i slapped my boyfriend
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what happened before he said he wanted to splash you with hot water.
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Exactly. We don't know what the context is, petti, so no one can give any sensible advice yet.Originally posted by dumbdumb!:what happened before he said he wanted to splash you with hot water. -
slap slap slap de hao
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Both also has violent behaviour. Both also immature to handle a relationship. Both also don't know how to be nice to each other. Both are still in the courtship phase yet they treat each other like that. Can't imagine what will they do to each other should they finally tie the knot [shudders]
. But then don't think both will even get a chance to even talk about 'marriage' for both are clearly not made for each other. That's plain for all to see. Better split before we see news about boyfriend and girlfriend killed each other over something stupid. 
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Doko and Sturmder,Originally posted by SturmDerSchatten:Exactly. We don't know what the context is, petti, so no one can give any sensible advice yet.
What kind of scenario warrants a man to intimidate his woman with physical violence ?
The answer is :NONE.
So, it does not matter what TS did or said to him. -
I suppose you've lost all sense of rationality in your jingoistic defence of your gender, haven't you?Originally posted by jojobeach:Doko and Sturmder,
What kind of scenario warrants a man to intimidate his woman with physical violence ?
The answer is :NONE.
So, it does not matter what TS did or said to him.
If a woman runs after a man with a chopper, is a man still not entitled to self-defence which requires a man to be violent by conventional standards? -
Hmm ? Jingoistic ? LOL... you think ?Originally posted by walesa:I suppose you've lost all sense of rationality in your jingoistic defence of your gender, haven't you?
If a woman runs after a man with a chopper, is a man still not entitled to self-defence which requires a man to be violent by conventional standards?
So you are assuming TS is a crazy woman who will do such thing as running after him with a chopper ?
If she does, wouldn't you think she would have chopped him up instead of giving him a slap ?
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/pat pat..Originally posted by petti:i feel so sad. there are so much bitterness in my heart. so much regrets. but i know, we cant turn back the clock.
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Just addressing your point that under NO circumstances should a man ever be violent to a woman...Originally posted by jojobeach:Hmm ? Jingoistic ? Wats that ?
So you are assuming TS is a crazy woman who will do such thing as running after him with a chopper ?
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rubbish.Originally posted by jojobeach:Doko and Sturmder,
What kind of scenario warrants a man to intimidate his woman with physical violence ?
The answer is :NONE.
So, it does not matter what TS did or said to him.
so its ok if women gets violent, and men get trodden underfoot?
its ok if women are bitchy and rude and condecending and arrogant, and get away with such attitude?
its ok if women threaten men with violence but not the other way around.
i think you need to re-evaluate la. because sometimes the men are victimized. they're too nice and naive and women exploit the laws to get what they want.
in the begining, women rights group fought for EQUALITY between the sexes.
unfortunately, i don't think its very equal now. -
I think you must accept the fact that women and men are never equal. And it will never be.Originally posted by dumbdumb!:rubbish.
so its ok if women gets violent, and men get trodden underfoot?
its ok if women are bitchy and rude and condecending and arrogant, and get away with such attitude?
its ok if women threaten men with violence but not the other way around.
i think you need to re-evaluate la. because sometimes the men are victimized. they're too nice and naive and women exploit the laws to get what they want.
in the begining, women rights group fought for EQUALITY between the sexes.
unfortunately, i don't think its very equal now.
What women fight for are not equality, but the right to be protected from men's oppression. More rightfully men's irresponsibility.
The only way both sexes can be equal , is when women grows a diak and men grows a womb.
There are specific roles each gender are born to perform.
No matter how hard we try to cross over the boundaries, there will always be more shortcomings than given.
No matter how you look at it, the men, should never abuse what physical strength God had bestowed on him.
To use it agianst a weaker sex, what justice can it ever achieve even when he is threatened by she?
Trust me, women are more biatchy and condescending to their own kinds.
Yes, it is true, as much as men exploit the weaker sex, there are women who will exploit the system. This is not a perfect world we live in. But learn to understand on a case by case basis. -
sometimes there is a need la. i've seen cases where guys can't do anything when their girlfriends were abusive towards them, always pinching them or throwing stuff at them etc.Originally posted by jojobeach:I think you must accept the fact that women and men are never equal. And it will never be.
What women fight for are not equality, but the right to be protected from men's oppression. More rightfully men's irresponsibility.
The only way both sexes can be equal , is when women grows a diak and men grows a womb.
There are specific roles each gender are born to perform.
No matter how hard we try to cross over the boundaries, there will always be more shortcomings than given.
No matter how you look at it, the men, should never abuse what physical strength God had bestowed on him.
To use it agianst a weaker sex, what justice can it ever achieve even when he is threatened by she?
Trust me, women are more biatchy and condescending to their own kinds.
Yes, it is true, as much as men exploit the weaker sex, there are women who will exploit the system. This is not a perfect world we live in. But learn to understand on a case by case basis.
women think they can do whatever they want just because they're the "Weaker" sex.
i'm not advocating violence, i agree that hitting women is wrong. but i don't agree that there is nothing that men should do nothing and get taken advantaged of. -
well said jojo~!Originally posted by jojobeach:The only way both sexes can be equal , is when women grows a diak and men grows a womb. -
Is violent retaliation the only way a man can use to deal with a woman trying to take advantage ? If you sit down and think, there are many.Originally posted by dumbdumb!:sometimes there is a need la. i've seen cases where guys can't do anything when their girlfriends were abusive towards them, always pinching them or throwing stuff at them etc.
women think they can do whatever they want just because they're the "Weaker" sex.
i'm not advocating violence, i agree that hitting women is wrong. but i don't agree that there is nothing that men should do nothing and get taken advantaged of.
