Confused of my subconsious mind... Need advise
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Guys n girls,
Welcome and thanks for taking your precious time to read this.
Im confused.. I had an ex which broke up with me few years ago just bcuz she wanna go study overseas. She never believe in long-distance relationship. In my opinion, she's just dont trust me. Am i right or wrong? Please comment...
Its been few years til we last broke up. I had this urge to keep calling her even whn shes at overseas. I have no idea why did i do that all of sudden. Why is this happening? She seems to be fine and we always talked to each other in the phone.
Im confused if my subconsious mind giving me hope to get together with her back or what?
I guess she's kinda knw if i still have feeling to her..but i cant tell her for sure that i still have the feeling cuz i myself not sure. So i ended up saying "Dont knw... maybe.."
Then, she'll shes like wanna let things go by itself, naturally and telling something like we should get to know each other more. Im confused by what she said...
TO conclude:
a) Confused whether i wan to b together with her again
b) Confused what had she say bout letting it be natural and we should get to know each other more
c) Confused if i just wanna talk to her cuz it feels comfortable
d) Confused if im jus trying to improve my skills on how to talk to gal to attract them and she's just an experimental rat.. (oh gosh, i hope i never said that)
e) What will she do if she's interested in talking to me back? Any signs? She did call me sometimes but due to its high cost n shes still studying, she rarely call me. And she calls all her best frens n parents.
Appreciate any help and comment. Thanks for your time. Let me know if u guys need more details. Will get back to your comment asap.
Chiouz, Zarks -
if u are really like her, i think that u should try talking to her...
long distance relationship is hard to maintain...
but if the foundation is good and u do not do things that will hurt her...
then I think it is not a problem!
whether u wan to wait or later u see a better one, u will have temptation
whether u can resist the temptation and whether there is communication...
anyways, u still have to make up ur mind....
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Originally posted by Zarks:
Your girl is just being very practical.
[b]Guys n girls,
Welcome and thanks for taking your precious time to read this.
Im confused.. I had an ex which broke up with me few years ago just bcuz she wanna go study overseas. She never believe in long-distance relationship. In my opinion, she's just dont trust me. Am i right or wrong? Please comment...
Its been few years til we last broke up. I had this urge to keep calling her even whn shes at overseas. I have no idea why did i do that all of sudden. Why is this happening? She seems to be fine and we always talked to each other in the phone.
Im confused if my subconsious mind giving me hope to get together with her back or what?
I guess she's kinda knw if i still have feeling to her..but i cant tell her for sure that i still have the feeling cuz i myself not sure. So i ended up saying "Dont knw... maybe.."
Then, she'll shes like wanna let things go by itself, naturally and telling something like we should get to know each other more. Im confused by what she said...
TO conclude:
a) Confused whether i wan to b together with her again
b) Confused what had she say bout letting it be natural and we should get to know each other more
c) Confused if i just wanna talk to her cuz it feels comfortable
d) Confused if im jus trying to improve my skills on how to talk to gal to attract them and she's just an experimental rat.. (oh gosh, i hope i never said that)
e) What will she do if she's interested in talking to me back? Any signs? She did call me sometimes but due to its high cost n shes still studying, she rarely call me. And she calls all her best frens n parents.
Appreciate any help and comment. Thanks for your time. Let me know if u guys need more details. Will get back to your comment asap.
Chiouz, Zarks
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She is not one who believes in "Forever".
She is one who knows that anything is possible.
That is why she is doing the " let nature takes it course" mindset.
My suggestion to you is,
Let it go for now.
Go enjoy your life.
Keep casual contact with her.
Be supportive of her.
When she comes back, go and win her back again.
If neither of you is already taken by then.
You are unsure because you are not sure what other possibilities lies out there.
That is why, you should go ahead and date as many girls as you can.
This way, you will know exactly what you want when you are ready for a long term relationship.
Like all people here, we need to try different paths, before we know for certain where our destination lies. -
Thank you , both..
It does open up my eye to see practically..
