r/s enquiry
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My impression of falling in love is when i laid my eyes on a girl, she has that ability to make my heart pump faster when i saw her.
The feeling whereby i will get nervous when i talked to her.
As if there is just the two of us in the world.
However, i got to know this girl recently and briefly, she is pretty but she doesn't make my heart go faster. I don't have that special feeling when i am with her. Yet i can positively says that she does have that bit of feeling for me.
I'm afraid of leading her on because i am quite unsure.
She doesn't fit into my criteria of being in love. I wondered, if there are cases whereby people became bf/gf in status and proceeded to build their r/s
or the feelings are there before they became bf/gf.
I believe there are people who had went through either or the scenarios. Please enlighten me if there is a 'standard' way of getting into a r/s.
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Looking forward to your replies.
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haha!!! so how my friend? any advice or experiences to share? -
when you are unsure whether you are attracted to the girl or not, then no matter how attractive she is, you are definitely not ' in love' with her.
when in doubt, don't. -
Actually there aren't any 'standard' way of getting into a r/s.Originally posted by r33b0k:My impression of falling in love is when i laid my eyes on a girl, she has that ability to make my heart pump faster when i saw her.
The feeling whereby i will get nervous when i talked to her.
As if there is just the two of us in the world.
However, i got to know this girl recently and briefly, she is pretty but she doesn't make my heart go faster. I don't have that special feeling when i am with her. Yet i can positively says that she does have that bit of feeling for me.
I'm afraid of leading her on because i am quite unsure.
She doesn't fit into my criteria of being in love. I wondered, if there are cases whereby people became bf/gf in status and proceeded to build their r/s
or the feelings are there before they became bf/gf.
I believe there are people who had went through either or the scenarios. Please enlighten me if there is a 'standard' way of getting into a r/s.
haha
Looking forward to your replies.
Cheers!
Most common:
Two people have feelings for each other, and one party confess. Then they get into r/s.
Olden days era:
Whereby they don't have feelings for each other, but due to parents forcing to marry someone who they don't like at first, the feeling starts to develop at the later stage. -
To know whether a boy or gal love each other, u need to hv the feeling of "missing". If i really love a boy, i will miss him tremedously and alway think of wanted to be with him, want to know where he is, what he is doing, but not in a way of entering his life and bothering him, just a goodwill that he is ok and alright.
The moment my bf go off after sending me home at nite, i missed him in just a few minutes, if that is not love, i do not what is should be.
In TS case, he got no feeling nor missing factor to support his love for this gal, suggest that u spell it out to the gal, she may get furious or awkward, but gradually realise that it better to speak out now then regret later. Just be frens, give each other more rooms n chances for other romances. -
i believe that it is due to the very short time we knew each other (2 outings).Originally posted by angel7030:In TS case, he got no feeling nor missing factor to support his love for this gal, suggest that u spell it out to the gal, she may get furious or awkward, but gradually realise that it better to speak out now then regret later. Just be frens, give each other more rooms n chances for other romances.
yet, if that being the case, why and what did she like me about.
we held hands on our 2nd outing, but it doesn't have that electric and kind of blissful feelings. i'm really afraid i'm sending the wrong signals..
i think i shld get to know her better right?
or maybe she is a player and trying to frag me for the kick of it?
haha, i'm tinking too much now. -
-.-" only second outing? Who initiate the holding hand?Originally posted by r33b0k:i believe that it is due to the very short time we knew each other (2 outings).
yet, if that being the case, why and what did she like me about.
we held hands on our 2nd outing, but it doesn't have that electric and kind of blissful feelings. i'm really afraid i'm sending the wrong signals..
i think i shld get to know her better right?
or maybe she is a player and trying to frag me for the kick of it?
haha, i'm tinking too much now. -
i guess its pretty mutual.. but she dropped the signals first.. hahaOriginally posted by Darkness_hacker99:-.-" only second outing? Who initiate the holding hand? -
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in relationship, don't talk about criteria. its about the feeling, it comes, then take it. don't regret if you didnt
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fer me i think abt whether the gal is worth all the trouble im going to haf to go thru to 'entertain' her. i tink fer me effective leh esp since im lazy person.
