Im feeling so lost and empty inside..
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If u think u r the one that give her happiness, fight for it.
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In love, it is very hard to say...
I think u can try but then you have to learn to let go when you really have to.
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First of all TS, you got to ask yourself this:
1) Do you give her any sense of security?
2) Do you make her feel that you are the one for her instead of her current BF?
Feeling love, no matter how strong it is for the other party sometimes is quite futile as only u know. Did you express it to her? And also action speaks louder than words, You must do something for her to answer the above 2 questions as a "yes". What a lady needs sometime is more than love as love doesn't bring the dough home. Not only to support her emotionally but also able to help her and point her in the right directions when she needed help most.
I got a feeling that you were not chosen because she went through alot with her current BF and he had been there helping her. He's a better choice because he may be able to give her a sense of security and a future.
You may wanna find out more. Go talk to her. Lamenting, feeling helpless, sorrow and all those do not solve problems. -
drama abit...wedding day chiong in and snatch her
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...let her go.... you cannot find happiness if you refuse to let her go... bite the bullet.Originally posted by fareez:Right now im feeling everything, sad,frustrated, angry, agony, hopeless..everything until i dont know what to feel anymore..my heart is empty..the girl i love, and i know loves me..said to me to forget about her..because she's gonna get married to her steady boyfriend, that she already met before me..i know that i am the one that she really loves, but she's already so steady with the bf that they already know each other's family..
for 3 months she didnt want to talk to me, just because i turned down her invitation to dinner with her..from late september until december..but when she's willing to talk to me again, she told me that she's already moving someplace else..and she's gonna get married soon..
I don't know what to do..should i convince her not to marry..but im afraid that she will be angry with me for trying to steal her happiness(she still thinks i don't know that she loves me)
..even though i know she's not happy inside..
Or should i just let her go..knowing that i will lose her for the rest of my life.. -
... go out with other people...
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Dun ask him to bite the bullet, after got mouth ulcers, since he is empty inside, go old airport road hawker centres, the rojak and cha kuay teow very nice. And if he is lost, it just opp Geyland.Originally posted by AndrewPKYap:...let her go.... you cannot find happiness if you refuse to let her go... bite the bullet. -
Geyland is not the long term solution de...Originally posted by angel7030:Dun ask him to bite the bullet, after got mouth ulcers, since he is empty inside, go old airport road hawker centres, the rojak and cha kuay teow very nice. And if he is lost, it just opp Geyland. -
Huh! there got frog porridge, no sign board restaurant, gd tim sum, soya bean shop, nice bak kut teh too. Since he is empty inside, fill it up ya, life aint long, eat n enjoy while u can. Look at that MC king uncle, 40 only finish liao, so who knows what tomorrow will bring, maybe shares go bull run, maybe asteroid hit earth, maybe maybe maybe strike lucky nos, so Cheers.Originally posted by AndrewPKYap:Geyland is not the long term solution de... -
Originally posted by fareez:Right now im feeling everything, sad,frustrated, angry, agony, hopeless..everything until i dont know what to feel anymore..my heart is empty..the girl i love, and i know loves me..said to me to forget about her..because she's gonna get married to her steady boyfriend, that she already met before me..i know that i am the one that she really loves, but she's already so steady with the bf that they already know each other's family..
for 3 months she didnt want to talk to me, just because i turned down her invitation to dinner with her..from late september until december..but when she's willing to talk to me again, she told me that she's already moving someplace else..and she's gonna get married soon..
I don't know what to do..should i convince her not to marry..but im afraid that she will be angry with me for trying to steal her happiness(she still thinks i don't know that she loves me) ..even though i know she's not happy inside..
Or should i just let her go..knowing that i will lose her for the rest of my life..
That's what you only think.
Your post reeks of narcissism.
You might be somewhat a transition during some period of her life, but that doesn't mean you are the eventual goal to her love life.
Quit seeing yourself as some form of 'solution' - because you ain't. You are probably more of a 'problem' than a 'solution.'
Whether she is happy or not - seriously speaking, it has little to do with you.
Who are you to her?
Just because you claim 'Love' - does it become as literal as it sounds?
It doesn't even take a second to recognise that you need her much more than she needs you. And your inability to accept her departure is because your Love is very much narcissistic; everything is about you, you and you. You tried to smokescreen this very fact and made it appear very noble of your intention - citing the reason that she will not be happy in her marriage because her decision is not you and only you could give her the happiness she needs.
A red herring.
Trust me - I laughed in front of my monitor screen.
I always do that when I speak to people and they relate such nonsensical definition of Love to me. It's almost delusional, to the point where they aggrandize their roles in Love to such legendary scale, as if a relationship with them will dissolve all woes and suffering and they are the panacea to all things in Love.
I say, learn to open your mind and heart. It's too narrow, constricting your perception in such awfully compressed manner.
Cheers -
Thanks for the wish..really appreciate it..yeah,i very much agree with what you have said..everything that happens in the course of our life is determined by fate..i thought that i will just go to the flow..accept whatever that will happen..i will try my best,but whatever happens,just be it..Originally posted by Nata|ie:Sometimes fate plays a little game on us foolish mortals. Most of the time the person u love most will not be your life partner.
I think if she feels that she will be happy with the fiance, then I suggest you don't go and mess things up. It's better for one to suffer than all 3 rite? Although it will be a sacrifice from your end.
