Another Heart Break, don't know how to love again...
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Thanks.Originally posted by MidnightK:nice guys finish first or last??
i forgot the saying..
it's not about considerate girls or whatsoever..
it's just a matter of "oh, she's not the ONE"
a lot of people like to bring up money matters..
it's not that important..
The "ONE", by the way, we put whole hearted 100% effort bulding up a castle of love for both of us and she did not even put a single effort into it, oh ya, maybe a grip of sand. At the end she say she have enough play and collapse the castle and what I get?
She's gone in the wind and enjoy another fun while leaving us behind clearing up the mess.
While she can still enjoy life to the fullest while we dropping tears collecting every pieces of the broken heart and suffer. -
so stop being the one to clear up the mess..Originally posted by griefman:Thanks.
The "ONE", by the way, we put whole hearted 100% effort bulding up a castle of love for both of us and she did not even put a single effort into it, oh ya, maybe a grip of sand. At the end she say she have enough play and collapse the castle and what I get?
She's gone in the wind and enjoy another fun while leaving us behind clearing up the mess.
While she can still enjoy life to the fullest while we dropping tears collecting every pieces of the broken heart and suffer.
i'm not saying you go out and break girls' heart..
something i firmly believe in..
never get into a relationship just for fun..
it's easy getting into one..
but do you wanna waste your own and people's time??
it's not only selfish but irresponsible.. -
Originally posted by griefman:Thanks.
The "ONE", by the way, we put whole hearted 100% effort bulding up a castle of love for both of us and she did not even put a single effort into it, oh ya, maybe a grip of sand. At the end she say she have enough play and collapse the castle and what I get?
She's gone in the wind and enjoy another fun while leaving us behind clearing up the mess.
While she can still enjoy life to the fullest while we dropping tears collecting every pieces of the broken heart and suffer.
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I know again, if you love someone, you should see her happy. Here another say, who makes us happy then? Are we born to be a giver to assure we can get a better relationship? should we thanks them for dumping us so that we can have another tokens to ensure we have someone better in front? What if all the tokens you have been collecting turned out to be nothing? who's gonna makes us happy after all? We give and we don't owe them anything. But they can take without causing any sin and still get our wish/love/caring and wouldn't get a lightning strike on them.
Why love when love is treated unfair. -
go read up Yun's post on 'the One'..Originally posted by griefman:Thanks.
The "ONE", by the way, we put whole hearted 100% effort bulding up a castle of love for both of us and she did not even put a single effort into it, oh ya, maybe a grip of sand. At the end she say she have enough play and collapse the castle and what I get?
She's gone in the wind and enjoy another fun while leaving us behind clearing up the mess.
While she can still enjoy life to the fullest while we dropping tears collecting every pieces of the broken heart and suffer.
and also.. admit it ba.. ur heart is brokened, u feel hurt, bcos u allowed her to do that to u.
u were too submissive le. sigh, we are one of a kind. -
what you say here is selfish..Originally posted by griefman:I know again, if you love someone, you should see her happy. Here another say, who makes us happy then? Are we born to be a giver to assure we can get a better relationship? should we thanks them for dumping us so that we can have another tokens to ensure we have someone better in front? What if all the tokens you have been collecting turned out to be nothing? who's gonna makes us happy after all? We give and we don't owe them anything. But they can take without causing any sin and still get our wish/love/caring and wouldn't get a lightning strike on them.
Why love when love is treated unfair. -
love can never be fair?Originally posted by griefman:I know again, if you love someone, you should see her happy. Here another say, who makes us happy then? Are we born to be a giver to assure we can get a better relationship? should we thanks them for dumping us so that we can have another tokens to ensure we have someone better in front? What if all the tokens you have been collecting turned out to be nothing? who's gonna makes us happy after all? We give and we don't owe them anything. But they can take without causing any sin and still get our wish/love/caring and wouldn't get a lightning strike on them.
Why love when love is treated unfair.
i believe we will all learn something from a failed r/s. it all depends on whether u wana learn from it.
grief, curse and swear all u want now, she wun know.. even if she knows, will she care?
ask urself whether she's worth it.
ask urself, whether u want to let urself crumble or make urself stronger after this episode.
