The hidden cruel truth
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Feel sad for u...
So the lesson u learnt is that girl being closed to u doesn't really mean she likes u. Treat this as part of the learning process and move on... i learned a lot of times liao haha
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feel so much like a fool now...drained of mental strength.
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chiong la haha.
after she gets the guy ure probably gonna ignore her more.
after u kenna rejected ure also probably gonna ignore her more.
ppl say, die with no regrets. similarly mus also lose a friend with no regrets mah, since u talk about it like a lose-lose situation. plus you dont have anything to lose anyways. dont try wont know and u've done ur best anways.
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If it were me, I would just tell her. Get the whole thing over with. Most of your pain and frustrations probably comes from the fact that you dun know if you will be accepted. If you dun say anything, you will probably always question yourself and wonder whether things would have been different if you had let her know.
So just tell her. Even if the answer is negative, you you just feel pain for awhile and after some time you will get over it.
The worst things is not a negative answer but no answer. Just tell her. Its a win win situation. If the answer is no you can still move on. If the answer is yes good for you. If you dun do anything.......its a lose lose situation. You wonder forever and she will also never know if you like her.
Guys must take more initaitive !! Wah surely you dun expect her to declare her love for you first -__________- -
hm.. i wonder if shes really this close with other guy ? the way she treat u is really like too concern u ..
i got many good female frens but none of them treat me like too much concern bout me..
TOo bad man, i guess either she really treats u as a very good buddy or the guy is really u ...
TS, if u feel so badly wanna tell her, just do it.. I think she deserves to know how u feel.. at least she might not giving ur the wrong hints again and left u hurt more deeply.
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thanks dudes
juz chat with her again on msn..as usual"concern" with me
she guessed that i faced BGR problem wanted to force the thing out from me...and the thing that make me more pain is that she don't know that she's the one when i've did so many things for her..i haven told her.I told her that i will tell when the time is right.
i'm now thinking whether to type a whole chunk of how i feel and send to her..
she will get the biggest shock of her life if she though that thru this 1yr+ i only treat her as a buddy.
But i m also torn apart about if i type too detail,she will be scared off.And,i will lose not a gal but a very close fren. -
Maybe she is trying to "force" you to take a step to tell her so that she can give you her answer.
Giving a negative answer will not spoil the friendship. But dragging this on for too long will. -
TS, u dun have to think much la.. and u dont have to type out all this and that bout what u did for her
Just tell her, all these long, u liked her and u just want her to know it..your agony is solved.... There might be a chance that u guys not as close as before but hey, u did what u wanted . isnt that enough ? at least, if its not as close as before, wouldnt u feel better instead of she care so much bout u ?
TS. sometimes the outcome is not as bad as u think it will be.. u just need to get over the barrier and u feel better 10x than u feel right now.
The longer u wait to tell her, the longer u will suffer this agony my friend.. DOnt waste your time on these and make u moody all day long -
Think bout these:
Your Goal : Tell her u love her
Risk: Not a fren anymore / the guy is you
U got your goal, sometimes u need to achieve ur goal without thinking of the risk
Hope this help!
Dont wait any longer man.. get her out one day, talk to her face to face... or sms if u feel it better way -
well,wanna tell her face to face..but not until probably 2 weeks later...she wanted me to bring her dinner.After i enjoyed then i break the news to her..i'll enjoy those last few moments before everything changes..
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Just continue as usual until you fall for some other girl and start a relationship with the new girl or this present girl starts a relationship with a guy.Originally posted by F.raon.I.R:Juz canÂ’t bear to tell any of my friends,need a place to vent it out and it seems this is the only place
Feeling very down and sad now.IÂ’ve been liking this gal for 1 year already and IÂ’m very involved into her thinking about her everyday,miss her very much when I canÂ’t see her for a few days.Well,I muz say the actions,words that exsist between us create this illusion that I probably HAVE chance to be with her when finally 1 fine day I want to confess with her. IÂ’ve been dropping hints here and there and responses were still quite positive. Some what she still engages with me quite often. We are quite close that she tells me of her daily problems, we exchange sms and msn nearly every day.Close friends of mine said I stand a very gd chance somemore.Haix! I used the word illusion cause I juz knew the cruel truth Juz yesterday..
