declining life.
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suddenly, everything i aimed for seems impossible. confidence gone. studies, girl, all lost within 6 months. okay, maybe studies all the while not there. but no matter how much i study now, it's like, gone. what can i do?
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Find yourself back. I am finding myself too.
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Losing girl - u cant do anything about it... So, girl should not be an aim...
U may want to consider lower yr aim - improve step by step
If u set an impossible aim and u fail, u will lose yr confidence too
Anyway, when u study, it should not be for some1 or something... when u study, it should be for yr own knowledge...
knowledge gain is hard to lost... It will be useful someday , somewhere... -
It could be that you are expecting too much of yourself. You must find your own level. Life is not about chasing perfection but life is being the best you can be.Originally posted by LordIcarus:suddenly, everything i aimed for seems impossible. confidence gone. studies, girl, all lost within 6 months. okay, maybe studies all the while not there. but no matter how much i study now, it's like, gone. what can i do? -
but it hasn't happened in the past. cannot lower la. lower i can't even go poly.
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It is unfortunate indeed that a set of setbacks seems to happen 1 after another. But ask yourself this, what SHOULD You do? Continue to whine in ur misery? Or just buck up, and look ahead?Originally posted by LordIcarus:suddenly, everything i aimed for seems impossible. confidence gone. studies, girl, all lost within 6 months. okay, maybe studies all the while not there. but no matter how much i study now, it's like, gone. what can i do?
If I were u, I would go and focus on one thing I am weak at, such as my studies. Tell myself that I won't let other things get to me. Then Go back to ur textbook and read 1 paragraph of any chapter u want. After that paragraph, test urself what u understand from that chapter. Then look back at the textbook to compare to see if what u understand tallies with what is stated in the textbook. This will help to build up self-confidence, and subsequently, u will feel happier. -
lol... when we say lower the aim , means u improve step by step...Originally posted by LordIcarus:but it hasn't happened in the past. cannot lower la. lower i can't even go poly.
For example,
this week, u aim 50 marks for an exam trial paper
next week, u aim 60 marks for an exam trial paper
next next week, u aim 70 marks for an exam trial paper
u progess slowly...
Great achievements cant be accomplished overnight 1... U cant rush yrself... if u rush yrself, u wil find yrself low morale or unneccessary stress
hmmm... but tat depends on character also <--- TS ignore this sentance... -
Do you have a religion? How about searching for a religion for yourself? Life isn't living for yourself and making yourself look SUPER in your life. Life is about living for others and how many people you have lived for in your lives.Originally posted by LordIcarus:suddenly, everything i aimed for seems impossible. confidence gone. studies, girl, all lost within 6 months. okay, maybe studies all the while not there. but no matter how much i study now, it's like, gone. what can i do?
Good Luck and I hope you will find a religion soon and joy will come from within yourself when you are living for others.
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Let me quote Fairlady_xoxo (Hey! Sorry for quoting you without permission, lunch soon
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life is short...and i don't wanna waste it all on love - Fairlady_xoxo
She said it simple and well.
There're many things that require your immediate attention. You mentioned a hurdle in the area of studies, so work on it.
She came and she left, be thankful and let the grattitude conquer the loss. Don't spend the rest of your life greiving the departure of a person, we only have 70 odd years to live. Mortality is real. -
Then do concrete things. Like do ten year series instead of "studying"Originally posted by LordIcarus:but it hasn't happened in the past. cannot lower la. lower i can't even go poly.
Discipline and force yourself to finish 10 questions a day, for example.
Do things where the results are very clear. Set goals for yourself that are very clear and non ambiguous. Set goals that you can measure. After you finish the 10 questions, you can look at the answer and see if you got it.
Whether or not you did it correctly is very clear, no ambiguity. Whether you finished 10 questions is ery clear, no ambiguity.
If you set a goal like study for 5 hrs a day... while 5 hours a day is not ambiguous, how do you measure that you have really "studied" during those 5 hours or you were dreaming your life away during those 5 hours?
So set clear goals that you can measure and discipline yourself to achieve them.
As for the feelings part, don't worry, feelings come and go. If the feelings do not last too long, there are no worries. If the feelings last too long, maybe there are underlying problems you need to tackle. You are doing "O" levels this year? -
-- Study wise --
Have faith in yourself.
And for your studies, whenever you encounter a problematic question, post it in the Homework forum. We will try our best to help you as much as we can.
