I don't understand the thing call love
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Love.. Why is that some people hunger so much for it yet able to get none while others just abuse it when they have it. Life just isnt fair.
I met this girl. In her life, theres always been so much problems, love, friendship, family. I am always with her facing the problems with her. I knew that i love her.. and through time, i know she loves me too.
We became a sweet couple. But things dint last long. The thing is that, she still can't get over her ex. No matter what i did for her, how much she care for her, she cant repay my love by loving me back. She says she feels tired, not because of me, but because she dont want to be in a r/s. I am devastated. Why cant she let me help her get over it slowly. I promise her to give her time. But slowly it seems that time itself just isnt enough. I just cant be the one for her despite the effort i put in. I don't understand why. She just couldnt trust me and believe things can work out. She dint wanna try anymore. Or maybe.. She dint even try at all. I don't mind slowly waiting for her to slowly putting little tiny bits of efforts into this r/s but why is it that, no matter what i do, i just cant touched her heart. I love her deeply and i want her to be happy but I am sad with myself. Maybe I am just not suitable for love. Everytime i fell in love with someone, instead of feeling happy, i will get double the sadness. I feel like giving up in love. Life just sucks.. At least for me.. Life sucks.
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there are more reasons than love to deem life sucks.
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I know what you mean. But its just that, i don't find someone i like deeply and easily and i treat love as an important factor in my life. This girl made me fall deeply in love with her. A feeling i thought i have lost long ago. So along the way, i carried all the sadness feeling in me while showing a smiley and strong front for her just to make her feel happy. Thinking of ways to console her, give her surprises, listening to her problems. But it seems that despite the 150% effort i put in this time.. She just dint felt it. Maybe the problem just lie in me, myself.Originally posted by Ito_^:there are more reasons than love to deem life sucks. -
Wrong Situation, Wrong timing, Wrong Way to love.Originally posted by EggBreak:Love.. Why is that some people hunger so much for it yet able to get none while others just abuse it when they have it. Life just isnt fair.
I met this girl. In her life, theres always been so much problems, love, friendship, family. I am always with her facing the problems with her. I knew that i love her.. and through time, i know she loves me too.
We became a sweet couple. But things dint last long. The thing is that, she still can't get over her ex. No matter what i did for her, how much she care for her, she cant repay my love by loving me back. She says she feels tired, not because of me, but because she dont want to be in a r/s. I am devastated. Why cant she let me help her get over it slowly. I promise her to give her time. But slowly it seems that time itself just isnt enough. I just cant be the one for her despite the effort i put in. I don't understand why. She just couldnt trust me and believe things can work out. She dint wanna try anymore. Or maybe.. She dint even try at all. I don't mind slowly waiting for her to slowly putting little tiny bits of efforts into this r/s but why is it that, no matter what i do, i just cant touched her heart. I love her deeply and i want her to be happy but I am sad with myself. Maybe I am just not suitable for love. Everytime i fell in love with someone, instead of feeling happy, i will get double the sadness. I feel like giving up in love. Life just sucks.. At least for me.. Life sucks. -
Now is the period when you should help her as a friend, not a lover. R/s is really another one whole problem adding to her current problems. Give her time, don't blame yourself. Love is not about giving up but holding on. Hold on to the her for her my friend, don't give up.
I believe one day she will be touched by your actions. -
Hmm.. Yes, how could i have thought of giving up. I get what you mean. I seems to have forgotten how to treat her like a friend and instead pressurizing her with r/s problems. I wont give up. I believe some day she will understand me enough to let herself trust in me.Originally posted by Darkness_hacker99:Now is the period when you should help her as a friend, not a lover. R/s is really another one whole problem adding to her current problems. Give her time, don't blame yourself. Love is not about giving up but holding on. Hold on to the her for her my friend, don't give up.
I believe one day she will be touched by your actions. -
When you first enter love, I believe you should always use your head more than your heart. If you give love so freely, you should expect to have your heart crushed a thousand times before someone will reciprocate. The other party has to feel like she has to, and wants to, work for your love and she's not ready to do that.. so why should you entertain that? I'm not saying you should be calculative.. just abit more guarded in matters of the heart.
Let's put it this way - if you were a limitless water tap, people would probably just leave u on day and night. But if you placed a limit on how much water you gave out, people would suddenly realise how valuable you are and treat you accordingly.
I would think it's best to retreat a little, show her that you're no interim boyfriend replacement but at the same time show her you've got the potential to be so much more. -
1+1 not =2
in love
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yea lor..agreeableOriginally posted by yiha093:1+1 not =2
in love -
Your technique is suitable for a car or a motorcycle, or a pet, and even a project, but not for a human being.
You fail to understand that the girl has her own feelings and wishes, her own problems, her own psyche, and temperment. She is her own person. You did not respect that.
You think by being understanding, loving, helpful, would do the trick. You are just being technical.
She is not an object. That is what you found out. And that is the dissapointment.
Help her as a person who needs to be helped. That all.
Don't expect anything in return. That's where many people get dissapointed. Poor returns.
You say you love her, but believe me you will dump her in no time, when you find someone who respond to you techniques.
Maybe, just maybe, you will know what love is when you are old and with grandchildren running around you.
You can only know what love is with hindsight.
