Suffering from anxiety disorder
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I am realy suffering inside of me. I worry about things all the time. Any small incidents in life can make me sad for a few days or up to few weeks.
My heart feels tight and congested always and i always have difficulty breathing. Bad things or memories keep circulating in my mind. I feels irritated over small things. Life sometimes seems meaningless to me. The only thing thats keeps me going is my understanding gf and my caring parents.
Despite that, my anxiety problems wun go away. I have problems socialising and facing people because i am always anxious all the time, caring too much on how they feel or whether i will say the wrong thing.
Sometimes really feels like dying because living through it is a torture. I hope sometime can give me some advice on how to live and cope with it. -
Sometime, we are crippled by our own dark past. Sometime we must learn to let go excessive baggage so that new things can come to us. I don't know what bad or ugly memories you have had that had affected you so badly, you gonna know that these memories are not real anymore. No point holding onto them and their influence on you. Sometime, time will heal your wound but it also really depends on whether do you allow it to happen? I know u might feel pain at time but understand that pain comes and goes. We move on.Originally posted by xiao^boiboi:I am realy suffering inside of me. I worry about things all the time. Any small incidents in life can make me sad for a few days or up to few weeks.
My heart feels tight and congested always and i always have difficulty breathing. Bad things or memories keep circulating in my mind. I feels irritated over small things. Life sometimes seems meaningless to me. The only thing thats keeps me going is my understanding gf and my caring parents.
Despite that, my anxiety problems wun go away. I have problems socialising and facing people because i am always anxious all the time, caring too much on how they feel or whether i will say the wrong thing.
Sometimes really feels like dying because living through it is a torture. I hope sometime can give me some advice on how to live and cope with it.
Getting irritated over small thing could depict your helplessness and frustration in life. Have a little patience on yourself. Don't be too hard on yourself. You are still recovering from the pain that you have had. Control your temper when you feel irritation arising in you. You probably discover your environment will be a lot friendly when you don't aggravate this irritation of yours..
Take time off, change your new environment if you are not happy with it. See things from a different perspective. You are probably a lot more fortunate than others.
Some tips on getting yourself out of your comfort zone.
Build your confidence slowly by DOING things that you are afraid of socially. Join an interest group and slowly get yourself out of the shell. Join it with people that you already know will probably help you making there baby steps. Don't overly-analysis what others think of you or how you think of yourself.. it will just make you more neurotics.
I could suggest you seek a professional help if it gets any worse and when you can't cope with it. Seek help when you really need it.. Be wise.
Cheers. -
so serious i suggest u get professional help immediately since it compromises ur healthOriginally posted by xiao^boiboi:I am realy suffering inside of me. I worry about things all the time. Any small incidents in life can make me sad for a few days or up to few weeks.
My heart feels tight and congested always and i always have difficulty breathing. Bad things or memories keep circulating in my mind. I feels irritated over small things. Life sometimes seems meaningless to me. The only thing thats keeps me going is my understanding gf and my caring parents.
Despite that, my anxiety problems wun go away. I have problems socialising and facing people because i am always anxious all the time, caring too much on how they feel or whether i will say the wrong thing.
Sometimes really feels like dying because living through it is a torture. I hope sometime can give me some advice on how to live and cope with it. -
Only one simple advise....
You don't have to impress others.
The only person you need to impress is yourself. -
Ok make this two.
Life is meaningless to you , because you have not yet found the true meaning of it.
Patience is what you lack. So take a step back and not rush into life. -
My advice is " kill " the anxiety order. Always tell yourself that anxiety disorder is torturing you , you hate it , it is your enemy. You want to conquer it , you dont want it to overshadow you. You do want to be its slave. It is making you miserable , uncomfortable and you are sick of it. You are full of hatred for it. You swear at it whenever it makes you unwell. Use your mind to " kill " it.
Also , read up more of this problem , understand it and finally " cure " yourself. -
Always look on the bright side of life.
Sing this 10 x daily
Always look on the bright side of life.
Always look on the bright side of life.
Always look on the bright side of life.
Always look on the bright side of life.
Always look on the bright side of life.
Always look on the bright side of life.
Always look on the bright side of life.
Always look on the bright side of life.
Always look on the bright side of life.
Always look on the bright side of life.
then you will feel better
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Thanks for all the advices. I have tried ways and means to overcome this problem but it just wun go away. The anxiety disorder seems to be in my blood. My chests a lot almost everyday thinking of unhappy things all the time although my life is not that bad.
