like compromising? as in give and take?Originally posted by fairlady_xoxo:I think the word for this is accomodate
that's the only thing you can do?Originally posted by sEphIrOth:like compromising? as in give and take?
but do you think sometimes when you accomodate, the person takes advantage of you?
You must know when to give and when to take....if you keep giving = confirm will get taken advantage...if you keep taking = you are just thinking for yourself...Originally posted by sEphIrOth:like compromising? as in give and take?
but do you think sometimes when you accomodate, the person takes advantage of you?
very true indeed. i never want to take, i also give sometimes. its a balance, but we get angry and agitated easily. both of us are easily irritated to be frank. what i decided is to...treat her rantings as "er pian feng" and not really care too much.Originally posted by fairlady_xoxo:You must know when to give and when to take....if you keep giving = confirm will get taken advantage...if you keep taking = you are just thinking for yourself...
Its best to talk it out...like what both of you expect in the relationship...find out both your strengths and weaknesses...then from there work it out...
Hmmm true to a certain extent...you can ignore her rants...but you have to think about it sometimes...if what she says has a basis for her to rant...if it does then you can think about how you can prevent her from complaining about it in the future =)Originally posted by sEphIrOth:very true indeed. i never want to take, i also give sometimes. its a balance, but we get angry and agitated easily. both of us are easily irritated to be frank. what i decided is to...treat her rantings as "er pian feng" and not really care too much.
Originally posted by fairlady_xoxo:Hmmm true to a certain extent...you can ignore her rants...but you have to think about it sometimes...if what she says has a basis for her to rant...if it does then you can think about how you can prevent her from complaining about it in the future =)