Still having fears from the past...it was sadistic..

• jam on a bread

  28 Jul 07, 18:23

  Hi,
  
  I would like to say that I am doing pretty fine right now. But the thing is that..I still fears & worries that stems from the past.
  
  You see, I am still afraid that if I ever got a bf or anyone, someone or maybe..if really so fated to 'meet' the ppl from my past...they would anyhow do things to make them stay away from me. & also, I am afraid if I ever meet them..(sg is so small) there will be a big fight or something (Not that i am afraid, but some of them can be quite persistant..to the extent of stalking)
  
  I am constantly praying I won't meet them..but also, I am worried cause I don't want my better future to be ruined by them..haunted by the past or even now.
• ispyyy

  28 Jul 07, 18:27

  huh?????
  
• BeRt^.^

  28 Jul 07, 18:29

  huh?????
• Stoat

  28 Jul 07, 18:30

  Originally posted by jam on a bread:

  Hi,
  
  I would like to say that I am doing pretty fine right now. But the thing is that..I still fears & worries that stems from the past.
  
  You see, I am still afraid that if I ever got a bf or anyone, someone or maybe..if really so fated to 'meet' the ppl from my past...they would anyhow do things to make them stay away from me. & also, I am afraid if I ever meet them..(sg is so small) there will be a big fight or something (Not that i am afraid, but some of them can be quite persistant..to the extent of stalking)
  
  I am constantly praying I won't meet them..but also, I am worried cause I don't want my better future to be ruined by them..haunted by the past or even now.

  smlj?
• bkbatboy

  28 Jul 07, 22:28

  hmmmmmmm.......i guess a series of bad event happened to TS then she get paranoid about meeting them(ex bf, ex best fren etc) again....however if fated to meet also cant avoid.so might as well learn to overcome than to live in fear right? see them juz give a smile...
• ispyyy

  28 Jul 07, 22:30

  Paiseh ah... just now, never do a proper reply... Coz, tat time is for me to jog...
  Well... I did a search on yr previous AA post and read it... think agar agar noe what u r trying to say lah... lol...
  
  hmmm... I guess u r handling yr life quite well except that sometimes mermories of the past is causing u some distress ???
  Well, if the above is the issue, then I dont think it is a physical problem... Coz, most people are forgetful... Those who r not forgetful will learn to be forgetful lol... It is mental tiring for humans if they cant forget... Like wat u r experiencing now...
  y dont believe me,hah???
  
  Of coz, u dont believe me lah... Coz, this r talking war on paper... Tat is y u need to learn to experience and feel the other side of human... U need to have the courage to step out of the fear to meet yr potiential bf, some1 or any1... If u dont take first step out, u will forever have yr one sided view...
  
  
• magical_wen

  28 Jul 07, 22:35

  Originally posted by jam on a bread:

  Hi,
  
  I would like to say that I am doing pretty fine right now. But the thing is that..I still fears & worries that stems from the past.
  
  You see, I am still afraid that if I ever got a bf or anyone, someone or maybe..if really so fated to 'meet' the ppl from my past...they would anyhow do things to make them stay away from me. & also, I am afraid if I ever meet them..(sg is so small) there will be a big fight or something (Not that i am afraid, but some of them can be quite persistant..to the extent of stalking)
  
  I am constantly praying I won't meet them..but also, I am worried cause I don't want my better future to be ruined by them..haunted by the past or even now.

  i seriously dunno wad u toking abt,
  but spore is not dat small.
  if u are fated to meet,
  then so be it.
  u can jus turn and hide,
  but cant hide ur feelings.
  i oso dunno wad im toking..
  haha nvmd..
• sEphIrOth

  29 Jul 07, 00:07

  we must face challenges that arise. but if u dont like them, u can try ur best to avoid.
• icyboiz

  29 Jul 07, 01:18

  dono what TS trying to say, but look on the bright side, everything might not be what u think. take care !
• yiha093

  29 Jul 07, 04:25

  cmon la...
  crush who rejected me, i still see-ing her for like 1 year+++ lioa
  
• nanren4ever

  29 Jul 07, 07:54

  Originally posted by jam on a bread:

  Hi,
  
  I would like to say that I am doing pretty fine right now. But the thing is that..I still fears & worries that stems from the past.
  
  You see, I am still afraid that if I ever got a bf or anyone, someone or maybe..if really so fated to 'meet' the ppl from my past...they would anyhow do things to make them stay away from me. & also, I am afraid if I ever meet them..(sg is so small) there will be a big fight or something (Not that i am afraid, but some of them can be quite persistant..to the extent of stalking)
  
  I am constantly praying I won't meet them..but also, I am worried cause I don't want my better future to be ruined by them..haunted by the past or even now.

  Everyone has a past, a time when he/she makes bad choices and mistakes. I did too. My 4 years of Sec school was hell as a result of the bad choices i made. Often, I wish I won't see people from the past, and often, I try not to think about it. But I've learnt that its all about how I perceive myself. I tell myself to move on, that people have probably already moved on, and so should I.
  
  Nowadays, i still see frequently in school the people who helped make my life hell in school. Yet, I can now stare them in the eye and smile before walking away. You really need to learn how to accept urself, before u can learn how to put away the past.
  
  It may sound cheem to some, but its easy really. The more u go and think about the past, the more u won't let go of it. Why let past events affect ur future? Its just so not worth it.
• angel7030

  29 Jul 07, 11:44

  Originally posted by jam on a bread:

  Hi,
  
  I would like to say that I am doing pretty fine right now. But the thing is that..I still fears & worries that stems from the past.
  
