rumours..how to solve them?
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hmm..recently i'm feeling quite down..thanks to those rumours..well..here's the situation..
there's a gal who likes a guy..but the guy rejected her..however,after a period of time..the guy accepted her and said he regretted rejecting her in the past..and so he asked the gal for stead..however the gal rejected him at first becoz she was still heartbroken...and finally after a few weeks..she accepted him..they went into BGR..
and here's the situation..when the gal was rejected by the guy,everyone pity the gal becoz that time the guy was really having a bad attitude..at that time,everyone was like asking why he didnt accept the gal becoz she's really a nice gal..and he said,'u want ar?go stead wif her la?' ..wth?nvm..and so i kinda pity the gal oso la..so i tried my best to accompany the gal or maybe try to cheer her up?and so after a period of time,we became gd frens..right..and this was the time when the guy said that he regretted rejecting the gal..and i was really happy that the gal accepted the guy..was really glad that they stead..however...there's rumours going around the class saying that i like the gal..and it was not hard for my classmates to believe becoz i was really close to the gal at that time and for the other reason is that..i do have lots of female friends (some close ones) and other ppl think i'm a flirt..right..on the first day when the couple stead(the rumour was already spreaded to the class),the rumour didnt stop..and instead,some ppl thought of seeing wad's my reaction..worst of all,there's this guy in my class whom did something that i cant believe..he whispered to my best friend(another guy) saying,'i'm waiting to see wad's his reaction when he finds out they stead' (in a laughing manner) ..he whispered this in front of me..
unfortunately,i heard wad he said..and so i pointed my middle finger at him..and now?he still thinks he's right..and he did nothing wrong..i admitted i didnt feel good after doing that but on the other side,i think he deserves it.
i then sms the couple apologising abt the rumour that's going around the class as i dun want any misunderstanding among us..luckily they understand me well enuf and so they didnt care abt the rumour..as for the guy whom i pointed the middle finger at,he's still spreading around that i pointed the middle finger and he twisted the whole thing and ended up,i'm the bad guy...
hmm..can anyone tell me wad to do with this matter?or rather wad shoud i do to him?
sorry for the long post and thank you for ur time reading it. -
About that age limit I've been talking about...when will it be implemented?
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Showdown with him. N make it clear that lying and spreading false rumours will give him a very painful experience.
Or u can just ignore... who cares. U are up there.. he is down there. If u confront every single issue , then it will have no end. Cant stop false rumours , unless u break his neck.
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thats good enough. as for that rumour monger...just ignore him childish ppl are like that..he will get tired of itOriginally posted by kenizaton:hmm..recently i'm feeling quite down..thanks to those rumours..well..here's the situation..
there's a gal who likes a guy..but the guy rejected her..however,after a period of time..the guy accepted her and said he regretted rejecting her in the past..and so he asked the gal for stead..however the gal rejected him at first becoz she was still heartbroken...and finally after a few weeks..she accepted him..they went into BGR..
and here's the situation..when the gal was rejected by the guy,everyone pity the gal becoz that time the guy was really having a bad attitude..at that time,everyone was like asking why he didnt accept the gal becoz she's really a nice gal..and he said,'u want ar?go stead wif her la?' ..wth?nvm..and so i kinda pity the gal oso la..so i tried my best to accompany the gal or maybe try to cheer her up?and so after a period of time,we became gd frens..right..and this was the time when the guy said that he regretted rejecting the gal..and i was really happy that the gal accepted the guy..was really glad that they stead..however...there's rumours going around the class saying that i like the gal..and it was not hard for my classmates to believe becoz i was really close to the gal at that time and for the other reason is that..i do have lots of female friends (some close ones) and other ppl think i'm a flirt..right..on the first day when the couple stead(the rumour was already spreaded to the class),the rumour didnt stop..and instead,some ppl thought of seeing wad's my reaction..worst of all,there's this guy in my class whom did something that i cant believe..he whispered to my best friend(another guy) saying,'i'm waiting to see wad's his reaction when he finds out they stead' (in a laughing manner) ..he whispered this in front of me..
unfortunately,i heard wad he said..and so i pointed my middle finger at him..and now?he still thinks he's right..and he did nothing wrong..i admitted i didnt feel good after doing that but on the other side,i think he deserves it.
i then sms the couple apologising abt the rumour that's going around the class as i dun want any misunderstanding among us..luckily they understand me well enuf and so they didnt care abt the rumour..as for the guy whom i pointed the middle finger at,he's still spreading around that i pointed the middle finger and he twisted the whole thing and ended up,i'm the bad guy...
hmm..can anyone tell me wad to do with this matter?or rather wad shoud i do to him?
