Mr. A versus Mr. B
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I have a guy fren (Mr.A) who used to have a gf for like 8yrs.
However when they were planning to get married (my
guy fren bought a nice condo!), his gf suddenly told
him that another new guy (Mr.B) was hot on her heels too,
and that she demanded my guy fren to "chase her
again", guess what ?
My guy fren just dumped her and she immediately
married this new guy Mr.B.
What do you ppl think of Mr.A, Mr.B or the gf ? -
GF sux.B and GF will not last long.As for Mr A,u did the right thing.tat girl doesnt love you at all.
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Ok I am going to be short in my this post...
They are childish and immature. Learn nothing from their 8 years relationship. This guy too rash, girl too lame. Girl doesn't know elements of a marriage - if can marriage can last, I first one bow to her. Marriage in a rush is like pre-mature shitting on your pants - I prefer finding a good seat and use all the time I have to shit.
Too early in morning and eye abit pain... typing load of craps.
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uhmmm actually I kinda felt sorry for my guy fren,
he was "completely destroyed" but still decided to
dump gf. Based upon his point of view, he told me
he had done his best to love her with patience,
companionship, and even money! There was nothing
he could possibly do to change her mind. Even so,
what will happen if this kinda "got ppl chase me also"
thingy happens again after marriage ? Sad for him.
Poor fella to love such a girl. -
I told Mr. A that probably his gf had been two timing (Mr.B) all along... *phuii spit!
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Arn zhua here bo seng yi ?? -
Guy A IS Wise
Guy B is lame /<-- knowing tt she will be getting married soon
GER = DESPO -
the ger is selfish...oni tink for herself..her own happinese... i wonder if she love anyone b4...maybe the one she loved most is herself....
the guy who dump her....i jus pity him...for spending 8 yrs wit her...hah....aso don understand her..or maybe tat guy trust tat girl too much...
for the guy who married wit the ger....i tink he damn stupid...hahahah bt maybe he rely like the ger v much?? bt if the ger can treat tat guy wit 8 yrs lidat...she can aso treat tis guy like tis aso....so aso no much ending one....maybe is his retribution for stealin someone gf or fiance ?bt in terms of love....is competitive.... wat m i tokin...haiz...v messy.... -
A--smart guy, he did the rite thing!even though he will be very,very hurt,but it'll be over soon!! rather be hurt nw than to be hurt forthe rest of his life!
B--poor thing....he married such a person...probably hes just having a crush on her but cldnt be too sure then got hitched!haha...it'll be hell to him man!!
Ger---Sux big time!!really immature!nothing to comment on her liao... -
Mr A got character sia...Originally posted by Elementals: Check this out:
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I have a guy fren (Mr.A) who used to have a gf for like 8yrs.
However when they were planning to get married (my
guy fren bought a nice condo!), his gf suddenly told
him that another new guy (Mr.B) was hot on her heels too,
and that she demanded my guy fren to "chase her
again", guess what ?
My guy fren just dumped her and she immediately
married this new guy Mr.B.
What do you ppl think of Mr.A, Mr.B or the gf ?
Mr B abit cb...noe ppl getting married still chase..(if he doesn;t noe then he jus a victim)
gf is ~!@##~@
Givache -
Thanks for the input ppl. You guys are great ! Btw, I'm not Mr.A and I'm not Mr. B and not the Ger. This things did happened to Mr. A.
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So u r a side viewer oso lah ?Originally posted by Elementals:Thanks for the input ppl. You guys are great ! Btw, I'm not Mr.A and I'm not Mr. B and not the Ger. This things did happened to Mr. A.
Givache -
A - poor thing...waste his previous 8yrs with such a bitch!
B - wish him all the best! haha
GF - 1 word .... BITCH -
I'll try to give a very neutual answer.......the fact is.....NONE of them is actually wrong.
A relationship that falls after 9 years is something different from a relationship that fall after 2years. Most probably, Mr A and GF are very serious to each other. Or else why the GF wait for 9 years? If the GF is a real bitch she would've pass in 2 or 3 years.
