How to be more socially outgoing??
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Hi,
How do I change myself??
I'm not the outgoing type and I tend to be shy around girls, especially prettier ones. How do I curb this my behaviour?
Another question, I am afraid of competitions, unless it's something that I have done and excelled in without failure for a period of time. I am the 'kancheong' type and in competitions, I know I cannot be my usual and will surely lose.
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What if there really is no "You" [page: 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9]... you can do it! You can realize that there is no you!Originally posted by jr.spikey:Hi,
How do I change myself??
I'm not the outgoing type and I tend to be shy around girls, especially prettier ones. How do I curb this my behaviour?
Another question, I am afraid of competitions, unless it's something that I have done and excelled in without failure for a period of time. I am the 'kancheong' type and in competitions, I know I cannot be my usual and will surely lose.
If there is no you, how can 'you' be shy? -
go out with someone ugly then..Originally posted by jr.spikey:Hi,
How do I change myself??
I'm not the outgoing type and I tend to be shy around girls, especially prettier ones. How do I curb this my behaviour?
Another question, I am afraid of competitions, unless it's something that I have done and excelled in without failure for a period of time. I am the 'kancheong' type and in competitions, I know I cannot be my usual and will surely lose.
problem solved..
then don't take part in competitions..
it's all you..
just treat them as normal friends, so what if they are pretty or not??
you need confidence..
you go into a competition thinking you will surely lose, you lost even before going in.. -
... and if there is no 'you' how can you be afraid of losing? You will be able to perform your best as a result... but it takes time to realise that there is no 'you' ...
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U just need one thing to change them all... Confidents!Originally posted by jr.spikey:Hi,
How do I change myself??
I'm not the outgoing type and I tend to be shy around girls, especially prettier ones. How do I curb this my behaviour?
Another question, I am afraid of competitions, unless it's something that I have done and excelled in without failure for a period of time. I am the 'kancheong' type and in competitions, I know I cannot be my usual and will surely lose. 
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confidence and all that.. it's all easily said than done..
small steps... force yourself to speak a bit more.. to smile a bit more... to converse a bit more...
force yourself to take the first step.. initiate conversation.. be it "wow.. that's a nice dress!" or "hey man.. saw that movie with Clooney in it?"
make small talk...
keep at it.. it will not be easy.. it will not be overnight... but it will become easier...
work at it...
good luck
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slowly la...no need straight away wan to be unique de..talk to those girls abt something..for example like "wa,new year liao,so fast ar..." etc de...then listen to what they say so u can ask them other questions next...
aiya,i trecommend u to watch hitch la..the movie teach u how to jio girls -
attend group outings
and dun so desp for girls lah
just be normal and make frens with everyone
the rest shun qi zi ran -
be more confident, dun care about mianzi bah. face is impt, but knowing frens are much lot impt.
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=________="Originally posted by AndrewPKYap:What if there really is no "You" [page: 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9]... you can do it! You can realize that there is no you!
If there is no you, how can 'you' be shy?
can you just go and die?
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You can start by being a little shameless, no kidding!
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shameless people talk a lot more cuz they don't get affected by replies.
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By opening yourself up more...blend into conversations =)
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I agree with the Bear.Originally posted by the Bear:confidence and all that.. it's all easily said than done..
small steps... force yourself to speak a bit more.. to smile a bit more... to converse a bit more...
force yourself to take the first step.. initiate conversation.. be it "wow.. that's a nice dress!" or "hey man.. saw that movie with Clooney in it?"
make small talk...
keep at it.. it will not be easy.. it will not be overnight... but it will become easier...
work at it...
good luck -
the key word here is force just like Bear said. must have the willpower to change yourself.
if you really want to be more socially outgoing, really REALLY want to, all hesitation and shyness will automatically be thrown out of e window. but try not to be to enthusiastic and appear fake. -
u can try reading self-help books dat teach confidence-building skills,how to talk to pple etc...i believe they can be helpful to a large extent
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how how how ?
i also very shy
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yandao very shy. I can confirm one.. Look look ... yandao blushing....
TS, what is your motive? -
-coos shyly-Originally posted by mistyblue:yandao very shy. I can confirm one.. Look look ... yandao blushing....
TS, what is your motive? -
kiam pah.Originally posted by Ferret:-coos shyly- 
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Thanks everyone!
I improved a bit during Orientation. -
Participate in SgF outings for a start lor!
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Ts sounds lyk mie
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One afraid of competition because he has no confidence to win and afraid of losing.Originally posted by jr.spikey:Hi,
How do I change myself??
I'm not the outgoing type and I tend to be shy around girls, especially prettier ones. How do I curb this my behaviour?
Another question, I am afraid of competitions, unless it's something that I have done and excelled in without failure for a period of time. I am the 'kancheong' type and in competitions, I know I cannot be my usual and will surely lose.
Why no confidence to win and afraid of losing, because he like to compare himself to other people and pamper himself too much.
Why is that so, because there is a "you". This is the root cause of your shyness and all sort of suffering.
It might be difficult now for you to break the concept of "you".
So I suggest you should more frequently step out of your comfort zone, do the right thing even if it sound scary to you, care more about feeling of other people. If you happen to win in any competition, don't feel too happy. The more happy you feel when you win, the more sad you will feel when you lose.
Sometimes when you lose, you will realize no one even bother who win or lose, and you are the only person that keep on nagging about it. -
You can read 100 self help books for advices but at the end of the day,
books are dead, you're alive, so dont rely too much on books. You've to practise, practice, be shameless, be shameless
If you have somethin to say, then say it. It's not a must to talk to everyone.... Dont talk just for the sake of talking to change yourself, it will appear weird & not natural (i know a person whos like that....)
Confidence is the key!
For the competition right, dont think so low of yourself, neither too high.
Just do your best during the competition and dont think too much bout it.