how to get through broken heart?
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i jus posted a post in chit chat..they say i shld post it here..but i think ill ask something else here...
Im scare of lonely...I dun have much friends to talk about personal stuff...
Im not close to my family...have financial problems...my father is having an affair coz he wants a son...
my sisters are all working and independent...im not close to them too....
wat can i do to get through a broken heart?
all i know is do my own stuff...but tat didnt help at all....
W8
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I feel that after a break up, it's best to hang out with friends
If they understand what you're going through, they'll take you out & let you have a good time
Sure, it's painful at first; Crying every night & constantly thinking about him.
Cry your heart out, after that it'll be better.
If you really think that you gonna break down & you really need someone to talk to,
http://www.sgforums.com/forums/12/topics/238593 -
Thanks...i really hope it helps....i haven tried calling...but i will....
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Originally posted by W8:
Thanks...i really hope it helps....i haven tried calling...but i will....
Yea i believe those experts in the hotlines will give better advise we could give... -
Take your mind off the relationship for a while. Think of a new experience you've always wanted to take on, but never had the time and energy for.
It hurts to the bone for sure, but when you get through this, you'd have grown stronger.
Visit sgForums often. We're a friendly lot (for most) here.
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The key to emancipation from a broken heart and pain is to move on by planning a new life without that painful thing and living that new life with all your heart and mind. As you become more involved and drawn into living your new-found life, you'll naturally lose focus on the painful past. Keep at it. Be determined to live your life as best as you can. Before you know it, the pain of the past will become nothing but a blur in your memory........
Works for me.
Hope it does for you too. Goodluck!
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Let go and move on....don't wallow in your sorrows...don't succumb to hate...cast away your fears of loneliness...and smile at the skies
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You can always call me.
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Thank u very much...if only i have friends like u all...but im alws neglected...
by friends or even family...hope i can get through all this soon...
im trying my best...;) if can pls give more suggestions...
i alws feel better when i read a reply...
maybe becoz my friends nvr really help even if i told them im hurt...
i really appreciate :)
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now...im worried about the bills...phone bills i mean..if i call the hotline...
coz i know ill take a long time telling my story....and i may cause more burden to my family....
tat is y i cant bring myself to call...
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keep going out with friends
you don't have to talk about your problems
just keep going out and doing stuff to take your mind off.
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Originally posted by W8:
i jus posted a post in chit chat..they say i shld post it here..but i think ill ask something else here...
Im scare of lonely...I dun have much friends to talk about personal stuff...
Im not close to my family...have financial problems...my father is having an affair coz he wants a son...
my sisters are all working and independent...im not close to them too....
wat can i do to get through a broken heart?
all i know is do my own stuff...but tat didnt help at all....
W8
I accidentally come across your topic in Chit Chat and I am concerned regarding your negative domestic environment and the weak bonds you have with people. You probably don`t realized it, but that actually contributed subconsciously to your misery in Love, based on this intense fear of loneliness. Your fear of being alone is real - this account for your resignation for not confronting your man about the `truth`, because you rather based your emotions on delusional background, thinking that your man will eventually choose you OR thinking that your situation will be better if you don`t do anything that would `seemingly` aggravate the situation.
But I can tell you that your boyfriend, or ex-boyfriend, is merely capitalizing on your inability to face the harsh truth and gradually twirl you around that little finger of his as he continues to fuel your illusionary love. This jerk of yours requested you to wait for him to have his share of loving fun before `returning` back to you and if you are willing to abide by this ridiculous rule, I must say that you are merely living in the shadow of your fear and not in light of Love - that your Love is but a composition of fear masquerading as Love.
As long as your Self identity remains a question - your relationship with people will hardly improve, which inevitable implied that your fear of loneliness will escalate.
You must find a source to determine this Self component - and it doesn’t come from any individual alone. It often derives from causes you seek to fight for. If you seek Love (BGR), when this Self component is missing, I can almost guarantee you that a series of karmic relationships await at the end of the juncture maliciously.
One cannot extend Love outwardly if it doesn`t finds it within him or herself.
I seriously reckon that you might want to try some sort of religious group for some network of support and friendship. You must first save your sanity and then remove your negative fear with robust initiative to change your plight.
Things cannot change if the variables are the same. Although we can`t touch the constant, but we have the freewill to dabble with things we can control.
Cheers
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yea..we're one whoooole buuuunch of frenly peeps.
dun worry be happy..
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Yunhaier....thanks...i think i understand abit...my english is bad u see..:P
but thanks alot...
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W8,
How good looking are you , girl ?
Are you below average, average, above average, gorgeous ?
At your age, looks is EVERYTHING.
So if you are not as good looking as the other girl, you can forget it.
Instead of him telling you to wait for him, WHY DON'T YOU tell him to wait for you ?
Go out, have some fun. FLIRT with other guys. Then when you are sick of other men, then go back to him again.
You are willing to wait for him because you love him, yes ?
If he loves you, he'll wait for you, right ?
So, if he don't wanna wait for you, he don't love you lor. Simple logic mah.
And if he don't love you, why waste your youth on him ? Got no other men you can have meh ? PLENTY.
Since you are not the only one with a hole, he's not the only one with a deek either. CORRECT ?
Now, life is too short to wallow in self pity. Do you wanna have fun in life OR NOT ?
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Good luck.... life is short, dont just stick to unhappiness all the time.. although i been that stage through
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yupz, do smth to distract urself eg. attend courses to tire urself out at the end of the day. once reach home, take a shower and off to bed!
