Am I really a failure ???
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I secretly admired a gal whom I never took notice until recently tis year. She is my senier, one year older than me and I dun even noe her. I caught sight of her in a bus..n suddenly realise is there tis person in my school ??
She is kind of cute..n somhow attracted me. Our class are juz opposite eachother. I always attempt to look over to hope to see wat she was doing. I tot of her whenever I m left alone. It feel great to see her smile. It juz feel so gd to go sch as I can see her everydae except on weekend. As for today, it is the graduation nite,the unhapppiest day of my life. After todae, I wun not haf the chance to see her . I tot of ways to approach her but I lack courage.Though encouraged by frenx, I still couldnt do it. I dun understand myself. I hate myself alot, of nt taking the oppurunity to ask whenever we cross each other. I dun even dare to speak to her.It feel like a piece of me is missing. To me, she is like an angel,for whom I could never reached up to.
I noe many of u will sey, unless u try, u will never noe.
I haf been encouraged by articles,stories and TV serial of how pple succeed becox they tried.But I juz cant seem to be motivated.
Iz there something terribly wrong with me ??
am I really a failure ? -
Can i say tt it's juz Normal ?....U r ur own Enemy. If i (Fortune-teller) tell u tt 'Allisa'Originally posted by HideX:I secretly admired a gal whom I never took notice until recently tis year. She is my senier, one year older than me and I dun even noe her. I caught sight of her in a bus..n suddenly realise is there tis person in my school ??
She is kind of cute..n somhow attracted me. Our class are juz opposite eachother. I always attempt to look over to hope to see wat she was doing. I tot of her whenever I m left alone. It feel great to see her smile. It juz feel so gd to go sch as I can see her everydae except on weekend. As for today, it is the graduation nite,the unhapppiest day of my life. After todae, I wun not haf the chance to see her . I tot of ways to approach her but I lack courage.Though encouraged by frenx, I still couldnt do it. I dun understand myself. I hate myself alot, of nt taking the oppurunity to ask whenever we cross each other. I dun even dare to speak to her.It feel like a piece of me is missing. To me, she is like an angel,for whom I could never reached up to.
I noe many of u will sey, unless u try, u will never noe.
I haf been encouraged by articles,stories and TV serial of how pple succeed becox they tried.But I juz cant seem to be motivated.
Iz there something terribly wrong with me ??
am I really a failure ?
bingo?.......she will be ur future wife. Wld u still be feeling the same like a Failure now? I bet u'll be going up to her confidently & even if she rejects u, u wont give up as well coz u r Positive tt she'll be urs .....It's ur 'Fear' who gave u away....look for 'Faith' k? 
"Sorrow looks back. Fear looks around. Faith looks up" & try here
http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=27750 -
But where to find tt faith ?
I m a totally failure... -
If u assume u r a failure, there is no way out !Originally posted by HideX:But where to find tt faith ?
I m a totally failure...
So bring ur courage out or do someting...
Givache 
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Opps...i forgot u to tell u tt it isnt EASY to find "Faith" but it's not ImpossibleOriginally posted by HideX:But where to find tt faith ?
I m a totally failure...
If u can ask me "How" instead of "Where"....i probably am able to guide u...now is 
arghhh.......
Okie....if u r asking me....i assume tt u trust my words n not doubt them at all coz my advice will Only works if u follow
1st of all, "Faith" is formless, it's in ur Heart. U need to believe in the existence of "Faith", btw, the "Fear" to fail dun live together.....when u fear the outcome, tt's it! Tell urself tt when u believe (faith), u r willing to take actions & tt's a 50/50 outcome......but if u juz believe in failure (fear), u have 0 chance of getting to know her. Be positive, tt's all! Try not to think of the outcomes...wat if u fail?....wat if she avoids u?......wat if?.....wat if?....
Dun assume...wat can "IF"s prove? Have confidence in urself. I, personally, like guys who r CONFIDENT & i doubt she'll be excited to meet someone who has no confidence in himself at all
.....It's strange to explain but almost all the gals i know....they r attracted to confident guyz despite average looks...or qualities. A strong AURA juz seem to be felt tt attracts the gals....believe me k? 
JUZ DO IT!!!! -
I used to think I haf enuff confidence for...almost anything.
But now, it seemed shattered, a line between fear and faith.
