Please tell me how to i forgive myself for falling in love with almost any girl i met? I hate myself for falling in love so readily. I hate myself for my outlook, but i dun blame my parents. I hate myself to the extent that i numb my feeling for girls with sad song. I hate everything except my loved one, sgforums and some of my true friends...Originally posted by Isis:1. Don't scare yourself: Stop terrorizing yourself with your thoughts. It's a dreadful way to live. Find a mental image that gives you pleasure (mine is yellow roses), and immediately switch your scary thought to a pleasure thought.
2. Be gentle and kind and patient: Be gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be patient with yourself as you learn the new ways of thinking. Treat yourself as you would someone you
really loved.
3. Be kind to your mind: Self-hatred is only hating your own thoughts. Don't hate yourself for having the thoughts. Gently change the thoughts.
4. Praise yourself: Criticism breaks the inner spirit. Praise builds it up. Praise yourself as much as you can. Tell yourself how well you are doing with every little thing.
5. Support yourself: Find ways to support yourself. Reach out to friends, and allow them to help you. It is being strong to ask for help when you need it.
6. Be loving to your negatives: Acknowledge that you created them to fulfill a need. Now you are finding new, positive ways to fulfill those needs. So. lovingly release the old negative patterns.
7. Take care of your body: Learn about nutrition. What kind of fuel does your body need to have optimum energy and vitality? Learn about exercise. What kind of exercise can you enjoy? Cherish and revere the temple you live in.
Perhaps its not love but infatuation? Its the interest you develope in the girl that misleads you into thinking that is love. try supressing those thoughts and treat them like ordinary friends instead...Know that somewhere out there somewhere someone is waiting for your true love.Originally posted by Uncertain:Please tell me how to i forgive myself for falling in love with almost any girl i met? I hate myself for falling in love so readily. I hate myself for my outlook, but i dun blame my parents. I hate myself to the extent that i numb my feeling for girls with sad song. I hate everything except my loved one, sgforums and some of my true friends...
Thanks for the advice but my heart is made of flesh afterall but i will rehold all my feeling with all my might. hope what u said came true one dayOriginally posted by rain-coat:Perhaps its not love but infatuation? Its the interest you develope in the girl that misleads you into thinking that is love. try supressing those thoughts and treat them like ordinary friends instead...Know that somewhere out there somewhere someone is waiting for your true love.![]()
How about not having unrealistic expectation about being with this girl ?Originally posted by Uncertain:Please tell me how to i forgive myself for falling in love with almost any girl i met? I hate myself for falling in love so readily. I hate myself for my outlook, but i dun blame my parents. I hate myself to the extent that i numb my feeling for girls with sad song. I hate everything except my loved one, sgforums and some of my true friends...
I fall in love readily may be attributed to the fact that i am yielding badly for one as i nv have one before. However, i find this yielding so undesirable and that explains y i hate myself.Originally posted by Isis:How about not having unrealistic expectation about being with this girl ?
I'm not really sure by what you mean by falling in love with almost any girl you meet. Let say you have a girlfriend already and it is possible for you to fall in love with another girl then?
Love is more of loving someone and being loved back. Love also has its up and down to make it complete. This is love in BGR sense.. i think..
Haha dont worry its normal to feel this way. I know how you feel cos i experienced them before. Although im still single i try to indulge myself in friendship rather than BGR. for me its quite easy as im in scouts and it is really where i meet real buddies. try sharing your problems more often then we can all talk about it and im sure you will feel better...Originally posted by Uncertain:I fall in love readily may be attributed to the fact that i am yielding badly for one as i nv have one before. However, i find this yielding so undesirable and that explains y i hate myself.
People call this:" despo, horny... whatever" When a girl treats me nicely, i always have this thought that i am having a chance. I know this is, in fact, no true at all. Therefore, i hate myself for being so despo but this sounds rather unpleasant and that's y i modified it as above.
i totally agree with u on this:" Love is more of loving someone and being loved back" But how to i know whether she is my destined one? What if i nv get to meet her, how am i going to console myself and to explain to my mum that i cannot find one in the coming future?
These questions are unanswerable, that's also y i nv want to think about such questions. I am in a closure to ensure myself to be safe. I know u will say escapism won't solve problems but this is the only way to prevent myself from making further mistakes of scaring away my female friends. I won't risk a friendship for a r/s. My faith for r/s is draining and i seek to refill it by having one but then i am caught in a dilemma again (friendship vs r/s) and with all my bad past experiences, the only option left on the shelf is just friendship. To ensure, i don't go back; i listen to sad song to make myself as depressed as possible so that i won't have silly thought.![]()
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Thanks! Perhaps i am now taking the path that u once took. Anyway, i will attain ur mentality one day and be a better person..Originally posted by rain-coat:Haha dont worry its normal to feel this way. I know how you feel cos i experienced them before. Although im still single i try to indulge myself in friendship rather than BGR. for me its quite easy as im in scouts and it is really where i meet real buddies. try sharing your problems more often then we can all talk about it and im sure you will feel better...![]()