My life is screwed up...
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I'm bored with life. I'm studying in poly now and i hate it. Firstly, the course i'm currently studying, i have totally no interest in it. Secondly, i don't even have a class in poly as i'm repeating my modules. So most of the time, i'm attending lessons alone or at most, with 2 or 3 other repeat students.
Just imagine poly life without any classmates or friends. It's difficult as it is that i'm struggling through my course, but having no friends or classmates whatsoever does not help. And i only have classes on Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday so most of my time is spent doing nothing.
Sometimes i just wish i had a class to go to in school and talk and laugh together and study together. And maybe have classes everyday studying something i enjoy. I'm currently 4 sems into my course so if i transfer now i would have to waste more years.
It seems like my life doesn't have any aim now and i get jealous of my girlfriend whenever i see her enjoying herself at school. You know, your mind tends to wander when you're not doing anything so i have had a fair share of arguments with my girlfriend.
I'm currently studying in a course that requires lots of programming and it is so technical. I'm personally more of a art person so imagine being stuck in a technical course.
I really don't know what to do with my life at this point. Advice? -
First of all you have to face reality and accept your current situation.Originally posted by shadez:I'm bored with life. I'm studying in poly now and i hate it. Firstly, the course i'm currently studying, i have totally no interest in it. Secondly, i don't even have a class in poly as i'm repeating my modules. So most of the time, i'm attending lessons alone or at most, with 2 or 3 other repeat students.
I really don't know what to do with my life at this point. Advice?
Force yourself to do your work, which is to study and learn.
Find time to do things that you have interests in but do not totally neglect your work, which is to study and learn. -
It sucks whenever i see others enjoying their schooling life. This should be the age where i enjoy my school and meet new people. But i'm experiencing neither of that.
It's really torturous to attend lectures and lessons alone... I really don't know what to do anymore. I don't see any end in this tunnel. I don't even know if i can complete this diploma...
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The problem is that you have nothing to look forward to in life! There must be a balance. If you have things to look forward to, then you will be able to cope with the downsides of life.
You do not mind going to work even if it is a torture, if you know that you will have a wild time over the weekend.
If you have nothing to look forward to then the torture of work will be a serious torture because the torture is all you have!
How can anyone, not just you, live life that way? A long lasting continuous no ending torture?
You see your friends enjoying life at school and you assume that they do not find it a torture. You think that they do not find it a torture because it is fun for them.
Think again. That might not be true! The real reason might be that they can cope and because they can cope, they are able to have some fun within the torture.
That is to say, they have many things, outside of school to look forward to and so they can cope with the torture of school better and because they can cope with the torture of school better, they start to enjoy it!
So, I think that you cannot solve your problem because you are looking for the wrong solution! You are trying to make a torturous situation acceptable by trying to make school less of a torture, you will fail!
It will always be a torture. You cannot do anything about that!
What you can do, however is to find things that you enjoy to do. You can organize, plan, look forward to doing things that you enjoy doing and just clench your teeth and do the necessary to finish school and pass.
If you do not solve this problem, you will have problems next time when you start working. When you find it tough going, you resign. If you do that, you will not be able to put in enough years to gain the necessary experience.
Whereas, if you are able to "compensate" by finding things to look forward to, your life will be more meaningful and you will be able to cope with the torture of school and next time, work, better. -
Having classmates would make everything easier to cope with. I think my main problem is not even having a class, it's very difficult to survive. I don't have anybody to discuss my work with and i even have trouble finding a group to do project work with. Just imagine being alone in such a big school...Originally posted by AndrewPKYap:You see your friends enjoying life at school and you assume that they do not find it a torture. You think that they do not find it a torture because it is fun for them.
Think again. That might not be true! The real reason might be that they can cope and because they can cope, they are able to have some fun within the torture.
That is to say, they have many things, outside of school to look forward to and so they can cope with the torture of school better and because they can cope with the torture of school better, they start to enjoy it! -
any avenue in poly that u can voice ur grievience to.....
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I think the problem is that you are too negative... think of solutions instead of focusing on the problems... join a club in school?Originally posted by shadez:Having classmates would make everything easier to cope with. I think my main problem is not even having a class, it's very difficult to survive. I don't have anybody to discuss my work with and i even have trouble finding a group to do project work with. Just imagine being alone in such a big school... -
Let don't think about the word "stuck "Originally posted by shadez:I'm bored with life. I'm studying in poly now and i hate it. Firstly, the course i'm currently studying, i have totally no interest in it. Secondly, i don't even have a class in poly as i'm repeating my modules. So most of the time, i'm attending lessons alone or at most, with 2 or 3 other repeat students.
Just imagine poly life without any classmates or friends. It's difficult as it is that i'm struggling through my course, but having no friends or classmates whatsoever does not help. And i only have classes on Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday so most of my time is spent doing nothing.
