hmm what to do now..

• kb24

  21 Jul 07, 17:07

  well i've been browsing through some of my friends' blogs and friendsters, and just realized how lonely i am. i mean, it is impossible for me to have so much contents in my friendster(if i were to create one).
  
  i'm very bad at keeping old friends,meaning i make new ones when the time comes,but loses the old,end up losing alot of friends. and now i met a girl,who is one of those sociable people with blogs and friendsters..
  
  so..everytime i talk to her,i just can't help but feel like telling her to stop talking to me,because i'm too loner-ish for her...
  
  urghh hate this feeling..
• darkhour

  21 Jul 07, 17:13

  Originally posted by kb24:

  well i've been browsing through some of my friends' blogs and friendsters, and just realized how lonely i am. i mean, it is impossible for me to have so much contents in my friendster(if i were to create one).
  
  i'm very bad at keeping old friends,meaning i make new ones when the time comes,but loses the old,end up losing alot of friends. and now i met a girl,who is one of those sociable people with blogs and friendsters..
  
  so..everytime i talk to her,i just can't help but feel like telling her to stop talking to me,because i'm too loner-ish for her...
  
  urghh hate this feeling..

  sounds so much like me.... except i do keep in touch with my old frens bah...y u lose ur old frens?i mean juz keep in touch thru msn n stuff...dun haf to chat all the time what...i haf a blog which dies a long time after each post, n a frenster acc which did not update like since forever...
  
  oh n i met a girl whos very sociable oso....both online n in reality...i mean shes like those centre of attraction everywhr n im like always the one who ppl dun notice...
  
  at first i started gettin quite close to her, then i scared she end up like the others oso, after awhile then hardly can talk le...it happens to me very often oso, so i oso keep makin new frens...
  
  but sometimes its reali our ownself which we haf to conquer la...dun tell her to stop talkin to u, juz tell her that u may not b as talkative n stuff loh...actuali oso no need tell her la...btw...u like her mah?
• kb24

  21 Jul 07, 20:59

  hmm i don't think i like her YET, but i feel she's kind of like my ideal type. And she's a really nice person.
  
  That's why i feel so guilty talking to her, it's like sometimes i feel so 'small' compared to her,get what i mean?
  
  And let's say we start to get closer to each other,our personalities are going to clash,right?
• popikachu

  21 Jul 07, 22:37

  Time to get more social with people around you.
  
  Don't just find friends.
  Find real friends.
  Find buddies.
  
  They are different.
• DC+

  21 Jul 07, 22:40

  I have many friends from different circles but my friendster is like shit.
  
  I think its all in your mindset. If you think yourself as a loner, you will end up as a loner.
• browniebaobao

  21 Jul 07, 22:41

  dun believe wat u see...
  
  coz most of the times it may not be the truth.
• ispyyy

  21 Jul 07, 22:58

  Since u don't think u like her yet, then, just tell her how u feel lor...
  lol... even u like her, it is also best to tell her how u feel...
  Coz, tat is wat u truely u think tat u r...
  
  Anyway, it is nothing wrong with yr current style of living... hey... be proud of what u r ><
  When one insist tat he or she is always right, he or she will always be right...
  coz, there is no right and wrong in this world
  
  
• rathcycle

  21 Jul 07, 22:59

  i no friendster also..
  no big deal..
  live with it.
  you wont die w/o it.
• CannyOng

  22 Jul 07, 00:07

  Originally posted by kb24:

  well i've been browsing through some of my friends' blogs and friendsters, and just realized how lonely i am. i mean, it is impossible for me to have so much contents in my friendster(if i were to create one).
  
  i'm very bad at keeping old friends,meaning i make new ones when the time comes,but loses the old,end up losing alot of friends. and now i met a girl,who is one of those sociable people with blogs and friendsters..
  
  so..everytime i talk to her,i just can't help but feel like telling her to stop talking to me,because i'm too loner-ish for her...
  urghh hate this feeling..

  Once again ,it all downs to confident problem again. Have u been doing something against yr conscious that makes u think u are not worthwhile for her? Being too lonely is not a problem or bad thing. Have u know magnet theory? North attract South... Sometimes,a very sociable person may suit having a quiet and lonely person as her partner. U never know?
  
  U shall concentrate on more on yr aspect like u are a very gentle guy(if u are). Tell yrself u are unlike those violent guy who will bash up their gf. Concentrate on yr strength and rectify yr weak point. See yrself in different perspect.
  
• Rejected

  22 Jul 07, 00:08

  Goodluck!
• Aaron8209

  22 Jul 07, 00:08

  same..i got the same problem too..whenever i made new friens...they won last..dunknw y....is like just instant...
• jojobeach

  22 Jul 07, 00:22

  
  Friends will come and go.
  Even if you remain constant.. your friends will change.
  As you change and they change.. common grounds that binds a friendship together will either get strengthen or loss it's bonds.
  
  Finding true friendship is like sifting the mountains for diamonds.
  
  If you don't work on keeping a friendship, it will fade away with time. Just like any relationship between humans.
  
  Just because a person has tons of friends does not means he/she is no longer lonely.
  
  Loneliness is part of our human psyche.
  
• kb24

  22 Jul 07, 01:39

  sometimes i just wished to be more sociable by nature.. haha maybe that is a dream, but moderate amounts of dreaming does your health good too,right?
  
  i'm in my early 20s,so it's already a bit late to gain a large network of friends, not that it's impossible. so maybe i'll have to take a step at a time..
  
  and as for that girl, she don't really show signs of interest in me..(hope she does soon,haa).
• soulwinner

  22 Jul 07, 01:45

  
• Xephone_xenon

  22 Jul 07, 01:52

  Most of the time hor you see those alot of friends one hor.
  - 50% of their contacts they nvr even talk with before, they are either online friends, strangers in his/her school, people they desperately add in order to increase friends list.
  - 30% = Hi bye friends. Mayb see in school will smile at each other la, then when back face them liao start to backstab or something.
  - 15% = A level higer then hi bye friends, mayb in school see each other liao will gossip a little, talk cock and stuff
  - 5% = Friends.
• CannyOng

  22 Jul 07, 11:20

  Originally posted by kb24:

  sometimes i just wished to be more sociable by nature.. haha maybe that is a dream, but moderate amounts of dreaming does your health good too,right?
  
  i'm in my early 20s,so it's already a bit late to gain a large network of friends, not that it's impossible. so maybe i'll have to take a step at a time..
  
  and as for that girl, she don't really show signs of interest in me..(hope she does soon,haa).

  Is not the quantity but the quality. I suggest u do serious quality control over yr friend's selection. After knowing them or a while,maybe u can come to a conclusion whether the new know friends can be good friends in long run a not? Then u can start yr investment. haha...
• kb24

  22 Jul 07, 22:52

  it all boils down to an age old question..
  
  do you change yourself and become more sociable, or stay true to yourself and be deemed socially inapt?
  
  
• de_middle

  23 Jul 07, 13:03

  Originally posted by kb24:

  it all boils down to an age old question..
  
  do you change yourself and become more sociable, or stay true to yourself and be deemed socially inapt?
  
  

  you shld be answering the question.