What Should I do?

• Arena

  19 Jan 08, 21:36

  I got to know of a girl through my part time studies...
  She is cute, cheerful and lovely...
  As I sit at the back row while she sits couple of rows in front of me, i always notice her and my attention always stray towards her and the lecturer also noticed it... haha
  I got to know her through a silly way but nvm...
  Coincidentally, she lives in the same neighbourhood as me....
  recently, I chatted with her, we got to know that we had many similarities.. and one of her gd fren was actually my ex poly classmate too..
  while she studied at same poly as me too...
  
  I got a special feeling.. Heart pumping furiously when i talked to her...
  I nvr had this for a long time after a long time.. And it is great to have this again...
  I had fallen in love with her already...
  However, I am not sure how does she feels...
  
  And I also feels rather inferior, as I'm only a diploma holder, working as a civil servant who doesn't earn much, not good looking and not good with words...
  
  what should i do now?
• Uncertain

  19 Jan 08, 21:54

  What should u do?
  
  Simple: Forget about her and move on.
  
  UNLESS
  
  U regain ur confident and act like a man.
  
  Poor and ugly man doesn't mean no gf. If u want her, do whatever to impress her and make her yours.
• MidnightK

  19 Jan 08, 22:02

  some good looking guys goes up to the girl and stammers..
  i..er..uh..
  
  some guys with faces that looks like it's been run over by a lorry can talk to any girl..
  good looking or not..
  
  so?
  
• cApitaland

  19 Jan 08, 22:06

  pls dun look down on diploma holders. you making me feel bad as well.
  
  be more confident in urself and gud luck.
• CannyOng

  19 Jan 08, 22:07

  Originally posted by Arena:

  I got to know of a girl through my part time studies...
  She is cute, cheerful and lovely...
  As I sit at the back row while she sits couple of rows in front of me, i always notice her and my attention always stray towards her and the lecturer also noticed it... haha
  I got to know her through a silly way but nvm...
  Coincidentally, she lives in the same neighbourhood as me....
  recently, I chatted with her, we got to know that we had many similarities.. and one of her gd fren was actually my ex poly classmate too..
  while she studied at same poly as me too...
  
  I got a special feeling.. Heart pumping furiously when i talked to her...
  I nvr had this for a long time after a long time.. And it is great to have this again...
  I had fallen in love with her already...
  However, I am not sure how does she feels...
  
  And I also feels rather inferior, as I'm only a diploma holder, working as a civil servant who doesn't earn much, not good looking and not good with words...
  
  what should i do now?

  Build up yr confident and try to warm up yr friendship even more.. MSN or hp number(u go it already?). The most important is find out whether she is single ,attached or married....
• Arena

  19 Jan 08, 22:10

  i got her hp and we do msn...
  
  i guess she knows i like her... but i am not sure abt her feelings...
  
  
• CannyOng

  19 Jan 08, 22:14

  Originally posted by Arena:

  i got her hp and we do msn...
  
  i guess she knows i like her... but i am not sure abt her feelings...
  
  

  Don't care abt the part of her feeling on u.
  
  Try to work on and build up her feeling on u instead of wasting time thinking she likes u anot. Try to date her out and have a nice chill out of 2 of u. But don't rush. Date her out when u deem its comfortable!
• MooKu

  19 Jan 08, 22:16

  Since you stay in the same neighborhood, you take the same route as her when you go home after class right?
  
  Take the opportunity to ask her out for supper in the neighborhood after class, or dinner before class. Test water first, then slowly slowly... don't scare her off in case she's ... shy or doesn't feel the way you do... yet.
• Arena

  19 Jan 08, 22:37

  I guess she broke up with her ex quite a long time ago... couple of yrs bah...
  but i think she still have feelings towards him...
  
  I got a paragraph from one of her blog entry:
  
  When you like someone, you will hope to be tgt with him/her but you are very clear that this kind of thing takes two hands to clap. If you forsee there will not be any result, then you should really move on, stop thinking about him and give others a chance. Maybe you will meet a better one ahead. I believe in fate. What's yours will eventually come to you; What is not yours will never come to be.
  
  
• phil30k

  20 Jan 08, 10:44

  "And I also feels rather inferior, as I'm only a diploma holder, working as a civil servant who doesn't earn much, not good looking and not good with words... "
  
  Those are not important in a relationship unless the relationship is superficial. If you understand her well and know those things matter to her. Best move on.
  
