What am i to do?
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Thanks everyone.
Everything is settled. Thxz for the help but all is settled le.
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move on.. there are better things ahead..
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Thx alot
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Control yr feeling. Sometimes, u must control yr feeling and do the right thing. Leave her. A gal who don't even know what is she doing has no future with u.Originally posted by Sebastio:I thought of that. But i cannot cheat myself, because i know i like her. And she is not willing to let go too.
Have u see the Korean drama Coffee prince? A bitch who flirt around with a guy forbids his bf to do the same like her? She don even knows what's wrong. LOL! Nowadays, youngster are such a joke! -
Originally posted by Sebastio:Lets cut the story short.
There is this very nice girl i know. I am in SMU while she is in NTU.
Always thought that she was single, until one day my friend caught her with another guy.
I was sad and wanted to move on, so before that told her my feelings.
She was moved and to my surprise broke up with that guy and go steady with me.
The main problem is that guy is her schoolmate, and they always see each other everyday.
After months, she said that it is very diff not to have feelings for this guy as he was previously her ex and her closest friend in class. This guy is persistant even after the broke up. She tried hard to resist at first, but because of the time spent and communication, she gave in. Whats more he was her ex
Because of all these factors, feelings gradually are developed over time. They have become closer and start going out together. The irony is just as she goes out with him, she also goes out with me. Every night we will still keep in contact with each other even though we are in different school
When i decide to confront her, she broke down and said that 'i know it is wrong but everyday in school we see and talk. I juz hope my Uni will end as soon as possible because i really do not know how to handle my feelings, i tried my best to keep a line at first but really its so difficult. Sometimes when i think of u, i will feel guilty and blamed everything on myself'
I know clearly that she likes me, at the same time because her ex is one that she sees everyday. She find it hard to keep her feelings true to me. This cannot go on and although i understand, i once a while have the feeling of being cheated.
Please help.
i hate guys like u seriously , why must u go for attached girls? u think breaking up ppl relationship is very fun? my ex also like that , when she attach to me another guy jioing her and in the end she wif that guy. whats wrong wif u man. there are more single gal outside lah pls , dun spoilt other ppl relationship i cant help but say this , you are a jerk. -
Just keep it cool, and don't let your emotions control you, it is about you outlast that guy, and what is most important to you, right now, is your studies, not her, spend more time on yourself, i think she is also stressed out also bah, give her space, be there for her, when she needed you.
If you carry on pestering her with questions, the relationship you had with her, will break, know your own priority, while in the mean time, look for someone else as well, don't just stick with one option. -
Be a man. Be the decisive one.
If you opt to keep her, you must be mentally prepared that cheating incidents are going to come your way in the future, if she doesn't know how to control her feelings and wants to have a little of every dish in the buffet. Can you stand the feeling of being a spare tyre or being second best, if someday it does happen? And even now, can you stand feeling insecure all the time?
I guess your decision will also hinge on your 'investment' horizon. Do you look long-term, or you just want to be dating her?
Whatever your decision, be prepared for the consequences. And have a few friends ready to cushion the knocks and falls.
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she's two-timing.
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sometimes it is unexplainable to like two people at once or even more. give her some time to sort her feelings. though it does sound temptingly like she's 2-timing.
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she broke up with a guy to go steady with you and now wants dates another guy behind your back?
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so u need to be the one to let go......Originally posted by Sebastio:I thought of that. But i cannot cheat myself, because i know i like her. And she is not willing to let go too. -
Oh sounds like she is having 2 relationship at the same time now.
You know u cannot carry on like that.
If she decide to be with you she must be determine to not be with her ex already.
you are having a doubtful relationship with her that may be rocky at any time.
Have a talk with her, ask her what she really want and make a clear decision about it. Tell her how you feel. -
so, you know this attached girl..
you confessed and she went to be with you..
so if she knows another guy, and he confess..
so the same thing happens?
she seems fickle-minded..
got guys come, she go with them..
think twice -
You cannot love to order.
Move on lah.....
Yr feelings for this girl will fade with the passage of time......
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Hmm, i dun think so that her ex is 2 timing... Give her some time to cool down and if i were you, i will go seek for that guy and arrange for a place to talk things out with ur gf ard... (pls if you really seek him out to talk. pls do talk in a calm and most importantly DO Control your temper, if lose ur temper then that means u lose the battle) then let her choose lo... best if that guy hit you... keke... if u catch no balls then bo bian help u liao...
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whoa, take physical damage..Originally posted by [K]iyoshi:Hmm, i dun think so that her ex is 2 timing... Give her some time to cool down and if i were you, i will go seek for that guy and arrange for a place to talk things out with ur gf ard... (pls if you really seek him out to talk. pls do talk in a calm and most importantly DO Control your temper, if lose ur temper then that means u lose the battle) then let her choose lo... best if that guy hit you... keke... if u catch no balls then bo bian help u liao...
lol..
but if win the girl, that's good..
but if the girl see the other guy macho then stick with him, well.. what to do.. -
Drop the mentality of dating her exclusively, meanwhile date others.