I believe that whatever does not defeat u, makes u stronger...tho u might not be happier. -
Sometimes is quite confusing, in order to love someone, you must first love yourself (being selfish, think from our point of view first). Being too much nice guys turned to be bad guys and at the end of the day. Bad guys get all the girls...Originally posted by MidnightK:what you say here is selfish.. -
well it applies to both gender ba..Originally posted by griefman:Sometimes is quite confusing, in order to love someone, you must first love yourself (being selfish, think from our point of view first). Being too much nice guys turned to be bad guys and at the end of the day. Bad guys get all the girls...
girls are attracted to bad guys
guys are blinded by bad girls -
i don't agree with this..Originally posted by griefman:Sometimes is quite confusing, in order to love someone, you must first love yourself (being selfish, think from our point of view first). Being too much nice guys turned to be bad guys and at the end of the day. Bad guys get all the girls...
you are too pessimistic..
after sometime, you read back again.. -
hey TS, just chill...
relax...
nice guys finish last...
dat is ur case...
from wat i've read,
ur kind of person is too nice, too hard to believe dat dis kinda guy exist.
u r the kind dat goes for bad girls, not those dat r like u.
bad girls with good guys, bad guys with good girls. moderate with moderate.
u belong to the ultra good guy.
wld there be fun for the girl or u dat everytime quarrel and she win?
she wants challenges, not losers.
shoppin, sure, guys will go shopping with girls, but not to the extend of goin everytime. shld just go occasionally, dat she'll feel, "wow... he long long one time bring me out, i must appreciate it.." those kind.
buyin her things, wat occasion? u too much money to spare isit? y not donate some and let things dat goes ard return to u? den u buy alr, u become skinny, she bcome fat, wat will ppl think?
clingy, where's ur backbone, where's ur frens? stick to her so much, she where got freedom? she where got time for frens?
work, meeting is meetin, ur future is in ur hands, not in hers. if u have her but no future, wat's the point in stayin with u? if u have a future, hw many girls wld wana stay with u?
decisions, most girls like guys to plan everything, plan for romantic outin, plan for dis n dat. if u dun make decisions and become a Yes man, den where's ur creativity? where's ur sincerity?
dog name, the way u react, u deserve it.
opening door n carryin bags, sure, gentleman. but only on special occasions dat she'll feel "i'll appreciate it"
intimacy, let her know dat when she's tired n she doesn't want it, SO DO U.
power of love, no, blinded by love, YES.
those dat i type are harsh, i apologize, it's for the good of u.
if i dun "advice" u, u might commit the same mistakes agn.
if she doesnt appreciate or cherish it, let her b.
wat she thinks is her way of thinkin, u can't change her way of thinkin.
WAKE UP UR IDEA...
Dun be a HEN-PECK from nw on...
hope all dis is enuf to wake u up.
if u dun mind, n need more frens, i cn b one, jst msg me. in fact, i believe there are many here who dun mind bein frens with u.
take care...
merry xmas and happy new year.
smile, if it doesn't make u happy, at least the person seein it will. -
Thanks, actually I want to be stronger, I also want to be happy, I want a home and a lovely wife, just that simple. But the society we living polluted our mind, everyday tons of new ads, luxury car, luxury designer handbags, luxury gadget. Handsome and hot babe with materialistic love drama. Here's the problem, pollution, either I am a cult or isolated, is it my brain are not trap inside or what.Originally posted by browniebaobao:love can never be fair?
i believe we will all learn something from a failed r/s. it all depends on whether u wana learn from it.
grief, curse and swear all u want now, she wun know.. even if she knows, will she care?
ask urself whether she's worth it.
ask urself, whether u want to let urself crumble or make urself stronger after this episode.
I believe that whatever does not defeat u, makes u stronger...tho u might not be happier.
Maybe sometimes just think of quiting my job and sell my car and live in shaolin, probably they will be much more peaceful. -
haha..Originally posted by griefman:Thanks, actually I want to be stronger, I also want to be happy, I want a home and a lovely wife, just that simple. But the society we living polluted our mind, everyday tons of new ads, luxury car, luxury designer handbags, luxury gadget. Handsome and hot babe with materialistic love drama. Here's the problem, pollution, either I am a cult or isolated, is it my brain are not trap inside or what.