The happy and naïve me was always still harbouring hopes that I may stand a chance but now it seems it will never happen. Maybe that’s her,getting so close with me but only treat me as a fren to her.I dun even know where the hell do I stand in her heart among so many guys in her daily life.
Juz knew that she has a guy in mind and sheÂ’s kind of in the same situation like me,like how I like her.Totally taken aback coz she nv told me anything about this.I knew that she had rejected a guy who planned romantic birthday for her but never knew that sheÂ’s been liking this guy and she felt helpless sometimes when she dun get the reciprocated love. And from what I know,they can be together anytime.
I m rather confused to whether should I still confess to her although it seems that the chance of me getting her is like 10%?.. Cause she may not know that I like her as a girl NOT as a friend only, donÂ’t feel like giving up. Juz wanna bring my point and thoughts across. Being there for her and stuffs made me happy for so long.So,what should I do..
Just tell her that if she wants, she can start a relationship with you while you are still available. -
There is no hidden cruel truth... that is just a figment of your imagination.....
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Good goodOriginally posted by F.raon.I.R:well,wanna tell her face to face..but not until probably 2 weeks later...she wanted me to bring her dinner.After i enjoyed then i break the news to her..i'll enjoy those last few moments before everything changes.. -
horrible..asked me who moved my heart,still want me to show her the pic..if i show her the pic i took with her she confirm say i'm joking or wat..
she still thinks i'm moody,i told her i miss her she said in a jokingly manner that i'm lying to her..
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Jus spit it out. If procrastinate until 2,3,4 years, she'll get an even bigger shock thenOriginally posted by F.raon.I.R:thanks dudes
juz chat with her again on msn..as usual"concern" with me
she guessed that i faced BGR problem wanted to force the thing out from me...and the thing that make me more pain is that she don't know that she's the one when i've did so many things for her..i haven told her.I told her that i will tell when the time is right.
i'm now thinking whether to type a whole chunk of how i feel and send to her..
she will get the biggest shock of her life if she though that thru this 1yr+ i only treat her as a buddy.
But i m also torn apart about if i type too detail,she will be scared off.And,i will lose not a gal but a very close fren.
Anyway just email her yr confession and...treat it as a closure. Rmb to indicate that u'll wish her all the best and still wanna remain as friends if she turned u down. -
Move her with your heart and sincerity but don't over do it.
If u don't tell her and wait till she got attached, then u will regret for life. -
well that day i said i will tell her 1 day...
and that is today...i've finally made my feelings cleared to her.but initially i told her she replied with a ans thats quite like avoiding the topic.Saying that if i dun like her,how we can be bestie?some crap...but after which i made my stand n told her i'm not kidding...
Asked her if she had some1 in mind,was really expecting a YES,but to my very surprise she said no.i couldn't believe it,so i asked again if she's so sure that she dun have any1 in mind at the moment.Still a NO..she said she hasn't fall in love for a long while..thats like excluding myself from the picture.Haiz.
I dun noe wat's next for us...told her thru sms.
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Originally posted by F.raon.I.R:Juz knew that she has a guy in mind and sheÂ’s kind of in the same situation like me,like how I like her.Totally taken aback coz she nv told me anything about this.I knew that she had rejected a guy who planned romantic birthday for her but never knew that sheÂ’s been liking this guy and she felt helpless sometimes when she dun get the reciprocated love. And from what I know,they can be together anytime.
huh why starting u say she got like someone den now u say she say never..? maybe she change her mind abt liking the guy den like you..?Originally posted by F.raon.I.R:Asked her if she had some1 in mind,was really expecting a YES,but to my very surprise she said no.i couldn't believe it,so i asked again if she's so sure that she dun have any1 in mind at the moment.Still a NO..
whatever it is, now is the most important time.. you must not let ur confessions become a barrier between the two of you.. you must resume to the starting part where you two are close friends.. try not to let the awkwardness of the confession set in and try not to harp on the mindset that 'she already knows how i feel, what to do next, when is she going to reciprocate my feelings'.. be natural.. chat about daily stuff, carry on the usual conversations.. play it cool..
now that you have made your move, the ball is in her court and you can only wait for a reply.. give her time to think about it.. remember, just carry on like last time.. chat normally..
