Am i suffering from depression?
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Hi. I am a girl studying in a junior college. Recently, i feel very stressed up and i tend to get agitated easily. It started with this. Me and my three other friends went to the same junior college and we go to school together sometimes in the morning if they are not late, we will meet each other. We seldom talk nowadays and i realise i have nothing to talk to them. I start to think that i am a boring person.
One of them is in the same class as me. Recently, she stopped talking to me in school. I felt hurt, didn't know what was wrong even i asked her many times. Then, one of this friend told me her emotions backfired. I could not understand what was that and i just cried in school. Then, she told me she needs space but she continues to talk to others, just not me.
Nowadays, i only talk to friends whom i started to know in jc. We have a common interest in gaming but all we talk about is that, and it gets boring and we will be quiet once it stops.
Promos are coming but i just cannot focus with the numberous problems on my mind. They tell me to leave her alone but i just can't do it. I have many failed friendships in secondary school. One ended because i was too possessive. I tried to overcome it but i just couldn't. And my friend who does not talk to me in school keeps telling me she like this other friend in our clique whom i think she is getting very close to. I feel jealous and hurt and hatred somehow seem to build up. I don't know what to do. Everyone's giving different comments and i just get upset easily.
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Cheer up! Many things in life are just not meant to be... Maybe you're undergoing a lot of stress that makes u paranoid of things? Auntie Agonies are always here!
Besides, you can make more friends other than just those few right? Widen your friend network!
Oh btw wad'ya mean by "failed relationships " ?
Take care!
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its like that 1
ren bu wei zhi
tian zhu di mie -
you are not suffering from depression, you just don't want to be taken for granted
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do u play WoW?
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hmm. as in, i had bad experiences from friendship before. so i have been quite careful towards friends.Originally posted by wonderamazement:Cheer up! Many things in life are just not meant to be... Maybe you're undergoing a lot of stress that makes u paranoid of things? Auntie Agonies are always here!
Besides, you can make more friends other than just those few right? Widen your friend network!
Oh btw wad'ya mean by "failed relationships " ?
Take care! -
just suck it up and move on, and what you have facing right now, has occur to many people out there, so don't kick a big fuss about it, and friends are not foreverOriginally posted by pinkroses:hmm. as in, i had bad experiences from friendship before. so i have been quite careful towards friends.
and you are not suffering from depression -
i also have many failed friendship...
each friendship ended, i will feel sad.
But tell urself, u will meet new people..
if the failed friendship can be mended, it is a good things...
Friendship is important!
maybe 1 day, the person and u can be friends again...
look at the positive side or bright side!
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Thanks everyone. i tink i know what to do le. you are right. i should move on. there are still people in the world. maybe i jsut need time to get over with it.
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Wah, in 4 posts you alreadi found a solution to your depression. That's good. For most teens, friends are more important than even their own family members. They feel a need to 'belong', to be 'accepted', not to be 'ignored'. These feelings stem from a lack of self-confidence, being afraid of rejection, being alone, or being outcast.Originally posted by pinkroses:Thanks everyone. i tink i know what to do le. you are right. i should move on. there are still people in the world. maybe i jsut need time to get over with it.
Friends come and go. New friendships are formed as old ones die. It is not the number of friends you have that is important. In fact, those who have 'many' friends are actually the insecure type. Good friends are actually very few and can only be counted on the fingers of one hand!
The important thing is yourself: Are you friendly?
So, don't get depressed over such a small emotional issue. There are so many interesting things to learn, to do, to achieve, to read, to write, to help than be emotionally affected by one friend who didn't want to talk to you. Its her perogative. Don't be possessive. Talk to me! -
I have failed friendship before too.
During my primary school, my "best" friend suddenly do not want to sit next to me anymore. I was sad at that time but I made a new friend after that and we have been friends for many years. But due to some misunderstanding, we lost contact for 2 years. But she gave me a call this year. I was surprised and glad that this friendship can still be save.
During my seconday school days, I made a new friend. We can talk about anything for hours but now but she is a very busy person. She is married and have a daughter now, We still talk for hours but only when she is free.
