help me please..
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im a guy, 21 this year.. im in a relationship with another girl, 25.
can someone please tell me what should i do? im really upset with myself and this relationship...
i always remember the anniversary, i initates the celebration, i surprise her, i give her anything she wants..
i give up anything for her.. but she always dun really care about me.. im always the 1 who sms or calls her first..
whens shes out and i sms her to ask her wats she doing, she often quarrels with me saying im locking her down,
not giving her space. but, all i sms was things like "muacks wat u doing?" "im bored, where u baby?" at times.
she got a bike, and she takes care of her bike more than me.
we have quite afew arguments last time... but recently.. some incidents made me really upset.
1) i was overseas for 10 days and she promised me that she would watch this particular movie with me. when i came back
she had already watch it with another guy. i was quite upset and i asked her why did she break her promise, all she
said was sorry, and thats all. she did nothing. Im not upset that she didn't watch the movie with me, but instead
i was upset that she broke her promise. it is such a simple thing and yet she couldn't keep her promise. i feel all this
minor issues are the 1 that keeps a good relationship going.
2) 2 days ago was our 1.5 year anniversary, i surprised her in the morning by sending her to work, and she knew we
gonna have dinner on the day itself. later in the afternoon, she sms and hinted that she prefer going riding with
her friends. i don't want her to be doing something she don't want to do, so i asked her to go riding.
But, deep down, i feel really sad.
3) Today we had an argument. I told her afew days ago This week is the only week im free, as the next few weeks i'll be
busy with my work, so i reserved this entire week to spend with her. She spend 1 day away on 2), didn't meet her for 2 days
and she told me this saturday her bike friend birthday. after work shes going, from evening onwards.
I FELT REALLY REALLY DOWN when i heard it, i already told her i'll be free this week and i really expected her
to reserve more time with me. she didn't.
when we argued on the phone, i asked her whats her piority was. she said her piority is her life.
i really duno what to say anymore. i can give up anything for her, but i know she will not.
This few nights had been some really tearful nights.
I love her so much that i really wish i could stab myself for even arguing with her. -
She doesn't like you. find someone else and move on.
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It her loss that she doesnt appericate u..why make urself so torture.. so sad..
U still young.. Let go and get moving.. 
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Move on my friend~~~she certainly does'nt cares about u anymore
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Originally posted by crave86:
deep down i think u know the answer ....
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when we argued on the phone, i asked her whats her piority was.
she said her piority is her life.
i really duno what to say anymore.
i can give up anything for her, but i know she will not.
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i dun wanna give up on this r/s.. i wanna be with her.. i have been in afew relationships before and i had never felt how i felt when im with her..
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too bad... u have to accept that she never loveed u at all..
Yes.. accept it..
This is a cruel world where most ppl only think of themselves.. yea... more to animal than human.. -
sad but true, yeah let go....dun hurt urself by holding on any longerOriginally posted by dreamykite:She doesn't like you. find someone else and move on. -
yeap yeap...
so far.. all the replies.. i agree! -
maybe she doesnt dare to break your heart. and she's prob leaving hints. and you prob got them. thats what i think lah.
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Dear Crave86,
Position yourself into another person's shoe if you would want to understand that particular person. A relationship is not only about love, it is about loyalty, trust and friendship.
From what I understand, this girl does not have the above characteristic to be with you anymore. This is a typical 1 sided love case, in this case, you were the unfortunate one who contributed in many efforts and showered many emotional attachment to it.
Learn to live life alone at times.. you will along the way discovers many wonderous moments with the people around you, the natural wonders, the trees, the mountains, the animals and even the tiny creatures which many people had ignored.
My advice to you is to move on, as you are still very young, its a great journey ahead. There are many other women waiting for your love and will give you what you will deserve.
Trust me, one fine day, this present girl of yours will regret for what she had done to you and will wish to be by your side whenever she encounters a bad relationship with another guy, for what you have hurt to others, others will repay you with the same hurt. This is known as Boomerang effect. or as buddhist known as Karma (Instant or Prolonged)
Crave 86, take my advice to move on and meet more people and importantly to travel and take a break, you will definitely realised that the world is bigger than you had expected and due to culture differences whilst travelling, the people you meet are definitely worth consider as life time friend.
am writing to you from my rental house in Ban Senayao, Chiangrai, where I've been staying for the past 3 years... as I like you before. am sick of the systems, (politcal and bad leadership) and people in our homeland.
Take care and write to me whenever you need someone to chat with.
