Originally posted by star princess:
Maybe i didn't express myself clearly in my message. But it is really not easy to spell out everything here. It involves lots of feelings. I know the 'give yourself sometime' 'know more friends' 'don't be dependant on him' 'don't let him cheat you' and so on...
When i said about the trust issue. I mean, i am not sure whether to truly believe in his 'i love you' because that alone brings so much emotional feelings. I feel confused, happy but yet doubting.
One can never say who is right and who is wrong in a relationship. You aren't the one who went through it all.
I will be slow, maybe be friends again and along the way, observe him more and should the feelings come back again, we will see what is best for us.
I never take relationship for granted or will i treat it like a game. Its not like a skill which you can master. It's not about surviving. It's totally a different flow for me.
You feel confuse because you can't take his words for real many at times, which makes you doubting. You are happy because at the point of time when he is trying to patch you up - definitely he will re-woo you again - he will be like the good old last time guy (the beginning stage), this brings back happy moments, you will feel happy.

I am not the one that go through this, but there is one thing for sure - feelings is only one part of the pictures (because it is always the feelings that retains you), but ultimately, are you delay the inevitable? Or because you let yourself fall back into history (your bf KNOWS this point about you thats why he always repeat his act)? Nobody says feelings is easy to let go - its not - but willingness to try to release yourself from this chains of depression is the first step.

Think about this - if he really did repent, why not be the first time you both patch? Why not the second? And why not the third? If he is really treasuring this relation - what problems would be so major that you both have to go on separate ways? Most problems are solvable if BOTH parties wants to - not saying that you are not doing anything - perhaps you are doing everything, but it needs two the clap.

This relation already lacks the *must-have* - trust. Even if you were to go back to him for the fourth time, fifth, etc, would be still the be same? No... (you know it deep inside).

I think I expressed wrongly - every relation is a venture (like doing something you never did before). You have to understand yourself very well, what you actually want, and stuff, before committing because with a strong foundation in mental principles - problems are just more like a breezing wind. This wisdom and the woman's inner voice is like a page messenger - it brings message, warning, etc to you, who will eventually make the decision.

I could see you have been listening to your emotions all these while - its not right nor wrong (correct), but if it is message is effective, you wouldn't be posting it your problems here because you would be much happier now. I am gald to hear that you never take relationship for granted, which seemed to me that this past relation hasn't bring you down - instead it builds you up.

You have already made a decision yourself - to be friends. My post is not to make decision for you - you have already done it, but all I am doing is to let you know things from another point of view. All this while you have been listening to pure feelings - try for a moment to look at my words and see if it makes any point.

One warning is that when you both remain as friends, be weary and cautious about it - because you will never be sure of yourself whether you just really wanna remain as friend, or it's another beginning steps of your cycle agan.

Prays