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Huh! broken heart?? Wee! get your butt down here at club 69 and I will make sure your heart get mend ya. And when the day end, u will be begging me for less friends.
Yo, sister, life is short, play hard ya. Homemake cookie is not going to sell ok.
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Originally posted by jojobeach:
W8,
How good looking are you , girl ?
Are you below average, average, above average, gorgeous ?
At your age, looks is EVERYTHING.
So if you are not as good looking as the other girl, you can forget it.
Instead of him telling you to wait for him, WHY DON'T YOU tell him to wait for you ?
Go out, have some fun. FLIRT with other guys. Then when you are sick of other men, then go back to him again.
You are willing to wait for him because you love him, yes ?
If he loves you, he'll wait for you, right ?
So, if he don't wanna wait for you, he don't love you lor. Simple logic mah.
And if he don't love you, why waste your youth on him ? Got no other men you can have meh ? PLENTY.
Since you are not the only one with a hole, he's not the only one with a deek either. CORRECT ?
Now, life is too short to wallow in self pity. Do you wanna have fun in life OR NOT ?
Well...im below average i think...im short...normal looking girl...
of coz i want to have fun in life....but i think after all these relationships problems...
i can tell u...i really had enough of relationships...more like i dun wan to love anyone anymore...
im afraid of breaking my heart again...tat is y i dun flirt around that much to attract ppl attention...
i use to do that alot....too much i think...until im sick of it...u can say ive become old in my thinking...
i rather not flirt around...i jus wan someone to love me tats all...jus 1 person will do...
its really hard to find....
btw...jus for information...i have relationships that u cant count with just ur hands and toes....
its not crush or anything...every single one..im serious...:(
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Originally posted by angel7030:
Huh! broken heart?? Wee! get your butt down here at club 69 and I will make sure your heart get mend ya. And when the day end, u will be begging me for less friends.
Yo, sister, life is short, play hard ya. Homemake cookie is not going to sell ok.
thanks alot for inviting but i dun go clubbings..:)
well..life is really short..tats y ive been playing alot..u can say ive play too much...
well..i think i play too much...and im sick and tired of it...so i just wan to be love...and love someone....
it is so hard to find...and its not tat i wan to settle down or anything..hey...i can plan and think about it first right?
its not wrong right?
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Originally posted by W8:
Well...im below average i think...im short...normal looking girl...
of coz i want to have fun in life....but i think after all these relationships problems...
i can tell u...i really had enough of relationships...more like i dun wan to love anyone anymore...
im afraid of breaking my heart again...tat is y i dun flirt around that much to attract ppl attention...
i use to do that alot....too much i think...until im sick of it...u can say ive become old in my thinking...
i rather not flirt around...i jus wan someone to love me tats all...jus 1 person will do...
its really hard to find....
btw...jus for information...i have relationships that u cant count with just ur hands and toes....
its not crush or anything...every single one..im serious...:(
W8,
You are mature for your age. Too ripe for other men your age to handle.
Meaning, you need to either go for older guys, or wait till you are older for men your age to appreciate you.
NOW, Men your age, are not ready for a committed relationship. They still want to try out other shoes. They are more into themselves than their gf.
So, it is not surprising, you keep getting your nose rubbed in the sand.
When a guy is ready to settle, they will be usually past 27 years old. When girls are potential wife/long term partners, not tissue papers.
Go and enjoy your life now. There's much to see and do at your age.
Loving yourself now, is the right thing to do. A mature/smart man goes for a woman who knows how to love herself first, not someone in need of love from him.
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Originally posted by jojobeach:
W8,
You are mature for your age. Too ripe for other men your age to handle.
Meaning, you need to either go for older guys, or wait till you are older for men your age to appreciate you.
NOW, Men your age, are not ready for a committed relationship. They still want to try out other shoes. They are more into themselves than their gf.
So, it is not surprising, you keep getting your nose rubbed in the sand.
When a guy is ready to settle, they will be usually past 27 years old. When girls are potential wife/long term partners, not tissue papers.
Go and enjoy your life now. There's much to see and do at your age.
Loving yourself now, is the right thing to do. A mature/smart man goes for a woman who knows how to love herself first, not someone in need of love from him.
Thanks...im trying to change my stupid character also...thanks for ur advice..:) its a meaningful one..
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Originally posted by Ah Cek:
yupz, do smth to distract urself eg. attend courses to tire urself out at the end of the day. once reach home, take a shower and off to bed!
well..if only my life is so simple...:) thanks any way...
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Hey Hey life changes when ur heart is broken but it is a tough experience but no one ever promises us that life would be grand. At least they shouldn't have becos it's not. We grow when we survive the worst that life has to throw at us. People whose hearts have been broken have a greater capacity for life.
Life is very short. There are so much things in life to look forward. Don't live in saddness, lift yourself and brighten up your outlook. Celebrate life as it passes you by everyday. Even with all the things that is happening around, it could make you feel alive as you have experienced life as it is, as life is cycle of up and down.
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Originally posted by Isis:
Hey Hey life changes when ur heart is broken but it is a tough experience but no one ever promises us that life would be grand. At least they shouldn't have becos it's not. We grow when we survive the worst that life has to throw at us. People whose hearts have been broken have a greater capacity for life.
Life is very short. There are so much things in life to look forward. Don't live in saddness, lift yourself and brighten up your outlook. Celebrate life as it passes you by everyday. Even with all the things that is happening around, it could make you feel alive as you have experienced life as it is, as life is cycle of up and down.
sounds profound...hmm....well....maybe i will understand some day...:)