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1) Ignore that childish guy.
2) Scream, shout, get very very angry and threaten him!(bash him up if you must), works for me dunno whether works for u. pple scared bcoz my face really red when i get angry and my physical size big as well.
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as long as you have a reputable reputation...i believe its ok...
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fark care his caustic remarks and ignore him la.
the more ur annoyed, the happier he becomes and he would want to disturb u more. -
First, the most important question that you have to ask yourself. Do you like her? You need not reply, but you just need to do some soul-searching in your heart.
To stop all the rumour, you have to stop fueling it. Just don't bother about people who created the rumour. The more you explain and clarify, the more the rumour will spread.
All rumuors dies after sometime, so just it some period of time. -
Your profile lists your year of birth as being 1991; which places you at 16 years of age - you are 5 years under the age of majority in Singapore, and still 2 years under the age of majority in Australia.Originally posted by jondizzle foshizzle:About that age limit I've been talking about...when will it be implemented?
More importantly, the test for maturity is not in reference to age.
Judging by your post, and your signature, and viewing that comparatively with the TS's mature disposition (in that he not only sought third party advice, but the courses of action in which he has so far considered reflects this), I come to the conclusion that all you are is a wiseass.
Chicks? All you'll be picking up tonight is your laundry, in your room, under your parents' roof. Enjoy the next 40 years of your life being a virgin.
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With regards TS: some rumours cannot be quelched; it might be wise to let them drift into silence - I draw analogy to the aggravation of an open wound through constant physical contact. -
wa reali sch kid stuff... next time when u older u realise tat its wasting time to be bothered abt tat..
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rumours are like the passing cloud. stay firm like a rock and it will passes by as usual. chasing after clouds is a waste of time.
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lol dont care abt dat can ler.
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1,Pretty simple ignore it.
2,Possible make clarification in front of the mass.Meaning in front of the rumors mongers and other who he had propaganda as well -
Originally posted by Y_Shun:as long as you have a reputable reputation...i believe its ok...
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Ok first of all... OUCH!! Nice choice of hurtful words thereOriginally posted by rmyfrm:Your profile lists your year of birth as being 1991; which places you at 16 years of age - you are 5 years under the age of majority in Singapore, and still 2 years under the age of majority in Australia.
More importantly, the test for maturity is not in reference to age.
Judging by your post, and your signature, and viewing that comparatively with the TS's mature disposition (in that he not only sought third party advice, but the courses of action in which he has so far considered reflects this), I come to the conclusion that all you are is a wiseass.
Chicks? All you'll be picking up tonight is your laundry, in your room, under your parents' roof. Enjoy the next 40 years of your life being a virgin.
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With regards TS: some rumours cannot be quelched; it might be wise to let them drift into silence - I draw analogy to the aggravation of an open wound through constant physical contact.
Secondly - reason why I posted that is because I really don't think 12 year old relationships and rumours are of much concern but I suppose if you want to help the kid that's fine. I mean honestly, we've all been that age once when school was tough because of us just hitting that age when we're starting to notice girls and rumours are rampant but I'm sure that you can all agree that even though it may have seem like a big deal at the time it's absolutely trivial compared to others things we had yet to experience. So I'm not being a wiseass, I just think you're taking a 13 year old's (or whatever age he is but from what he's told us about his friends he's obviously no older than 13) problem too seriously. If you guys in AA do like helping our youth, no matter how small the problem, please let me know and I'll desist.
Oh and btw, about the chicks comment, I've had gfs before and I can assure you they're HOT!
EDIT: And my signature is a reference to the movie Shaft. If you've seen it you'd get the joke. -
i'm back..sorry for the late reply..hmm..i had read all the replies one by one and i really wanna thank you guys for those comments...i noe most of u went thru this before and therefore i decided to seek help by posting it in the forum..i think i noe how to solve the prob already..thanks..
regarding the 'conflict' between jondizzle foshizzle and rmyfrm..hmm..relax la k..after all we are to discuss our prob and help each other to solve one another's prob.. peace
once again..thanks alot for the replies!
