Very hard on myself.
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Don't really like it cause I think it's wearing me down, suffering mood swings and feeling like shit at random times, like during work.
More often than not, it's usually cause I make a mistake, and it's usually minor. Also, I particularly hate it when friends put me down. I guess I am a little sensitive here, but sometimes my friends' words just cross the line of teasing(to me) and it becomes a put down.
I tell myself to chill out, not to be hard on myself, I ain't perfect, don't let myself live by the approval of others, but it overwhelms me sometimes. What do you all think? -
don't allow others opinions to be yourself. period.Originally posted by N|ck:Don't really like it cause I think it's wearing me down, suffering mood swings and feeling like shit at random times, like during work.
More often than not, it's usually cause I make a mistake, and it's usually minor. Also, I particularly hate it when friends put me down. I guess I am a little sensitive here, but sometimes my friends' words just cross the line of teasing(to me) and it becomes a put down.
I tell myself to chill out, not to be hard on myself, I ain't perfect, don't let myself live by the approval of others, but it overwhelms me sometimes. What do you all think? -
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U seemed like the Type A sort. Perfectionist, go-getter kinda person. These people are usually the ones that give themselves a lot of pressure. I should know because I am one too.Originally posted by N|ck:Don't really like it cause I think it's wearing me down, suffering mood swings and feeling like shit at random times, like during work.
More often than not, it's usually cause I make a mistake, and it's usually minor. Also, I particularly hate it when friends put me down. I guess I am a little sensitive here, but sometimes my friends' words just cross the line of teasing(to me) and it becomes a put down.
I tell myself to chill out, not to be hard on myself, I ain't perfect, don't let myself live by the approval of others, but it overwhelms me sometimes. What do you all think?
There's nothing wrong in wanting to do well in work, but just remember there's nothing wrong in making minor mistakes for time to time in work.
Also, as for ur friends, do take note that probably ur friends are the type that are straight-forward, and in the process may say things that may sound harsh or critical. But remember, if they are willing to be critical of u, it shows that they are geniune people who love u, that's why they are telling u what has went wrong.
Maybe during the weekends, u can go play some sports, or go to the gym for a workout. U seemed a little stressed out, and playing sports would be good for u. Remember, life is short, too short in fact to be critical of oneself when making minor mistakes, and second-guessing if ur friends are too harsh on u. -
Life is too short to be unhappy. Treasure people who really care for you. Don't waste time on nasty people.
Just treat them as transparent. Those very bad ones, stay away from them. Don't make yourself miserable. -
To TS:
You seem to know your problem, that you are "so hard on yourself".
So what is your real problem? that you cannot stop being "so hard on yourself"? -
Dun worry, such feeling will come and go once a month, you will get use to it.Originally posted by N|ck:Don't really like it cause I think it's wearing me down, suffering mood swings and feeling like shit at random times, like during work.
More often than not, it's usually cause I make a mistake, and it's usually minor. Also, I particularly hate it when friends put me down. I guess I am a little sensitive here, but sometimes my friends' words just cross the line of teasing(to me) and it becomes a put down.
I tell myself to chill out, not to be hard on myself, I ain't perfect, don't let myself live by the approval of others, but it overwhelms me sometimes. What do you all think?
We gals alway have such feeling and sensitivity once a month. -
You're just lacking in self confidence. All those little petty things don't even matter much in life. -
Control your mind.
If you are one of the people whose mind, when in auto pilot mode, goes into thinking of sh!t situations, you got to be in charge of what you are thinking.
If you automatically expand on bad experiences, you can expand on good experiences too. You just have to make the effort, ceaselessly.
Always catch yourself when your thoughts are victimising you, stop, and replace the thoughts with whats good.
Unless you are really down and out, you are actually a fortunate person.
Just don't take simple conveniences for granted, but be grateful for them.
Ignore the abnoxious person, you are spending too much time on them. -
Why do you need to live by the approval of others? Is it because you're not confident in your own righteousness?Originally posted by N|ck:Don't really like it cause I think it's wearing me down, suffering mood swings and feeling like shit at random times, like during work.
More often than not, it's usually cause I make a mistake, and it's usually minor. Also, I particularly hate it when friends put me down. I guess I am a little sensitive here, but sometimes my friends' words just cross the line of teasing(to me) and it becomes a put down.
I tell myself to chill out, not to be hard on myself, I ain't perfect, don't let myself live by the approval of others, but it overwhelms me sometimes. What do you all think?
Being sensitive is good in a sense that it still proves that you are still a good person inside you and that good person within you feels hurt whenever some rtards tries to take a shot at you.