Maybe sometimes just think of quiting my job and sell my car and live in shaolin, probably they will be much more peaceful.
one will not be influenced if he doesn't allow himself to. -
God send all the bad girls to me and I have to bear with it, I know even I am not rich as trump but you can still get hot babe with challenge and humorous. Women like challenge. With all the given feedback, if I can fine tune every variables they wants moderately and equally (and I have tried actually), it will rank up another problems. Anything I do was just not right and they want more more more ...Originally posted by RiverFoX:hey TS, just chill...
relax...
nice guys finish last...
dat is ur case...
from wat i've read,
ur kind of person is too nice, too hard to believe dat dis kinda guy exist.
u r the kind dat goes for bad girls, not those dat r like u.
bad girls with good guys, bad guys with good girls. moderate with moderate.
u belong to the ultra good guy.
wld there be fun for the girl or u dat everytime quarrel and she win?
she wants challenges, not losers.
shoppin, sure, guys will go shopping with girls, but not to the extend of goin everytime. shld just go occasionally, dat she'll feel, "wow... he long long one time bring me out, i must appreciate it.." those kind.
buyin her things, wat occasion? u too much money to spare isit? y not donate some and let things dat goes ard return to u? den u buy alr, u become skinny, she bcome fat, wat will ppl think?
clingy, where's ur backbone, where's ur frens? stick to her so much, she where got freedom? she where got time for frens?
work, meeting is meetin, ur future is in ur hands, not in hers. if u have her but no future, wat's the point in stayin with u? if u have a future, hw many girls wld wana stay with u?
decisions, most girls like guys to plan everything, plan for romantic outin, plan for dis n dat. if u dun make decisions and become a Yes man, den where's ur creativity? where's ur sincerity?
dog name, the way u react, u deserve it.
opening door n carryin bags, sure, gentleman. but only on special occasions dat she'll feel "i'll appreciate it"
intimacy, let her know dat when she's tired n she doesn't want it, SO DO U.
power of love, no, blinded by love, YES.
those dat i type are harsh, i apologize, it's for the good of u.
if i dun "advice" u, u might commit the same mistakes agn.
if she doesnt appreciate or cherish it, let her b.
wat she thinks is her way of thinkin, u can't change her way of thinkin.
WAKE UP UR IDEA...
Dun be a HEN-PECK from nw on...
hope all dis is enuf to wake u up.
if u dun mind, n need more frens, i cn b one, jst msg me. in fact, i believe there are many here who dun mind bein frens with u.
take care...
merry xmas and happy new year.
smile, if it doesn't make u happy, at least the person seein it will.
Talking about 4 relationship, not sure why other can be so successful. I am moving on, thinking what's love again..going to bookstore flipping relationship book and looking at horoscope book. Still making me nuts, I think I should just forget how to love and be a cold blooded person, loner. -
bbb, you think this is strategy huh?Originally posted by browniebaobao:haha..
one will not be influenced if he doesn't allow himself to. -
bcos u never learn.Originally posted by griefman:God send all the bad girls to me and I have to bear with it, I know even I am not rich as trump but you can still get hot babe with challenge and humorous. Women like challenge. With all the given feedback, if I can fine tune every variables they wants moderately and equally (and I have tried actually), it will rank up another problems. Anything I do was just not right and they want more more more ...
Talking about 4 relationship, not sure why other can be so successful. I am moving on, thinking what's love again..going to bookstore flipping relationship book and looking at horoscope book. Still making me nuts, I think I should just forget how to love and be a cold blooded person, loner.
quoted from Yunhaier:
if u love the way u always love, u get the girl u always get.
the kind of energy u emit to the universe will determine wat kind of girl u will get.. so, it all boils down to u.
shall let Yun come in to elaborate more.
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U meet the wrong girl TS.
If i was u, i will show her this _|_ Really F-up girl. She thinks she is what? Want then cling on u, Dun want then bo chap or avoid u.
Dude, u seriously deserve someone much better than this Bitch. I call her bitch (I know u won't like it) because she is using u and not LOVING u. Why bother to feel sad for her? I believe ur credit card debt is caused by her so the morale of the story is dun bother to spend things on ur next gf. Seriously, if a girl likes u, she only likes u for who u are, not ur $$$.