So the main reason for failure could be lying on the change of perspective of the GF are Mr A in the 9 years. As time pass, pple tend to mature and think differently. Maybe the GF was young then and now she understand her own need and wat she wants. maybe during the middle of the relationship she and Mr A had a great fight that affected him or her deeply . 9 years alot of things can happen that could either weaken or Strength the relationship. Of course in this case....it's the latter.
The girl is not entire wrong. Mr B's advances might give her the need that Mr A fail to give. Mr B's advances might heal her from the wound of Mr A's relationship. The GF might find that Mr A neglecting her, be it work or other factors. For 9 year, one could be tired of the other's character and she could be putting up with many of his bad habits that Mr A doesn't want to change. It's not wrong not to love someone anymore, wat really matters is whether are you able to live the one you don't love. in this case, the GF knew she cannot carry on this relationship anymore. Her "chase me again" might not only be meant giving Mr A a chance, but to give herself another chance to love Mr A again.....of course Mr A chose breaking up. And With Mr B in the picture, Mr B might be more click with her in terms of the things Mr A not not fit in. Mr A might think that he loved her and showed his love, but that may be be the kind of love the GF really wants. The GF is not selfish, who want to live with someone that he/she don't like FOR LIFE? Not me definately......will you? However the GF is wrong for not sorting out her finally feelings earlier.
Mr A is not wrong but he's not entirely innocent too. First Mr A have to tell himself how he got this GF and how he treated her. Did Mr A know alot about her character and she behave? Have Mr A been unreasonable with his GF before and have Mr A been to libreral on her that she might get to wrong idea tha that Mr A don't care. Mr A might think that her put in alot of effort but this that wat the GF wants? Did Mr A try hard to save the relationship? Or did he just meet up with her more, give her flowers and money? If so then he'll surely fail. But if the GF is still unmoved, then it's no use to hang on to such flimsy relationship. She could be better off without Mr A and he could be better off without her. Mr A cannot blame Mr B or his GF, he can only reflect upon himself, stand up from failure and learn.
Mr B is the third party. There's nothing wrong to love someone, even if the one is already attached. Mr B's love could be so deep that he cannot retrained himself. But third party or not, Mr is not wrong. If the relationship had been strong, Mr B would even stand a chance. But the relationship is weak and that's why Mr B got it. Who know Mr B might've save the day cos he's the one to make Mr A and GF realise that their relationship is not working and have to break.
Cos of, this are based on my opinion. Very neutual. You didn't give much details on their character and so on so I cannot say that the GF is a money-eating BITCH or Mr B is the CUNNING ASSHOLE or Mr A is the pathetic poor victim. IMO, nobody is wrong.
If there anything you disagree, I welcome subjective critcs....I won't tolerate flames. -
whoa... nice analysis...
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Good analysis and I almost agree with you, with the exceptions...Originally posted by Silenthunter:I'll try to give a very neutual answer.......the fact is.....NONE of them is actually wrong.
A relationship that falls after 9 years is something different from a relationship that fall after 2years. Most probably, Mr A and GF are very serious to each other. Or else why the GF wait for 9 years? If the GF is a real bitch she would've pass in 2 or 3 years.
So the main reason for failure could be lying on the change of perspective of the GF are Mr A in the 9 years. As time pass, pple tend to mature and think differently. Maybe the GF was young then and now she understand her own need and wat she wants. maybe during the middle of the relationship she and Mr A had a great fight that affected him or her deeply . 9 years alot of things can happen that could either weaken or Strength the relationship. Of course in this case....it's the latter.
