IMPROVING RELATIONSHIPS (interpersonal)
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1. Do Not Expect Others to Bring You Happiness.
All by yourself, you are a complete and perfect creation. All the answers you need are within you. Do your spirit work. Nurture, cherish, honor, and feed your spirit. Another person cannot fill a hole in your soul that exists if you do not love yourself. Reach out to help others. Extend love to them. Give, and you will receive.
2. Make Friends and Be a Friend.
Don't sulk because your friends don't call. Everyone is busy. Call them; they will really appreciate it. Make different kinds of friends. And they don't have to be friends with each other. Join your area's Community Centre, Yoga class, Scuba Dive... etc Just get out there and meet people.
3. Extend Yourself (Go Out of Your Way for Others).
Call someone who is lonely or sad. Take a friend to lunch. Bring flowers to someone. Open the door when a person needs help. Let someone go in front of you in the market when they are in a hurry. Stop for pedestrians. Be patient and considerate. Don't take it personally when another person is a grump . . . maybe they just got bad news or they are sick. Be the good guy. You'll love yourself.
4. Do Not Gossip.
We all do stupid things. Your importance is not increased when you belittle another. In fact it makes you look ugly. Gossiping is petty, hurtful and low. It can become an ugly habit. Try doing something nice for someone else instead. You'll feel better about yourself.
5. Look Out for Toxic Petty Little People.
You know the type. They complain, are negative in their outlook, are unkind, depressed, mean, and self-centered. They cheat you and make use of you in a friendship. They will suck the joy right out of you, and you can't fix them. They are the only ones who can resolve their issues. Protect your own well-being by avoiding their destructive and negative energy. Don't be a victim.
6. You Cannot Solve Other People's Problems.
People will come to you with their tales of woe. You can offer them kindness or be a sounding board for them, but they are really the only ones who can solve things for themselves. You cannot travel their journey for them; we must each walk our own path.
7. Do Not Let Another Person Crush Your Spirit.
Some people are hostile, negative or angry all the time. If you live or work with someone like this, it can destroy your spirit. You begin to feel hopeless and defeated. You deserve better. Do not let these people trick you into thinking that you are the cause of their difficulties. Negative people need to take ownership of their own emotional baggage, problems, and issues. You have a right to be happy. You deserve it. You will spread joy and radiate love.
8. Keep Your Own Free Will.
We all have responsibilities and obligations. We can't always do exactly what we want or get our own way. Some of this is good because we are growing and learning how to cope. But if you feel your own needs are never being met, or you are feeling devalued, or if you have to give in to another's wishes more than to your own, then that relationship is probably destructive to you. You do not deserve to be mistreated by anyone.
9. Look Beyond a Person's Actions and Try to See Their Goodness
Some people are hurting and sad, and they act like jerks. Most people don't want to act jerky; in fact, they probably hate it and themselves. If you can see that spark of goodness in them, then you will be free of being hurt by them. Can you reach out to them with kindness and see how far it gets you? Maybe there is a wonderful person inside of them struggling to get out, and you just might help open that door. (Note: If a person is abusive to you, that is not okay. Leave that situation immediately.)
10. Don't Let Anger Take Over in an Argument.
You'll regret what you say; and you will resolve nothing. Everyone will shut down. So keep a cool head. If necessary, detach yourself. Don't take anything personally, and try to reach a resolution or compromise and be in control. "When anger enters, reason flies out the window."
Stuff to share taken from somewhere with some amendments -
thx fer post. it helps me.
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TS so kind, be my gf plz
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Originally posted by Zarks:TS so kind, be my gf plz
nah..dream on man
TS although u are right in stating the points, it's however hard to follow them.
Cos every1 will make mistakes
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Originally posted by Zarks:TS so kind, be my gf plz
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What's the meaning of TS?
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TS = Thread Starter
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I'll copy this Ms Serena's advise.. and print it out and read it everyday
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Hi Zark,Originally posted by Zarks:I'll copy this Ms Serena's advise.. and print it out and read it everyday
Thanks for considering me.
However I'm going to be a missus very soon.
Good that you are printing it out to read. It can be a kind of positive affirmation.
Btw, my name is Serene and not Serena.
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You're always welcomeOriginally posted by oOprinceOo:thx fer post. it helps me. -
Hard to some... Easy to Others...Originally posted by wului99:TS although u are right in stating the points, it's however hard to follow them.
Cos every1 will make mistakes
The above is really a guide.
However, it's good to make an effort to try to achieve at least one of them.
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huh what u mean by this sentence?Originally posted by Serene_Lee:Hi Zark,
However I'm going to be a missus very soon. -
Easier said than done but at least I've been trying to put some, if not all of them to practice in my daily life.........
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ya lor what so easy to abide de..it really depends on individual actuallyOriginally posted by :Easier said than done but at least I've been trying to put some, if not all of them to practice in my daily life......... -
Missus (Mrs) - meaning, I'm getting married.Originally posted by wului99:huh what u mean by this sentence? -
oic...gong xi gong xi..may u be blessed and a lot of children
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thanks!Originally posted by wului99:oic...gong xi gong xi..may u be blessed and a lot of children
Btw, side step abit... I need a good song for my wedding march in for my traditional dinner... any ideas? -
Get The Party Started - Pink
I'm coming now so you better get this party started...
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hahah... that cracked me up! but then can u imagine dry ice... door swings open and then a bride and groom bobbing in...and everyone clapping...Originally posted by cApitaland:Get The Party Started - Pink
I'm coming now so you better get this party started...
nah jkjk
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Anyone in Agony?
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how to comfort ppl under stress. more specifically exam stress.
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Hahahaha! my zarkie very disappointed liao!!! go go go toilet and cry ya.Originally posted by Serene_Lee:Hi Zark,
Thanks for considering me. However I'm going to be a missus very soon.
Good that you are printing it out to read. It can be a kind of positive affirmation.
Btw, my name is Serene and not Serena. -
T_T yea.. part of it.. but gratsOriginally posted by angel7030:Hahahaha! my zarkie very disappointed liao!!! go go go toilet and cry ya.
See my angel7030 is jealous.. -
Oh yes, very jealous....i knock you head the next time u flirt here ok.Originally posted by Zarks:T_T yea.. part of it.. but grats
See my angel7030 is jealous..
Luckily this jie jie is honest to say she is going to get marry, if not i think u go for it. -
Sorry sweetie.. For the sake of you, i will not flirt anyone else but u only here..Originally posted by angel7030:Oh yes, very jealous....i knock you head the next time u flirt here ok.
Luckily this jie jie is honest to say she is going to get marry, if not i think u go for it.