar?

january

6 Jul 07, 23:19

chemistry is a cliche word i feel. its true but when you look at married couples, it not only about chemistry but other things also.

anyway, chemistry can die after some time. does that mean you should leave then? chemistry is short lived sometimes anyway.

Darkness_hacker99

6 Jul 07, 23:25

Take both, or one, or none.

browniebaobao

7 Jul 07, 00:33

it depends on wat u want in a r/s..

hobochua

8 Jul 07, 02:37

Spread the risk..... Very Happy

shadez

8 Jul 07, 03:07

If you and her can get along well and talk a lot, then you have the first step.
From my experience, it's after sometime that you would start to develop feelings for someone and it's just a feeling where the person is on your mind 24/7.

Then both of you have to have mutual feelings before it can be carried on. So, go with your heart. Go where it leads you and try to place character before looks. A pretty vixen that walks out on you in troubled times is not better than a average looking person who stands by you through it all.

parn

8 Jul 07, 08:18

The right girl/guy for everyone is most likely to be the person that you're most keen to listen to him/her whenever they speak/talk to you.

You can have several friends in your life, your best friend is the one whom you would usually and most likely to listen to or give him/her your attention to whenever she/he speak/talk.

So pick your Mr/Miss RIGHT according to this angle, and you will do fine in your future relationship. If the passion dies in the future, If you have a bad day in the future in your relationship...at least you will still be keen to listen and willing to give your attention to your loved ones whenever he/she speaks/talks. That's one of the most important factor in the growth of a relationship.

Good Luck. Smile

Yunhaier

8 Jul 07, 10:34

This is the same question where you ask anyone - how do you know you are doing the right job/career?

What are the chances, in this Aquarian age of globalisation, where your first job becomes your career and you work until you retire, like Japanese companies back in the olden days as they termed it life-time employment?

Why are you even asking 'if this girl is right? That girl is right?' when

i) If you haven't got any clue for what you are seeking for.

ii) If you haven't got into a relationship with this woman

Don't ask if it's right - ask if there's love. Idea

Cheers

the_don

8 Jul 07, 11:42

y u got so many criteria? have u thought of what if the gal fits all the criteria but she dun wan u cos u dun fit hers?

love is not about standards n tests. u r not buying a car. u are being a part of another person's life.

go with your heart.