The girl is not entire wrong. Mr B's advances might give her the need that Mr A fail to give. Mr B's advances might heal her from the wound of Mr A's relationship. The GF might find that Mr A neglecting her, be it work or other factors. For 9 year, one could be tired of the other's character and she could be putting up with many of his bad habits that Mr A doesn't want to change. It's not wrong not to love someone anymore, wat really matters is whether are you able to live the one you don't love. in this case, the GF knew she cannot carry on this relationship anymore. Her "chase me again" might not only be meant giving Mr A a chance, but to give herself another chance to love Mr A again.....of course Mr A chose breaking up. And With Mr B in the picture, Mr B might be more click with her in terms of the things Mr A not not fit in. Mr A might think that he loved her and showed his love, but that may be be the kind of love the GF really wants. The GF is not selfish, who want to live with someone that he/she don't like FOR LIFE? Not me definately......will you? However the GF is wrong for not sorting out her finally feelings earlier.
Mr A is not wrong but he's not entirely innocent too. First Mr A have to tell himself how he got this GF and how he treated her. Did Mr A know alot about her character and she behave? Have Mr A been unreasonable with his GF before and have Mr A been to libreral on her that she might get to wrong idea tha that Mr A don't care. Mr A might think that her put in alot of effort but this that wat the GF wants? Did Mr A try hard to save the relationship? Or did he just meet up with her more, give her flowers and money? If so then he'll surely fail. But if the GF is still unmoved, then it's no use to hang on to such flimsy relationship. She could be better off without Mr A and he could be better off without her. Mr A cannot blame Mr B or his GF, he can only reflect upon himself, stand up from failure and learn.
Mr B is the third party. There's nothing wrong to love someone, even if the one is already attached. Mr B's love could be so deep that he cannot retrained himself. But third party or not, Mr is not wrong. If the relationship had been strong, Mr B would even stand a chance. But the relationship is weak and that's why Mr B got it. Who know Mr B might've save the day cos he's the one to make Mr A and GF realise that their relationship is not working and have to break.
Cos of, this are based on my opinion. Very neutual. You didn't give much details on their character and so on so I cannot say that the GF is a money-eating BITCH or Mr B is the CUNNING ASSHOLE or Mr A is the pathetic poor victim. IMO, nobody is wrong.
If there anything you disagree, I welcome subjective critcs....I won't tolerate flames.
I agree with the fact that if she is a bitch, she would have broke him long ago instead of lingering in this relation....
- Her Bf is good, but she has finally found someone who is much better than those other guys who tries to woo her. In terms of everything. If you are talking about strength of relation, 9 years does not mean = strong foundation - in fact in reality, the longer a relation goes without marriage - it is at risk of a weaker foundation, because relation is a continuous movement - either going up, or going down. The same as your second paragraph, with a slight difference in explaining.
For your third paragraph, you provide reasonable insight into this situation, but I have disagree slightly and add more one point. You said the whole entire paragraph, let me phrase it into one sentence: 'You should go with the person you really love, instead of sticking with someone where the chemistry and feeling is gone.'
But the thing is that marriage is a totally another issue. She dump him and married him straight away. This makes totally ZERO sense, because she probably led a strange relation with this guy prior before she made this decision of marrying. A high likelihood of two-timing. I mean you don't break, go with another guy and marry him right? So, this shows that a private relation is likely to happen within the girl and guy B - in Love, nobody is at fault (its personal preception, feelings and way of thinking), so, yes it is not her fault - but it does degrade her don't do think?
Guy B.... as long as she is not married - he still stand a chance. So I agree with your saying.
Guy A.... one thing I have to say is that he is the one who broke her and discovered that his gf isn't what she think she is - it is a good thing and he should be gald that he didn't marry her, because if he did - he is going to regret to find out that her heart is not totally with her and would likely end up in divorce. If there is a child already - another innocent party comes into the picture and complicate this situation. Thank God that before such scenario happens - he have seen the real picture. He is not the victim - he is the enlightened one. -
After you guys input, I seek out Mr.A for further details on the ger. Actually Mr. A knew all along that the ger have been "flabuoyant" in her entire 8yrs relationship with Mr. A. - I dunno what that meant, but I guess "flabuoyant" means "still sleeping" with other guys?
Mr. A had also told me that the ger had been "caught" sleeping with at least 3 different guys throughout their 8yrs of relationship. Mr. A had forgiven her on every occasion and that ger promised to change that's why for the past 2 years they have been planning to get married...