  You see, I am still afraid that if I ever got a bf or anyone, someone or maybe..if really so fated to 'meet' the ppl from my past...they would anyhow do things to make them stay away from me. & also, I am afraid if I ever meet them..(sg is so small) there will be a big fight or something (Not that i am afraid, but some of them can be quite persistant..to the extent of stalking)
  
  I am constantly praying I won't meet them..but also, I am worried cause I don't want my better future to be ruined by them..haunted by the past or even now.

  In the past, if you had done any evil sinful stuff, you see and fear no evil.
  
  Keep praying.
  
  Angel666
• popikachu

  29 Jul 07, 13:31

  Well just like what ispyyy say, people will forget de...
  
  Also, you might want to post what have happen in your past so people here will understand you more and will be able to help more ^^
• dcx

  29 Jul 07, 22:59

  Originally posted by jam on a bread:

  Hi,
  
  I would like to say that I am doing pretty fine right now. But the thing is that..I still fears & worries that stems from the past.
  
  You see, I am still afraid that if I ever got a bf or anyone, someone or maybe..if really so fated to 'meet' the ppl from my past...they would anyhow do things to make them stay away from me. & also, I am afraid if I ever meet them..(sg is so small) there will be a big fight or something (Not that i am afraid, but some of them can be quite persistant..to the extent of stalking)
  I am constantly praying I won't meet them..but also, I am worried cause I don't want my better future to be ruined by them..haunted by the past or even now.

  The police isn't just there for nothing....
  
  Why be so afraid and trying ways to aviod....Be courageous and face them (If any of them do appear infront of you)...
  
  
• de_middle

  30 Jul 07, 10:46

  Originally posted by jam on a bread:

  Hi,
  
  I would like to say that I am doing pretty fine right now. But the thing is that..I still fears & worries that stems from the past.
  
  You see, I am still afraid that if I ever got a bf or anyone, someone or maybe..if really so fated to 'meet' the ppl from my past...they would anyhow do things to make them stay away from me. & also, I am afraid if I ever meet them..(sg is so small) there will be a big fight or something (Not that i am afraid, but some of them can be quite persistant..to the extent of stalking)
  
  I am constantly praying I won't meet them..but also, I am worried cause I don't want my better future to be ruined by them..haunted by the past or even now.

  erm, ur just being paranoid.......what makes u think pple of ur past are out to "ruin" ur better future
• TerenceYYK

  30 Jul 07, 10:53

  Originally posted by jam on a bread:

  Hi,
  
  I would like to say that I am doing pretty fine right now. But the thing is that..I still fears & worries that stems from the past.
  
  You see, I am still afraid that if I ever got a bf or anyone, someone or maybe..if really so fated to 'meet' the ppl from my past...they would anyhow do things to make them stay away from me. & also, I am afraid if I ever meet them..(sg is so small) there will be a big fight or something (Not that i am afraid, but some of them can be quite persistant..to the extent of stalking)
  
  I am constantly praying I won't meet them..but also, I am worried cause I don't want my better future to be ruined by them..haunted by the past or even now.

  don worry abt the past and look forward to your future,i believe your ex won't do such things because this IS Singapore and ur better half would be more understanding if you talk to him when this happens....ur bf would stand up to you and protect u also.
• Omniknight

  30 Jul 07, 11:10

  Originally posted by jam on a bread:

  Hi,
  
  I would like to say that I am doing pretty fine right now. But the thing is that..I still fears & worries that stems from the past.
  
  You see, I am still afraid that if I ever got a bf or anyone, someone or maybe..if really so fated to 'meet' the ppl from my past...they would anyhow do things to make them stay away from me. & also, I am afraid if I ever meet them..(sg is so small) there will be a big fight or something (Not that i am afraid, but some of them can be quite persistant..to the extent of stalking)
  
  I am constantly praying I won't meet them..but also, I am worried cause I don't want my better future to be ruined by them..haunted by the past or even now.

  im an example
• de_middle

  30 Jul 07, 15:41

  Originally posted by Omniknight:

  im an example

  u sure anot
• jam on a bread

  3 Aug 07, 14:28

  Hi thanks for you ppl replies..sigh, it's not that I don't want to talk about my past but if I were to remember every details again, i'm afraid I might go crazy.
  
  It's very tiring...& really, I am all all alone right now. No bf, no friends..I do shopping, everything alone. Though I felt better compared to last time, the impact was pretty great that I feel I couldn't live normally anymore..
• angel7030

  3 Aug 07, 15:41

  Originally posted by jam on a bread:

  Hi,
  
  I would like to say that I am doing pretty fine right now. But the thing is that..I still fears & worries that stems from the past.
  
  You see, I am still afraid that if I ever got a bf or anyone, someone or maybe..if really so fated to 'meet' the ppl from my past...they would anyhow do things to make them stay away from me. & also, I am afraid if I ever meet them..(sg is so small) there will be a big fight or something (Not that i am afraid, but some of them can be quite persistant..to the extent of stalking)
  
  I am constantly praying I won't meet them..but also, I am worried cause I don't want my better future to be ruined by them..haunted by the past or even now.

  The Singapore Nunnery Association is short of nun, perhap to evade bf or men, you may like to join them to seek peace and harmony in life.