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have confidence in yourself and your frens that they wont believe in rumor mongers.
when this happens to me i chuckle it off.
pfft. believe what you want. -
meet him up with some girls then ask him y he spread those rumors. depending on what he says, humiliate him using words in front of the girls. lets see he spread faster than those girls or not.
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haha... very funny... for me indead...
i was once a rumour maker, now a rumour stopper...
i can say i am very experienced at rumour stuffs... especially at this age.
all i can say to solve ur solution is not just keep quiet and act as if nothing happened...
i have 2 solutions to u provided u must be very skilled:
1) Start a rumour on him, anyhow start, there is no need for fire to get smoke, just make some smoke urself, anyhow say he love who who, last time he tell u de, make it childish as possible, then when he say u like that girl, then say him back.... the more childish it is, the more effective..
2) "admit" the rumour in a very sarcastic way, or in a sense very fake way, then say like, " Aiyo, like that girl say i like her.... i cover up for u for so long very good le hor, u not young liao, take the initiative la... need my help?"
yeah i agree that both way is very very childish, but it is effective...
this kind has happened both me and my friends... or even my enemies...
Tip: learn to suan ppl, suan as in very sarcastic yet very humorous way... can be very useful in life whether in real world or in school, with friends or family...
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ignore himOriginally posted by kenizaton:hmm..recently i'm feeling quite down..thanks to those rumours..well..here's the situation..
there's a gal who likes a guy..but the guy rejected her..however,after a period of time..the guy accepted her and said he regretted rejecting her in the past..and so he asked the gal for stead..however the gal rejected him at first becoz she was still heartbroken...and finally after a few weeks..she accepted him..they went into BGR..
and here's the situation..when the gal was rejected by the guy,everyone pity the gal becoz that time the guy was really having a bad attitude..at that time,everyone was like asking why he didnt accept the gal becoz she's really a nice gal..and he said,'u want ar?go stead wif her la?' ..wth?nvm..and so i kinda pity the gal oso la..so i tried my best to accompany the gal or maybe try to cheer her up?and so after a period of time,we became gd frens..right..and this was the time when the guy said that he regretted rejecting the gal..and i was really happy that the gal accepted the guy..was really glad that they stead..however...there's rumours going around the class saying that i like the gal..and it was not hard for my classmates to believe becoz i was really close to the gal at that time and for the other reason is that..i do have lots of female friends (some close ones) and other ppl think i'm a flirt..right..on the first day when the couple stead(the rumour was already spreaded to the class),the rumour didnt stop..and instead,some ppl thought of seeing wad's my reaction..worst of all,there's this guy in my class whom did something that i cant believe..he whispered to my best friend(another guy) saying,'i'm waiting to see wad's his reaction when he finds out they stead' (in a laughing manner) ..he whispered this in front of me..
unfortunately,i heard wad he said..and so i pointed my middle finger at him..and now?he still thinks he's right..and he did nothing wrong..i admitted i didnt feel good after doing that but on the other side,i think he deserves it.
i then sms the couple apologising abt the rumour that's going around the class as i dun want any misunderstanding among us..luckily they understand me well enuf and so they didnt care abt the rumour..as for the guy whom i pointed the middle finger at,he's still spreading around that i pointed the middle finger and he twisted the whole thing and ended up,i'm the bad guy...
hmm..can anyone tell me wad to do with this matter?or rather wad shoud i do to him?
sorry for the long post and thank you for ur time reading it. -
why even bother
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Originally posted by Darkness_hacker99:
i agree wif ths fully i suggest u take tis advise
First, the most important question that you have to ask yourself. Do you like her? You need not reply, but you just need to do some soul-searching in your heart.
To stop all the rumour, you have to stop fueling it. Just don't bother about people who created the rumour. The more you explain and clarify, the more the rumour will spread.
[b]All rumuors dies after sometime, so just it some period of time. [/b]
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Qing zhe zhi qing..... Never let the rumours affect you and go about your own way as per normal. When others see that there is no truth in the rumours, they'll stop circulating the rumours on their own. You dun even hafta lift a finger!
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do what the celebs do.
Clarify ONCE.
Leave it at that, no point entertaining rumours.
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ya..true..hmm..i already did tat...and now's like having a cold war wif the guy whom spreaded the rumour?lol..