Sometimes i just wish i had a class to go to in school and talk and laugh together and study together. And maybe have classes everyday studying something i enjoy. I'm currently 4 sems into my course so if i transfer now i would have to waste more years.
It seems like my life doesn't have any aim now and i get jealous of my girlfriend whenever i see her enjoying herself at school. You know, your mind tends to wander when you're not doing anything so i have had a fair share of arguments with my girlfriend.
I'm currently studying in a course that requires lots of programming and it is so technical. I'm personally more of a art person so imagine being stuck in a technical course.
I really don't know what to do with my life at this point. Advice?
My situation is similar in you in a way as in i have been blaming on the situation. However, if you think about.. it is also how you make the best out of it. So stop resenting and complaining on the situation and start making the best out of it, since you are already in it.. might as well right ?
Actually, you are quite blessed with 2 or 3 repeated students who attend classes with you and you are no that lonely. You have also a girlfriend. Can you learn to appreciate the wonderful things that you have and stop complaining on what you don't have.
Anyway, why don't you find some new hobbies and join a club or something. Don't waste your time and youth aimlessly. You also get to make new friends.
Have a life outside school too, you can have a life. Be more open-minded to the avenues and life will open up lot of possibilities. -
stop repeating modules!! before your previous classmates enter NS while u are still struggling in school, that where real loneliness start to kick in. Count yourself lucky u still have a girlfriend with you.
Good luck in catching up with your studies. -
why not join your poly's fraternity ****-fest club?
i heard MOE introduce this to all public polys last year. -
club friends are like hi-bye friend. besides, there are alot of politics in these clubs.Originally posted by AndrewPKYap:I think the problem is that you are too negative... think of solutions instead of focusing on the problems... join a club in school?
very hard to find friends that will stick with you other than your designated class.
like what andrew pointed out, have something to look forward to.. i hate programming as much you do.
but because i have so much to look forward to, i always find things to make programming sessions fun like making jokes with friends. i know for your case is hard. maybe you wanna call me someday out then we talk about it? -
Do the courses you do in poly affect the courses you'll be able to do in uni?
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Its a gamble, stop wasting ur time on a course u have no interest in and follow ur passion or continue to "waste" more years on something that u have no interest in.
Question for urself: What do u want to be 10 years from now? -
same but my situation in a way is better and worse den you.Originally posted by shadez:I'm bored with life. I'm studying in poly now and i hate it. Firstly, the course i'm currently studying, i have totally no interest in it. Secondly, i don't even have a class in poly as i'm repeating my modules. So most of the time, i'm attending lessons alone or at most, with 2 or 3 other repeat students.
Just imagine poly life without any classmates or friends. It's difficult as it is that i'm struggling through my course, but having no friends or classmates whatsoever does not help. And i only have classes on Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday so most of my time is spent doing nothing.
Sometimes i just wish i had a class to go to in school and talk and laugh together and study together. And maybe have classes everyday studying something i enjoy. I'm currently 4 sems into my course so if i transfer now i would have to waste more years.
It seems like my life doesn't have any aim now and i get jealous of my girlfriend whenever i see her enjoying herself at school. You know, your mind tends to wander when you're not doing anything so i have had a fair share of arguments with my girlfriend.
I'm currently studying in a course that requires lots of programming and it is so technical. I'm personally more of a art person so imagine being stuck in a technical course.
I really don't know what to do with my life at this point. Advice?
better maybe because my class is supportive of me, but den, also sometimes no common topic with dem....(heng still in class coz i nvr fail module BUT all my modules all like just pass)
worse because i dropped out from jc, thus already wasting one more year. ya, similar to u, i am an arts person, but den now i am doing engineering stuff dat i do not like.
same as u, i hav a gf also. same course, one year younger den me, a v science and maths person, enjoys her class coz got zhi tong dao he de frenz with her during class. same as u, sometimes i do feel jealous of her because she can enjoy her class and frenship while i feel lonely (ok la nt really) and struggling to cope with all the modules (GPA already near failing liao).
you are nt the only one.
wad to do?
my advice:
lan lan finish your studies and dont fail any more modules anymore. i pushed myself so so hard. i noe i wont get gd grades despite all the studying, but my lecturer who know me quite well ask me push for a pass for those difficult modules and try to score a bit better for other modules. i tried real hard.
i told myself, i swear i will nvr do engineering in my life liao after this. i have a particular interest in mind. dats why.
dude, u can get over it. hang on! got gf to support u! -
Originally posted by Agenda:maybe you wanna call me someday out then we talk about it?
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Hi Shadez.... please check your mailbox, i've drop you a message
Speakin of aims.... you have.
Your main aim is to clear off everything and leave the school!