I am a self employed with a stable income, caring gf and great family but i just find it hard to make myself feel happy. Sometimes really dun understand whats wrong with me. I still feel life is draggy and tough, cant sleep at night thinking of anything unhappy, ranging from childhood unhappiness or even a quarrel few days ago. It is like a loop, that keep playing all the time in my mind. It is not that i do not have happy moments in my life, just that my mind just keep focusing on the negatives things in life all the time without control.
Life should be reaching an exciting and happy stage as business is good and is contemplating marriage with the love of my life of 6 years but I feel negative and sad all the time. Sometimes i try to inflict physical pain on myself like knocking my head on the wall or biting myself really hard till it bleeds to overcome the chests pain, caused by anxiety, but it failed most of the time. Always feel breathless and depress. Haiz.................
Always wanted to seek professional help but always put it off cause of costs and afraid what other people may think of me. Maybe it's really time for me to seek professional help. -
Have a break. Go for a self discovery tour. Do something different.
Don't be too negative about people. Talking to people can broaden your life, no man is an island.
When your anxiety arises, just do breathe in breathe out exercise to calm yourself down.
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listen to some songs and cry it out.
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xiao boiboi ure not alone.
these irrational fears and worries just mean ure more sensitive than others. i noe how it feels, for example overhearing ur friends criticizing u and u cant really get it outta ur head, keep thinking negative thoughts bout wat ppl think bout u and stuff, well its kinda happenin 2 me too
but u should really start to cheer up b4 it gets worse...u might start to misinterpret things which seem so petty and trivial and take them as an insult..it could actualli cause hypertension n panic attacks.
if u have low self esteem u shud try and do stuff u like, play sports, exercise (endorphins will cheer u up), eat chocolate, watch funny movies, yoga, listen 2 emo songs, anything tt will make u feel better. And everytime u feel obsessed 2 think wat ppl think bout u give ureself a huge pinch or somethin...u'll be better, its just a waste of time and braincells.
love can cure this problem if u noe how to use it. Know that there are ppl in ure life tt love u alot and these ppl or bad memories etc are just nothing compared to the love u have. It sounds corny-sheepy but it helps, so wat if tt certain person thinks of u tt way, he doesnt care! but ur family and gf certainly do and those ppl are the ones u shd be thinking of! they care bout u and that is the onli thing tt matters, period.
if u cant take it, see a doctor. its ok, proably the dr will diagnose u with depression, bipolar disorder or just plain anxiety disorder...there are several anti-deppresants tt can be used to make ureself feel better, but onli if ure properly diagnosed. As for me i just stop thinkng 2 much bout tt stuff and tt everyone in the world gets criticized for anything under the sun, u really got to move along. STOP and think bout ur future, no one actualli 'cares' or remember anythin bout u in a few days so its better if u just forget those assholes whu make u feel this way.
ps, u should listen to this song by Get Set Go-I hate everyone...it sorta helped me!!
hope tt helps, and remember, theres more to life! cheer up!!
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Medication.
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Thanks everyone for your advices. I feel much better now. I will try my best to cope and stay happy. Thanks zannster for recommending that song, it is really meaningful and it feels great to shout along with the song!Originally posted by zannstar:xiao boiboi ure not alone.
these irrational fears and worries just mean ure more sensitive than others. i noe how it feels, for example overhearing ur friends criticizing u and u cant really get it outta ur head, keep thinking negative thoughts bout wat ppl think bout u and stuff, well its kinda happenin 2 me too
but u should really start to cheer up b4 it gets worse...u might start to misinterpret things which seem so petty and trivial and take them as an insult..it could actualli cause hypertension n panic attacks.
if u have low self esteem u shud try and do stuff u like, play sports, exercise (endorphins will cheer u up), eat chocolate, watch funny movies, yoga, listen 2 emo songs, anything tt will make u feel better. And everytime u feel obsessed 2 think wat ppl think bout u give ureself a huge pinch or somethin...u'll be better, its just a waste of time and braincells.
love can cure this problem if u noe how to use it. Know that there are ppl in ure life tt love u alot and these ppl or bad memories etc are just nothing compared to the love u have. It sounds corny-sheepy but it helps, so wat if tt certain person thinks of u tt way, he doesnt care! but ur family and gf certainly do and those ppl are the ones u shd be thinking of! they care bout u and that is the onli thing tt matters, period.
if u cant take it, see a doctor. its ok, proably the dr will diagnose u with depression, bipolar disorder or just plain anxiety disorder...there are several anti-deppresants tt can be used to make ureself feel better, but onli if ure properly diagnosed. As for me i just stop thinkng 2 much bout tt stuff and tt everyone in the world gets criticized for anything under the sun, u really got to move along. STOP and think bout ur future, no one actualli 'cares' or remember anythin bout u in a few days so its better if u just forget those assholes whu make u feel this way.
ps, u should listen to this song by Get Set Go-I hate everyone...it sorta helped me!!
hope tt helps, and remember, theres more to life! cheer up!! -
Dude I know exactly what you're going through believe me. I have anxiety disorder as well but whenever I feel a panic attack coming I just tell myself to keep calm and that I've exeperienced it before and it can't harm me. You should try it and after a while you won't be afraid of it anymore.
