Is life really such a burden without a love partner at 17++
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People who ponder over question whether life is a burden without a life partner at 17 often envy people who gf/bf they see on the street. Seeing them happy, laughing, joking, loving, kissing, hugging, etc. All the positive elements of in a relation. You long to have one and wonders when is your turn for this to happen.
Think about this: The guy, walking hand in hand with her gf. Your glances tells you that the two of them are quite compatiable and your sense of longing steps in again while they disappear into the HDB stairs. Who knows the next minute, this guy pop the question of breaking and left, leaving the girl weeping? Do you see that? No. Because the chances for you to see someone weeping on the street is very low.
Realise that when couples have problems, they fight, argue, scold, etc, most bystanders don't see it? People only sees the good point of being in a relation on the street without realising that conflict arises within them.
Enjoy your youth and don't worry about things are are not neccessary to think about. Let nature run its course naturally, because the more you wanna grasp it, the faster it escape your fingers. -
Arr..Yunhaier..nice reply. If only there was an effective way to get this message to my troubled friends. They're trying to impress every darn gurl they see..and really..they seem to be choosing. If anyone has frens with this problem, or maybe even u urself, please..wakeup, advice your friends.
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yeah...a veri gd advice...though i still battle wif my mind n emotions.....Originally posted by Yunhaier:People who ponder over question whether life is a burden without a life partner at 17 often envy people who gf/bf they see on the street. Seeing them happy, laughing, joking, loving, kissing, hugging, etc. All the positive elements of in a relation. You long to have one and wonders when is your turn for this to happen.
Think about this: The guy, walking hand in hand with her gf. Your glances tells you that the two of them are quite compatiable and your sense of longing steps in again while they disappear into the HDB stairs. Who knows the next minute, this guy pop the question of breaking and left, leaving the girl weeping? Do you see that? No. Because the chances for you to see someone weeping on the street is very low.
Realise that when couples have problems, they fight, argue, scold, etc, most bystanders don't see it? People only sees the good point of being in a relation on the street without realising that conflict arises within them.
Enjoy your youth and don't worry about things are are not neccessary to think about. Let nature run its course naturally, because the more you wanna grasp it, the faster it escape your fingers.
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well ... im not an 'experienced lover' but i can point out one thing for sure. Not everyone in this world have the the privilege of enjoying their parents' love and the love and attention from their pals and buddies. i believe that some people desires to have a partner because they want to feel belonged to. Or rather, they would like to have a sense of companionship, someone to be there for them and all those stuffs. Look ! Wanting to have girlfriends and boyfriends doesnt mean that we wanna kiss them or play with them whatsoever. but sometimes it's just the very humanistic groan in the heart that urges us to find someone to feel belonged and loved.
On the other, there are many debates about having a partner for self-pleasure. People say that when you have a girlfriend, you should give more than expecting to be given. Well, this I really don't know. But i believe that its a very natural thing in a person's life to seek for love. Many people out there are not as fortunate as you are, who can enjoy the love and care and concern shown by your parents and friends around you.
and another question : why are we seemingly getting more and more desperate now ? havent you see the rise of family breakups, communication breakdown between brothers and sisters? the lack of security and the fear within our hearts caused by shattering pieces of news we see on the newspaper everyday? look, the world isnt getting any better and it won't (for the near future at least). Am i speaking very selfishly ? You decide. -
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A guy at 17 if they long to have a gf generally is because they sees people on the street and they feel this wanting. For some, its the physical thing that they want (see people kiss, hug,etc they also want), for others, they want the love and care from other person (someone to depend on, they also want), in any case, they start to ponder whether is it normal to be single now, another major fault from media and stuff - those taiwanese ou xiang ju,etc. Look at this all influence.Originally posted by blue_kelvinsg:well ... im not an 'experienced lover' but i can point out one thing for sure. Not everyone in this world have the the privilege of enjoying their parents' love and the love and attention from their pals and buddies. i believe that some people desires to have a partner because they want to feel belonged to. Or rather, they would like to have a sense of companionship, someone to be there for them and all those stuffs. Look ! Wanting to have girlfriends and boyfriends doesnt mean that we wanna kiss them or play with them whatsoever. but sometimes it's just the very humanistic groan in the heart that urges us to find someone to feel belonged and loved.
On the other, there are many debates about having a partner for self-pleasure. People say that when you have a girlfriend, you should give more than expecting to be given. Well, this I really don't know. But i believe that its a very natural thing in a person's life to seek for love. Many people out there are not as fortunate as you are, who can enjoy the love and care and concern shown by your parents and friends around you.
and another question : why are we seemingly getting more and more desperate now ? havent you see the rise of family breakups, communication breakdown between brothers and sisters? the lack of security and the fear within our hearts caused by shattering pieces of news we see on the newspaper everyday? look, the world isnt getting any better and it won't (for the near future at least). Am i speaking very selfishly ? You decide.
Its pretty alright to seek love like you said above, but as about WORRYING over whether life has become a burden, no colour in life liao, etc without a gf AT 17, thats a big difference. Come on, I understand your feeling if you are already 25 and 99% of all your friends are attached or when you started to reach 30, half of your friends are already married. You will panic, its a normal and natural reaction. But 17?
Being desperate has nothing to do with family problems. Its just one way to escape from the reality of problem families. Logically, if you have family problem, the first you will find is people you can trust, not seeking someone as a gf to love. From the people you trust, you will gain some form of love, attention and dependacy. Yes, not everyone are born into this world having people around them to care, but I believe tian wu jue ren zi lu, somebody is bound to be around. If there is nobody in your case, then I shall start being the first one.
This world is quite shit, but to able to retain original principles of life and love is relatively difficult. Seeing people breaking up, sad news on tv, etc, should serve to build you up, learn from them, rather than letting it break you down. Like fire, both a servant and a master - learn to work with it and even though it could be difficult, but eventually, you will never succumb to the totally destruction of your self-esteem and confidence.
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With or without a love partner at 17++, life is already a burden to some people.
Who knows? Maybe life may be a even bigger burden with a love partner at 17++.
What you want perhaps is a person to confide in, someone whom you know loves you, accepts you as who you are, listens to your worries and showers you with tender loving care and concern.
Now everyone's looking for that kind of person. It's just your turn isn't here yet, so be patient. -
yeah babay yeahOriginally posted by xavier1979:With or without a love partner at 17++, life is already a burden to some people.
Who knows? Maybe life may be a even bigger burden with a love partner at 17++.
What you want perhaps is a person to confide in, someone whom you know loves you, accepts you as who you are, listens to your worries and showers you with tender loving care and concern.
Now everyone's looking for that kind of person. It's just your turn isn't here yet, so be patient. -
Yea..fully agree. I do agree with kelvin too..not everyone gets love from his or her family and friends. Oh well..what can i say, i also no interest in gf's yet so really in no position to comment
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single=full freedom!!!!