Then maybe, too, you'll never know. -
Perhaps TS should take a long hard look at himself?
It's not thatr the girl is not trying to free herself from her past. I think she's been trying. You are the one who seems running outta patience..... and you say you love her? If you do, you would continue to support her and not rail about this. It seems that all you are interested is to just conquer her....
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it takes 2 hands to clap
if 1 party is unwilling in the r/s why should u pursue ur love in her further. -
Yup, u guys are right. I seem to have just rush things too much. I cant deny that the whole problem could have been mostly caused by me. i thought about the whole situation these few days. I slowly realize that instead of helping, i just might really be causing her stress. So u guys can go ahead flaming me, cos i know i am in the wrong this time. So, I have made up my mind to just start a new page with her, not as a lover, but as a friend. Knowing her and understanding her more this time round and hopefully slowly progressing this time round. Really hope so. By the way, she didnt just broke up with her bf these few weeks, its been already near 1 year. But yup, different people require different amount of time to recover, me, myself has the same problem yet i failed to realize that myself and even rush things out. Perhaps i am really not ready yet.
To Spinsugar: thanks for ur reply, i get what you mean. I realise that i have been really giving out water without a limit. Till an extend, i have to act that i am alright in front of her when i am not. I will heed your advice on those words you said.
To mancha: Maybe you are right, i seems to have do things to my style, neglecting her as her ownself. About the dump the girl part, i highly doubt so though, cos it really takes me a long time to begin liking someone, not to say loving someone. But well.. I really might not know what love is for now, but i really hope i am able to find out soon. Thanks for your reply too. -
When your partner keep saying he/she is tired, it means your partner is "tired" of you and doesnt love you enough.
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Foolish little boy.
Love does not exist for it is merely a manifestation of the mind.
Get over such petty provocation. -
Love is a complicated things!
hope u will understand it soon or later
And love cannot be rushed.
Let it come naturally! But dun give up! Hold on!
Dun presurrized her but let her know that u care for her!
jia you! =p -
How can one truly cherish the fruits of his or her labour if one hasn't worked for it?
Similarly, why are you giving up just because of a few failed relationships? Life don't suck; life is an empty cheque with a signature on it- up to you to fill a figure. How your life is depends on how you want it to be.
Most people don't end up marrying their first love. For those who do, good for them.
For the rest of us, these failed relationships teaches us how to spot the correct one next time. It gives us an invaluable lesson, to evolve ourselves. Some take a longer time to find the right partner. Some only need one more try.
Don't think your failed relationships taught you anything?
Look at the question in your first sentence and think again.
Didn't they teach you how to cherish love?
Often we are stuck to only one point of view, that we forget that we live in a three-dimensional world (or more, but that's hardly the point). There are many ways to viewing a situation or problem.
Let your current girlfriend go. She needs breathing space, and so do you. Let her sort out her feelings.
Maybe she would return, maybe she wouldn't. But do you really want to force her to stay by your side? She deserves someone she loves, and you deserve someone who loves you.
Good luck and remember, it's only after the rain that we see the rainbow. -
Love is love. It is just a sweet fake feeling.
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u jz need to give her time n space... as long as u give ur true love she wun forget abt u...Originally posted by EggBreak:Love.. Why is that some people hunger so much for it yet able to get none while others just abuse it when they have it. Life just isnt fair.
I met this girl. In her life, theres always been so much problems, love, friendship, family. I am always with her facing the problems with her. I knew that i love her.. and through time, i know she loves me too.
We became a sweet couple. But things dint last long. The thing is that, she still can't get over her ex. No matter what i did for her, how much she care for her, she cant repay my love by loving me back. She says she feels tired, not because of me, but because she dont want to be in a r/s. I am devastated. Why cant she let me help her get over it slowly. I promise her to give her time. But slowly it seems that time itself just isnt enough. I just cant be the one for her despite the effort i put in. I don't understand why. She just couldnt trust me and believe things can work out. She dint wanna try anymore. Or maybe.. She dint even try at all. I don't mind slowly waiting for her to slowly putting little tiny bits of efforts into this r/s but why is it that, no matter what i do, i just cant touched her heart. I love her deeply and i want her to be happy but I am sad with myself. Maybe I am just not suitable for love. Everytime i fell in love with someone, instead of feeling happy, i will get double the sadness. I feel like giving up in love. Life just sucks.. At least for me.. Life sucks. -
She realized you are not the right one for her.
Don't force love. -
u shouyld be glad that you guys not in r/s anymore cuz this gal doesnt want to cheat you that she still think her ex... man, sory, you can either forget it or you can wait.. but waiting will be painful...
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There is great wisdom in the Calvinism Jesus God.
If you can't solve your problem in the mundane world,
I would sincerely advise you to ask the Calvinism Jesus God.
Then you can have a more impersonal view on the RELATION between you and her.
Of course,
if you can solve your problem in the mundane world,
then you needn't take my advice at all. -
BTW: WHAT IS THE MEANING OF "R/S" ?
"R/S" ?
"R/S" ?
"R/S" ? -
R/s is relationship lah
To ts, ah, u can't force love. -
X2.....everything is wrongOriginally posted by Darkness_hacker99:Wrong Situation, Wrong timing, Wrong Way to love.