I find it very awkward to approach her in sch.( there are so many student around) and she is always accompanied by a group of frenx. There was once she was walking hme alone. yet all I do was to watch her walk passed. I haf no idea wat,how to start a conversation. My mind was as blank as paper. There are times where our eyes meet,kind of great feeling.
I haf already tried nt to think of the outcome. But in sch, I always tried to act to nt to notice her or toking to frenx. Worst still, I do negative things, that might lead her to think I haf a gf. There muz be sumt'ing wrong wif me.
All I need was a little push from my frenx..but none seemed to noe her well.I juz need to make my first introduction to step over the line of fear to faith. So I hope for alternatives..tats is IRC. but falied miserably.She doesnt seemed to haf a com.
Sigh*
a failure I m.
let God decide my fate -
think, u dun sian her other guys will, the longer u wait the less chance u will have, u are not going to lose her to some old fart/ stupid ah beng do u?? carry on, WAIT loh, maybe the $$ will fall frm the sky...
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i got a better idea, since u say she is attactive and u dun dare to approach her, why dun u be a kind soul and let us koe where is this gal???
we will be glad to help~ -
Cheer up HideX, it's not that bad. Really!
It's never easy approaching a girl, especially one you fancy. But as you so aptly put it ... nothing ventured, nothing gained. Remember, any embarrassment is only momentarily. You can't begin to fail until you have tried mate.
Yikes ... beginning to sound a little pretentious even to myself.
If all else fails why not just slip her a note or something. CHEERS!! -
So the Graduation Nite is over?
No chance to see her again?
Dun believe in Fate. In my experience, Fate doesn't believe in giving second chances to mortals. Only Luck do.
So if you see the girl again, you are Lucky. Approach the girl, say "Hi." Smile. Introduce yourself. Say you have been wanting to befriend her for a long time. Ask if she mind being friends with you. Ask for her email add or ICQ or MSN or wateva. Give her yours. Follow up from there.
Oh, btw, in my experience, Luck doesn't believe in giving third chances to mortals. Only Miracles do. -
No, but I appreciated ur offer...Originally posted by honeydew:i got a better idea, since u say she is attactive and u dun dare to approach her, why dun u be a kind soul and let us koe where is this gal???
we will be glad to help~
My situation seemed to be kind of special case
and I nt going to reveal tat... -
Originally posted by xavier1979:
Ur suggestion sounds great
So the Graduation Nite is over?
No chance to see her again?
Dun believe in [b]Fate. In my experience, Fate doesn't believe in giving second chances to mortals. Only Luck do.
So if you see the girl again, you are Lucky. Approach the girl, say "Hi." Smile. Introduce yourself. Say you have been wanting to befriend her for a long time. Ask if she mind being friends with you. Ask for her email add or ICQ or MSN or wateva. Give her yours. Follow up from there.
Oh, btw, in my experience, Luck doesn't believe in giving third chances to mortals. Only Miracles do.[/b]
But miracle dont usually happen to me...sigh*
I sure will keep tat in mind...to tat day...if I still couldnt do it...
I better go commit suicide...
Pray for me...ok
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Ok, then I advise u to go die a.s.a.p...
So humji how to chase gal? Must be a bit thick-skin mah... -
Originally posted by HideX:I sure will keep tat in mind...to tat day...if I still couldnt do it...
I better go commit suicide...
Pray for me...ok 
So serious ah??? She isn't the only tree in the forest... ... -
Nah......u dun need any prayersOriginally posted by HideX:Ur suggestion sounds great
But miracle dont usually happen to me...sigh*
I sure will keep tat in mind...to tat day...if I still couldnt do it...
I better go commit suicide...
Pray for me...ok
Miracles dun happen to pple who believes in no Action Maybe if the gal means the whole world to u tt u need to commit suicide, confess before u attempt lah...hahaha (juz joking )
Hahaha...u dun need a Push....u need a KICK in the BUTT man!!!!
Wake up Lah!!!! Whether u go to Chinese Sinseh or Western Doctors. They r still the same....u juz need to heed the Advice!!! -
http://www.llangley.com/yoga/wisdom/rightnow%5B2%5D.htm
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SAVE YOURSELF... FORGET about the girl... You've got NO CONFIDENCE, NO FAITH and she's DIFFICULT to get.... And you're NOT THINKING....Originally posted by HideX:Ur suggestion sounds great
But miracle dont usually happen to me...sigh*
I sure will keep tat in mind...to tat day...if I still couldnt do it...