Perhaps i do want her back, but uncertain of the possibilities in future
Again , thank you both for your time here.. really appreciate your help -
Originally posted by Zarks:
[b]Guys n girls,
Welcome and thanks for taking your precious time to read this.
Im confused.. I had an ex which broke up with me few years ago just bcuz she wanna go study overseas. She never believe in long-distance relationship. In my opinion, she's just dont trust me. Am i right or wrong? Please comment...
Its been few years til we last broke up. I had this urge to keep calling her even whn shes at overseas. I have no idea why did i do that all of sudden. Why is this happening? She seems to be fine and we always talked to each other in the phone.
Im confused if my subconsious mind giving me hope to get together with her back or what?
I guess she's kinda knw if i still have feeling to her..but i cant tell her for sure that i still have the feeling cuz i myself not sure. So i ended up saying "Dont knw... maybe.."
Then, she'll shes like wanna let things go by itself, naturally and telling something like we should get to know each other more. Im confused by what she said...
TO conclude:
a) Confused whether i wan to b together with her again
b) Confused what had she say bout letting it be natural and we should get to know each other more
c) Confused if i just wanna talk to her cuz it feels comfortable
d) Confused if im jus trying to improve my skills on how to talk to gal to attract them and she's just an experimental rat.. (oh gosh, i hope i never said that)
e) What will she do if she's interested in talking to me back? Any signs? She did call me sometimes but due to its high cost n shes still studying, she rarely call me. And she calls all her best frens n parents.
Appreciate any help and comment. Thanks for your time. Let me know if u guys need more details. Will get back to your comment asap.
Chiouz, Zarks
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You want to know for what? -
then get your head clear lah... we can't tell you what you are thinking... you have to sort things out yourself...
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You want to know for what?
Answer: For his state of satisfactory confusion -
That is in itself his problem... he should just accept the fact that he does not know and might never know.... but so what? He should just go on with his life....Originally posted by richong 3216: You want to know for what?
Answer: For his state of satisfy confusion -
Spot on - multi-telented uncle - compliment from old man.Originally posted by AndrewPKYap:That is in itself his problem... he should just accept the fact that he does not know and might never know.... but so what? He should just go on with his life.... -
[quote]Originally posted by AndrewPKYap:
That is in itself his problem... he should just accept the fact that he does not know and might never know.... but so what? He should just go on with his life....[/quote
Yea I dont know T_T. btw im moving anyway. Just the confusion bout this -
I guess i just dont know wat i want...
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are you currently a full time student?Originally posted by Zarks:I guess i just dont know wat i want... -
when is she coming back? maybe u can keep in view till she comes back.
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No, im alreayd working full time. Been real busy all day long. Why ?Originally posted by de_middle:are you currently a full time student? -
just relaxed abit, let her focus on her studies first.
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Originally posted by Zarks:
Hey dude, after reading, me become as confuse as you are.
[b]Guys n girls,
Welcome and thanks for taking your precious time to read this.
Im confused.. I had an ex which broke up with me few years ago just bcuz she wanna go study overseas. She never believe in long-distance relationship. In my opinion, she's just dont trust me. Am i right or wrong? Please comment...
Its been few years til we last broke up. I had this urge to keep calling her even whn shes at overseas. I have no idea why did i do that all of sudden. Why is this happening? She seems to be fine and we always talked to each other in the phone.
Im confused if my subconsious mind giving me hope to get together with her back or what?
I guess she's kinda knw if i still have feeling to her..but i cant tell her for sure that i still have the feeling cuz i myself not sure. So i ended up saying "Dont knw... maybe.."
Then, she'll shes like wanna let things go by itself, naturally and telling something like we should get to know each other more. Im confused by what she said...
TO conclude:
a) Confused whether i wan to b together with her again
b) Confused what had she say bout letting it be natural and we should get to know each other more
c) Confused if i just wanna talk to her cuz it feels comfortable
d) Confused if im jus trying to improve my skills on how to talk to gal to attract them and she's just an experimental rat.. (oh gosh, i hope i never said that)
e) What will she do if she's interested in talking to me back? Any signs? She did call me sometimes but due to its high cost n shes still studying, she rarely call me. And she calls all her best frens n parents.