Everyone hates it whenever anyone tries to put them down, however you are also gifted with a mouth and a voice and a brain controlling them all. Do retaliate back by laughing back at them straight in their face for being being so childish picking on other people's minor mistakes.
Always live by your own sense of righteousness, sometimes you will find that certain circumstances might forced you to compromise that righteousness within yourselves. When that happens, take a step back and reconsider the consequences before you decide to sacrifice any of your initial righteousness within yourself. Make sure the swaying factor doesn't concerns you, but it's all made for the concern of others and you'll be fine.
Love yourself always and love others as often as you can.
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Thanks for all your replies.
Never saw it this way before, thanks. Well the thing is I know I am an angry person, and when my friends piss me off I feel as if I need to see them suffer and get a taste of their own medicine before I feel alright again. I know I can control however. In the heat of the moment I will always do what's right and not go into a rage and hurt others, never been in a fight before in my life infact. So yeah, I find myself always taking it in, hence letting them "win". The way I see it, it's like yeah I know I am better than them in being sensitive to others' feelings, but end of the day I am the one going home to feel like shit when they are like hahaha look at me I am so cool.Originally posted by parn:Everyone hates it whenever anyone tries to put them down, however you are also gifted with a mouth and a voice and a brain controlling them all. Do retaliate back by laughing back at them straight in their face for being being so childish picking on other people's minor mistakes.
As for being being hard on myself, yeah I am doing a little soul searching to find out why I tend to be like that most of the time. Me going auto-pilot with crazy thoughts is true, gotta do some damage control there. -
I think u are stressed out. Read here on how to cool down..Originally posted by N|ck:Don't really like it cause I think it's wearing me down, suffering mood swings and feeling like shit at random times, like during work.
More often than not, it's usually cause I make a mistake, and it's usually minor. Also, I particularly hate it when friends put me down. I guess I am a little sensitive here, but sometimes my friends' words just cross the line of teasing(to me) and it becomes a put down.
I tell myself to chill out, not to be hard on myself, I ain't perfect, don't let myself live by the approval of others, but it overwhelms me sometimes. What do you all think?
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You advertising?Originally posted by selfobliged:I think u are stressed out. Read here on how to cool down..
enrealite.blogspot.com/2007/08/stress-in-danger-zone.html
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The better man will always hold it in. Suck it in and remain calm. Learn to allow yourself to brush those remarks off you. Because some people just like to joke and put others down. If he truly is putting u down knowing it hurts your feelings then by letting it brush off you , you have already won as a better person. Man i got some friends who joke so bad tease and put u down so bad makes me look bad in front of the girls. Is how you respond to it that matters. People around will know who is the better man.
No point letting the rage and frustration take over your body. Happened to a few times. In the end nobody wins. Even if the other person is lying bleeding on the ground , ur fists and face still hurt. You endanger the people around you , you create a bad reputation to those around you and your ruin a perfectly good day or night.
Nothing wrong being perfect. Its because u want everything in order and to be perfect that will allow you to be stressed over trivial things. Its natural , but instead of letting the stress and frustration affect you , do something else to forget the worries. Have a timetable and schedule to do things so even at the mood , u still have to prepare yourself to entertain ur schedule and that will also build up ur character in the working world where u are not affected by moods while working or doing other things.
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i have learnt that i can never stop others from passing remarks or even judgements. hope u learn tooOriginally posted by N|ck:Don't really like it cause I think it's wearing me down, suffering mood swings and feeling like shit at random times, like during work.
More often than not, it's usually cause I make a mistake, and it's usually minor. Also, I particularly hate it when friends put me down. I guess I am a little sensitive here, but sometimes my friends' words just cross the line of teasing(to me) and it becomes a put down.
I tell myself to chill out, not to be hard on myself, I ain't perfect, don't let myself live by the approval of others, but it overwhelms me sometimes. What do you all think? -
True.. TS is the perfectionist haha..
Actually ur frens can be said a true friends , u did something wrong n they tell u... think it positively,u might knw that u did something wrong whn they tell u that..
Think like this: Ok, i made mistake, hmm so wat shud i do to be more efficient..instead of thinking how those words hurt u so much..
Im so much like u actually but whn i thk back, its kinda pointless.. its the best u think of more effectice ways to reduce ur mistake as minor as u can instead of letting ppl to take u down.
There will be always mistakes, wat matters is minor or major... Dont worry of doin one mistake. Dun pressure urself too much, ur not a robot -
U may think you're sensitive , but you're sensitive bcuz u wanna do things better . so its a good sensitivity lol