One Qn....
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I have a personal Qn to ask....
Girl : If we dun get married, but you still love me.
Can you promise me that you will not marry anyone
else and remain a bachelor...
So what should a guy ans to this??
Obviously he loves her but is not ready to get married... -
i think this is more like a threat....
2 ppl in love does not need to get married
get married is only to be recognised in law....w/o the cert oso can live together happily.....
for ur case, i guess the ger juz wants the assurance tt u love her....
but...why she mus say u mus remain a bachelor and not marry anyone else?
she going away? -
Why she ask that in first place?Originally posted by temp:I have a personal Qn to ask....
Girl : If we dun get married, but you still love me.
Can you promise me that you will not marry anyone
else and remain a bachelor...
So what should a guy ans to this??
Obviously he loves her but is not ready to get married... -
Chey...like that u can consider become monk oredi...why not u ask her the same thing....see what's her answer to it.....
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She is not going away. She said that she is askin this qnOriginally posted by FireIce:i think this is more like a threat....
2 ppl in love does not need to get married
get married is only to be recognised in law....w/o the cert oso can live together happily.....
for ur case, i guess the ger juz wants the assurance tt u love her....
but...why she mus say u mus remain a bachelor and not marry anyone else?
she going away?
cos she wants assurances from me too...
I din understand y she will think this way so i ask you gers here.
So can you tell me more what she can be thinkin of? -
Think she will say ok lor, i will only marry you.Originally posted by spikey83:Chey...like that u can consider become monk oredi...why not u ask her the same thing....see what's her answer to it.....
Then she ask me for my answer then what i say?
Can only agree lor.... -
HmmmOriginally posted by temp:Think she will say ok lor, i will only marry you.
Then she ask me for my answer then what i say?
Can only agree lor....
Qn & Ans urself...hmmm 
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Takes more lies to cover a lie - old saying spell warning for this case, so never ever lie because the situation needed it conveniently.Originally posted by temp:I have a personal Qn to ask....
Girl : If we dun get married, but you still love me.
Can you promise me that you will not marry anyone
else and remain a bachelor...
So what should a guy ans to this??
Obviously he loves her but is not ready to get married...
All I can say is the girl not only selfish and she wants the best of both worlds. So what if you both cannot get married, why the guy must remain bachelor? No link. Come on... deep in her heart, she still longs for someone there to love, be it whether she is married or not - layman term calls it a spare tyre.
You don't call this love - selfishness has blinded her. Think about it, even if the guy get married, what CAN she POSSIBLY gonna do? Nothing ya? But she could say one thing - you broke her promise and make you hell of a gulity. Then it become emotional blackmail.
Be rational and wise to such attempt, because if you can't see the sign, that's where you gonna learn your cosmic lesson. -
i think it's way overboard than juz "assurance"Originally posted by temp:She is not going away. She said that she is askin this qn
cos she wants assurances from me too...
I din understand y she will think this way so i ask you gers here.
So can you tell me more what she can be thinkin of?
it's become possessiveness....
probably she is insecure....or maybe she jus want to test how much u are willing to "sacrifice" for her....
this is how she measures how much u love her....
supposedly one day u break up ( >touch wood< )
how far can u keep this promise?....is she going to haunt u for the rest of ur life over this pact u made with her?....will she keep an eye on u to see tt u do not marry other gers? -
As far as i am concerned, i am not there in my life where i am
even thinking of marriage. No financial stability and not
emotionally prepared. Was totally disappointed in her. Then
we talk about it yesterday. Told her she is forcing me
into marrying her one day. Told her every step of our
relationship is leading to that.... She say that she only wanted
assurance from me. Very messy here..... -
WARNING : She's most probably a HIGHLY UNSTABLE ATOMS COMBINATION. DO NOT try to interpret or look directly in her eyes with your naked eyes. May cause INSANITY.Originally posted by temp:As far as i am concerned, i am not there in my life where i am
even thinking of marriage. No financial stability and not
emotionally prepared. Was totally disappointed in her. Then
we talk about it yesterday. Told her she is forcing me
into marrying her one day. Told her every step of our
relationship is leading to that.... She say that she only wanted
assurance from me. Very messy here..... -
She is right.Originally posted by FireIce:i think it's way overboard than juz "assurance"
it's become possessiveness....
probably she is insecure....or maybe she jus want to test how much u are willing to "sacrifice" for her....
this is how she measures how much u love her....
supposedly one day u break up ( >touch wood< )
how far can u keep this promise?....is she going to haunt u for the rest of ur life over this pact u made with her?....will she keep an eye on u to see tt u do not marry other gers? -
My 2 cents opinion :Originally posted by temp:As far as i am concerned, i am not there in my life where i am
even thinking of marriage. No financial stability and not
emotionally prepared. Was totally disappointed in her. Then
we talk about it yesterday. Told her she is forcing me
into marrying her one day. Told her every step of our
relationship is leading to that.... She say that she only wanted
assurance from me. Very messy here.....
Take time-out for a period of time. Think thru' what you want in the relationship with her, and what she is asking for in the relationship with you.
Is she providing most (not all) of what you want in the relationship? Are you providing most of what she wants in a relationship?
Think thru' why you started out on this relationship. Be generous in your compliments. At the same time, tell her gently your fears and worries in the relationship (eg. financial instability). Perhaps it'd help.