loving/ giving without expecting
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I've been tinking abt things for a while now... and i wanna confirm tis:
its impssible to love a person w/o giving... but it's impossible to love w/o hope or expectation to be loved in return?
cos... if you love a guy/gal you wanna be with them, so you do everything you can and try to get them to like you...
but suai suai kena "used" by tat person... of cos damn fedup right?
so the situation where you like a person you dun mind get used don't make sense... right?
becos you like the person and you do things for them is not the same as the person make you like an idiot and keep calling you to do things for them and make use of you?
at least kena rejected, you know that 1) you did things for them cos you like them, 2) they never make use of you... right? -
hmm..quite true loh...Originally posted by malphax:I've been tinking abt things for a while now... and i wanna confirm tis:
its impssible to love a person w/o giving... but it's impossible to love w/o hope or expectation to be loved in return?
cos... if you love a guy/gal you wanna be with them, so you do everything you can and try to get them to like you...
but suai suai kena "used" by tat person... of cos damn fedup right?
so the situation where you like a person you dun mind get used don't make sense... right?
becos you like the person and you do things for them is not the same as the person make you like an idiot and keep calling you to do things for them and make use of you?
at least kena rejected, you know that 1) you did things for them cos you like them, 2) they never make use of you... right?
r u in some problem?
keke
Givache 
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It's an investment. You put in time, money and effort and hope that you'd get positive returns in the end.
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GIVE UP? Love is usually not about senses and logic ALONE....Originally posted by malphax:I've been tinking abt things for a while now... and i wanna confirm tis:
its impssible to love a person w/o giving... but it's impossible to love w/o hope or expectation to be loved in return?
cos... if you love a guy/gal you wanna be with them, so you do everything you can and try to get them to like you...
but suai suai kena "used" by tat person... of cos damn fedup right?
so the situation where you like a person you dun mind get used don't make sense... right?
becos you like the person and you do things for them is not the same as the person make you like an idiot and keep calling you to do things for them and make use of you?
at least kena rejected, you know that 1) you did things for them cos you like them, 2) they never make use of you... right?
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thanks Givache, for ur concern...
things were pretty screwed up for a while, but I end things before i lost control of myself...
things are much better now... but still... very disappointed...
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hmm..welcome..cheer it up man..dun worry..Originally posted by malphax:thanks Givache, for ur concern...
things were pretty screwed up for a while, but I end things before i lost control of myself...
things are much better now... but still... very disappointed...
there is stil plenty of girls ahead for u..
wish u all the best =) Givache -
Mayb u can share the problem if u dun mind =)Originally posted by malphax:thanks Givache, for ur concern...
things were pretty screwed up for a while, but I end things before i lost control of myself...
things are much better now... but still... very disappointed...
Think everyone will gladly help and able to advise u Givache -
yeah... i agree very very much..
giving up things and sacrifice for the one i love, in the end, its just want the other party to be happy, without getting anything back in return...
thats love... =) -
yah.... e.g. nw i kniting a scraf plannin to give him on xmas...bt i dn expect anyting jus wan him to be happy hope he wont reject my present....................
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If he rejects your present, I dun mind u giving it to me.
Save the Earth, recycle eh... -
do every stitch will make me tink of him more.....hand v pain leh...last nite do till midnite...kao ........oni do 2 inch..........dono can finish or nt.....if he reject my gift i dono leh..Originally posted by WinBoi84:If he rejects your present, I dun mind u giving it to me.
Save the Earth, recycle eh... -
Then mai do lor, so easy...
Girls are often so foolish in a relationship and get hurt in the end...
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no leh...i bo liao mah...nth to do can pass time leh knititn...gd leh..u wan i teach u ...ur gf sure lau bak saiOriginally posted by WinBoi84:Then mai do lor, so easy...
Girls are often so foolish in a relationship and get hurt in the end... -
No thanks, me is not a very good bf. Maybe u can teach my gf, then she knit for me.
No lah, kidding only... Anyway, thanks hor Ah Ma... -
boi... not all men are that wise either
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Let me give you an advice..
Love is giving in the expense of yourself, without expecting to receive anythig in return. -rather hard to belief but it's true-
You can give without loving, but you can NEVER love without giving.
But i can promise you if both of you truly love each other then both should be doing the same..."giving to each other" -then you will not feel shortchanged-Originally posted by malphax:I've been tinking abt things for a while now... and i wanna confirm tis:
its impssible to love a person w/o giving... but it's impossible to love w/o hope or expectation to be loved in return?
cos... if you love a guy/gal you wanna be with them, so you do everything you can and try to get them to like you...
but suai suai kena "used" by tat person... of cos damn fedup right?
so the situation where you like a person you dun mind get used don't make sense... right?
becos you like the person and you do things for them is not the same as the person make you like an idiot and keep calling you to do things for them and make use of you?
at least kena rejected, you know that 1) you did things for them cos you like them, 2) they never make use of you... right? -
True love is being selfless... U are willing to do anything n to give all ur best to make the other party happier ...
however ... dun measure love by e amt of things that u do or give. As long as the other party is happy ... even if it means u hv to give up on that person ... to set the person free....
