Complicated.
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Hi all ,
I guess i need some advice.
I have known this close guy friend of mine for 2 years already. Initially ,we started out as friends and gradually became close friends such that we spend quite alot of time together yeah.
Recently i guess half a year ago or so, our close friendship become strained. He sort of stopped talking to me for like almost half a year without any apparent reason except for one ridiculous one that my ex-best friend told me about that he keep away to test who i like. By the way, at that time i got two close guy friends, he is the one of them.
Then, after quite some time of not communicating, i went to visit his blog and he was like saying : He don;t know the reason why is he keeping away but i still catches his eye that kinda thing.
Over the last few months, he started dropping hints again like always trying to get close , be there for me when i am sad meaning watching in silence, and even recently keep like engagin in eye contact. But i am afraid that i am thinking too much and maybe it might just be a game for him you know like to test out how good is he...
Though i have tried to remind myself how hurtful i was when he left me , i just can't stop thinking about him.
To add on to that, i am in a relationship.
Yeah. I have tried to talk to him once but he seems rather reserved about his actions. It's very obvious when you know a person like you and i trust my instincts pretty well.
There was this one time that we went out for dinner. He just asked me to ordered whatever i like even though he knows that we were not be able to finish yeah. That day, he was quite happy but he tried to control his smile.When he send me home, he was sort of reluctant to go as if there were something that was keeping him
So what's his motive now for trying to get close again ? Btw , we haven;t talked like for one year. And everytime he tries to get close, he doesn;t talk as well just keep looking. -
1st of all, do u like him as friend or more?
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Yeah i like him alot... Coz even though he has hurt me, i am still waiting for him to confess .
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why dont u tell him instead? Drop hints to him. It's been so long since u've known him. So just tell him. You've been thru times when u both were close and you've been thru times when u were both not talking. Maybe it's time to let him know.
Even if it doesnt work out.. it's still better than waiting for another half a year?! -
Also.. y dun u settle your rs 1st? Maybe have a clean break b4 u do anything else. If not, it's going to be very complicated.
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I have dropped many hints. I think he knows that i like him too.. To add on to that, my ex- best friend told him that. He seems to want to verify what he heard by observing me ever since the new school term starts.Originally posted by YouDonKnowMe:why dont u tell him instead? Drop hints to him. It's been so long since u've known him. So just tell him. You've been thru times when u both were close and you've been thru times when u were both not talking. Maybe it's time to let him know.
Even if it doesnt work out.. it's still better than waiting for another half a year?!
I can;t do it coz my first means alot to me as well. -
your bgr beri messy, sort it out first before committing, dun give others the wrong impression..
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Then i think u have to sort out your emotions 1st as your priority. Who do you want now? Your current or that good friend of yours? You have to come to a decision sooner or later and stick by it, if not, it wont be good for any of you 3 people.
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You have to choose between your bf, or your guy good friend. There's no 2 ways about it.
And let's face it. You wait for him to confess, he seems to not be taking any action. Plus the fact u say u 1 year never talk 2 him already? What makes u think he still likes u? All i can say is treasure ur present, forget about your past.
If u cant do that, then maybe u just follow ur heart. And remember, ur bf is an innocent party. He don't deserve to have a gf who is in 2 minds now. -
when you two were close,were you in a relationship then?
If so i will not find it strange that he choose to avoid you after awhile after finding out that he like you but know that you are attached and he may not have a chance or he should not be the third party anyway.
Anyway you are currently attached now,suggest that you treasure this relationship then thinking the other guy is better.The past is already the past,unless you are willing to make a clean break with your current bf and then spend the time waiting for him to confess,if not dun expect much as it is very unfair to him -
Whatever you do, just don't two time.
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Aren't you in a relationship? Hello?Originally posted by angelsinlove:I have dropped many hints. I think he knows that i like him too.. To add on to that, my ex- best friend told him that. He seems to want to verify what he heard by observing me ever since the new school term starts.
I can;t do it coz my first means alot to me as well.
And you said he hurt you just because he didn't talk to you? On this basis alone? Are you sure he likes you ? Or is it all only on your part?
Thanks for declaring you are in a relationship. I hope you don't waste your boyfriend/friend's time by stringing both together.
So, sort out your thoughts. In any case, I can tell you have zilch love for your current boyfriend. So don't waste his time.
