Ermm...help?
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I got to know this girl when I first got into poly. At first I paid attention to her simply because she is easily the prettiest among the other girls in my course intake that year and so luckily she is in the same class as me.
Very soon, we became very good friends and we even went out together sometimes, just the two of us. After a while, I realised I had fallen for her even though she already had a boyfriend back then. So I told myself that I shall wait for them to break up because they seem to quarrel quite a lot.
I waited and waited, they finally broke up. But I wasn't exactly very happy about it, because I didn't know how to tell her I like her. The words are somewhere in my mouth, but it won't come out. And at the same time, she seems sad about the break up, so I didn't want to tell her yet just in case she alienate me and we can't even be friends anymore.
So I continued to wait and wait. It's already into my second year in poly and I still haven't tell her. Then after the recent holidays had passed, she came back to school with a new boyfriend already. I was so sad, didn't know what to do.
I still want to tell her I like her, but again, I don't know how to say it and I'm afraid she will think I'm saying that to instigate them to break up. This is not my intention. I am simply thinking I should tell her before I don't have a chance to tell her anymore and I'll regret it. I thought my love for her was maybe just an infatuation, but it has already been close to two years, and I still cannot forget her even though we are no longer in the same class. But I will still find time to eat lunch with her in school, so can consider still in contact.
Shall I tell her or not? And if I should tell her, how and what shall I say?
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if u continue not telling her, then she will come out with alot of bf.
then we will see u often in sgf. -
Aiyox.. u already missed the 1st chance lerx....but also can understand how u feel ...
hmm i think right now u should tell her..maybe she would realise how mch she meant to u and what u done for her..go ahead and tell her....
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Wah..not so easy leh..I dunno how to open mouth..
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Once Bitten, Twice Shy.
Ponder about the meaning, doesnt really suit ur situation but thats all i have to say.
I will explain more if u dun get it. -
just say la...
and then prepare for the worst and hope for the best. -
Hmmm...just say ba....i think you will feel better saying it out...and if you still don't say you will just keep getting caught in this vicious cycle...
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build up some courage to tell her!!
*support u* -
opportunity only comes once..
give her your blessing.. -
yeah. go for it. don;t regret it in the future. Who know she might be waiting for you to say it to her yeah... You are just like one of my friend. If only the guy was more decisive, everything would have worked out. Just go for it... =)
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just sms her say i lov uOriginally posted by fairlady_xoxo:Hmmm...just say ba....i think you will feel better saying it out...and if you still don't say you will just keep getting caught in this vicious cycle... -
yea good idea. like leaving a msg to her instead of sayin it directly is easier, though itll b better to explain it face to face if possible still.Originally posted by t_a_s:just sms her say i lov u
u can tell her how u feel all these times, n haf been supporting her not onli as a fren but wuld like to bring ur r/s abit further than that. -
i'll give you a very typical girl's magazine answer. (or so i think)
don't do it.
you'll not only possibly jeopardize their(the girl and her boyfriend's) relationship but also your friendship with the girl.
especially if she has shown no signs of interest, you are putting too much at stake.
her boyfriend might find out and get angry, and there's also the possible chance of her becoming hostile and feeling betrayed.
of course, sitting around waiting for a chance feels horrible (trust me, i know) but it doesn't feel as bad as rejection or the guilt of putting the girl in a stressful position where she feels she has to choose between you and the guy.
even if she chooses to stay with the guy AND still wants you as a friend, chances are it will be too awkward. -
oh but btw, if you do decide to go ahead and tell her how you feel, do follow up on whether it went well.
good luck, either way! -
pls pls dun sms a ger to start a r/ship..
i dunoe how other gers feel.. but i tink it's pretty loserish.. -
Nothing beats telling it in person.Originally posted by motoway:pls pls dun sms a ger to start a r/ship..
i dunoe how other gers feel.. but i tink it's pretty loserish.. -
Similar shoes as me.
i knw how u feel. -
Agreed...Originally posted by lololololx2:i'll give you a very typical girl's magazine answer. (or so i think)
don't do it.
you'll not only possibly jeopardize their(the girl and her boyfriend's) relationship but also your friendship with the girl.
especially if she has shown no signs of interest, you are putting too much at stake.
her boyfriend might find out and get angry, and there's also the possible chance of her becoming hostile and feeling betrayed.
of course, sitting around waiting for a chance feels horrible (trust me, i know) but it doesn't feel as bad as rejection or the guilt of putting the girl in a stressful position where she feels she has to choose between you and the guy.
even if she chooses to stay with the guy AND still wants you as a friend, chances are it will be too awkward. -
TS.. weight yr cons and pros before confessing it.
If u think worth it for future,do it
If not,don't do it!
And don't ever do it with sms. It will just show yr horrible lack of sincerity even u know its a for sure failed mission -
Wa ma zai..but telling in person very the hard leh..Originally posted by motoway:pls pls dun sms a ger to start a r/ship..
i dunoe how other gers feel.. but i tink it's pretty loserish..
But will try.. -
The time to tell her will eventually comes when both of u are meant to be.
Take your time to slowly consider and think it through.
Don't just force it on yourself or her. (^^)
During her last breakup till she found her new BF, does she confides with you more than usual? Does she shows interests in you? Or you two are just friends?
Good lucks! -
How to see whether she got any interest in me?Originally posted by ad3285:The time to tell her will eventually comes when both of u are meant to be.
Take your time to slowly consider and think it through.
Don't just force it on yourself or her. (^^)
During her last breakup till she found her new BF, does she confides with you more than usual? Does she shows interests in you? Or you two are just friends?
Good lucks!
Like got signs, like don't have..I also dunno how to tell.. -
lol dont do that. thats possibly the worst thing u could do.Originally posted by t_a_s:just sms her say i lov u -
Don't say = Keep the friendship
Say = next time you might not be close friend. -
Yes..your example right?Originally posted by Darkness_hacker99:Don't say = Keep the friendship
Say = next time you might not be close friend.