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Looks like u having anxiety neurosis - check out with google search & learn moreOriginally posted by xiao^boiboi:I am realy suffering inside of me. I worry about things all the time. Any small incidents in life can make me sad for a few days or up to few weeks.
My heart feels tight and congested always and i always have difficulty breathing. Bad things or memories keep circulating in my mind. I feels irritated over small things. Life sometimes seems meaningless to me. The only thing thats keeps me going is my understanding gf and my caring parents.
Despite that, my anxiety problems wun go away. I have problems socialising and facing people because i am always anxious all the time, caring too much on how they feel or whether i will say the wrong thing.
Sometimes really feels like dying because living through it is a torture. I hope sometime can give me some advice on how to live and cope with it. -
Its what you think.Originally posted by xiao^boiboi:I am realy suffering inside of me. I worry about things all the time. Any small incidents in life can make me sad for a few days or up to few weeks.
My heart feels tight and congested always and i always have difficulty breathing. Bad things or memories keep circulating in my mind. I feels irritated over small things. Life sometimes seems meaningless to me. The only thing thats keeps me going is my understanding gf and my caring parents.
Despite that, my anxiety problems wun go away. I have problems socialising and facing people because i am always anxious all the time, caring too much on how they feel or whether i will say the wrong thing.
Sometimes really feels like dying because living through it is a torture. I hope sometime can give me some advice on how to live and cope with it.
Its how you think.
You know the problem, (its in red above) that is a good.
For the first problem, try to still your mind. Try to see for how many minutes you can stop your mind from thinking. And then try to extend the time. Do this whenever you catch your mind circulating bad memories.
Then later choose your thoughts. You can just as well think of your gf, or your parents, or something good. Practice.
Don't try to socialise.
Just be yourself. Attend functions, events, gatherings,parties, etc, just be there. Talk to those who talk to you. Listen and answer. Say what you can say, otherwise just answer questions, and contribute a bit more. Dont worry.
I attend alot of karaoke sessions with my wife, and I never sing. I am just there, talking to those who talk to me. -
for all the highlighted portion, i stongly suggest that u seek medical attention. dun want u to end up worse when u start losing either of them.Originally posted by xiao^boiboi:Thanks for all the advices. I have tried ways and means to overcome this problem but it just wun go away. The anxiety disorder seems to be in my blood. My chests a lot almost everyday thinking of unhappy things all the time although my life is not that bad.
I am a self employed with a stable income, caring gf and great family but i just find it hard to make myself feel happy. Sometimes really dun understand whats wrong with me. I still feel life is draggy and tough, cant sleep at night thinking of anything unhappy, ranging from childhood unhappiness or even a quarrel few days ago. It is like a loop, that keep playing all the time in my mind. It is not that i do not have happy moments in my life, just that my mind just keep focusing on the negatives things in life all the time without control.
Life should be reaching an exciting and happy stage as business is good and is contemplating marriage with the love of my life of 6 years but I feel negative and sad all the time. Sometimes i try to inflict physical pain on myself like knocking my head on the wall or biting myself really hard till it bleeds to overcome the chests pain, caused by anxiety, but it failed most of the time. Always feel breathless and depress. Haiz.................
Always wanted to seek professional help but always put it off cause of costs and afraid what other people may think of me. Maybe it's really time for me to seek professional help.
it is not about u only....think about them....do not be selfish & think that only u are suffering alone. -
ok noted.Originally posted by de_middle:for all the highlighted portion, i stongly suggest that u seek medical attention. dun want u to end up worse when u start losing either of them.
it is not about u only....think about them....do not be selfish & think that only u are suffering alone. -
Hello,
I went through that before, I'm still in the process of recovery and I can tell you it's not easy -- I still get attacks every now and then, though less frequently.
You know, I believed that I was weak, helpless and well, damaged in every sense because of my inability to function like a "normal" person, because of the sheer number of attacks that I suffered from. I kept feeling that there was something wrong with me.
