what are MUST to maintain a relationship??
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Sorry, but if that's the case, wouldn't explaining the situation to her suffice?Originally posted by lostlostlost:i was too into my work..
got lesser time to call & spend with her..
even if we chat, she will talk abt her work stress & problem but i kept mine to myslf cos i didn't want to add to her stress
I'm guessing that the lesser time spent together is just a pretext to initial the break up. -
too much has happened this year
too many collegues left, hence overload in my job my, grandpa passed away, my uncle moved over to my place ( my room ) -
My condolence.
Most unfortunate to have all these mishaps coinciding.
When u r ready, pick yourself up.
When u r ready, put the past behind u.
Focus on "what can i learn from this misfortune?" "How can i improve the situation".
If there's a solution, find it. If not, nevermind it.
Keep in mind that when the fierce, burning winds blow over our lives- and we cannot prevent them- let us, too, accept the inevitable. And then get busy and pick up the pieces.
The late William Bolitho, author of Twelve Against the Gods, put it this way:
"The most important thing in life is not to capitalize on your gains. Any Fool can do that. The really important thing is to profit from your losses. That requires intelligence; and it makes the difference between a man of sense and a fool."
Take care -
Originally posted by royale9:
i m trying to live the best i can
My condolence.
Most unfortunate to have all these mishaps coinciding.
When u r ready, pick yourself up.
When u r ready, put the past behind u.
Focus on "what can i learn from this misfortune?" "How can i improve the situation".
If there's a solution, find it. If not, nevermind it.
Keep in mind that when the fierce, burning winds blow over our lives- and we cannot prevent them- let us, too, accept the inevitable. And then get busy and pick up the pieces.
The late William Bolitho, author of Twelve Against the Gods, put it this way:
"The most important thing in life is not to capitalize on your gains. Any Fool can do that. [b]The really important thing is to profit from your losses. That requires intelligence; and it makes the difference between a man of sense and a fool."
Take care
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But the part abt wanting my ex back is strong -
Was the point of asking her back when she is the one who left you becos she could not stand by you in the bad times?Originally posted by lostlostlost:i m trying to live the best i can
But the part abt wanting my ex back is strong
To find a good wife, is to find someone who is able to be there during your good and bad times. If your breakup is due to not able to talk to her when you are so busy with work and she do not understand it then is better to let her go.
Ask yourself, this what do you really want in her ?
Even she agrees, when some bad times comes again and off she goes again.
Is it worth it ? If yes by all means go, I will not stop you from repeating this cycle again. -
To maintain a r/s, briefly:
- give more (love, time, attention, effort, etc.) than you take
- always give the other party the benefit of the doubt -
lostlostlost...
if during bad times she choose to leave u, it shows she lack the understanding of ur situation n she chooses to focus on her own needs instead of on urs...is tat true love??? IMO, she is loving love...instead of being wif u when u need her most at tis time, she choose to leave u...sigh...tis type of r/s cun last lah...forget abt it... -
i noe but i believe she is hiding something elseOriginally posted by despondent:lostlostlost...
if during bad times she choose to leave u, it shows she lack the understanding of ur situation n she chooses to focus on her own needs instead of on urs...is tat true love??? IMO, she is loving love...instead of being wif u when u need her most at tis time, she choose to leave u...sigh...tis type of r/s cun last lah...forget abt it... -
Lol. Like cooking huh?Originally posted by Devil1976:Different soup... Different recipe....
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trust faith and communication...... rem to spend quality time together... bt also nt forgetting quantity =]
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new tricks.
i get bored after awhile.