As for online "good" friend. I used to have one but due to some misunderstanding, I have stopped writing email to her. And few years later, I explained about why I am avoiding her. She forgive me but things are not the same anymore. In msn, when I talk to her, she replied back. When I don't talk, she don't bother to say anything to me either. I get coldness and silence treatment in return. I guess in her heart, she still hate me.
I should have treasure this friendship in the 1st place.
I went for a 5 days course this year. I didn't make any new friends. I am not good at making small talks or ice breakers.
On the 3rd day of the course, I started to talk a bit but suddenly a lady stand in front of me, (got so much space why stand in front of me?) -.-;. She start talking to the person who was talking to me.
After that, I just concentrate on the course and exam.
On the 5th day, still no new friends.
I continue my daily life.
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No, you are not. A person suffering from depression will never ask her/himself.Originally posted by pinkroses:Hi. I am a girl studying in a junior college. Recently, i feel very stressed up and i tend to get agitated easily. It started with this. Me and my three other friends went to the same junior college and we go to school together sometimes in the morning if they are not late, we will meet each other. We seldom talk nowadays and i realise i have nothing to talk to them. I start to think that i am a boring person.
One of them is in the same class as me. Recently, she stopped talking to me in school. I felt hurt, didn't know what was wrong even i asked her many times. Then, one of this friend told me her emotions backfired. I could not understand what was that and i just cried in school. Then, she told me she needs space but she continues to talk to others, just not me.
Nowadays, i only talk to friends whom i started to know in jc. We have a common interest in gaming but all we talk about is that, and it gets boring and we will be quiet once it stops.
Promos are coming but i just cannot focus with the numberous problems on my mind. They tell me to leave her alone but i just can't do it. I have many failed friendships in secondary school. One ended because i was too possessive. I tried to overcome it but i just couldn't. And my friend who does not talk to me in school keeps telling me she like this other friend in our clique whom i think she is getting very close to. I feel jealous and hurt and hatred somehow seem to build up. I don't know what to do. Everyone's giving different comments and i just get upset easily.
Please enlighten me on what i should do. -
Yeah, this is probably a form of depression as you are down in spirits and yet cannot climb out of this emotional pit. Go to polyclinic for referrals to specialists.
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I feel like confronting my penpal about why she is treating me coldly. I think she still hate me inside her heart.Originally posted by Sakuraflower:i also have many failed friendship...
each friendship ended, i will feel sad.
But tell urself, u will meet new people..
if the failed friendship can be mended, it is a good things...
Friendship is important!
maybe 1 day, the person and u can be friends again...
look at the positive side or bright side!
But after reading your post, I think I should just wait for that day when she totally forgive me and talk to me again. -
Yeah, i am not sure about that. I was ultra friendly in my first three months and made lots of frens but when i switched to another junior college, everything changed but i still made frens, just lesser. And now its kind of awkward to be in class with her since she does not talk to me so i talk to my other two friends whom i feel comfortable with but i can't stand one of them but am trying to accept her. I am quite a sensitive person so thats why i get upset over small things.Originally posted by TheGoodEarth:Wah, in 4 posts you alreadi found a solution to your depression. That's good. For most teens, friends are more important than even their own family members. They feel a need to 'belong', to be 'accepted', not to be 'ignored'. These feelings stem from a lack of self-confidence, being afraid of rejection, being alone, or being outcast.
Friends come and go. New friendships are formed as old ones die. It is not the number of friends you have that is important. In fact, those who have 'many' friends are actually the insecure type. Good friends are actually very few and can only be counted on the fingers of one hand!
The important thing is yourself: Are you friendly?
So, don't get depressed over such a small emotional issue. There are so many interesting things to learn, to do, to achieve, to read, to write, to help than be emotionally affected by one friend who didn't want to talk to you. Its her perogative. Don't be possessive. Talk to me!
In secondary school, i keep having illusions that they are speaking behind my back and i just get more paranoid. Maybe i treasure them too much to let them go. We had a very nice friendship but now its stagnant though she claims she is able to talk to me online, just not in real life and is going through some stage in her life where she just needs space from me. So i leave her alone nowadays, but just could not control my emotions.