Dun expect anything in return .. n if the other party do reciprocate... it will be a bonus to u ...else ... -
Love is a gamble and if you expect something in return, that is probably not love - More like a deal between two. If you are so calulative about who is giving and receiving more - I rather you take the time to do something more practical. Sure it is may disappointing when you are being 'used' by another person, but hey, who else can you blame apart from yourself? Being 'used' and 'giving' in relation is two different thing. If you are 'used' - you are being cheated from your action and why does it happen? Because YOU allow it to happen. Giving in a relation is an involunteering action that does not take records of what have you done, etc. Since it does not take record - when you are giving - by right and logic, you should not even feel this way at all, unless deep inside you wanted something.Originally posted by malphax:I've been tinking abt things for a while now... and i wanna confirm tis:
its impssible to love a person w/o giving... but it's impossible to love w/o hope or expectation to be loved in return?
cos... if you love a guy/gal you wanna be with them, so you do everything you can and try to get them to like you...
but suai suai kena "used" by tat person... of cos damn fedup right?
so the situation where you like a person you dun mind get used don't make sense... right?
becos you like the person and you do things for them is not the same as the person make you like an idiot and keep calling you to do things for them and make use of you?
at least kena rejected, you know that 1) you did things for them cos you like them, 2) they never make use of you... right?
Instead of pondering over this issue that doesn't do you any good, think about this - don't just like someone blindly and being lead by the nose to eventually find out she is conning your feelings. Sure love is blind - but play emotionally and rationally smart moves to find out whether is she serious, or making 'used' of you.
Cheers -
b]Let me give you an advice..Love is giving in the expense of yourself, without expecting to receive anythig in return. -rather hard to belief but it's true-
Agree. Go and watch Moulin Rogue, you should know a tiny bit of what Love is but If you don't understand, watch again. Take careful notice on the last part...it's important.
You can give without loving, but you can NEVER love without giving.
But i can promise you if both of you truly love each other then both should be doing the same..."giving to each other" -then you will not feel shortchanged-
True love is being selfless... U are willing to do anything n to give all ur best to make the other party happier ...
however ... dun measure love by e amt of things that u do or give. As long as the other party is happy ... even if it means u hv to give up on that person ... to set the person free....
Dun expect anything in return .. n if the other party do reciprocate... it will be a bonus to u ...else ...
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Originally posted by sg_venom:
wahahahaha..........you copy my verse ah??
Let me give you an advice..
Love is giving in the expense of yourself, without expecting to receive anythig in return. -rather hard to belief but it's true-
You can give without loving, but you can NEVER love without giving.
But i can promise you if both of you truly love each other then both should be doing the same..."giving to each other" -then you will not feel shortchanged-
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Originally posted by M©+square:
ya...i read fr somewhere...true love is when u will do anything to make sure tt the other party will be happy...even if it means taking u out of the picture
Agree. Go and watch [b]Moulin Rogue, you should know a tiny bit of what Love is but If you don't understand, watch again. Take careful notice on the last part...it's important. [/b] -
Originally posted by hopy:ya...i read fr somewhere...true love is when u will do anything to make sure tt the other party will be happy...even if it means taking u out of the picture
It's nice, it's sad, it's beautiful to see our loved one happy, and it's sad if the love you gave didn't in return give back to you. 
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Yes...it is sad if e love u gave didn't in return give back to you ... but .... tt's life rite? It is a stage I hope very few pple wd need to go thro ... coz .... it's gg to hurt e one who gave unconditionally deeply .... time mite cover the wound ... but it will not heal the wound... but tt is also known as true love ....Originally posted by M©+square:It's nice, it's sad, it's beautiful to see our loved one happy, and it's sad if the love you gave didn't in return give back to you. -
Originally posted by mylow:Yes...it is sad if e love u gave didn't in return give back to you ... but .... tt's life rite? It is a stage I hope very few pple wd need to go thro ... coz .... it's gg to hurt e one who gave unconditionally deeply .... time mite cover the wound ... but it will not heal the wound... but tt is also known as true love ....
Nice...very nicely phrased indeed! 
Isn't it wonderful to know that you have truly given out your heart for somebody even though in this world, nothing last forever, nothing stays forever? 
But at least you yourself know that True Love is not giving of body only, not sex only, but Heart, soul and mind. 
a guy will say this kind of thing meh?, farni But it's true. -
Sigh..loving someone is never easy..especially if it's a one sided affair. So sorry to hear abt ur bad experience. You need to pick yourself up again. Obivously this gal isn't worth ur concern nor your attention.