....guys help me i'm confused after a breakup

• caleb_chiang

  6 Sep 07, 19:26

  
  
  what the "BIG" means???
• teraexa

  6 Sep 07, 21:10

  The thing is, no one can force you to be with her again.
  
  It's all up to you buddy.
• jojobeach

  6 Sep 07, 23:25

  Violentcow,
  
  Do you think you will patch back with your ex ?
  If you do, will you be able to ever trust her again ?
  
  You need to make a decision.
  Life is full of decisions.
  
  Since you not sure about the new girl, why are you in a relationship with her ?
  She not your spare tire ok ?
  
  If you want the new girl back.
  All you have to do is let her know you have cut all contacts with your ex.
  Change a new mobile number if you have to.
  
  Think about what you really want.
  
  I also dumped a guy before because his ex keeps calling him.
  I told him, if he cannot get over his past, there is no future with me.
• Yunhaier

  6 Sep 07, 23:30

  Originally posted by violentcow:

  i feel that my ex likes me even more after breaking up with her.. i broke with her coz she betrayed me and cheated me with something big.. now i'm seeing another girl but my ex keeps calling me and stuff i'm not sure if i like the girl anot but she dont trust me anymore coz i told her i breakup but my ex still contacts me alot... aaaaaaaaaaaaa help what should i do?

  She can contact you, but it's your call to decide if you want to reciprocate her response. Therefore, your confusion is due to your act of reciprocating.
  
  Sometimes, I find it silly for people to go back to their ex-love who has betrayed them blatantly. The 'extra-dosage of affection' poured from her action after you had acrimoniously left her is probably motivated by guilt and revelation.
  
  You think is spurred from love? I seriously doubt it.
  
  Some people sympathised that it could be a moment of folly; but loyalty is one thing that cannot be compromised in any context of a proper, serious relationship. You cannot use loyalty as a expendable commodity, having to revise the definition of loyalty according to the flow of circumstances. I think that makes a relationship pretty much 'unrelationship' and makes the pursuit of love very intense.
  
  That point alone differentiates a fling from a relationship, in which I can see some post advocating towards the former, in your list of possible... available choices.
  
  If you can't handle it, I suggest you avoid putting yourself in such predicament. If her contact is causing you so much confusion, then cut them to gain clarity.
  
  Remember: you are responsible for your own emotional well being.
  
  Cheers
• vIn.Warrior

  6 Sep 07, 23:42

  the next one will always be better
• Zarks

  8 Sep 07, 10:01

  Originally posted by angel7030:

  Wee! what we got here, FU ya, where u want it to be?

  Zarks lurking behind angel7030 supporting her...
• Sakuraflower

  8 Sep 07, 11:29

  u too free is it???
  
  u already breakup with ur ex... and I say ex...
  
  past tense already...
  
  then now u do not know what to do??
  
  and currently going out with another gal...
  
  but u already breakup with ur ex... do u still love her and wan to be with her??
  
  just take one step at a time and not think so much.... dun waste ur energy! Dun be confuse la... be happy!
  
  
• yiha093

  8 Sep 07, 11:40

  Originally posted by sEphIrOth:

  gunbound also got bigfoot
  
  anyway to TS
  
  if she cheated on u once, shame on her.
  
  if u let her cheat u again, shame on you.
  assure this girl that you will not contact ur ex anymore and you are being honest to tell her the truth. most girls like to be assured and certain of what is going on when things are confusing.

  thats total crap la
• kiss_my (_i_)

  10 Sep 07, 10:05

  patch back with ur ex again thn on the meanwhile continue with ur new gf,
  there will be a 2nd time when there's a 1st time.
  u dont knw wat a girl is thinking
• kiss_my (_i_)

  10 Sep 07, 10:06

  by the way i;m sure u still love her