Getting Over A Relationship... Lessen the Pain
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Getting Over A Relationship... Lessen the Pain
You're Now Single.
Many who have been in a relationship know that the hardest part is overcoming the break-up. However, many do not know that no matter how long the relationship, you do not need to spend months to years reminiscing and crying about the loved one who you've lost. Although the path to completely moving on from your past partner can only totally be cured by time, there are many ways to speed it up and help you move on with a lighter heart.
Learn To Let Go
The first and most important part of a break-up is to force yourself to let go. Even if you want to stay friends with your past partner, now is not the time. It will only make it harder for you to interact with him/her or perhaps hear news of his/her latest romantic interests in the time period that you are trying to get over him/her. No matter how much you may want to talk to them, you need to very nicely let them know that you will need some space until you are ready to be friends again, if you even want to stay friends. From this point on you must stop asking your friends questions about your ex, or tell them ahead of time not to discuss him/her around you no matter how much you may persist. You must also force yourself to stop reminding yourself of the past relationship by looking at old letters, pictures, or any gifts your ex may have given you. For now, take all those and put them in a safe place, preferably one where you wonÂ’t have easy access to them until you are truly ready to look at them again without having to deal with your own aching heart. The point here is that you canÂ’t begin to overcome the break-up if youÂ’re still holding on to the past partner or relationship.
Occupy Yourself (with positive, healthy things)
Another important step that you must maintain throughout the entire process of overcoming the break-up is to keep yourself busy! Do not allow yourself the time to sit around and brood. Start exercising, go out with friends, take up a hobby and get involved in it, because as long as youÂ’re not doing something, youÂ’re not helping yourself. Keeping busy is one of the most effective ways to keep your mind off of your past relationship. However, getting yourself drunk and wasted is not the way. Being responsible for your personal well-being is also important.
Meet New People (be discerning)
Moving on too quickly is not a good idea, but no oneÂ’s saying move on to a serious relationship right away, but itÂ’s time to start thinking about dating again as well! Start looking at other possible romantic interests and try a couple of casual dates. DonÂ’t lock yourself up in your room and shun all the other possibilities that are out there waiting for you! Besides, seeing new people will keep your mind off your ex as long as you donÂ’t start comparing them to him/her. Stay open-minded and you should be over them much sooner than you expected. However, please be discerning! -
thx fer da guide
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you're welcome
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nice guide...
my question is: written by urself or taken from somewhere?
but still.. decent guide for those who are in that situation.. 4 stars! out of 5. -
nice read, thanks.
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not mine.
actually alot of the stuff you read is also not new. you may have heard or overhead someone dishing out the same kind of advice. -
Ohh... so you are a professional hypnotherapist.
Where's your office in Singapore? -
good tips
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Yes, that's right!
I conduct my sessions at Holland Village.. -
Agony ???Originally posted by Serene_Lee:Getting Over A Relationship... Lessen the Pain
You're Now Single.
Many who have been in a relationship know that the hardest part is overcoming the break-up. However, many do not know that no matter how long the relationship, you do not need to spend months to years reminiscing and crying about the loved one who you've lost. Although the path to completely moving on from your past partner can only totally be cured by time, there are many ways to speed it up and help you move on with a lighter heart.
Learn To Let Go
The first and most important part of a break-up is to force yourself to let go. Even if you want to stay friends with your past partner, now is not the time. It will only make it harder for you to interact with him/her or perhaps hear news of his/her latest romantic interests in the time period that you are trying to get over him/her. No matter how much you may want to talk to them, you need to very nicely let them know that you will need some space until you are ready to be friends again, if you even want to stay friends. From this point on you must stop asking your friends questions about your ex, or tell them ahead of time not to discuss him/her around you no matter how much you may persist. You must also force yourself to stop reminding yourself of the past relationship by looking at old letters, pictures, or any gifts your ex may have given you. For now, take all those and put them in a safe place, preferably one where you wonÂ’t have easy access to them until you are truly ready to look at them again without having to deal with your own aching heart. The point here is that you canÂ’t begin to overcome the break-up if youÂ’re still holding on to the past partner or relationship.
Occupy Yourself (with positive, healthy things)
Another important step that you must maintain throughout the entire process of overcoming the break-up is to keep yourself busy! Do not allow yourself the time to sit around and brood. Start exercising, go out with friends, take up a hobby and get involved in it, because as long as youÂ’re not doing something, youÂ’re not helping yourself. Keeping busy is one of the most effective ways to keep your mind off of your past relationship. However, getting yourself drunk and wasted is not the way. Being responsible for your personal well-being is also important.
Meet New People (be discerning)
Moving on too quickly is not a good idea, but no oneÂ’s saying move on to a serious relationship right away, but itÂ’s time to start thinking about dating again as well! Start looking at other possible romantic interests and try a couple of casual dates. DonÂ’t lock yourself up in your room and shun all the other possibilities that are out there waiting for you! Besides, seeing new people will keep your mind off your ex as long as you donÂ’t start comparing them to him/her. Stay open-minded and you should be over them much sooner than you expected. However, please be discerning! -
So ah Miss Lee, can we use hypnotherapy to recall things?Originally posted by Serene_Lee:Yes, that's right!
I conduct my sessions at Holland Village.
People come to me for getting over breakup, grief from lost of someone, anger issues, quit smoking, alcoholism, insomnia, weight disorders etc.
If you are curious, you can log on to my website at http://www.onehypnotherapy.com
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overcoming agony, i think its goodOriginally posted by Zarks:Agony ??? -
Yes it can if a subject is successfully hypnotizedOriginally posted by Mr Chumpa Woompa:So ah Miss Lee, can we use hypnotherapy to recall things? -
Yes, agony along with other emotional issuesOriginally posted by de_middle:overcoming agony, i think its good -
i think many people know this.
the thing is, how many people actually do it? -
Good Question!Originally posted by browniebaobao:i think many people know this.
the thing is, how many people actually do it?
They definitely know this. As i mentioned in my earlier post, the advice in this guide is not new.
How many people actually do this? LOTS! And I'm one of them. I've been through a failed relationship twice before I'm engaged to my better half.
The fact that you have an agony forum page and lots of people posting their issues on line, it means that people are looking for solace or solution to their problems i.e. they are doing something about it.
There are 3 groups of people
Group 1 - Those who try and succeed. These are the ones who are people who move on easily and have strong will power.
Group 2 - People who try but fail because they are not in control their own emotions, hence very often they may turn to a distractor in a form of alcohol, drugs, spend more time sleeping etc to numb the pain. My therapy helps them feel better emotionally so that they can move on positively.
Group 3 - People who don't know what to do. They just wallow in self pity. No one to turn to for help... Anyone else would like to help me out on this question? -
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Very sound advices!
I propose this be stickied! This can easily help lots of people. -
But there's always the possibility of the subject mistaking false memory as real ones, right? How high is that possibility?Originally posted by Serene_Lee:Yes it can if a subject is successfully hypnotized -
I will PM you on this one.Originally posted by Mr Chumpa Woompa:But there's always the possibility of the subject mistaking false memory as real ones, right? How high is that possibility? -
Cool. ThanksOriginally posted by Serene_Lee:I will PM you on this one. -
Originally posted by binarynwitz:Very sound advices!
I propose this be stickied! This can easily help lots of people.
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Any further queries on hypnosis/hypnotherapy will be PM
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serious ar??Originally posted by Serene_Lee:Yes, that's right!
I conduct my sessions at Holland Village.
can help me out as well?