lost in love
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hey guys imagine this. wad would u do.
A guy, married, involved with 2 girls. A girl-his wife & the other, someone who really loves him alot & willing to do anything 4 him.
He & his wife are not on very good terms...but staying together due to certain reasons. On the other hand he's very happy when he's with the other girl. Really very happy. The girl doesnt expect much from him...just wants him 2 be happy even thou she noes he's married but she cant do w/o him & he cant do w/o her too but he cant leave his wife. if it were u...wad would u do?
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Marriage is a life-long committment. When the guy made that wedding vow, I do hope he had the intention to honour it. If the guy already has kids, I hope he thinks for the kids too.
The girl can still look elsewhere for future happiness. Perhaps she just hasn't met another suitable guy yet.
My opinion : Save the marriage. Be only friends with the girl. -
xavier got it right.
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I respect marraige vows and the rest of it, but in line with my other posts, a piece of paper should not bind you to a relationship.
I am of course, not advocating that he should go find someone else that can love him.
So this, to me is two seperate problems. Having a shit of a time with my wife, and cock-itchy go look for other women. Solve the former and if break-up is inevitable, go ahead with the latter. -
In this kinda circumstance, it is best for him to know what he wants.Originally posted by srad:hey guys imagine this. wad would u do.
A guy, married, involved with 2 girls. A girl-his wife & the other, someone who really loves him alot & willing to do anything 4 him.
He & his wife are not on very good terms...but staying together due to certain reasons. On the other hand he's very happy when he's with the other girl. Really very happy. The girl doesnt expect much from him...just wants him 2 be happy even thou she noes he's married but she cant do w/o him & he cant do w/o her too but he cant leave his wife. if it were u...wad would u do?
As stated, he is living with the wife ONLY DUE TO CERTAIN REASONS. Which means now he is not at the best of times.
It is not known whether they have kids or not.
But if there isnt, then the paper can be considered becoz they have no love between them so it is useless staying together.
But if there are then it will be have to solved in a manner which will not have a pshychological effect on the kids. -
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MAN
IF i'm the guy....most probably wat i'll do is to end the marriage bfe beginning a r/ship wif my gf. Why create all the confusion or be labelled 'Unfaithful Husband' & dragging along my gf, the 'Third Party'.....worse still....GIVES LOVE A BAD NAME. (Really cant stand guyz who likes to tuo ni dai shui.....so UNCOOL 
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WIFE Btw, i dun U/STAND why 'he cant leave his wife' can i say tt it's another EXCUSE?! For fear of inviting gossips amongst relatives n their circle of frenz....'save face' most likely... Wife having terminal illness?!?! Well.....maybe all i can advise the wife is to let go of the Man who can NO LONGER LOVE HER. It's not Happiness but Miseryx3. (hopefully no kids.....they shldnt be involved...so unfair)
WOMAN No denial tt Married Men r indeed more attractive & yes....Love Is Blind....But to know all these n still be involved wif a Married Man, my reminder for her>>>Love Can be Blind but Not Dumb. If the Man's Love for U is True, Actions Speak.
***I have frenz ard me who get themselves involved in such complicating r/ships. They r the 'Third Party'. No doubt, they r my frenz but i've got say tt they r SILLY.
Why? Knowing very well tt their Man wont be leaving them Simply bcoz they can do a better BLOWJOB on their Man while their Wives at home cant! Well.....woman's [color=red]EGOTISM. Nontheless, who can be tt SURE Married Men wont have this Ulterior Motive in fulfilling his sexual satifisfaction thru his gf instead of truly LOVE? Dun 'pray pray'....to start a r/ship wif a Married Man mayb for fun at 1st, however, beware when feelings develop.....n TT's the END! (these r example ard me, i u/stand they cant represent the Majority but hopefully, the 'Third Party' out there can bear these in mind n consider carefully b4 getting involved)[/color][/b] -
To all the ladies out there, don't get involved with a married man !!Unless he is divorced then by all means you can start a new relationship. If not just stay away, because it's going to hurt and it hurts alot especially to the wife. I know because I've been through it. You don't want a third party to ruin your marriage with your loved one so don't ever be a third party to someone else.
Don't be blind by his sweet talk. There are no reasons that the husband cannot leave the wife if he wants to. Don't tell me for children sake or money sake or whatever. If he stray in the first place, he has already betray the thrust of his wife and children. The children will not grow up healthy in an evironment when parents are always quarelling. So with or without him, it makes no difference. I chose to leave with my child, because there is no way to be in this kind of messy relation. If I can leave with a child and support myself, I do not see why the third party have to cling to a married man.
And the outcome ? My husband beg me to stay. He ask for forgiveness and left that woman. So to the third party whom she claim he loves her deeply, is just a stupid fool being make use of by a irresposible man. -
Crying Angel:
I'm Proud of U
It's not easy to decide on leaving the Man wif ur kid, nontheless, U still did it...muz have been a torment & struggling period for U. NVM, it's Over!!!!
R/ships/marriages like such r results of humans' selfish actions. Since they involve feelings, no one can really judge who's rite or wrong.....juz good or bad.....I hope tt u'd get over this whole thing soon n be able to meet another in Life who Appreciates U
In this whole 'game', ur kid is innocent. Perhaps, whether or not he/she u/stands wat went on in the family......U muz try to be sensitive towards ur kid's feelings, never assume tt u know how he/she feels. Let communication be the bridge to U/stand each other better.