-- BGR wise --
Nothing you can do. Do the best you can. From your texts, I gather you will be taking O levels soon. Which means you are still young; there are many other suitable girls out there. For now, just concentrate on the matter at hand: your studies. It's not everything, but it's still a stepping stone to get ahead.
You can never survive well with love alone. You need to have ability. -
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Everybody have their low point of life in every stages of life. Teen,young adult,middle age and old....Originally posted by LordIcarus:suddenly, everything i aimed for seems impossible. confidence gone. studies, girl, all lost within 6 months. okay, maybe studies all the while not there. but no matter how much i study now, it's like, gone. what can i do?
U have just encounter yr low point at that stages. Hang on and u r ready to bounce back!
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Find your reason why you want confidence. Why you want to do well in your studies. Why you want a gal and other stuffs. Find a PROPER reason hor.Originally posted by LordIcarus:suddenly, everything i aimed for seems impossible. confidence gone. studies, girl, all lost within 6 months. okay, maybe studies all the while not there. but no matter how much i study now, it's like, gone. what can i do?
Eg: I want confidence so that I can deal with situations in a calm and proper way and not freak out or so I can project a type of charisma.
Eg: I want to do well in my studies so I can go into poly or JC and get good grades and eventually a good job to start so I can progress well in career and handle financially well.
If you have no reason/purpose as to why you want to do all these, you will do badly no matter how much you try. A goal is what moves a person into doing and even exceling.
Find it. Add more value to it. Reinforce it. Link it with your conscience and moral sense. Never let anyone deter you from it. Then you can do well. That works for me. What about you? -
you may wanna consider this as a low point in your life. We all have or had ours too.Originally posted by LordIcarus:suddenly, everything i aimed for seems impossible. confidence gone. studies, girl, all lost within 6 months. okay, maybe studies all the while not there. but no matter how much i study now, it's like, gone. what can i do?
life was never meant to be sweet, more so if your not rich. however, as long as you still have breath, you fight hard.
being a perfectionist can many a times prove fatal, learn to bite what you can swallow.
i used to blame on everything whenever i couldn't succeed, now i just learn to take things lighter.
dun take it so hard upon urself....pick urself up everytime u fall....be proud of urself
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thanks everyone! (:
yeah, doing my o's this year. but it's just that, i'm already feeling like an old dortard there cause i'm sec 5. i don't wanna lose to myself and lose to a national examination once again.
i just took my term 3 examinations, and, it seems like everything i've been doing is useless. -
aim for the end.
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i also went thru 5 yeras of secondary education coz i was from the normal stream back then.Originally posted by LordIcarus:thanks everyone! (:
yeah, doing my o's this year. but it's just that, i'm already feeling like an old dortard there cause i'm sec 5. i don't wanna lose to myself and lose to a national examination once again.
i just took my term 3 examinations, and, it seems like everything i've been doing is useless.
Never made it to the polytechnic as there were only 2 polys back then & my 23 points wasn't good enough, had to settle for ITE.
Put myself thru 5 over years of night classes after working for a couple of years & now hoping to get a better salaried job.
So never think of urself as useless, just sheer determination when it comes to doing things that are within our control.
I have faith you will manage & in doing all this is for the hope of a brighter tomorrow.
P.S I'm still hoping each & every single day for a better tomorrow -
school examinations are usually more difficult than O'lvl...Originally posted by LordIcarus:thanks everyone! (:
yeah, doing my o's this year. but it's just that, i'm already feeling like an old dortard there cause i'm sec 5. i don't wanna lose to myself and lose to a national examination once again.
i just took my term 3 examinations, and, it seems like everything i've been doing is useless.
haha... I remember I always fail my Geography school exam. Then, one day, I bui tan han and go and approach the teacher :
me : Teacher, y I state all the points in this question and u only give me 1/2 of mark per point ?
Teacher : I understand yr points and I noe u noe the concept but yr points are in bad English sentance structure. So, I can only give u 1/2 of the mark...
I like
Alamak, of coz lah... No matter how I study... I sure fail 1... all my points are in bad English sentance structure... Of coz fail lah....
But in the end, I still got a "B3" for "O" level Geography without much studying... ><
Examinations are only for other people to gauge yr potiential but may not be a good tool for yrself to gauge yr potiential...
Just believe yrself... if u understand, means u understand liao... -
count ur blessings, not ur sorrows.
its only the end, if u think its the end.
jia you.