different personalities
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just a thought,
how u think would 2 people with different personalities and thinking be together? they both think their own ways are right and the other party is wrong, thus leading to quarrels.
The boy is petty, jealous and insecure. He is faithful and caring
The girl is easily irritated, blunt and easily agitated over small things. She is faithful and caring too. Willing to make big sacrifices for the guy.
Both have the self righteousness in them.
How to make it work? I believe in working things out at a comfort zone. It is not only me, I see my friends having the same problem of a clash of personality. What if one party gives in? How would it be?
I am not really having a problem, just some opinions on how to improve rather than give up.
Thank you.
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I think the word for this is accomodate
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like compromising? as in give and take?Originally posted by fairlady_xoxo:I think the word for this is accomodate
but do you think sometimes when you accomodate, the person takes advantage of you? -
that's the only thing you can do?Originally posted by sEphIrOth:like compromising? as in give and take?
but do you think sometimes when you accomodate, the person takes advantage of you?
in love, there's problems..
not in love, also problems..
it never ends! -
You must know when to give and when to take....if you keep giving = confirm will get taken advantage...if you keep taking = you are just thinking for yourself...Originally posted by sEphIrOth:like compromising? as in give and take?
but do you think sometimes when you accomodate, the person takes advantage of you?
Its best to talk it out...like what both of you expect in the relationship...find out both your strengths and weaknesses...then from there work it out... -
very true indeed. i never want to take, i also give sometimes. its a balance, but we get angry and agitated easily. both of us are easily irritated to be frank. what i decided is to...treat her rantings as "er pian feng" and not really care too much.Originally posted by fairlady_xoxo:You must know when to give and when to take....if you keep giving = confirm will get taken advantage...if you keep taking = you are just thinking for yourself...
Its best to talk it out...like what both of you expect in the relationship...find out both your strengths and weaknesses...then from there work it out... -
Hmmm true to a certain extent...you can ignore her rants...but you have to think about it sometimes...if what she says has a basis for her to rant...if it does then you can think about how you can prevent her from complaining about it in the future =)Originally posted by sEphIrOth:very true indeed. i never want to take, i also give sometimes. its a balance, but we get angry and agitated easily. both of us are easily irritated to be frank. what i decided is to...treat her rantings as "er pian feng" and not really care too much. -
Originally posted by fairlady_xoxo:Hmmm true to a certain extent...you can ignore her rants...but you have to think about it sometimes...if what she says has a basis for her to rant...if it does then you can think about how you can prevent her from complaining about it in the future =)
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sometimes it just works like magic, that is if you indeed found the right one