Studywise, i think i really need help. Last time a maths and e maths were no problem to me, now i really can't solve any. -
failed friendships suck when people don't appreciate you. I guess i should just move on like you!Originally posted by squarepegs:I have failed friendship before too.
During my primary school, my "best" friend suddenly do not want to sit next to me anymore. I was sad at that time but I made a new friend after that and we have been friends for many years. But due to some misunderstanding, we lost contact for 2 years. But she gave me a call this year. I was surprised and glad that this friendship can still be save.
During my seconday school days, I made a new friend. We can talk about anything for hours but now but she is a very busy person. She is married and have a daughter now, We still talk for hours but only when she is free.
As for online "good" friend. I used to have one but due to some misunderstanding, I have stopped writing email to her. And few years later, I explained about why I am avoiding her. She forgive me but things are not the same anymore. In msn, when I talk to her, she replied back. When I don't talk, she don't bother to say anything to me either. I get coldness and silence treatment in return. I guess in her heart, she still hate me.
I should have treasure this friendship in the 1st place.
I went for a 5 days course this year. I didn't make any new friends. I am not good at making small talks or ice breakers.
On the 3rd day of the course, I started to talk a bit but suddenly a lady stand in front of me, (got so much space why stand in front of me?) -.-;. She start talking to the person who was talking to me.
After that, I just concentrate on the course and exam.
On the 5th day, still no new friends.
I continue my daily life. -
Originally posted by pinkroses:Hi. I am a girl studying in a junior college. Recently, i feel very stressed up and i tend to get agitated easily. It started with this. Me and my three other friends went to the same junior college and we go to school together sometimes in the morning if they are not late, we will meet each other. We seldom talk nowadays and i realise i have nothing to talk to them. I start to think that i am a boring person.
One of them is in the same class as me. Recently, she stopped talking to me in school. I felt hurt, didn't know what was wrong even i asked her many times. Then, one of this friend told me her emotions backfired. I could not understand what was that and i just cried in school. Then, she told me she needs space but she continues to talk to others, just not me.
Nowadays, i only talk to friends whom i started to know in jc. We have a common interest in gaming but all we talk about is that, and it gets boring and we will be quiet once it stops.
Promos are coming but i just cannot focus with the numberous problems on my mind. They tell me to leave her alone but i just can't do it. I have many failed friendships in secondary school. One ended because i was too possessive. I tried to overcome it but i just couldn't. And my friend who does not talk to me in school keeps telling me she like this other friend in our clique whom i think she is getting very close to. I feel jealous and hurt and hatred somehow seem to build up. I don't know what to do. Everyone's giving different comments and i just get upset easily.
Please enlighten me on what i should do.
In this lifetime, if we can name 5 true friends, I think that's already very good.
Some people can't even name one.
Our journey in life is to seek out those true friends.
Most of the people we encounter do not belong to this category; they are more likely to be transitory in nature, appearing like glorious sunrise and vanished as quickly like sunset.
Your source of suffering isn't due to the natural shift of cycle in human relationship, but lies in your perception of possession. Your need to cling and hold onto status quo generated much unhappiness from within because you are unable to embrace the fact that nothing in life is absolute and the only constant thing in life is changes itself.
It's only human to feel depress when our friendship with someone, whom we deemed important, degenerates. But on the other hand, it probably means that they might not be the people who will walk through your life as true friends at the end of the road.
You can't coerce someone to be your true friend if this person simply isn't.
Why force a wrong key into the keyhole? The key will just crack inside as you turn it.
Cheers -
perhpas you could out this...
enrealite.blogspot.com/2007/08/are-you-always-in-rush.html
There are other health tips as well... -
Your situation is not depression. Just sadness and maybe upset, I guess.
Maybe for some who wants to know more about depression, read on.
When a person suffers from depression, he/she will have a big behavioural change. He/she don't have appetitie to eat. Listless and can't sleep at nite or only manage short sleep for weeks. To him/her there is no meaning in life. Everything is like the end of the world. In worst cases, some even have the thoughts of committing suicide. This can be cause by a failed relationship (breakups), financial problems, demised of a loved one, etc.