I will remain my singlehood till i meet this special one. Be more street-smart to identify Gold-diggers (some girls are like that) otherwise u will nv be financially strong.
All in all, there is nothing wrong with u, just that u dun know who to love and who to avoid. Dun fall for look (at least must be decent) but rather character.
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eh bro..be a man la..dont give her everything she wants,she will take u as a atm machine only.This kind of woman dont wan oso can.She has no eyes,she cant see how good u are.Go find another girl who will truely appreciate u and be happy,dont be so depress and act like u cant live without her.Then,whne she see how good u are doing,she will beg u to go back to her.At that time,u can tell her how u felt whn she left you and tell her this is KARMA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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don't sacrifice the whole forest just because of a tree,she is worth nothing..
just move on with your daily life bah..
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I think you're being a little too harsh on yourself, in spite of your follies.
For a start, how old are you?
From your description, your latest squeeze - and understandably so at 24 - has just commenced on her journey in life where she gets a good mix of what life has to offer. The fact she yearns for freedom and not knowing what she wants clearly suggests that. Now, dealing with someone like her would obviously require a totally different tact compared to handling women in their late 20's looking to settle down. In view of that, if you're of a reasonable age to settle down and are actively looking to do so, this relationship is clearly a mismatch from the outset. Rather than criticising yourself exhaustively, why don't you just get a grip that not everything in life is within your control? Clearly, your partner's maturity is one of those things.
That said, I would say the point about whether you've what it takes to hold on to a relationship isn't so much about you being grossly accommodating or excessively intolerant. IMO, an issue of concern would be how far you are prepared to go to accommodate a woman in your life, rather than accept the fact it was a mismatch to begin with. Beyond your behaviour smacking of desperation, I certainly wouldn't imagine it prudent for you to compromise your principles and values (by that, I don't mean being rigidly regimental and chauvinistic obviously ) for anything or anyone, much less a woman. Ultimately, for anyone seriously looking for a lifetime partner, I'm sure settling for someone who isn't prepared to stand his ground on the most fundamental issues in life is the last thing on their minds. This isn't a matter of trying to alter your behaviour to come across as challenging (which you seem to want to do now) to sustain a woman's interest for the sake of doing so - it's a matter of simply standing your ground and having the courage to be yourself.
In essence, to reconcile and address your woes, you've got to first determine the person you are and be who you are. That's what's within your control. What is beyond your control would be what your potential partner seeks in a beau - that is what you need to accept and come to terms with the fact that only women whose life values and beliefs complement yours are worthy of your pursuit. For those who don't fit that category, you have just got to give them a pass. It's high time you stopped hammering a square peg into a round hole.
After all, what good is it for you to attract someone who cannot accept your true self? -
dude, hope ure reading this.
i was like u previously. u wan so bad that u hope that life is like friendster u can subscribe to her updates. whats over is over. the worst way to go about it is this. keep telling yourself that she is in bed with another man, so shes not worth it.
let me dedicate u a sad song which truely reflects this situation.
dream fm- bu zhi de -
If she is into money, u can forget about her. It's better to end it short then get merried and had this money problem cos it's no ending. Gal at 20's looking at money point of view. At 30's they will look for someone really cares. If she is my gf, I will not heart break cos she love $ more then me.
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Your story is long. But simple.
Wrong woman, wrong time.
Nice guys don't finish last. They usually end up the groom, and the bad boys the best man.
Your girl is just in the wrong phase of life for you.
Clingy is bad during the early stages during her maturing period.
But clingy is good when she is totally ready to settle down.
When a woman is ready to settle down your nice guy personality will be the most ideal to bring home to see mom and dad.
Better a clingy bf/hb than one that likes wandering around.
You need to clear your credit card debt. I don't know how you got into it in the first place.
Having a debt means you are bad in financial planning. BAD as a spouse/partner.
The first thing I consider when I date a man, is he in debt, if yes, what kind of debt. Not because I am looking for a rich guy, but because I need to know how responsible he is with money management.
Becoming rich has much to do with how much you can earn, and EVERYTHING to do with how much you can save.
The rain is over, there will be sunshine.
Now is the time you go for upgrading and do what you need to do, to prepare for the next girl to come into your life.
She is just a passer by. Trust me, after you are done grieving, you wouldn't want her back even if she begs.
Live strong.