Physical strength is given to men to PROTECT what he loves , NOT to be use against them. -
This is fun..
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move on thenOriginally posted by petti:i feel so sad. there are so much bitterness in my heart. so much regrets. but i know, we cant turn back the clock. -
Den is violent retaliation the only way a woman can use to deal with a man trying to take advantage?Originally posted by jojobeach:Is violent retaliation the only way a man can use to deal with a woman trying to take advantage ? If you sit down and think, there are many.
Physical strength is given to men to PROTECT what he loves , NOT to be use against them.
I agree man and woman can never be equal, but we must do to our best to make it as equal as possible. How to equal if every time woman can slap man and get aways with it?
If a man sexually harrass a woman, and the woman slaps the man back. Can the man sue the woman for assault irregardless whether the woman counter sues or sues the man first for sexual harrasment?
If a female robber robs a man, with the aid of weapons and tools manages to win the man by force, and the man retaliates in the process. Is the man condemned of using violence against woman or should the man just do nothing and hand over the money??
what if the woman he loves threatens to harm his family whom he also love?
these may be isolated cases, all i'm trying to say, if your'r point is that man should never use violence against woman, shouldn't the females also do a reflection of themselves?
If every girl abuses the fact they are the "weaker" sex, I'm certain most man is willing to give up their gift of physical strength and grow a womb. There are many things in the world that are more torturing than physical violence, emotional abuse is one of them.
Never impose on others what you would not choose for yourself - Confucius
Some woman just think their vagi** owns every other di** and vagi**. -
I'm a girl, but I don't support petti's action of slapping the guy. Even if the guy threatened him, she is also in the wrong to have slapped him...It is basically a rash decision...the boyfriend is also in the wrong to have threatened her, but she shouldn't retaliate by slapping him...Originally posted by jojobeach:Doko and Sturmder,
What kind of scenario warrants a man to intimidate his woman with physical violence ?
The answer is :NONE.
So, it does not matter what TS did or said to him. -
what was his reaction?Originally posted by petti:am i wrong?
my boyfriend said he will splash the cup of hot water at my face, and i slapped him. am i wrong? -
and only 1 hand to slapOriginally posted by laurence82:it takes two hands to clap -
Your bf said only, you can just walk away and refuse to acknowledge him further. Perhap later, he may apologise to you, if not, I dun think you have a good bf there.Originally posted by petti:am i wrong?
my boyfriend said he will splash the cup of hot water at my face, and i slapped him. am i wrong?
For you, you are violent, you undertake the action of causing physical bodily hurt to someone, under the common laws, you are wrong.
Remember alway move away from a violence scene whereby both are in Hot mood, after a while, when things are cooler, think it over and you will find the answer.
Our action will alway reflect our behavior and characteristics, it is therefore important to change to adapt if you really want such a bf that you choose, let say if next time, in the kitchen, while you are chopping carrots and both of you have an arguement, and he says he will cook you up, guess you may just take the knife or chopper and poke into him.
Think it over ya, violent relationship is greatly not encouraged. -
plus a faceOriginally posted by tare:and only 1 hand to slap -
The prescribed punishment must be reasonably equivalent to the harm caused to the victim, taking into account the manner in which the harm is expressed.Originally posted by petti:am i wrong?
my boyfriend said he will splash the cup of hot water at my face, and i slapped him. am i wrong?
When he say: ''i'm going to splash hot water into your face'' did you apprehend an immediate fear of physical harm?
If so, then he would have assaulted you.
However, taking into account the fact that you responded in such a way as to cause some harm (or attempt to cause), it would be a persuasive basis for an inference of non-apprehension of fear.
Was your battery (a contact with another, whether or not amounting to hurt or physical pain, with an intention of causing such contact) a reasonable response to such a threat of violence, taking into account the injury caused by you and the tone of voice and manner of body position and gesture of your victim?
If not then
a) You will be culpable in causing harm to your boyfriend
b) liable to pay for any medical expenses as required
Was the response an effective (to the mind of the victim) way of preventing such a threat from being carried out? Or was the response a reckless act which would potentially accelerate the violent party into carrying out his aforesaid threat?
If so, then your act of slapping him was
a) Reckless as to endanger own life
b) A case of mutually-intended assault
All these should be adequate for your question of whether slapping your boyfriend is ''wrong''.
Is wife beating wrong? Is any physical harm caused to another wrong?
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A vocal threat of violence per se is not sufficient basis for any criminal charge to arise. If that was so, many of us would end up being locked up. The question to ask concerns both intent and potential to cause such act. You can't, for example, stab someone if you have no limbs. Was your boyfriend actually holding a cup of hot water? Or was he reasonably in a position to immediately acquire such cup as to present the victim with such expediency and threat as to apprehend the violence being carried out?Originally posted by jojobeach:Obigor,
Are you trying to compensate for something ? I hope not.
FYI: Ever heard of " the best defense is a good offense" ?
Do you realised that hot water damage on a woman's delicate skin can be PERMANENT ?
A slap on his thick face will only leave welts for a day or two.
If I am her, I'd have hauled him to the police station, and have him locked up for 24 hours.
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you lawyer ar? sound so pro
