i am feeling confused
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You don't have to do anything, you do not know if you like her or not... that is normal. That is what dating is for. To get to know each other.Originally posted by protollium:Now comes the problem:
1. I am not sure whether she is really interested in me or does she treat all her friends the same way. Cos from her blog, I can see that there are a couple of close male friends in her life.
2. I am not sure whether I can juggle my sch work and r/s with her if I really get tgt with her.
3. I am really a shy guy like she said and when it comes to matters of the heart I dunno what to do. I nv had any female friends, not in contact with any over sms or msn.. not even sec sch frens. So i feel i am inexperience and I got no idea whether I really like her. I dunno whats the feeling of love. But everytime i would yearn to see her online and talk to her.
I do not understand myself and dunno if I really love her. How can i find the answer. I feel quite troubled over this.
What should I do now? My friends told me to talk to her more face to face and also ask her out.
So, date her out and if you like her and she rejects you, no problem, date another girl out and if you feel the need, come here to whine about how terrible it is.
If she likes you but you reject her after a few dates, introduce her to this forum to whine about how bad you are...
Life is like that, no more, no less. -
Ask her out for a date lor... looks like things are going quite smooth so just take the initiative ba. Do some activity that can generate conversations between you 2. Get to know her, treat her like a friend, and be yourself. Simple.
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Since she say her impression of u is not bad... Ask her out. Date her,like asking her out for a dinner or outing. Put effort in planning yr outing and dating.Originally posted by protollium:I told her about my feelings for her and she told me her impression of me is not bad too. she asked to take things slowly and start as friends first. Now every now and then i would sms her. Once she told he i cheered her up in sms.. I dunno how true it is or she is just patronising me.
What should I do next as in next step?
No effort no gain..... Use yr heart with conscience and maintain yr principle! -
Any recommendations as in wat activity? cos i feel movie maybe cant talk much lol... any good place the 2 of us can talk more not so noisy also?
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protollium,
Well, looks like you are doing alright.
She ask to take it slow. That's a good sign.
Do activities that does not result in awkward moments.
In the beginning, what you want is to make sure she has fun with you.
Not bore her out of her mind with your life stories.
No quiet dinners, no movies, no quiet walks on the beach.
Now is NOT the time for Romantic, now is the time for fun together.
I always recommend exhibitions/expos or other fun things both of you can do together. Activities that allows for things to talk about later. -
What is her interest? Try to coordinate the outing with some of her interest will be the best effect. For example,she like photo taking. U can think of some place with good view and share the moment with her....Originally posted by protollium:Any recommendations as in wat activity? cos i feel movie maybe cant talk much lol... any good place the 2 of us can talk more not so noisy also? -
Bad idea.Originally posted by CannyOng:What is her interest? Try to coordinate the outing with some of her interest will be the best effect. For example,she like photo taking. U can think of some place with good view and share the moment with her....
Never try to venture into her home ground if it ain't your specialized field.
Only makes you look like a fool. -
Sometimes a fool with effort looks cute to a galOriginally posted by jojobeach:Bad idea.
Never try to venture into her home ground if it ain't your specialized field.
Only makes you look like a fool.
And sometimes she maybe staying only in her small circle of specialized field that she needs someone to bring her to bigger field..
Actually for TS,it is very hard for us to give the most appropricate advice for u.
But the thing u can do for yrself is enjoy yr courtship of her and most important have fun. Be proud of yr work and don't feel so stressful. Take it as a lifetime experience. Take it positively even though sometimes things may not turn out of what u expect......
I enjoy my courtship of my gal, so can u! -
No one has any good suggestions? I am out of ideas really. Where should we go?
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i like thisOriginally posted by jojobeach:protollium,
Go forth and be a man. Go forth and flirt with her.
Try it out. Check her out. Let it all flow.
You have nothing to lose, she has nothing to lose.
So what if it falls, so what if it burns your gut out ?
If you never try plucking out that apple from the tree , how will you know it's sweetness ?
Should the earthy worms be found inside the fruit of love, will you regret it ?
To take a bite from the sweet scented fruit of desire ?
Life is short, life is never always full of roses.
Don't be afraid of rejections, don't be afraid of losing your pride.
You are here to experience life, so don't be afraid of living it the way you want it.
DON"T BE AFRAID. -
Hi Protollium,
I hope the KY is not the type of gel I am aware of... anyway jokes aside, seems like you are really confused and I guess you are attracted to girls who are pretty much the sociable type.
Actually, before you can immerse yourself in a relationship, consider if you can handle her being nice and friendly as before with other guys. If not, you might as well stop now. And by the way, I am getting the idea that you have never gone out with her before and basically chat on MSN??? duh...