All the Best!!! -
I see that you took the test.Originally posted by jeramy:
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Sighz.Originally posted by Crying Angel:To all the ladies out there, don't get involved with a married man !!Unless he is divorced then by all means you can start a new relationship. If not just stay away, because it's going to hurt and it hurts alot especially to the wife. I know because I've been through it. You don't want a third party to ruin your marriage with your loved one so don't ever be a third party to someone else.
Don't be blind by his sweet talk. There are no reasons that the husband cannot leave the wife if he wants to. Don't tell me for children sake or money sake or whatever. If he stray in the first place, he has already betray the thrust of his wife and children. The children will not grow up healthy in an evironment when parents are always quarelling. So with or without him, it makes no difference. I chose to leave with my child, because there is no way to be in this kind of messy relation. If I can leave with a child and support myself, I do not see why the third party have to cling to a married man.
And the outcome ? My husband beg me to stay. He ask for forgiveness and left that woman. So to the third party whom she claim he loves her deeply, is just a stupid fool being make use of by a irresposible man. -
Crying angel u a strong woman man...Originally posted by Crying Angel:To all the ladies out there, don't get involved with a married man !!Unless he is divorced then by all means you can start a new relationship. If not just stay away, because it's going to hurt and it hurts alot especially to the wife. I know because I've been through it. You don't want a third party to ruin your marriage with your loved one so don't ever be a third party to someone else.
Don't be blind by his sweet talk. There are no reasons that the husband cannot leave the wife if he wants to. Don't tell me for children sake or money sake or whatever. If he stray in the first place, he has already betray the thrust of his wife and children. The children will not grow up healthy in an evironment when parents are always quarelling. So with or without him, it makes no difference. I chose to leave with my child, because there is no way to be in this kind of messy relation. If I can leave with a child and support myself, I do not see why the third party have to cling to a married man.
And the outcome ? My husband beg me to stay. He ask for forgiveness and left that woman. So to the third party whom she claim he loves her deeply, is just a stupid fool being make use of by a irresposible man. I really dislike and hate those guys that two time gals really piss me off and wonder are they human..? -
Easier said than done...?Originally posted by www:xavier got it right. -
Originally posted by reallieRAW:
[b]MAN IF i'm the guy....most probably wat i'll do is to end the marriage bfe beginning a r/ship wif my gf. Why create all the confusion or be labelled 'Unfaithful Husband' & dragging along my gf, the 'Third Party'.....worse still....GIVES LOVE A BAD NAME. (Really cant stand guyz who likes to tuo ni dai shui.....so UNCOOL )
WIFE Btw, i dun U/STAND why 'he cant leave his wife' can i say tt it's another EXCUSE?! For fear of inviting gossips amongst relatives n their circle of frenz....'save face' most likely... Wife having terminal illness?!?! Well.....maybe all i can advise the wife is to let go of the Man who can NO LONGER LOVE HER. It's not Happiness but Miseryx3. (hopefully no kids.....they shldnt be involved...so unfair)
WOMAN No denial tt Married Men r indeed more attractive & yes....Love Is Blind....But to know all these n still be involved wif a Married Man, my reminder for her>>>Love Can be Blind but Not Dumb. If the Man's Love for U is True, Actions Speak.
***I have frenz ard me who get themselves involved in such complicating r/ships. They r the 'Third Party'. No doubt, they r my frenz but i've got say tt they r SILLY.
Why? Knowing very well tt their Man wont be leaving them Simply bcoz they can do a better BLOWJOB on their Man while their Wives at home cant! Well.....woman's [color=red]EGOTISM. Nontheless, who can be tt SURE Married Men wont have this Ulterior Motive in fulfilling his sexual satifisfaction thru his gf instead of truly LOVE? Dun 'pray pray'....to start a r/ship wif a Married Man mayb for fun at 1st, however, beware when feelings develop.....n TT's the END! (these r example ard me, i u/stand they cant represent the Majority but hopefully, the 'Third Party' out there can bear these in mind n consider carefully b4 getting involved)[/color][/b][/b] -
......Originally posted by Crying Angel:To all the ladies out there, don't get involved with a married man !!Unless he is divorced then by all means you can start a new relationship. If not just stay away, because it's going to hurt and it hurts alot especially to the wife. I know because I've been through it. You don't want a third party to ruin your marriage with your loved one so don't ever be a third party to someone else.
Don't be blind by his sweet talk. There are no reasons that the husband cannot leave the wife if he wants to. Don't tell me for children sake or money sake or whatever. If he stray in the first place, he has already betray the thrust of his wife and children. The children will not grow up healthy in an evironment when parents are always quarelling. So with or without him, it makes no difference. I chose to leave with my child, because there is no way to be in this kind of messy relation. If I can leave with a child and support myself, I do not see why the third party have to cling to a married man.
And the outcome ? My husband beg me to stay. He ask for forgiveness and left that woman. So to the third party whom she claim he loves her deeply, is just a stupid fool being make use of by a irresposible man. 