low self-esteem > wat to do?
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the holidays should be a time for pple to meet up old friends and have fun... but for me its a time of agony... everytime when pple call up to meet ... i will always push away the dates... by making excuses dat im not free but actually im just staying at home... all the time i really really want to see them but i feel low and 'small'... when in pri and sec sch...im considered to be quite popular... or at least to say at that time im happy as who i am... but now everything is diff...my studies is a mess...im getting out of shape...and havent been on a date for a long time....whereals all my friends are progress ... im the only one who is still back tracking...i feel really 'small' like in chinese its called 'zi bei'.... i duno what to do....
[and im not going (again) to my pri sch gathering tomorrow or shu i go?]
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Clean up the mess in your studies.Whip yourself back to shape.Originally posted by RõundRõundéGarden:the holidays should be a time for pple to meet up old friends and have fun... but for me its a time of agony... everytime when pple call up to meet ... i will always push away the dates... by making excuses dat im not free but actually im just staying at home... all the time i really really want to see them but i feel low and 'small'... when in pri and sec sch...im considered to be quite popular... or at least to say at that time im happy as who i am... but now everything is diff...my studies is a mess...im getting out of shape...and havent been on a date for a long time....whereals all my friends are progress ... im the only one who is still back tracking...i feel really 'small' like in chinese its called 'zi bei'.... i duno what to do....
[and im not going (again) to my pri sch gathering tomorrow or shu i go?]
Get busy living...or get busy dying -
Nah, i dun think you'll enjoy yourself if you go attend. So why not try spending some time tuning up and date yourself or your close friends out to make yourself feel good?
most importantly is to feel good, easy and free to do whatever you want and whenever you want.
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maybe u can start off by getting some self help bks? like for me, when i found out tt my emotions r in a mess, i read up some bks on it...and i can say...it really does helpOriginally posted by RõundRõundéGarden:the holidays should be a time for pple to meet up old friends and have fun... but for me its a time of agony... everytime when pple call up to meet ... i will always push away the dates... by making excuses dat im not free but actually im just staying at home... all the time i really really want to see them but i feel low and 'small'... when in pri and sec sch...im considered to be quite popular... or at least to say at that time im happy as who i am... but now everything is diff...my studies is a mess...im getting out of shape...and havent been on a date for a long time....whereals all my friends are progress ... im the only one who is still back tracking...i feel really 'small' like in chinese its called 'zi bei'.... i duno what to do....
[and im not going (again) to my pri sch gathering tomorrow or shu i go?] 
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try to do something you're good at. It'll make you feel better. -
I don't see it as a problem. Don't tell me you couldn't accept that fact that when you are in primary school, you were so popular - and that was like how many years ago - then now maybe not as good, but still yourself. Is it your ego that is retaining you rather than inferiority, because you were once in the limelight.Originally posted by R?ndR?nd?arden:the holidays should be a time for pple to meet up old friends and have fun... but for me its a time of agony... everytime when pple call up to meet ... i will always push away the dates... by making excuses dat im not free but actually im just staying at home... all the time i really really want to see them but i feel low and 'small'... when in pri and sec sch...im considered to be quite popular... or at least to say at that time im happy as who i am... but now everything is diff...my studies is a mess...im getting out of shape...and havent been on a date for a long time....whereals all my friends are progress ... im the only one who is still back tracking...i feel really 'small' like in chinese its called 'zi bei'.... i duno what to do....
[and im not going (again) to my pri sch gathering tomorrow or shu i go?] 
Preception is different from person to person - the way you view yourself isn't what all your friends are thinking. You are your own enemy - you go to such gathering and want to show that you have made something and progress? I think such gathering are getting back on old times, chatting and enjoying time together. Is there a need to stress on such reduntant issues? I recently met up with my old classmates and I feel great getting back - because we haven't seen each other for quite sometime already.
My advice... be yourself. Release yourself from your bruised ego and you will live a much happier life. -
its not who are with you
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u want to noe wat u shld do??well...i think most imptly is dat u r able to pass urself first!pple are actually asking u out,they are not avoiding u or anything,so theres nothing to worry abt...
u said u are not progressing,well then think hard y arent u progressing!!dun just sit down there and wallow in self-pity...
Do something abt it...gd luck..
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get a life. work out 7 days a week. keep long hair, drag yrself to the salon 4 a new hairdo, put some coloring on yr new hair. dun eat like a pig.
self appearance and grooming is the primary key to self confidence, once u hv self confidence, u will find yrself able to talk to any1 and will like to stay outdoors more often.
trust me. been here, done tat -
yah... i think u are proberly true...i just cant acept wat i have become into...Originally posted by Yunhaier:I don't see it as a problem. Don't tell me you couldn't accept that fact that when you are in primary school, you were so popular - and that was like how many years ago - then now maybe not as good, but still yourself. Is it your ego that is retaining you rather than inferiority, because you were once in the limelight.
Preception is different from person to person - the way you view yourself isn't what all your friends are thinking. You are your own enemy - you go to such gathering and want to show that you have made something and progress? I think such gathering are getting back on old times, chatting and enjoying time together. Is there a need to stress on such reduntant issues? I recently met up with my old classmates and I feel great getting back - because we haven't seen each other for quite sometime already.
My advice... be yourself. Release yourself from your bruised ego and you will live a much happier life. 
it saddens me when i know that everybody is progressing except me...all this time while others are going forward im still wasting precious time thinking about the past rather than improving myself....
but as usual everything is easier said than done...its not that i have not tried getting self help book or start thinking more positively or doing stuff that can help me...i had...i tried...but nothing seems to work....i guess i just need more more time to really start going....
but really... thanks for all the advice...thanks...i will try harder...