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everything's like done..
she's very open abt it,i asked if we could be more than frens.No outright ans.Juz said nv thought abt relationship and stated that she's not gd enough for me.
totally haiz.
Maybe we should turn back to normal.I'll treat her well still...maybe 1 day she will accept me...or until i turn my attention to another gal..then this will finally end..? -
hey forget her will ya?Originally posted by F.raon.I.R:everything's like done..
she's very open abt it,i asked if we could be more than frens.No outright ans.Juz said nv thought abt relationship and stated that she's not gd enough for me.
totally haiz.
Maybe we should turn back to normal.I'll treat her well still...maybe 1 day she will accept me...or until i turn my attention to another gal..then this will finally end..?
she's not good enough for you? nah, she doesn't feel the same way for you more likely.
don't waste your time. No girl is worth wasting time for unless she really a good catch and she likes you as well. Time is precious, don't waste it.
and stop being her emotional tampon. if she doesn't accept, well too bad.
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...OMG...the exact same thing happened 2 months ago... to meOriginally posted by F.raon.I.R:well that day i said i will tell her 1 day...
and that is today...i've finally made my feelings cleared to her.but initially i told her she replied with a ans thats quite like avoiding the topic.Saying that if i dun like her,how we can be bestie?some crap...but after which i made my stand n told her i'm not kidding...
Asked her if she had some1 in mind,was really expecting a YES,but to my very surprise she said no.i couldn't believe it,so i asked again if she's so sure that she dun have any1 in mind at the moment.Still a NO..she said she hasn't fall in love for a long while..thats like excluding myself from the picture.Haiz.
I dun noe wat's next for us...told her thru sms.
but i have to clear some doubts 1st..
Till now, I still can't forgot that feeling...how much i like her...maybe she dun know how deeply i feel for her...but...she'll alway be in my heart...
And i was scare that she'll avoid me...now i'm the one avoiding her...she even ask our close friend why i'm like avoiding her..... 
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oh well, you want to play this game of love, you got to be strong dude. If you are weak, you will be eliminated.Originally posted by F.raon.I.R:feel so much like a fool now...drained of mental strength.
doko -
Yo dude, you aint understand a gal well lah, we are more sensitive than you guys do, before you even wanted to do anything, we knew what is going on, so it aint no surprise for her, she knew it all along, that is why she just took it openly and relaxing.Originally posted by F.raon.I.R:everything's like done..
she's very open abt it,i asked if we could be more than frens.No outright ans.Juz said nv thought abt relationship and stated that she's not gd enough for me.
totally haiz.
Maybe we should turn back to normal.I'll treat her well still...maybe 1 day she will accept me...or until i turn my attention to another gal..then this will finally end..?
When we gals are together, we chat about love and how to reject boys too, rejects in a way of not want boys to get hurt, so we loves to use tactic such as we are not good enough for you, or simply we are not ready because of my parent, study, etc etc...mostly, we won't say thing like, because you are short, small, ugly, not handsome, stupid or lousy characters etc etc, it will hurt you right at the face. So be compose and please understand gals dun change their decision in love as often as boy do, when we said we dun want your love, we mean it.
So in conclusion, it is not that you are no good, it simply that you should find a better gal that can suit you well in term of personality, characteristics, looks, action and the way of thinking. -
ridiculous.
only know how to whine -
i knew its all part of her tactic of not hurting me...i knew all this while..maybe i'm not fun or handsome enough for her.