Just some qns:
1. Are you sure both of u are very much in love with each other?
2. If she loves you, why is she getting married with someone else? Convenience sake?
3. Do you think you can let her go?
Sometimes it is just not meant to be. I don't know how you are going to handle this or what is your action plan. But nonetheless, I wish you happiness.
i dont want to suffer anymore, i want that guy to suffer..he's the one that should suffer..
1. yeah,im 100 pcent sure she still love me..
2. yeah,maybe convenience sake..that guy is rich and they know each other for quite sometime..
3. yeah, i think i can let her go but i guess it's hard thinking that her body will be someone else's other than me..it's just hard to consume.. -
bleah, the moment u said "i know that i am the one that she really loves"Originally posted by fareez:Right now im feeling everything, sad,frustrated, angry, agony, hopeless..everything until i dont know what to feel anymore..my heart is empty..the girl i love, and i know loves me..said to me to forget about her..because she's gonna get married to her steady boyfriend, that she already met before me..i know that i am the one that she really loves, but she's already so steady with the bf that they already know each other's family..
for 3 months she didnt want to talk to me, just because i turned down her invitation to dinner with her..from late september until december..but when she's willing to talk to me again, she told me that she's already moving someplace else..and she's gonna get married soon..
I don't know what to do..should i convince her not to marry..but im afraid that she will be angry with me for trying to steal her happiness(she still thinks i don't know that she loves me) ..even though i know she's not happy inside..
Or should i just let her go..knowing that i will lose her for the rest of my life..
i just felt u're delusional, and if u continue walking down this path, you're going to go crazy and stalk her and end up in jail.
what's love to you? an intense feeling of wanting to be with that person?
that's selfish love. real love is reciprocated.
“Love is patient; love is kind
and envies no one.
Love is never boastful, nor conceited, nor rude;
never selfish, not quick to take offense.
There is nothing love cannot face;
there is no limit to its faith,
its hope, and endurance.
In a word, there are three things
that last forever: faith, hope, and love;
but the greatest of them all is love.”
this is real love, not your superficial feelings that can be easily duplicated by eating a huge box of chocolates.
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it sounds so much like lust rather than love la.Originally posted by fareez:Thanks for the wish..really appreciate it..yeah,i very much agree with what you have said..everything that happens in the course of our life is determined by fate..i thought that i will just go to the flow..accept whatever that will happen..i will try my best,but whatever happens,just be it..
i dont want to suffer anymore, i want that guy to suffer..he's the one that should suffer..
1. yeah,im 100 pcent sure she still love me..
2. yeah,maybe convenience sake..that guy is rich and they know each other for quite sometime..
3. yeah, i think i can let her go but i guess it's hard thinking that her body will be someone else's other than me..it's just hard to consume..
sigh, i think u should sit down and think would u still love her if she was disfigured, or turn crazy or something..
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love = lust..its connected..there's no way to separate both..Originally posted by dumbdumb!:it sounds so much like lust rather than love la.
sigh, i think u should sit down and think would u still love her if she was disfigured, or turn crazy or something..
i love her, of course i also lust her body.. -
i love her, no matter she turn ugly, or crazy, i will always love her..just by having her by my side make me feel complete..even though we argue a lot,but i guess that makes a long-lasting relationship..
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life goes on anyway.
there's nth u cn do but to give best wishes to her. -
it's okay to feel lost and empty and whatever sorrow you're going through right now. it'll be over in a week or so.
just so you know that when there are a lot more fishes in the sea, if you know what i mean. -
yeah i think her bf gave her no.1, but i give her no.2..Originally posted by oldkid:First of all TS, you got to ask yourself this:
1) Do you give her any sense of security?
2) Do you make her feel that you are the one for her instead of her current BF?
Feeling love, no matter how strong it is for the other party sometimes is quite futile as only u know. Did you express it to her? And also action speaks louder than words, You must do something for her to answer the above 2 questions as a "yes". What a lady needs sometime is more than love as love doesn't bring the dough home. Not only to support her emotionally but also able to help her and point her in the right directions when she needed help most.
I got a feeling that you were not chosen because she went through alot with her current BF and he had been there helping her. He's a better choice because he may be able to give her a sense of security and a future.
You may wanna find out more. Go talk to her. Lamenting, feeling helpless, sorrow and all those do not solve problems. -
This is only because you haven't learnt how to love yourself
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lol... dont worry...Originally posted by AndrewPKYap:Geyland is not the long term solution de...
TS problem isnt a long term 1 too...
Just need painkiller to walk thru the right path...
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You should feel released, coz a person that doesn't love you left you at last. Then tomorrow, you still can go out with other girl.Originally posted by fareez:Right now im feeling everything, sad,frustrated, angry, agony, hopeless..everything until i dont know what to feel anymore..my heart is empty..the girl i love, and i know loves me..said to me to forget about her..because she's gonna get married to her steady boyfriend, that she already met before me..i know that i am the one that she really loves, but she's already so steady with the bf that they already know each other's family..
for 3 months she didnt want to talk to me, just because i turned down her invitation to dinner with her..from late september until december..but when she's willing to talk to me again, she told me that she's already moving someplace else..and she's gonna get married soon..
I don't know what to do..should i convince her not to marry..but im afraid that she will be angry with me for trying to steal her happiness(she still thinks i don't know that she loves me) ..even though i know she's not happy inside..
Or should i just let her go..knowing that i will lose her for the rest of my life..
But you leh, she still treat you as friend, and yet you treat her like that... -
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