Originally posted by pete_parker:
u know.. sometimes i suspect i must be extremely hideous looking or farking ugly... otherwise why would every gal i loved seem to be keeping me at arm's length?
Hahaha... my heart really bleeds each time i'm treated like dirt by the very gal i love... but what can i do if i'm born so farking repulsive that people cannot seem to love..
I know i'm a farking born loser... that's why i always keep a humble attitude in front of people, that's why i always help her in my own quiet ways... is it my fault that no one ever ever love me??

It's easy to attribute our circumstance for uncontrollable factors that we have little say in them - like you must be hideous, thus the situation. Because if you are good looking, then you won't have such plight.
Then you stopped there - thinking that it must be true and believe in that notion. A complete stop. No movement. No nothing. Just acceptance and halt.
All heart, body, mind and soul will behave according to your mindset - therefore thinking that you are a failure in love, your mindset will reverberate an aura to the universe and it beget back the same response - you will then shape a destiny of a failure in love (or in any social settings) and it transform and become a reality for you.
If you think that to win in love is to have looks, you are probably flipping the wrong text.
Let me revert you a truth - most guys
ain't good looking. In fact, in the looks aspect, most are just hovering around the average benchmark.
But there are many pretty ladies - I have always believed that for every 10 chicks around, there's probably only one good looking lad.
That's exactly how nature functions - in conventional school of thoughts: the feminine energy will exhibit a pull influence (passive), while the masculine energy will bring forth a push influence (active). An analogy I always use - flower and the bee.
A flower waits, but it doesn't sit and idle - it uses all subtle attractive powers (its scent, the colours, beauty, etc) to draw the bee towards it. A bee doesn't need to have the same quality, because the bee initiates, it doesn't attract.

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You don't have to pray for good looks to change your situation - your mindset has become so wrapped that even if I give you the best looks ever and believe me, you will still fail terribly with your mindset.
Have you ever seen a successful person with a failure mindset? Oxymoron isn't it?
Let me paint you a likely scenario:
Virtually, you rant here - claiming how much of a failure you are in love and your relationship with females in general.
Reality - you do nothing to improve.
Result - What kind of change do you hope to see then? To play as victim of love and pray that God will eventually pity you and send his Angel down as a gift?
Next? (probably a few months later) You come back online and rant once again.
Reality - no change from previous situation - no change in current situation.
Result - *refer to previous result*
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Love will wait for as long as one learns to grow up and work on him/herself. If it means forever, then love will wait forever. It would be the day when you look yourself in the mirror and tell yourself that you are going to get out of this cycle forever and vow to change your destiny.
If not: your destiny is pretty much fixed - just refer to previous result. I donÂ’t need astrology to tell you that.

Cheers