Confused

• seaworld

  25 Oct 07, 20:57

  recently just confessed to the ger I like. I got to know from her that she agreed to go out with me for 6 times initially is becos she like me and wanna see if we can go further...
  
  then rejected me for the rest of the dates..which she feel we lack of chemistry..we can chat. can click...I really dun know what chemistry she is toking abt. ..zzz..
  
  after i confessed to her, she say she wun go out with me anymore but still will reply my sms/msn.
  
  so what is it she wants? still reply my sms /msn but wun go out anymore...
  
  then after much assurance , persuasion, her final reply is she wanted to concentrate on her work and be frens for the time being...how true is this sentence?
  
  what should i do now? cont sms/msn like normal.. or??
• Agenda

  25 Oct 07, 20:58

  you are not what she seeks in a boyfriend.
• dbowie

  25 Oct 07, 21:01

  s3x lor. what else ?
• AndrewPKYap

  25 Oct 07, 21:05

  don't worry... be happy...
  
  why can't you just take it easy and just continue everything naturally and normal and if she has no boyfriend and you are still interested with her, then date her out, until she finds a boyfriend and has no more time for you or you find another girl to be your girlfriend and you have no more time for her...
  
  just don't worry... be happy...
  
  and continue as per normal...
• Sakuraflower

  26 Oct 07, 00:10

  whether u become her friend or her bf..
  
  well from what u have say , she just want to be friend with you , continous to be her friend..
  
  but the probability of become the bf is slightly lower , but still have the chance..
  
  but dun just focus on her, know other girls too..
  
  then give urself a period of time to confess ur feeling again.. if did not work out, can still be friend and move on!
  
  
• BrUtUs

  26 Oct 07, 00:19

  Originally posted by seaworld:

  recently just confessed to the ger I like. I got to know from her that she agreed to go out with me for 6 times initially is becos she like me and wanna see if we can go further...
  
  then rejected me for the rest of the dates..which she feel we lack of chemistry..we can chat. can click...I really dun know what chemistry she is toking abt. ..zzz..
  
  after i confessed to her, she say she wun go out with me anymore but still will reply my sms/msn.
  
  so what is it she wants? still reply my sms /msn but wun go out anymore...
  
  then after much assurance , persuasion, her final reply is she wanted to concentrate on her work and be frens for the time being...how true is this sentence?
  
  what should i do now? cont sms/msn like normal.. or??

  she give u a chance to impress her but u failed... since she dun look like giving u another chance then f it n move on... dun sms her liao since she already shut the door n doing more will make u look desperate... lost the war nvm, now dun lose face... there r better gals out there...
• Ms Poh

  26 Oct 07, 00:23

  After reading this "confused" section of the forum, in this case I am interested to find out from the men's perspective. For guys keen to pursue a gal, what signals whether directly or indirectly will they send?
• CannyOng

  26 Oct 07, 00:26

  Originally posted by Ms Poh:

  After reading this "confused" section of the forum, in this case I am interested to find out from the men's perspective. For guys keen to pursue a gal, what signals whether directly or indirectly will they send?

  Continue to follow up.. Still call and sms as often as ever,still trying to date u out,blah,blah....
• Pion

  26 Oct 07, 00:28

  6 times wor.
  
  Normally less than 3 and she decide whether to be your gf or not. In this case, she has given you enough chances.
• Jezmeister

  26 Oct 07, 01:44

  Originally posted by AndrewPKYap:

  don't worry... be happy...
  

  please tell me you flap around attached to a little wooden board when you say that...
  
  oh and do you not have any female friends or something? lol as much as it's the harshest rejection methinks she just wants to be mates...
• queen0ftiara

  26 Oct 07, 16:27

  In other words, trying to avoid u with excuses. Leave her alone la
• de_middle

  29 Oct 07, 13:30

  2 words = move on
• Isis

  29 Oct 07, 13:41

  I think she treat u like a friend but cannot be a bf
  
  as for u, u probably need to nurse ur wound.
  
  
• Uncertain

  29 Oct 07, 13:50

  she has no feeling for u lor, simple as that
• maskedangel

  29 Oct 07, 15:06

  Dude, maybe she is juz as confused as u are?
  Try to tink what she maybe thinking. . .
  hmmm . .
• 77th Cloud

  29 Oct 07, 18:19

  Study more chemistry.
  
  1. the science that deals with the composition and properties of substances and various elementary forms of matter.
• Darkness_hacker99

  30 Oct 07, 05:46

  Chemistry is my forte, you can ask me if you need help.
  
  @ O level only
• dokono

  30 Oct 07, 11:52

  I've come to realise that many people simply do not accept the truth as they are. This includes myself.
  
  Now that you are in a state of confusion, whatever truth that is presented to you will be twisted in your eyes and you will not accept it.
  
  The truth is: she doesn't dig you. Accept it and move on. If she's yours, she will be yours. No amount of forcing, convincing or explaining will make her come to you.
  
  So, just accept it like a man.
  
  doko
• Zarks

  30 Oct 07, 16:04

  if i were u, i wont treat her like usual..
  
  i mean wat the hell she say she likes u then suddenly no chemistry ? wtf ? that i see as playing ur feeling dude,, and u still cool with it? lol
  
  Just ignore her.. this kind of gal dono what they really want.. i think she just met another richer and more handsome guy than u..
  
  too bad, ur gal only puppy love.. not real one.. just ignore her.. that little gal