Coming from someone who has been there, you have you actively learn to love yourself, build up on that a step at a time, take an appreciative step back and look how far you've come since babyhood. Things like that. Kick those negative thoughts, but if they do linger, find an outlet. I used to write all those thoughts down in a diary when they repeated in my head, I wrote accounts of the emotionally abusive memories too. It helped, because after a while, you run out of things to write, and you realise, those problems are just ghosts from the past. Trust me, it takes a while before you get it all out of your system, but write whatever comes to mind, and when you're out of the danger zone, look back at your older entries and try to piece together what's bothering you. You'd find that most of the entries repeat, and you might observe repeating patterns of negativity.
Just identify the patterns and thoughts, and go about trying to solve them. Avoid hurtful situations if you can afford to, like if socialising stirs an attack, avoid extensive socialising. You are not obliged to entertain anyone if you don't feel like it, and sometimes a simple 'No' can make your day.
The idea is to break the cycles, and learn to appreciate yourself better.
Hey, it's not the end of the world. (: Sometimes, we get into these ruts when we didn't receive help earlier, or recognise that we're driving into a ditch. The road to recovery isn't easy, but if you've got support, love and determination, you'd make it.
I was referred to a counsellor once in sec school, it didn't help me much because I wasn't ready to receive any help. I got this far pretty much on my own, and with the help of my bf. Not saying that talking to a professional doesn't help, but make sure you genuinely want help before you go seeking it.
Take things a step at your time, I'm sure you'll bounce back. -
Not sure if it's relevant, but I'm taking Anti-Depressant for some symptons similar to yours. It somehow help me to 'cool down' better nowadays and it's not affecting me as bad as before. It was prescribed by my psychiatrist from IMH.
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Try yoga, sports or meditation, loosen ur nerves.
Some things in life are bad,
They can really make you mad
Other things just make you swear and curse
When you're chewing on life's gristle
Don't grumble, give a whistle
And this'll help things turn out for the best
And...
...always look on the bright side of life
{whistle
Always look on the light side of life
{whistle
If life seems jolly rotten
There's something you've forgotten
And that's to laugh and smile and dance and sing
When you're feeling in the dumps
Don't be silly chumps
Just purse your lips and whistle - that's the thing
And...
Always look on the bright side of life
{whistle
Come on
Always look on the right side of life,
{whistle
For life is quite absurd
And death's the final word
You must always face the curtain with a bow
Forget about your sin - give the audience a grin
Enjoy it - it's your last chance anyhow
So always look on the bright side of death
{whistle
Just before you draw your terminal breath
{whistle
Life's a piece of shit
When you look at it
Life's a laugh and death's a joke, it's true
You'll see it's all a show
Keep 'em laughing as you go
Just remember that the last laugh is on you
And always look on the bright side of life
Always look on the right side of life
{whistle
Come on guys, cheers up...
Always look on the bright side of life...
Always look on the bright side of life...
Worse things happen at sea, you know
Always look on the bright side of life...
I mean - what have you got to lose?
You know, you come from nothing
- you're going back to nothing
What have you lost? NOTHING!
Always look on the bright side of life
Take it easy! Live and let live.
Python Monty - Always Look On The Bright Side Of Life lyrics -
thanks angel666Originally posted by angel7030:ok noted. -
I know wad u mean. I used to be a chronic worrier about everything, big and small, myself. Now I've learnt to become a much cooler cucumber. If I can do it, so can you!
Most importantly, learn to understand that not every outcome of things around you depends on you alone. If things screw up, sometimes, they are just beyond your control. Build up your self confidence. A lil' bo-chup attitude goes a long way. Tell yourself that whatever goes wrong can be fixed.
Always look and try to anticipate the future. If you forsee a problem coming, formulate plans how you are gonna tackle it. Once you've made your plans, quit thinking of the problem and worrying. Move on and focus on the present. Execute the plans you have already made only when the problem actually manifests itself.Enjoy what you have while you have...... Good luck! -
U should consult your doctor.Originally posted by xiao^boiboi:I am realy suffering inside of me. I worry about things all the time. Any small incidents in life can make me sad for a few days or up to few weeks.
My heart feels tight and congested always and i always have difficulty breathing. Bad things or memories keep circulating in my mind. I feels irritated over small things. Life sometimes seems meaningless to me. The only thing thats keeps me going is my understanding gf and my caring parents.
Despite that, my anxiety problems wun go away. I have problems socialising and facing people because i am always anxious all the time, caring too much on how they feel or whether i will say the wrong thing.
Sometimes really feels like dying because living through it is a torture. I hope sometime can give me some advice on how to live and cope with it. -
ask yourself:
- what is it that you look for in the life?
- have you found it?
- what are you gonna do if you have it?