I better go commit suicide...
Pray for me...ok
Why not just FORGET about everything and get yourself some sleep...? -
Opps...Originally posted by HideX:I secretly admired a gal whom I never took notice until recently tis year. She is my senier, one year older than me and I dun even noe her. I caught sight of her in a bus..n suddenly realise is there tis person in my school ??
She is kind of cute..n somhow attracted me. Our class are juz opposite eachother. I always attempt to look over to hope to see wat she was doing. I tot of her whenever I m left alone. It feel great to see her smile. It juz feel so gd to go sch as I can see her everydae except on weekend. As for today, it is the graduation nite,the unhapppiest day of my life. After todae, I wun not haf the chance to see her . I tot of ways to approach her but I lack courage.Though encouraged by frenx, I still couldnt do it. I dun understand myself. I hate myself alot, of nt taking the oppurunity to ask whenever we cross each other. I dun even dare to speak to her.It feel like a piece of me is missing. To me, she is like an angel,for whom I could never reached up to.
I noe many of u will sey, unless u try, u will never noe.
I haf been encouraged by articles,stories and TV serial of how pple succeed becox they tried.But I juz cant seem to be motivated.
Iz there something terribly wrong with me ??
am I really a failure ?
yuan lai ni ye xi xuan wo ahh...i been noticing u for so long!! u always dn tok to me...make me v throw face u know or nt...u gt guts one or nt??? come tok to me mah i so frenly...wont eat u up.....nw i grad liao u canot see me u happy lar....faster go try get my tel frm my classmate... 
if u no tink of other tings to come near me...then u go home slep ba...realy disappointed in u.!! -
Originally posted by Xiao Long Nu:Opps... yuan lai ni ye xi xuan wo ahh...i been noticing u for so long!! u always dn tok to me...make me v throw face u know or nt...u gt guts one or nt??? come tok to me mah i so frenly...wont eat u up.....nw i grad liao u canot see me u happy lar....faster go try get my tel frm my classmate... if u no tink of other tings to come near me...then u go home slep ba...realy disappointed in u.!!
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fear....
one's greatest enemy....
one's greatest regret....
courage...
one usually sought...
one usually forgotten....
one usually within.....
fight ur fears... and courage will show...
if it is fated that u noe this person.... it will happen sooner... if u put in the initiative.... hesitation puts u nowhere near......
understand... ur fear.... overcome it..... -
woa.. the girl u like really on sgforums sia.. u so lucky boy.. haha this my 1st sgforum reply anyway.
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these are all good advice. but i got another one.
forget it. unless you know where she lives or haf a phone number, you dun haf a shot at getting to her this time. the more you deny this, the more its gonna hurt.
i guess if you wanna be normal, you'd rather feel hurt in like 2 years before finally getting over her. this is what you are doing NOW. its counterproductive, but heck, you're doing it anyway.
i dun wanna confuse you with big stories like miracles do happen or love will find a way or sth like that. i'd like to get straight to the problem.
ur character.
ur character dun haf that much guts to approach her and at least talk to her. dun need to tell her you're in love with her or sth like that, unless you want a slap in the face. play your words. give her a clue. try hinting her. thats where u haf to be creative.
creativity is also part of your character which is built from ur ego. in fact, both guts and creativity is built from ur ego. if a guy doesn't have ego or confidence, it seems fate has made it a fair trial by not giving you a chance with her. and so u just miss ur chance?
what do u do?
build your confidence. learn from your failure dun dwell on it.
here i lay down the chances for u. unless you haf any means of contact with her, you have 0 chance. but if you do, then go for it. failure only comes to those who never try. but plan ahead. be sneaky about it. take things in control. dun just do as u feel, ur feelings betray u. think of the outcomes.
sorry man, i dun define life, this isn't life. its just the way things are. dun think too much about love. just like the person. love gives you all the headaches. in fact, love is only positive in fairytales. dun stay lost in it. nobody can sustain high emotions for too long. they will be in doubt forever in life after that.
stay in the clear track. if ur a man, dun weep. -
you can't even spell opportunity correctly, so yes you are.