Appreciate any help and comment. Thanks for your time. Let me know if u guys need more details. Will get back to your comment asap.
Chiouz, Zarks
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Go study confucisim, maybe you will be less confused -
Originally posted by Zarks:
[b]Guys n girls,
Welcome and thanks for taking your precious time to read this.
Im confused.. I had an ex which broke up with me few years ago just bcuz she wanna go study overseas. She never believe in long-distance relationship. In my opinion, she's just dont trust me. Am i right or wrong? Please comment...
Its been few years til we last broke up. I had this urge to keep calling her even whn shes at overseas. I have no idea why did i do that all of sudden. Why is this happening? She seems to be fine and we always talked to each other in the phone.
Im confused if my subconsious mind giving me hope to get together with her back or what?
I guess she's kinda knw if i still have feeling to her..but i cant tell her for sure that i still have the feeling cuz i myself not sure. So i ended up saying "Dont knw... maybe.."
Then, she'll shes like wanna let things go by itself, naturally and telling something like we should get to know each other more. Im confused by what she said...
TO conclude:
a) Confused whether i wan to b together with her again
b) Confused what had she say bout letting it be natural and we should get to know each other more
c) Confused if i just wanna talk to her cuz it feels comfortable
d) Confused if im jus trying to improve my skills on how to talk to gal to attract them and she's just an experimental rat.. (oh gosh, i hope i never said that)
e) What will she do if she's interested in talking to me back? Any signs? She did call me sometimes but due to its high cost n shes still studying, she rarely call me. And she calls all her best frens n parents.
Appreciate any help and comment. Thanks for your time. Let me know if u guys need more details. Will get back to your comment asap.
Chiouz, Zarks
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It's all about being logical - a stronger emphasis on the mental faculty. Surely a sour break-off deriving from a failed LDR might be rancorous for both parties, as there isn't much confidence in surmounting that challenge, she probably opt for a much safer route to undertake - an amicable, mutually agreed departure.
To me, it might not be so much about a relationship; it could be the 'tissue-on-table' situation, like how office ladies would 'reserve' their seats in hawker centre. She might not have anyone in mind right now and wouldn't mind being flippant with her words/action just to bind you emotionally with subtle means.
After all, the rationale she gave you for concluding this relationship is because she doesn't trust LDR and therefore, it makes no sense if she would be interested to restore the relationship, since this constant hasn't change any bits.
Reservation?
If she has found someone she fancy over there, I highly doubt she will continue any chapters with you as the protagonist.
I suggest until she comes back home; keep your options open.
Cheers -
Yea, thanks.. when i think it back ,seems like im a very silly guy who can trust LDR.. but i guess i n her were just puppy love....mayb i expect too much from her... its really silly anyway..Originally posted by Yunhaier: It's all about being logical - a stronger emphasis on the mental faculty. Surely a sour break-off deriving from a failed LDR might be rancorous for both parties, as there isn't much confidence in surmounting that challenge, she probably opt for a much safer route to undertake - an amicable, mutually agreed departure.
To me, it might not be so much about a relationship; it could be the 'tissue-on-table' situation, like how office ladies would 'reserve' their seats in hawker centre. She might not have anyone in mind right now and wouldn't mind being flippant with her words/action just to bind you emotionally with subtle means.
After all, the rationale she gave you for concluding this relationship is because she doesn't trust LDR and therefore, it makes no sense if she would be interested to restore the relationship, since this constant hasn't change any bits.
Reservation?
If she has found someone she fancy over there, I highly doubt she will continue any chapters with you as the protagonist.
I suggest until she comes back home; keep your options open.
Cheers
But im moving on now... i shouldnt expect her again... there's plenty of gals out there.. perhaps i shud go n take a look , might get one whos really suitable for me.. yea.. Life goes on...
U knw , whn u guys helping me here, its kinda open up my subconscious mind..
Now i dont call her again... i just have to go on and forget bout her.. Let GoD busy with His job on this... as for me, i'll do wat it takes to be a better man , to be successful in life.. I'll just put aside any relationship for now..