Really.
Just keep tellin yourself you want to clear off every single stuff, how many to go....
After that you can do what you like -
Your main goal should be quickly clear all your repeated subjects and graduated asap out of poly.. there could be primary and main goal and your secondary goal could be enjoying your poly life. Don't waste your Life in school doing something you don't want. Find your gf and study together.. motivate yourself to do well.Originally posted by casvel:Its a gamble, stop wasting ur time on a course u have no interest in and follow ur passion or continue to "waste" more years on something that u have no interest in.
Question for urself: What do u want to be 10 years from now?
Though you might not like what u are doing now, if u are sticking to it might as well do it well.... i know ur pain. I aso don't have interest in what i study and i'm also a retained student but i'm happy with what i have now.
Take this journey in life as a learning lesson and as what Casvel says.
what do u want to do 10 years down the road??? There is v important manz.
Btw when are u graduating ? -
x2 with him. What do u want to do down the road??Originally posted by casvel:Its a gamble, stop wasting ur time on a course u have no interest in and follow ur passion or continue to "waste" more years on something that u have no interest in.
Question for urself: What do u want to be 10 years from now?
Can you united with repeated students and form a study group? Do you have friends who have graduated and possibly borrowing those tutorial solution from them? It is possible to know new friends from your current class during lesson time... since you also be doing some project works with them.
Your second social avenue: can be through cca.... don't know how political things can get but then everywhere also have politics. Knowing more people couldn't hurt..
And study hard for your exam and clear all the modules!!! Don't waste your life in poly anymore... jiayou jiayou!!! -
tats why i always love ITE
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life is too short for self-pity.
have a plan for life, and try to stick to it. -
theres other poly stud same as u who dun like the course they r doing so ur not the one... but since u already failing so badly might as well stop poly n take up napfa... else jz go army early....Originally posted by shadez:I'm bored with life. I'm studying in poly now and i hate it. Firstly, the course i'm currently studying, i have totally no interest in it. Secondly, i don't even have a class in poly as i'm repeating my modules. So most of the time, i'm attending lessons alone or at most, with 2 or 3 other repeat students.
Just imagine poly life without any classmates or friends. It's difficult as it is that i'm struggling through my course, but having no friends or classmates whatsoever does not help. And i only have classes on Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday so most of my time is spent doing nothing.
Sometimes i just wish i had a class to go to in school and talk and laugh together and study together. And maybe have classes everyday studying something i enjoy. I'm currently 4 sems into my course so if i transfer now i would have to waste more years.
It seems like my life doesn't have any aim now and i get jealous of my girlfriend whenever i see her enjoying herself at school. You know, your mind tends to wander when you're not doing anything so i have had a fair share of arguments with my girlfriend.
I'm currently studying in a course that requires lots of programming and it is so technical. I'm personally more of a art person so imagine being stuck in a technical course.
I really don't know what to do with my life at this point. Advice? -
My advice,
Get a goal, start planning then implementing it.
u seems to be clueless of wat ur doin now.. thats why u dont enjoy what u have rite now... and ur mind seems to still be in the relax mode that u jealous of ur gf relaxing at school... u tend to not bear more responsibility to be great. u just like to feel good than to feel great... thats y this thing keep goin on for years and now u feel the effect of it and u feel bored with your life cuz u have meaningless life and no goal of ur own -
when i read your post.. theres this very chilling sensation down my spine.. its so familiar, its eerie.. ITS ALMOST LIKE YOU'RE ME WTF. at least you're better than me, i failed my modules in a course i have no interest in and whats more, im in a class of year 1s when im a year 2 student.. indeed programming sucks. i vow never to touch that ever in my life again. Maybe u could tell your gf how u feel. and of course just do ur best and get that diploma. even if u just scrap through its still a diploma. just do your best..
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Actually this is what happens if u have no interest in that particular course. I suggest u just endure it, and try passing all your subjects, rather than get kicked from poly.
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Life is hard.
Sometimes even you planned well and hard but still due to circumstances you will detour in ur plans.
Takes alot alot of determination to live and breath trekking your plans!!
I especially admire people who planned and still planning their lives well.
Some of the comments are damn good that i can learn too. Please input more peeps! Let us learn from each other!
For TS..in SG, to even have a properly life you need to be determine and disciple. Keep this in mind and everyone's comments!
Don't lose heart, i was from engrg at poly but now going to another field. You still young, just carry on..of course have a plan.
What i learnt is the plan you can have is not definite, it will keep changing hence you should not fear of it but must grip it and control it.
Rem..be brave ok?
Note : i got my probs in life too, from it i cried, shouted even feared it..and i still having problems. For the sake of my family and myself, i carry on. Go watch naruto, he is a terrific character to motivate you.