try not to let postings in AA affect you..Originally posted by Ms Poh:Today, I also felt emo. During major public holidays like Chinese New Year, National Day , Christmas or New Year's Day, my mood dives down. On normal working days, I feel better and my mind is occupied. That's why I always like to keep myself busy or to find new goals to challenge myself whether I can succeed in achieving them or not. The process excites me and keeps me busy.
Public holidays are the time when I feel lonely. These are the days when my married siblings bring their children out to enjoy the festive season but my elderly parents will want to stay home to rest. Being a single and still unattached despite being of marriageable age, the sadness inevitably find its way into my heart as I think about my efforts for the past few years to socialise whether through online dating agencies or to try to go church to find people who make good lifetime partners or those who are also sincere in finding one to know as friends first.
Reading Aunt Agony sometimes add on to some of my emotional burdens when I start to discover that marriage or dating for many people is a like "a mountain to scale " - not easy.
I have also tried to champion for marriage in public forums before but these are of limited effects because marriage is after all a private matter between two persons. It takes fate and two persons' efforts to make a relationship work. If either party tries to make things difficult for another by "acting to be cool" when it comes to whether the relationship will work out in the end or not, then this relationship is bound to fail, 100%.
life is not a bed of roses, not only must you learn to survivie, you must also learn to take charge.Originally posted by Ms Poh:Thanks for encouraging and comforting me. Well, I am mentally prepared for singlehood which is my plan B. This is life - it cannot be a bed of roses but learn to survive and not be defeated by it.
haha feel the same way as u for the 1st part bah...at least feel that ur views r taken into account by ppl...sometimes its nice to hear that ur advice is taken n it has helped the person...great sense of satisfaction in thatOriginally posted by Ms Poh:Guess what? When I feel emo, I do the writing in forums to express my opinions on a range of topics to give myself the sense of satisfaction that I am being listened and valued for my views which are "counted" for in this lifetime that I have and am in.
I like to feel challenged in discussions forums especially when I feel lonely or when I want to achieve more in other areas of my life because marriage can be a part of life but may not be a must.
bcos i think the older one gets, let's say u are reaching or around 30.. then i can understand why u lose hope.Originally posted by Ms Poh:You read my story can already , never mind about my age.