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Feeling is important. But criteria will definitely comes in as u went into a r/s deeper and longer..Originally posted by mortified:in relationship, don't talk about criteria. its about the feeling, it comes, then take it. don't regret if you didnt
If u know the gal has some horrible character and still insist on going on this r/s. Chances are u will suffer in the r/s. I seen too many cases! -
this is ridiculous.Originally posted by r33b0k:i believe that it is due to the very short time we knew each other (2 outings).
yet, if that being the case, why and what did she like me about.
we held hands on our 2nd outing, but it doesn't have that electric and kind of blissful feelings. i'm really afraid i'm sending the wrong signals..
i think i shld get to know her better right?
or maybe she is a player and trying to frag me for the kick of it?
haha, i'm tinking too much now.
Not only you dont have any special feelings for her, you dont even know or trust her enough!! and even has thoughts that she might be "a player and trying to frag me for the kick of it"
So why aren't you making things clear right now when you obviously are so unsure? I'm not asking you to do yourself out of a chance to get to know her better, but do yourself a favour and just clarify things lah.
Repeat after me: Don't be gian.. don't be gian.. don't be gian cos a girl shows signs that she likes you. -
yes, i think you might be right that i don't trust her enough.Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:this is ridiculous.
Not only you dont have any special feelings for her, you dont even know or trust her enough!! and even has thoughts that she might be "a player and trying to frag me for the kick of it"
So why aren't you making things clear right now when you obviously are so unsure? I'm not asking you to do yourself out of a chance to get to know her better, but do yourself a favour and just clarify things lah.
Repeat after me: Don't be gian.. don't be gian.. don't be gian cos a girl shows signs that she likes you.
this is because we all have the rights to prevent our hearts from being broken.
thats why, all the more i see that we shld spend more time to know each other.
many thanks to the others who also joined in the discussion and allowed me to see from different point of views. -
as long as the spending time with each other does not become a downhill road to taking advantage of a girl you are doubtful of liking simply becos she lets you do it.Originally posted by r33b0k:yes, i think you might be right that i don't trust her enough.
this is because we all have the rights to prevent our hearts from being broken.
thats why, all the more i see that we shld spend more time to know each other.
many thanks to the others who also joined in the discussion and allowed me to see from different point of views. -
ya, i agree and i trust myself not to do that. hahaOriginally posted by ShrodingersCat:as long as the spending time with each other does not become a downhill road to taking advantage of a girl you are doubtful of liking simply becos she lets you do it. -
Ya, u can take yr time not only getting to know her but also to hv feeling with her, in whether if she is a player or initiator, u r the man, if u accepted her, treat her well and love her dearly. Again, if u hv no feeling for her, tell her now, but please dun bring her deeper in love for you. The deeper it cut, the deeper it hurt. Be good.Originally posted by r33b0k:i believe that it is due to the very short time we knew each other (2 outings).
yet, if that being the case, why and what did she like me about.
we held hands on our 2nd outing, but it doesn't have that electric and kind of blissful feelings. i'm really afraid i'm sending the wrong signals..
i think i shld get to know her better right?
or maybe she is a player and trying to frag me for the kick of it?
haha, i'm tinking too much now. -
im kinda curious whose clone are u.
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LoL! i'm not a clone..Originally posted by browniebaobao:im kinda curious whose clone are u. -
I was like you, that was how i see love, but later on really dun see the point there, like get so nervous when talking to him until nothing to talk about.. I don't live in fantasy now loooOriginally posted by r33b0k:My impression of falling in love is when i laid my eyes on a girl, she has that ability to make my heart pump faster when i saw her.
The feeling whereby i will get nervous when i talked to her.
As if there is just the two of us in the world.
I have gone thru your 2 scenarios.. and i think it's better to start as frns first really.. u never know, next time u might develop feelings for her.. good luck yo
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X2Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:when you are unsure whether you are attracted to the girl or not, then no matter how attractive she is, you are definitely not ' in love' with her.
when in doubt, don't.