In depression, you need help. You can't solve it yourself alone. Call someone to talk to. You need to pour out your tots and tell someone about your problems. A close friend will be very helpful. Parents may not be ideal and they may probably aggrevate the situation. There are some helplines like SOS to call.
Perhaps you may want to see a doctor too. They can prescribe some medication to help ease your mind, like sleeping pills and relaxant. But medication can't perform magic. -
stop promoting your own blog!Originally posted by selfobliged:perhpas you could out this...
enrealite.blogspot.com/2007/08/are-you-always-in-rush.html
There are other health tips as well... -
Originally posted by Yunhaier:
yeah, i get what you mean. i will move on In this lifetime, if we can name 5 true friends, I think that's already very good.
Some people can't even name one.
Our journey in life is to seek out those true friends.
Most of the people we encounter do not belong to this category; they are more likely to be transitory in nature, appearing like glorious sunrise and vanished as quickly like sunset.
[b]Your source of suffering isn't due to the natural shift of cycle in human relationship, but lies in your perception of possession. Your need to cling and hold onto status quo generated much unhappiness from within because you are unable to embrace the fact that nothing in life is absolute and the only constant thing in life is changes itself.
It's only human to feel depress when our friendship with someone, whom we deemed important, degenerates. But on the other hand, it probably means that they might not be the people who will walk through your life as true friends at the end of the road.
You can't coerce someone to be your true friend if this person simply isn't.
Why force a wrong key into the keyhole? The key will just crack inside as you turn it.
Cheers [/b]
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sound like u got a same stories like me.... hmm forgive and forget..... la luckily you never been in a relationship or else more problems... learn to dealt with itOriginally posted by pinkroses:Hi. I am a girl studying in a junior college. Recently, i feel very stressed up and i tend to get agitated easily. It started with this. Me and my three other friends went to the same junior college and we go to school together sometimes in the morning if they are not late, we will meet each other. We seldom talk nowadays and i realise i have nothing to talk to them. I start to think that i am a boring person.
One of them is in the same class as me. Recently, she stopped talking to me in school. I felt hurt, didn't know what was wrong even i asked her many times. Then, one of this friend told me her emotions backfired. I could not understand what was that and i just cried in school. Then, she told me she needs space but she continues to talk to others, just not me.
Nowadays, i only talk to friends whom i started to know in jc. We have a common interest in gaming but all we talk about is that, and it gets boring and we will be quiet once it stops.
Promos are coming but i just cannot focus with the numberous problems on my mind. They tell me to leave her alone but i just can't do it. I have many failed friendships in secondary school. One ended because i was too possessive. I tried to overcome it but i just couldn't. And my friend who does not talk to me in school keeps telling me she like this other friend in our clique whom i think she is getting very close to. I feel jealous and hurt and hatred somehow seem to build up. I don't know what to do. Everyone's giving different comments and i just get upset easily.
Please enlighten me on what i should do.
oh no i think i got depression how??? see doctor..... you can go library to read up more about what causes stress..... which now i am doing it.
everyone get stress 1 la... relax.....
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Yup, should move on and enjoy your life. True friendship will always be there for you no matter what happens. Perhaps in future you may meet even better friends who treat you the right way.Originally posted by pinkroses:failed friendships suck when people don't appreciate you. I guess i should just move on like you!
Don't let them affect your studies. Focus on what's more important to you now. Don't give up!
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Depression is a very general term for a condition that can range from mere sadness to a state of mind and behaviour that is very difficult for ordinary folks like us to comprehend. That more serious condition could be term clinical depression and the medical world has its definition and diagnosis.
We should be empathetic, offer some solace and refrain from making prognosis as if we are trained and very knowledgeable. -
hannor, these fcuktardsOriginally posted by TheGoodEarth:Depression is a very general term for a condition that can range from mere sadness to a state of mind and behaviour that is very difficult for ordinary folks like us to comprehend. That more serious condition could be term clinical depression and the medical world has its definition and diagnosis.
We should be empathetic, offer some solace and refrain from making prognosis as if we are trained and very knowledgeable.