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Just leave her to settle her r/s problem
Last time I also caught in this type of situation
Meet hubby while having a bf of 3 yrs, told both of them the truth
3 of us was having sleepless nights trying hard to settle problem *both just refuse to let go*
Finally hubby propose marriage & bf also want to go rom, so make up mind to choose the guy known for only 3 mths
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wow..so i suppose u dun regret loOriginally posted by JerryYan:Just leave her to settle her r/s problem
Last time I also caught in this type of situation
Meet hubby while having a bf of 3 yrs, told both of them the truth
3 of us was having sleepless nights trying hard to settle problem *both just refuse to let go*
Finally hubby propose marriage & bf also want to go rom, so make up mind to choose the guy known for only 3 mths 
may yr marriage be blessed -
Thx alot everyone
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Oh!!, why you go for a flowering heart gal, whoever she goes with, in the end, she may go with yet another guy, i think she is not stable unlike me, one bf means one bf, love n care for him wholehearterly, no other guys can come into my picture no matter how good he is, how handsome he is or how rich he is. That should be the type of gal you should go after ya.Originally posted by Sebastio:Thx alot for all your advices. But i have to clarify that i did not steal her away from the other guy.
Its like this, we know each other much before she knew that guy. There has been feelings but no one wants to initiate. Just that in the process a guy came into the picture first and chase after her. But our feelings is there already before everything.
Thats why she decided to let go of the other guy and came to me because even though she has the feeling but she does nt know my feelings for her.
not that i want to break other ppl relationship. But love cannot be forced and has to be mutual
As a gal myself, let me advise you, it better you let it go, it's a blessing for you, many of my gal mates here also hv a few bfs at a go, they even asked me to be like this so that i can have the love from both world and they like it, cos it make them wanted as though they are very beautiful and nice one with all the chasers, that is a gal pride and honor ok. But I will never take their way of love life by cheating guys.
SO wake up! finish yr study, go work, save money, take MBA, then PhD ya.
PS, but if WangLEEHong come after me, sori, I give up all other guys. -
Sebatio .. b patient n work hard for ur relationship if u really love her. time proves ur sincerity ....Originally posted by Sebastio:Thx alot for all your advices. But i have to clarify that i did not steal her away from the other guy.
Its like this, we know each other much before she knew that guy. There has been feelings but no one wants to initiate. Just that in the process a guy came into the picture first and chase after her. But our feelings is there already before everything.
Thats why she decided to let go of the other guy and came to me because even though she has the feeling but she does nt know my feelings for her.
not that i want to break other ppl relationship. But love cannot be forced and has to be mutual -
well a girl like that so easy break up with her boyfriend to be with another.. what can you really expect?
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You waited too long.
She was taken.
You don't interfere in another relationship. What you did was a mistake.
If she was more mature she would have immediately turned you down gently.
You are the cause of your problems, what's worse is that you dragged 2 other innocent people into it.
You should tell her sorry you messed things up. She'll say some nice things. Tell the boyfriend you're sorry you messed things up. He'll probably be quite unfriendly. Then you move on.
Be a man, fix your mistake. -
Well, this is most unfortunate to hear. Frankly, yesh you lack the tactical advantage of not being in the same uni as her. This is aggravated by the fact that you got a really persistent love rival.Originally posted by Sebastio:Lets cut the story short.
There is this very nice girl i know. I am in SMU while she is in NTU.
Always thought that she was single, until one day my friend caught her with another guy.
I was sad and wanted to move on, so before that told her my feelings.
She was moved and to my surprise broke up with that guy and go steady with me.
The main problem is that guy is her schoolmate, and they always see each other everyday.
After months, she said that it is very diff not to have feelings for this guy as he was previously her ex and her closest friend in class. This guy is persistant even after the broke up. She tried hard to resist at first, but because of the time spent and communication, she gave in. Whats more he was her ex
Because of all these factors, feelings gradually are developed over time. They have become closer and start going out together. The irony is just as she goes out with him, she also goes out with me. Every night we will still keep in contact with each other even though we are in different school
When i decide to confront her, she broke down and said that 'i know it is wrong but everyday in school we see and talk. I juz hope my Uni will end as soon as possible because i really do not know how to handle my feelings, i tried my best to keep a line at first but really its so difficult. Sometimes when i think of u, i will feel guilty and blamed everything on myself'
I know clearly that she likes me, at the same time because her ex is one that she sees everyday. She find it hard to keep her feelings true to me. This cannot go on and although i understand, i once a while have the feeling of being cheated.
Please help.
I say give her up. You deserve a better lady. NTU girls are rather bad choices as gf because they are more villager like, more gulliable and more soft-hearted. Thats why she can be easily manipulated by your love rival. So this is something you must consider carefully.