  If you are the one who think those things matter then shop for a wife among those who are inferior to you but share your opinion. Not all poor people lack "cute, cheerful and lovely".
• rlsh07

  20 Jan 08, 13:24

  Originally posted by Arena:

  I got to know of a girl through my part time studies...
  She is cute, cheerful and lovely...
  As I sit at the back row while she sits couple of rows in front of me, i always notice her and my attention always stray towards her and the lecturer also noticed it... haha
  I got to know her through a silly way but nvm...
  Coincidentally, she lives in the same neighbourhood as me....
  recently, I chatted with her, we got to know that we had many similarities.. and one of her gd fren was actually my ex poly classmate too..
  while she studied at same poly as me too...
  
  I got a special feeling.. Heart pumping furiously when i talked to her...
  I nvr had this for a long time after a long time.. And it is great to have this again...
  I had fallen in love with her already...
  However, I am not sure how does she feels...
  
  And I also feels rather inferior, as I'm only a diploma holder, working as a civil servant who doesn't earn much, not good looking and not good with words...
  
  what should i do now?

  build up the friendship and get to know more about her though n let her to get to know about you though. qualifications do not matter if she really likes you for who you are though. nothing else matters if she really loves you for who you are.
• crimson soldier

  20 Jan 08, 15:26

  just make her feel comfortable first
  
  no need to "declare your intention" or to chiong aggressively...
• Arena

  20 Jan 08, 16:36

  Yeah.. Thanx alot
• SpeedStar

  20 Jan 08, 17:05

  Go ahead and chase her! If everything fails, move on and look for the next one. Life is just too short for us to worry on one tree where the whole forest is waiting for us to explore. All the best!
• ahkeat

  21 Jan 08, 03:03

  hmm.. i think you should take things slowly.. just always try to be around .. eventually she will feel ur sincerity..
• New Creation

  21 Jan 08, 11:24

  Originally posted by Arena:

  I got to know of a girl through my part time studies...
  She is cute, cheerful and lovely...
  As I sit at the back row while she sits couple of rows in front of me, i always notice her and my attention always stray towards her and the lecturer also noticed it... haha
  I got to know her through a silly way but nvm...
  Coincidentally, she lives in the same neighbourhood as me....
  recently, I chatted with her, we got to know that we had many similarities.. and one of her gd fren was actually my ex poly classmate too..
  while she studied at same poly as me too...
  
  I got a special feeling.. Heart pumping furiously when i talked to her...
  I nvr had this for a long time after a long time.. And it is great to have this again...
  I had fallen in love with her already...
  However, I am not sure how does she feels...
  
  And I also feels rather inferior, as I'm only a diploma holder, working as a civil servant who doesn't earn much, not good looking and not good with words...
  
  what should i do now?

  Thank God, she is living in the same neighbourhood as you!!!! Go approach her in class, and asks her if she wanna have lunch together. Start fro lunches, then slowly dinners. And after dinner, you can propose going home together. The ride back to home be it on bus or mrt, will be a good opportunity for you 2 to interact and know each other better.
  
  
• de_middle

  21 Jan 08, 11:31

  Originally posted by Uncertain:

  What should u do?
  
  Simple: Forget about her and move on.
  
  UNLESS
  
  U regain ur confident and act like a man.
  
  Poor and ugly man doesn't mean no gf. If u want her, do whatever to impress her and make her yours.

  like to add on to this, doesn't matter whether ur only a poly grad coz whether ur good enough is for her to be comfortable with & not urs.
  
  secondly, looks & communication is also for her to decide on....so do what you can withing ur means to improve & leave the rest to her.
  
  Go for it if you want it so much & gd luck
• ispyyy

  21 Jan 08, 11:39

  chase her lor
• Arena

  21 Jan 08, 20:49

  Thanks guys...
  
  I will try to take things slowly...
  
  
• xavier1979

  24 Jan 08, 22:05

  Originally posted by Arena:

  And I also feels rather inferior, as I'm only a diploma holder, working as a civil servant who doesn't earn much, not good looking and not good with words...
  
  what should i do now?

  Quit feeling interior about yourself!
  
  Good looks don't last; civil servants (nearly) always survive a recession; and sweet-talking won't get you anywhere far.
  
  Be sincere as a friend now. Get to know her better. It might only be an infatuation and not love.