Thanks.
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Wah Lauz. You sux
Haha that's about all I can say. I think the real issue here is your first boyfriend lor. Really pity the fool
Don't be so unfair to both guys leh... sort yourself out first and don't have the mentality the guy is the one who should define his own actions more clearly. You are the one sending mixed signals lor
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i think you treat your current bf as a life jacket. you are still on the swaying bost( your so called friend). if it sinks, you still have the life jacket.
i cannot stand friends for ignoring me for some reasons i do not know. think he can come and go as he likes? why make yourself miserable? you may say you like your friend better, but ultimately who you think will stand by you when you need hepl? if he can ignore you for a year, he can do that again. you are at the mercy. sorry to sound harsh here, but face it. -
dun play anymore....seriouslyOriginally posted by angelsinlove:Yeah i like him alot... Coz even though he has hurt me, i am still waiting for him to confess . -
Ur guy friend like to play with your head.
Frankly i think he sucks... -
He is just playing around with your feelings. I have been in this kind of situation before and it usually doesn't end well, based on my own experience and also others.Originally posted by angelsinlove:Hi all ,
I guess i need some advice.
I have known this close guy friend of mine for 2 years already. Initially ,we started out as friends and gradually became close friends such that we spend quite alot of time together yeah.
Recently i guess half a year ago or so, our close friendship become strained. He sort of stopped talking to me for like almost half a year without any apparent reason except for one ridiculous one that my ex-best friend told me about that he keep away to test who i like. By the way, at that time i got two close guy friends, he is the one of them.
Then, after quite some time of not communicating, i went to visit his blog and he was like saying : He don;t know the reason why is he keeping away but i still catches his eye that kinda thing.
Over the last few months, he started dropping hints again like always trying to get close , be there for me when i am sad meaning watching in silence, and even recently keep like engagin in eye contact. But i am afraid that i am thinking too much and maybe it might just be a game for him you know like to test out how good is he...
Though i have tried to remind myself how hurtful i was when he left me , i just can't stop thinking about him.
To add on to that, i am in a relationship.
Yeah. I have tried to talk to him once but he seems rather reserved about his actions. It's very obvious when you know a person like you and i trust my instincts pretty well.
There was this one time that we went out for dinner. He just asked me to ordered whatever i like even though he knows that we were not be able to finish yeah. That day, he was quite happy but he tried to control his smile.When he send me home, he was sort of reluctant to go as if there were something that was keeping him
So what's his motive now for trying to get close again ? Btw , we haven;t talked like for one year. And everytime he tries to get close, he doesn;t talk as well just keep looking.
So get away before it is too late, and cherish your boyfriend whom you are in a relationship with...if you would like to consider going further with the "close friend", break up with him first... -
nod nodOriginally posted by de_middle:dun play anymore....seriously 
I think the girl and the guy is around sec sch level... still got blog one... lol -
Hey all, thanks for all your advices.
I think all of you are right. I shouldn't be having that kinda thought and think that he will confess one day.
I have decided to treasure my present one rather than dwell in the past. I apologise for behaving this way.. Feelings just can;t be help.
Anyway, i guess i have a clearer path of what i want . =) -
Yeah i was in a relationship when both of us are close. Anyway, like what u say the past is the past... So i weill definitely cherish what i have now.Originally posted by GenX:when you two were close,were you in a relationship then?
If so i will not find it strange that he choose to avoid you after awhile after finding out that he like you but know that you are attached and he may not have a chance or he should not be the third party anyway.
Anyway you are currently attached now,suggest that you treasure this relationship then thinking the other guy is better.The past is already the past,unless you are willing to make a clean break with your current bf and then spend the time waiting for him to confess,if not dun expect much as it is very unfair to him -
What you say is totally true. Yeah i guess i will go with the flow...Originally posted by jacqn:i think you treat your current bf as a life jacket. you are still on the swaying bost( your so called friend). if it sinks, you still have the life jacket.
i cannot stand friends for ignoring me for some reasons i do not know. think he can come and go as he likes? why make yourself miserable? you may say you like your friend better, but ultimately who you think will stand by you when you need hepl? if he can ignore you for a year, he can do that again. you are at the mercy. sorry to sound harsh here, but face it.