If you really want to talk to her and discuss about you, her, everything, movies and cinemas are the lousiest place you can go. Why? How can you even talk to her in a cinema? In my humblest opinion, wine or beer garden will be nice... you know, a bit of alcohol can do wonders in opening up the heart to say what's not meant to be said. Of course, that could backfire on you as well.
And if you are worried about the "other guys" thing, a bit of observation while you are drinking with her can often pin down the type of guys she is eyeing at.
Do not cloud your mind by her "MSN" charm, it may not be the truth. -
Hmm i asked her out for a dinner.. eat sushi which she likes, then she told me her sister is coming to SG so she gotta accompany her this week cant go out with me.
I really dunno if she is rejecting me or if she is genuinely busy..
How u ppl decode this?
BTW she is not PRC nor Indian -
There is nothing to decode.Originally posted by protollium:Hmm i asked her out for a dinner.. eat sushi which she likes, then she told me her sister is coming to SG so she gotta accompany her this week cant go out with me.
I really dunno if she is rejecting me or if she is genuinely busy..
How u ppl decode this?
BTW she is not PRC nor Indian
Have a little bit of faith.
Be more optimistic. Be happy for her , that her family is here to visit her.
It is natural that she would like to spend more time with her own family.
You can always offer to bring her sister around too.
Recommend a place for all of you to visit. -
Um hey, just wanna let you know.. when a gal said wanna start things slowly as a friends 1st.. doesnt mean she like u ok... So, again dun dream..Originally posted by protollium:I told her about my feelings for her and she told me her impression of me is not bad too. she asked to take things slowly and start as friends first. Now every now and then i would sms her. Once she told he i cheered her up in sms.. I dunno how true it is or she is just patronising me.
What should I do next as in next step?
i also got one gal who always say go slowly and start as afriend first ... but hey... she wont sms me or call me dude... how funny is that.. waiting for me? wow thats so bullshyt..
and when a gal said you cheered her up in msn or watever.. she meant it , ok? so just be happy that you did something that cheered her up.. -
So just believe her la.. you cant do much if she really wanted to cheat on youOriginally posted by protollium:Hmm i asked her out for a dinner.. eat sushi which she likes, then she told me her sister is coming to SG so she gotta accompany her this week cant go out with me.
I really dunno if she is rejecting me or if she is genuinely busy..
How u ppl decode this?
BTW she is not PRC nor Indian
Yea, i know how its like, its this one gal i've always ask her out.. but im not sure at 1st if shes lying to me that shes busy or with the same excuse that her cousin wanted to go out with her... but i found out she went out with another guy from my company and have been lying to me all the time... which really hurt my feeling and i would appreciate it if she just told me the truth... shes a nice gal but lack of ability to think and prefer lying and gave me stupid promise... i guess its really hard to believe any gal right now... most words from them are bullshyts... sory gals , its my experience that im very disapointed with stupid gals -
Not PRC, not Indian, must be either Bangala, Mynamar, filipino, thai or indonesian.Originally posted by protollium:Hmm i asked her out for a dinner.. eat sushi which she likes, then she told me her sister is coming to SG so she gotta accompany her this week cant go out with me.
I really dunno if she is rejecting me or if she is genuinely busy..
How u ppl decode this?
BTW she is not PRC nor Indian
Look, from my 2 years romance and courtship relationship, she is not interested, however in term of friendship, she still very much wanted to be your frens. So, stay as frens first, then see how lor.
If a gal is really interested, she will have accomdate you, she will have call you often, she will have ask about your life and she will have very much wanted to know your family, your habit and your heart. -
I asked her out for lunch and she told me she is skipping lunch and has to go to the computer lab to do some stuff... so i kens rejected twice le
Just saw in another thread on Types of rejection faced in BGR:
1. the girl will say she thinks that us being friends now is very great le.
2. i like u but im not ready
3. i dono if u reli lk u or some other guy anot
so i was wondering if there is still hope for me... cos she told me b4 she is not ready.... ie no. 2
should i give up.. cos every time on msn she would still take the initiative to say hi to me first. I really dunno man....on this I am not ready statement..
BTW she not Thai, Indian, Indon, she is from up north...
Does she really mean she is not ready or is she hinting to me that we are impossible -
I hope I am not dreaming really.. cos i am noob in thisOriginally posted by Zarks:Um hey, just wanna let you know.. when a gal said wanna start things slowly as a friends 1st.. doesnt mean she like u ok... So, again dun dream..
i also got one gal who always say go slowly and start as afriend first ... but hey... she wont sms me or call me dude... how funny is that.. waiting for me? wow thats so bullshyt..
and when a gal said you cheered her up in msn or watever.. she meant it , ok? so just be happy that you did something that cheered her up..
She is blowing hot and cold towards me and i am really confused -
Hi protollium,
Can I post your question in my blog and provide u some answers there?
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ok no probOriginally posted by aluvguru:Hi protollium,
Can I post your question in my blog and provide u some answers there?