Regards -
She is the man and you are the girl ya, to my experience with lesbian friends, I can say 90% she is a lesbian who love gal more than man, but can be bisexual at times. So forget about it, you are not in her dictionary.Originally posted by crave86:im a guy, 21 this year.. im in a relationship with another girl, 25.
can someone please tell me what should i do? im really upset with myself and this relationship...
i always remember the anniversary, i initates the celebration, i surprise her, i give her anything she wants..
i give up anything for her.. but she always dun really care about me.. im always the 1 who sms or calls her first..
whens shes out and i sms her to ask her wats she doing, she often quarrels with me saying im locking her down,
not giving her space. but, all i sms was things like "muacks wat u doing?" "im bored, where u baby?" at times.
she got a bike, and she takes care of her bike more than me.
we have quite afew arguments last time... but recently.. some incidents made me really upset.
1) i was overseas for 10 days and she promised me that she would watch this particular movie with me. when i came back
she had already watch it with another guy. i was quite upset and i asked her why did she break her promise, all she
said was sorry, and thats all. she did nothing. Im not upset that she didn't watch the movie with me, but instead
i was upset that she broke her promise. it is such a simple thing and yet she couldn't keep her promise. i feel all this
minor issues are the 1 that keeps a good relationship going.
2) 2 days ago was our 1.5 year anniversary, i surprised her in the morning by sending her to work, and she knew we
gonna have dinner on the day itself. later in the afternoon, she sms and hinted that she prefer going riding with
her friends. i don't want her to be doing something she don't want to do, so i asked her to go riding.
But, deep down, i feel really sad.
3) Today we had an argument. I told her afew days ago This week is the only week im free, as the next few weeks i'll be
busy with my work, so i reserved this entire week to spend with her. She spend 1 day away on 2), didn't meet her for 2 days
and she told me this saturday her bike friend birthday. after work shes going, from evening onwards.
I FELT REALLY REALLY DOWN when i heard it, i already told her i'll be free this week and i really expected her
to reserve more time with me. she didn't.
when we argued on the phone, i asked her whats her piority was. she said her piority is her life.
i really duno what to say anymore. i can give up anything for her, but i know she will not.
This few nights had been some really tearful nights.
I love her so much that i really wish i could stab myself for even arguing with her. -
antisillypor.. u.. pro
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At least her bike would take her somewhere but as a 21 year old you still have to stabilize yourself first before thinking of providing for this older woman.Ok go ahead put your head under a pillow have a good cry and tomorrow morning face the World as a real man
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Sounds like her heart isn't in it. I think better to put your heart and energy into a relationship that appreciates you better.
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hey dude. she's not worth ur love. it may feel different but this r/s is driven by urself only. y make urself so tired? juz move on and find someone who deserves ur love...
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you are her toy.
its really up to you to do what you want, since the truth is very clear: she does not care much about your r/s and she is not at all committed. -
oh no this is what i call love is blind. She make her pretty clearly and it is up to you to whether to embrace her ways.
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Ur gf had maked her stand clearly and if u want to continue this relationship, then u can't blame her for it. I bet she could continue her way unless you try to talk into her again about "OUR" relationship. Relationship is about two person walking the same direction. If both parties can't have the same viewpoint, let face it, it is not easy to sustain the relationship in the long run.
I can see u r very emo when typing this. Cheer up. -
its hard breaking up a r/s uve tiredly held on for a long time, but sometimes u knw u haf to do it. sadly, sometimes ppl onli appreciate things they lose, n if they reali dun even appreciate u aft they lose it, then its even worse to keep holding on to that kinda ppl.
everyone tries hard to make something they want to happen work, but we haf to all admit that not all things will wrk as long as we put in the effort. the girl doesnt seem to b ready for a r/s, she doesnt wan to b bound by anyone, living a life on her own free time. shes not willing to give time for a commitment like u do.
if u reali still feel that she loves u, i wun keep suggesting a breakup, but its at ur own loss. how long can u last with that pain n hurt in ur heart? deep down u understand that she isnt there for u, but its hard to face it. giving up on her will hurt more than continuing in this r/s, but at least it might end the pain that could prolong in ur heart if u continue -
how come it seems like u are the girl, and she the guy?
swop roles ar? -
communication is one of the most impt points in a r/s...
from wat i've read in ur thread, it just seems like as though u kept everything to urself, don't wana tell her how u feel.
probably after doin dat, she'll compromise? or she'll tell u hw she feels?
msg her also must b in another way...
normally u msg her is "wat u doin?"
y not try "i'm miss u, dat's y i'm msgin u now... so watcha doin? thinkin of me?"
or somethin like dat... dun be lazy, think of creative things to add on...
but still...
if u feel dat u've done every little thing dat cn b improved on...
just get the fark out of her life, or get her out of ur life...
glhf... -
she love her bike and bike frens more then u.
i don think she love u anymore..
sorry to say.. leave her!