Mr. A is a faithful person & have regular sex only with the ger.
Anyway after knowing the truth, I too think Mr. A is the enlightened one in this situation ! Also very heng to finally give up on this proven continually unfaithful bitch. Very Heng siah !! -
Mmmmzz...now what can we say. This is the reaity of the world.Originally posted by Elementals:After you guys input, I seek out Mr.A for further details on the ger. Actually Mr. A knew all along that the ger have been "flabuoyant" in her entire 8yrs relationship with Mr. A. - I dunno what that meant, but I guess "flabuoyant" means "still sleeping" with other guys?
Mr. A had also told me that the ger had been "caught" sleeping with at least 3 different guys throughout their 8yrs of relationship. Mr. A had forgiven her on every occasion and that ger promised to change that's why for the past 2 years they have been planning to get married...
Mr. A is a faithful person & have regular sex only with the ger.
Anyway after knowing the truth, I too think Mr. A is the enlightened one in this situation ! Also very heng to finally give up on this proven continually unfaithful bitch. Very Heng siah !!
We cant say that we pity Mr. A cos he knew all along..so i suppose we was willing to be tortured by the ger. -
Whoa...then that's a different case liao.......I gave that analysis as a neutual cos I dunno much about the relationsip the the ger's character...........but now that it seems that the picture is clearer......I rest my case.Originally posted by Elementals:After you guys input, I seek out Mr.A for further details on the ger. Actually Mr. A knew all along that the ger have been "flabuoyant" in her entire 8yrs relationship with Mr. A. - I dunno what that meant, but I guess "flabuoyant" means "still sleeping" with other guys?
Mr. A had also told me that the ger had been "caught" sleeping with at least 3 different guys throughout their 8yrs of relationship. Mr. A had forgiven her on every occasion and that ger promised to change that's why for the past 2 years they have been planning to get married...
Mr. A is a faithful person & have regular sex only with the ger.
Anyway after knowing the truth, I too think Mr. A is the enlightened one in this situation ! Also very heng to finally give up on this proven continually unfaithful bitch. Very Heng siah !! -
Cool Yunhaier..........Guess I overlook that part on the "immediate marriage" thingyOriginally posted by Yunhaier:Good analysis and I almost agree with you, with the exceptions...
I agree with the fact that if she is a bitch, she would have broke him long ago instead of lingering in this relation....
- Her Bf is good, but she has finally found someone who is much better than those other guys who tries to woo her. In terms of everything. If you are talking about strength of relation, 9 years does not mean = strong foundation - in fact in reality, the longer a relation goes without marriage - it is at risk of a weaker foundation, because relation is a continuous movement - either going up, or going down. The same as your second paragraph, with a slight difference in explaining.
For your third paragraph, you provide reasonable insight into this situation, but I have disagree slightly and add more one point. You said the whole entire paragraph, let me phrase it into one sentence: 'You should go with the person you really love, instead of sticking with someone where the chemistry and feeling is gone.'
But the thing is that marriage is a totally another issue. She dump him and married him straight away. This makes totally ZERO sense, because she probably led a strange relation with this guy prior before she made this decision of marrying. A high likelihood of two-timing. I mean you don't break, go with another guy and marry him right? So, this shows that a private relation is likely to happen within the girl and guy B - in Love, nobody is at fault (its personal preception, feelings and way of thinking), so, yes it is not her fault - but it does degrade her don't do think?
Guy B.... as long as she is not married - he still stand a chance. So I agree with your saying.
Guy A.... one thing I have to say is that he is the one who broke her and discovered that his gf isn't what she think she is - it is a good thing and he should be gald that he didn't marry her, because if he did - he is going to regret to find out that her heart is not totally with her and would likely end up in divorce. If there is a child already - another innocent party comes into the picture and complicate this situation. Thank God that before such scenario happens - he have seen the real picture. He is not the victim - he is the enlightened one. ..............cheers!!